June 07 - where our cuddly bundles become roller-coasters, carpet-creepers, rug-rats, commando-crawlers and intrepid adventureres

[thisisRialifebaby]

Hope this is ok.

LOL Thanks ladies, nice to know I was missed. And I haven't been in the loo ALL this time - have sorted some laundry, set the breadmaker up, swept the kitchen floor, tidied the living room and done my best cow impression.

Oh bollocks - I was about to say how absence must make the heart grow fonder and the norks milkier, because I've just expressed 50ml, when the previous best I've ever managed is 30ml, but I've just knocked it over and lost 20ml. Aaaarrrssssseeeeee!!!

At least my tea is still warm [pathetic smile]

oh by the way on a complete side note - that woman that owed me money from the nappies finally paid me back!

well that's good news Fury

OK, got to go face my wardrobe - sort out what fits etc so I know if I have clothes for work next week or if I need to go shopping.

Yes it is good news, it's only been outstanding since SEPTEMBER

oooh wardrobe sorting my favourite!
Are you excited to be going back to work?

I just got a really nice top and 2 pairs trousers from M&S for work actually, and they weren't expensive either.

I HAVE NOT joined a new antenatal thread, I am just fat. (and went back to bed feeling odd, which is obviously true cos I got up at 6am - quite reasonable I know, but abnormal for me as I'm a lazy arse too - and did the ironing I hid in the cupboard at the weekend).

I am just watching DH blow up the activity ring. He's usually so full of hot air... it looks/smells clean enough so I'm going to try it this morning and will wash it through again later.

Enjoy your posh lunches & wardrobe sorting. I will be putting on my guide rope and protective gear (and maybe an Indiana Jones hat) and going back into DS1s room soon. I have to go shopping for a birthday present for my godson too - lego or clothes? clothes probably.

good news on the cash fury. sorry you are having to do some work though.

enjoy the film jammy, I think it looks very freaky and not my sort of thing!

Bum, I am stuck with a velcro baby today, he is not happy. He wants to poo and can't, my fault for giving him too many bananas in an attempt to stop him pooing 3 times a day, as he was getting a very sore bum. You can't win can you.

Poor you Sputnik, hope it passes (literally) soon.

I'm beginning to get a little twitchy, wondering how things are going, and hoping nursery don't think we've sent them the Devil Child. Good job I'm out and therefore occupied this afternoon.

Good news is that I have a clean and tidy wardrobe, a pile of clothes to take to the charity shops this afternoon, enough clothes that fit to manage at work, and only a very short shopping list

I wish I would stop walking round work with my flies undone

So do you colleagues probably

Well the good news is that Baby Sputnik pooed. The bad news is that he woke himself from his luchtime nap doing it. Normally I get 2+ hours. Oh well.

Hi all

Jammy, good to hear you are doing ok, enjoy you freedom while you can!

Am knackered - police came round at 5am this morning looking for our landlord then DH and I couldn't get back to sleep and had a big row over the fact that we haven't had proper sex since DD (I know, I know, it's just become this big thing now) and he wants me to acknowledge that he has done A Good Thing by going without and not badgering me for 6 months and I refuse to acknowledge that at all. i don't give a flying fuck, what does he want a medal? I had a fucking baby FFS. Ok, maybe i am being a teeny tiny bit unreasonable, but it's the principle now, and you know what, he is just going to have to let me win this one because he is never going to compete with me having the baby and if he really wants a shag that bad he should just shut up and run me a nice bath or something. Honestly, men are such idiots sometimes!

I know we should just get it over with but it hurt so much last time we tried and my smear test fucking hurt to, which doesn't make me want to do it, and they dr's aren't going to even investigate until I actually do it a few times and it still hurts. But I am too mad a DH now. Am I being unreasonable to expect him to woo me a little bit? You know be romantic? He says why does it all have to be up to him? And I say well I'm not going to be bothered otherwise. He's cutting his nose off etc. etc.

Anyway, the real question is: should I text my landlord and tell him the police came round? They said he wasn't in trouble, so I'm worried it's something bad. I don't want to call in case it is. Should I text and what should I say?

Hi Bumper
I would text and say btw, the police came over looking for you, not sure why, hope everything is ok
Or something inocuous anyway

No idea about the shagging thing.

I do it but rarely feel like it. Not so much the wooing here, just bloody knackered.

I don't think you are being unreasonable... but it's a really big deal for men (sadly, I know) and whilst I am not saying you should give in or anything (far from it), you both really need to talk about this, kindly and openly, otherwise resentment will build (on both sides - him for not getting it, you for being annoyed at his attitude).

It might eventually become a really big 'thing' and then even harder to overcome down the track.

My mother is a Psychosexual Therapist - let me know if you want her number, she might have some ideas (not to get you in the mood, just ideas for talking about things).

Well I am buggering off for a really boring meeting now. Have checked that flies are done.

Booking my holiday today... just worried about the flight time, DS won't sit on my lap for the length of an advert let alone a 4.5 hour flight. Some of me is reconsidering Marbella or France.

Or Centre Parcs.

Hello everyone

Andiem and Bumper, you have mail

Bumper, I am with you on the sex thing. I am so completely put off it since having DS and it is becoming an issue. In fact I went to the docs about it for tests in case it was anything physical and I have been referred to see a psychosexual counsellor for a few sessions. I'm quite embarrassed to admit that, but something does have to be done about it.

I thnk you are very brave dealing with it Fairy - well done you.

Bumper, can you, er, compromise?

Replied fairy. I can understand why you feel embarrassed admitting that, but you know there is no need to be. Thanks for sharing. I we had just got it out of the way sooner perhaps it wouldn't be such an issue. We just both need to grow up and DH needs to realise that I am always right

I could foxy, but it's become about the principle now IYKWIM. It's become about more than the sex. We will sort it, it'll just take time.

Fairy, re your email, we may be meeting my aunt for dinner rather than lunch now. Not sure, will let you know when I've spoken to DH.

I'm sorry to hear that Bumper. Good luck with it.

Just my 2 cents... please ignore me if you don't care...

My mum gets lots of referrals from GPs, it's nothing to be ashamed/embarassed about, she sees dozens of women a month having the same if not similar problems.

Just want to say you are not alone and there is help available if you need it.

I'll shut up now.

No worries mate

The playnest is the best thing ever...but baggins just took a nose-dive as he tried to reach something on the floor next to him

How's everyone doing?

I have one, but not brave enough to use it yet. The others will use it to catapult lo leaping on the side, sending her flying. Same with door-bouncers. Pull her back and boiiiiinnnnngggg!

How's Ria today?