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April 2007 - I don't need Father Christmas, I've got my April Angels

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iMustBeMad · 22/12/2007 20:49

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NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 20:59

I always thought my hair was dead straight too but the hairdresser still manages to straighten it more when I go for a cut and blow dry

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:09

aaargh
just had justin on the phone about seeing Joe this weekend. I told him earlier in the week that my mobile wasn't working properly, and asked him to get me my old phone which he keeps 'forgetting' to return. Not heard from him all week until just now, when he wants to see Joe in the morning

I've not heard from him so have planned my weekend, meeting Cath tomorrow am, seeing cars [hopefully] in the afternoon and on Sunday.

Joe isn't taking any ff at the moment, and is more wheezy than he has been since hospital, so I don't really want to leave him or let him go away from me, but I can't get anywhere for Justin to see him either.

I want to send him a text (online as my mobile isn't working!) saying sorry, but I have made plans, you should have contacted me earlier in the week.

I know I shouldn't though

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NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 21:14

What about saying - right you come here at teatime tomorrow or not at all and blooming well give me some notice next time!!

fpesha · 28/12/2007 21:15

Re eastenders - she was holding the newborn baby up over her shoulder like a much older baby - head flopping all over the place. Sure the baby was fine but was really hard to watch!

Dp is upstairs trying to get D to sleep, I've done my stint but dp is much better than me. Basically if bfing doesnt work I'm no good to him!

Katy - I echo the opinion that your dh is just scared. Dp gets really scared by D and was even worse with N, any little thing and he'd panic and then get cross with me for not panicikng.

He's now come down saying its my turn as D is still crying. Going to leave him for a few minutes to cry. He was awful last night and woke every 2 or 3 hours, still really poorly

I have spent all afternoon tidying M's (very small) bedroom. She is such a nightmare, i found so many dirty clothes chucked in toy boxes and shoved back in drawers and hiden under things The laundry basket is right outside her room ffs, all she has to do is open the door and chuck it out. But she now has a jewellery and hair band drawer, a make up drawer , a little bag/purse drawer, a stationary drawer, a box dedicated to bratz and barbies and all the little bits of crap accessories that come with them, a box for babies and their bits and, most importantly, a clear floor!!!!

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:16

I said could we do the afternoon as I could be sure we were back by then, and M would be with his dad (I try to keep him away from Justin), but apparently he is going to see his family in Essex in the afternoon so won't be available

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CaptainDippy · 28/12/2007 21:19

Well Done, Pesha!! Hoping D settles soon. xx

2nd what NL said, Pillock - He is such an arse (imho ) - Tell him a time to come over tomorrow that is convienient to you or not at all - You need more notice. Grrrr!

CaptainDippy · 28/12/2007 21:20

Oh well. His loss.

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:21

but then I feel like I'm being unfair

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CaptainDippy · 28/12/2007 21:22

How are you being unfair!!!?

christmascrackerboldy · 28/12/2007 21:23

hi all

had a lovely christmas here, except for the fact that my old dog died on christmas day. Mixed feelings about it really - sad o lose her, but also glad that she didn't suffer and wasn't ill - we just found her curled up like she was sleeping on christmas morning when we went to let her out.

dc all been great. dh had today off and we and the three eldest had a really long game of monopoly, which was surprisingly good fun!

one other really sad thing is that the polish guy dh works with had a phone call on christmas eve to say that his brother, sil and 5 month old nephew had been in an accident. sil died brother in a coma and baby absolutely fine - he has never met baby yet. feel really for him - he is a really lovely man.

anyway that's it for now! x

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:25

because I'm stopping him from seeing J

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NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 21:26

You are not being unfair - he wants to slot his son into his timetable like you do a visit to Tesco! If he wants to see Joe that much - and he should, he is such a sweetie - then that jolly well comes first.

That man is a huge, enormous, mouldy vegetable!

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 21:27

You are not stopping him from seeing Joe - you are stopping him from running your life as well!

Caz - so sorry about the dog - it's always hard - and that is truly awful about the polish guy's family - how tragic for them. Can he get over there at all?

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:28

but then he's free in the morning and on sunday, so it kinda is me

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christmascrackerboldy · 28/12/2007 21:31

He is going home on Jan 27th. His boss asked him if he wants to go sooner, but tbh I don't think he can afford to.

Actually his name is Arik. I am always telling dh off for calling him "the polish guy"!

This sonds horrible, but in some ways it was a relief to find her just gone quietly like that. She was old and grumpy, and I could no way trust her with the dc any more.

CaptainDippy · 28/12/2007 21:32

Agree with everything NL said - He isn't running your life - If he really wanted to see his son he would make arrangements for proper contact, not just sporadic "when I feel guilty like it" visits - He is bang out of line - Don't be a doormat!!!!!!!!

Sorry about your dog, Caz - glad he went peacefully though So about the guy your Dh works with Tragic.

christmascrackerboldy · 28/12/2007 21:32

I don't think you are being at all unreasonable IMBM! he just seems to pick you up and drop you whenever he feels like it!

christmascrackerboldy · 28/12/2007 21:32

back tomorrow - gotta go!

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 21:34

well Caz - if that was the case then it's as well really - at least you didn't have to make any hard decisions or see her suffer

will say a prayer for Arik's family tonight

IMBM - but you aren't free then - and as you are the one carrying the heavier end of the load as it were then I think you get to call at least some of the shots!!

CaptainDippy · 28/12/2007 21:35

Is there anyway your DH's work can help Arik get to the funeral / to see his DB and DNephew/niece??

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:38

I don't know, I just feel like I am being awkward. I am also a bit worried about him taking J for a walk or anything outdoors really, as J is very wheezy.

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CaptainDippy · 28/12/2007 21:43

You are not being awkward - he is your son. You know him best and if your instinct is telling you that J is too ill to be going out with a virtual stranger then you are probably justified. xx

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 21:44

You are not being awkward - you are being protective - that is what Joe needs you for
It is reasonable for him to expect some time alone with his son I suppose(even though the massive, soggy aubergine that he is doesn't deserve it) so what if you explained about his chest and said you would go out for a ride on your bike maybe to leave them alone? Or wouldn't you want to leave him alone in your house?

iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:44

pmsl, problem is, you're biased

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iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 21:46

no friggin way am I leaving him alone in my house, he came here last weekend (accompanied by a friend of ours) and left with 2 pictures off the wall
ok, so they were his, but he moved out over a year ago and hadn't noticed!

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