November 2007 - None-day Morning Lay Ins!

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Hey ladies! Our thread was getting a bit long so i started a new one. Hope you dont mind!

I'm not just rubbish i'm so much rubbish??!

Lizzie - congrats on the potty training, and thanks for the tips and reassurance that it won't necessarily take a week! Well-meaning relatives keep saying DD will get it in no time, but we've been going 5 days now and, while she's slowly catching on, it's not going to be a quick thing.

RG - DH's name is Blood-Monkey, what's your DP's name? DH has just said your DP should send him a friend invite.
I've been planning the meals for the week too, it's saved us money on the shopping and is less stressful too, I don't have to decide what to cook every evening, and we don't resort to takeaway on a Friday!

Fiona - I hope you and DH are able to go to NZ both feeling happy with the decision. I think having kids makes you value your own family more, and I know I would be reluctant to leave Southampton for somewhere else in the UK, let alone another country.

Have a good evening all

Evening everyone

LMB - Hope DS feels better soon, poor thing. Did you go for a walk in the end?

Charmin - Hope you find the right nursery for you. It's totally got to feel right hasn't it or you'll end up worrying yourself stupid. How was Sara's weight?

I am currently persuading DP to come too as obviously he'd be more comfortable looking after Ellie himself. I'll have to check with LOM whether there's a PS3 in the area coz that'd make DP very happy! I deffo think it's on the cards tho and i know that DP is very easily persuaded....

Ellie is already attending baby massage - tomorrow is her fifth class! The other mums are all lovely but at the end of the class and once we've had our free coffee/tea they all pretty much go off and do their own thing without so much as a murmur of coffee mornings etc. I want to teach Ellie to sign tho, so that'll be something i'll look into shortly.

Is blowing bubbles a teething sign?? I thought DD was just being cute!! She blows bubbles a lot and chews her fist alot too but I thought she was doing it as a comfort thing. The only signs i knew about for teething were red cheeks, tons of dribble and grizzling alot.

Lizzie - sounds like you had a fab day stuffing biscuits. Yummy! Well done on the potty training too.

Kekouan - welcome back

Silk - your weight loss is inspiring! Well done!

Pixie - glad you're feeling a little brighter today. Try and keep your chin up.

Fiona - wow, what a dilema you are in!! I must admit that i wouldn't favour SA either. My dad's wife has a son who lived out there for years with his family but the violence got so bad that they decided it was safer to come back to the UK before they got their property siezed by those who were going around claiming back land as their own and killing those people who happened to live on it!! This was a good few years ago, mind you, so dont want to worry you too much but personally i wouldn't go there for love nor money! NZ sounds beautiful anyway so i'd much rather be there. I hope you reach an agreement together soon.

LMB - great info re weaning. Thanx for that!

Jet - dont stress about the potty training. Just go with the flow and one day DD will just click at what she's got to do.

I told DP your DH's name and he said it did ring a bell. DP's name is illadvised81. He said he will add your DH as a buddy tomorrow as we're just off to bed now.

Deffo agree about thinking about meals not being stressful any more. I just cook what it says on my list!! Yay!

Well i have to say i've had a very healthy day today (healthy for me, anyway!). I walked to Asda and back again today - took me 15 minutes each way, which is good because last time it took me 20 each way. It helped that i had my ipod with me this time - i was strutting away up the road with the pushchair! It would most definitely have been considered pramercise!! lol! I know it did me good tho because i was slightly breathless and red faced when i got there.

The best thing tho was the fact that I bought NO muffins and NO biscuits, cakes or anything BAD!! I did buy some fruit, however, and even ate an apple on the way home! When i got back home i felt quite invigorated by the fact that i'd exercised AND eaten healthily.

I'm off to baby massage again tomorrow and I'm going to park in DP's mum's street, then sling DD up and walk down to the class. Parking was a bit of a mare last week so i'll avoid the hassle of trying to find somewhere to park, plus get a little exercise too.

Have a good sleep everyone. N'night!

Well done RG very healthy!!!

I got my mattress for the cot delivered today. Its so cute all stripes and good quality fully inner sprung. DD is chilling out on it in the lounge and she seems to approve.

I'm still sick but so far DD doesn't seem to have caught it so fingers crossed.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Morning!

Well, after a hellish day yesterday with DS refusing to stop crying unless I was walking him in his pram, all seems a little better today... He's growth spurting I think (again!)

he'll be out of his 0-3 clothes before long...

(very belated) congrats to everyone

x

OOh they're just pushing through! Much better day today, Coby's much happier only a little grizzling a little dab of bonjela and all is calm.

Today we walked to under ones group. And were shown by a paramedic how to treat an over heated fitting baby, choking baby and unconscious baby. All very common sense and easy really but reassuring to be told all the same.

RG- We did manage a little walk not allong the sea front, which would have been much nicer but to the chemist! I'm liking the idea of planning meals. We do end up throwing away quite a bit each week as it just doesn't get eaten. Meal times are a pain anway cos i'm vege and DP isn't.
Also as soon as i've cooked a meal and sit down to eat it Coby fusses for me with out fail! Regardless if he's just been fed or not!

Just read back one of my posts and it did make sense the first time(about eating rubbish). Is it just me or do words jump sometimes when you read them on a computer?

hi all

Fiona hope you're better. And sorry about the geographical split - hope you can reach a consensus...

RG, another healthy day? I have had far too much chocolate to pretend to be healthy...

Teething already! DD dribbles a lot and stuffs fingers in mouth (she's 12 weeks now) but no teeth...

Baby massage today, which was fun, and we did a bit of yoga which DD loved. Yesterday we had an Oct girls meet up in York - it was fab. I'd love a November meet up if anyone is anywhere near (I'm in Newcastle)!

Hugs to everyone - crap night last night and so far tonight DD is being crap at going to sleep again...

Hi everyone, Callum is still really grumpy, porr Ds1 think Callum hates him because every time he hold him, Callum screams. He is fine with me holding him, but anyone else and he gets in a real tizz. We have started to put him down at 9pm and he actually sleeps till about 3-4am. I can't wait for him to start sleeping though, he is 19 weeks old now and I am begining to feel the strain.

Fiona - mattress sounds well posh! Ooo lah-di-dah! Hope you feel better soon.

Kekouan - hope you had a better day today

LMB - glad Coby's a little happier today, bless him. The paramedic stuff must be quite interesting (and essential!) to know. I'd have no idea what to do in that sort of situation. I know what you mean about meal times - DP and I are the opposite - he's a veggie and I'm not - so I have to plan meals with him in mind too. It's ok for things like lasagne and shepherds pies but i have to be a bit more adventurous for other things. I dont mind tho, it makes me open my eyes to other things, so i get to eat a slightly more varied diet too.

Choc - Yup, another good day. I walked to baby massage today which was 10 mins there (downhill) and about 15 mins on the way back - mostly up a serious hill lol. Nearly killed me it did!! Still not a muffin in sight so i'm very proud of myself!

Sparkly - hope Callum feels happier soon, poor little man!

Right, will catch up more tomorrow - i'm off to bed.

N'night all! xx

Hi all just signing in cos I haven't been on for a while. Having a (mostly) lovely time with Adam and I would have another one tomorrow if the DH would let me!

Well done those of you eating healthily! I have definately been getting into bad habits like having a "treat" with every cup of tea - and I drink a lot of tea! Going to have to go cold turkey or just get out more and stay busy.

RG - really crap re your hit and run incident, hope the police find her. Bad enough without having a LO in the car. Glad you and Ellie are ok.

Chocolate - I live in Hull which is still quite far from Newcastle but perhaps we could organise a Northern meet-up? I know a few of the girls on here live in Leeds (LOM and Choudru?). What was it like meeting the October gang? Were they like you imagined?

Well Adam is still not taking bottles of EBM so I had to cancel my birthday night out. Wasn't too bothered but would be nice to think that I am going to have a night out before he is weaned! He takes the bottle into his mouth but then just chews on the teat and spits any milk out! Any top tips appreciated but I understand that this is a v.common problem.

We are going to see a childminder later to see if we like her better than the nursery that we looked at. She sounded really nice on the phone. Anyone else use a childminder?
Catch you all later x

Sara- just a quick not as Lo has just started squaking. Ds took a while to take a bottle and didn't until I was well out of sight and hearing and quite hungry. he def won't take a bottle from me
I know NUK bottles and teats have woked for friends of mine who really struggled.
Hope you manage to sort it XX

Thanks LOM, only problem is that by time DH gets home it is the witching hour and DS is too cross to try anything new! Maybe we will try at the weekend. Did you try every day until he took it?

Went to the childminder who seemed v.nice but old argument re childcare has broken out between me and DH again . At the mo we are saying 2 days with MIL and 1 day in childcare of some description. DH really wants DS to go to his work nursery as it is so handy (DH would be on site if any probs), subsidised (only £16 a day) and the baby room has a good rep. I would prefer a childminder for a more homely environment and I wasn't particularly impressed with the nursery when I went to visit. Not that much more for a childminder and I can't imagine that DH would be needing to pop down every 5 mins so don't really get the argument about being on site. But really is just thin edge of wedge, me and DH still not getting on v.well at all, can't seem to talk to each other at all . He said I was being snobby for wanting a childminder and there is nothing wrong with the nursery.

On a lighter note, does anyone else's LOs keep scratching their faces? No matter how much I keep cutting Adam's nails he always manages to scratch himself, I don't like to have his mittens on all the time but he looks like he has been self-harming!

sarah - we've been trying to get William on the EBM too. Have you tried a range of bottles? The tommee tippee closer to nature ones have a lovely soft teat which William found much easier than the avent ones. He screamed when we tried the avent bottle, but was much calmer with t.t. Have you tried letting DH give the bottle instead of you? sometimes if you're offering the bottle baby will refuse as he knows the real thing is also there, whereas he has choice with daddy!
re nursery, could you talk to other parents and find out why they like the nursery? With DD we just couldn't find a childminder, which was my preferred option, but now I'm pleased she's at nursery as she is happy there, and it felt right when we looked round - which is the most important thing of course!

footie to watch - catch you later girls xx

Hey everyone

feeling totally knackered this eve, had a friend from DS1 nursery over with her 3 boys today, i haven't go a very big house so with 3 boys and two babies in total it was hectic, everyone sleeping just now...even DH !

Poor little ollie was quite scratchy today, sometimes it just seems like i'm hoicking him about from pillar to post, when i think of DS1 and all the attention he got being the only baby it just makes me feel sad that i can't devote the same amount of time to little ollie, i think also that cos it was so hectic today it made him overtired and unsettled poor little mite

Sara lou - i'm totally with you on childminder v nursery, its very much a personal choice but for me i would go with childminer and home environment over busy nursery every time, i'm sorry that you and DH are having a bit of time of it, I think a baby is v hard work physically and emotionally so does put a strain on relationships, things do get better though so don't let it stress you out too much, do what makes you happy, your the mum and you have the final say over what you think is best for your baby as far as i'm concerned,

Re the bottle situation ollie was always really reluctant to take bottle so i stopped for a few weeks, but out of necessity i had to leave him for a few hours on sat with DH, and waht d'ya know he took a bottle from him no probs, i think bascially if they are hungry enough they will take the bottle, perhaps you should let DH give him a bottle and leave the room, have a bath and relax and let DH do a little bonding good luck
xxxx

good nights everyone
Lxx

sarah - sorry to hear you and dh are going through a tough time. Having had a baby now I can honestly say I am amazed any marriages stay together. It's not easy is it? HOpe it improves soon. dd is also a little self harmer. What with the scratches and her eczema god knows what people think when they look at her (probably that I've done something to her).

Well I'm back full time at work tomorrow Was really looking forward to it a few weeks ago but now don't want to go. Think with dd being so unwell I feel unsure about being away from her. Nursery and the staff are lovely and she is very sociable and happy with strangers so I know logically it'll be fine. Doesn't make it any easier though!

Catch up with you all in a few days

Good luck tomorrow silk, and when you've finished and you're on the way to nursery it will be one of the best feelings ever I promise

Thanks for your support everyone . DH called me this lunchtime to apologise and he is taking me out for lunch tomorrow so we can talk about the whole childcare thing.

Silk - Adam is also having a few problems with his skin, nothing major but probably explains why he keeps scratching his face. I am sure that nobody would thing that you had done anything to Megan!! But these are the thoughts we torture ourselves unecessarily with. My latest paranoia trip is whether I am playing with Adam enough. I can understand you not wanting to go back to work just at the moment, hope it goes well.

LizzieO & Jetgirl - I am going to be brave and go out for an hour on Saturday and get DH to try bottle again. He has tried before but on an evening when Adam is already grouchy. If I am completely out of the way and he is hungry it might do the trick as you say!

Have a good day everyone. x

Things are loads better today.
Just had Swyn weighed nad she's put on 7 1/2 oz-yup- 7 1/2 oz my little heavyweight has put on lol.
She is now up from 0.4th centile to 2nd centile and is within an ok weight range. Her head and length are both on the 50th centile so dead average. She's just a skinny minny I think.

Hello everybody -hope you have all had A good day your little ones.

Today didn't exactly go smoothly for me. Megan woke at 430 this morning and refused to go back to sleep until well after five. I gave up trying and took her into the spare bed with me just so that I could get some sleep before going to work. Dh was left with strict instructions to wake me at 7am when the alarm went off. Nursery is 3 mins away and I had to drop her at 8 when it opened and then rush down to Bristol for meeting at 9.30.

Dh came into the bedroom saying omg it's quarter to 8!!!! The alarm hadn't gone off - no idea why. It was a nightmare, we didn't have time to feed dd and had to take her into nursery hungry and crying . Also cos I was so late I couldn't really stay to see if she was ok. Felt rubbish!

Got to meeting at 9.27 (after nearly running from the multistorey car park) only to discover none of my colleagues were there. RAng one of them who told me meeting start time changed to 10.30 and no one thougth to tell me. Was very very - what a bunch of tossers!

I had arranged for dh to finish work early as I felt I couldn't leave the meeting early to get back and pick her up from nursery. Glad I did cos it didn't finish until 6pm. Sadly that mant when I got home she was fast asleep in bed and I didn't get a cuddle

Dh said when he walked in to get her she was sitting on someone's knee having some milk - when she saw him she gave a beaming smile aaawwwwww. Apparently she's been a happy little thing all day but shockingly barely slept at all. Hope this will mean she's so knackered she'll sleep all night.

Since we put her in her own room she has woken between 4 and 5am without fail. Not hungry just awake and wanting attention. Need to break that pattern or I'll be exhausted. Talking of which - must go to bed

silk - I think little ones just know when something is up and it affects their sleep, my DD was exactly the same when I returned to work and I would go to work having had barely 3 hours sleep; alram clocks also conspire against you too! At least you know that Megan has survived her first day at nursery, which must be some consolation.

am feeling at the moment. I want to watch ER but DH is playing on the f*ing PS3; havene't had a minute to myself all day, yet he apparently needs to have some downtime while I have been looking after William who decided to throw up over my last pair of clean jeans. This is the first time I've had to myself and I can't even watch what i want to watch on the tv.

rant over, will go to bed instead!

Morning everyone

Sarah - how did the lunch go? Hope you and DH get things sorted.

Pixie - fantastic weight gain!!!! Well done!

Silk - What a pants day you had yesterday. It's awful when you leave the DCs crying at nursery - been there, done that! Guaranteed tho that as soon as you are out of sight, they forget all about their woes and put on great big grins for everyone lol.

DD went into her own room last night for the first time. It was a bit of a pain, i have to say lol. She was ok from about 8.30 til midnight, after that she kept waking up so i fed her and put her back down, but she was constantly dropping her dummy again and it took until gone 1am for her to actually let me get back to sleep! Then she woke up at about 5.30 so i fed her again and she went back to sleep (but not without a fight) until about 8am. At that point i brought her into the bed with me and she had the cheek to fall asleep more or less straight away!! When we first put her to bed we ended up shutting her door because i'm paranoid that the cats will sleep on her and suffocate or something (doubtful) so i'm wondering if she kept waking up because it was too quiet. Perhaps a radio in the room might help for a bit.... Any tips on settling her would be great. Thankfully i've always put her in her cot if i wanted to do something upstairs, so it wasn't like it was totally unfamiliar territory or anything.

Jet - i hear you on the DP/PS3 thing!!! It annoys me sometimes how he has to have his down time but i dont actually get any!! Wish i had time to play CoD4 during the day! That would be lovely!!!

Doing another tip trip today. Might as well make the most of trashing the car with yet more shite before the garage pick it up, as it's a write off. I've decided to get another car rather than try and repair him. I've had him since 2000 so he's done me a bloody long time! Time to move on tho i think. I'm hoping to get a little Peugeot 306 but as i'm after one for under £1k, i'm not expecting too much lol.

Had a lovely couple of days (besides 2nd jabs on Thursday )

Two friends came to visit from Bristol. (I usd to live there back in the day!) It was lovely seeing them and they bought goodies from Mamas and Papas which are always welcome . We had a lovely big takeaway (naughty i know!)and bottle of red. Then today we took a walk along Sandbanks beach and looked at how the other half live.

Lo has been knocked out for ages today not sure if its the jabs or sea air but i'm not complaining!

Right i'm off to make the most of the calm. maybe even a little nap.

Finally found myself a Nintendo DS and off to pick it up later today. Have been fancying one for ages but they'e been out of stock everywhere. I fancy doing the Brain Training games while I'm feeding little miss

Fiona...sending vibes your dh's way...come to NZ...come to NZ...come to NZ...

DH runs an IT recruitment company and at the mo he seems to be finding jobs for huge amounts of S Africans who want to come and settle here. Understand it's hard to choose one country over other though.

Well, yesterday DH and I had our first night out since William was born. We went to a charity quiz night and had a great time even though we didn't win. And, more importantly, William was fine, drank 2 bottles of EBM and generally entertained my mum who came to babysit. DD was also good too, so it's made me feel we can go out again.

The weather looks lovely today, so I'm going to insist to DH that we make the most of it and do something, he'll probably grumble a bit but he'll come round!