March 2007-Today our babies will mostly be eating.............

[KITTYmaspudding]

ok, new thread, old one full!!

Piff that last post was from DS1!!

foxy-glad you are getting rid of the dodgey lodger.perhaps advertise for an over 25 next time?

took ds2 to the doctors before as he has yet another ear infection.his left grommet is gone which explains why he's been having problems with that ear.it probably came out in october when he had that really nasty infection.

am taking dd2 to the doctors in the morning as she has had a cold but now has a nasty cough which is causing her to puke.i just had to re-bath her as she puked in her hair.usually that means she has a chest infection.

think i will just get a job lot of antibiotics for everybody

callie, it was me who wanted to know about bedtime routines and it was helpful to know i am not doing anything odd

snoo snoo, my dh and i go out with the baby when he is off -lunch or swimming or a walk - i can't subject him to tescos or housework... he is working without a day off til after ny now - don;t marry a chef anyone... so we will only see him morning early if we are up and a coffee in the afternoon. he gets home around 11 pm.

bethoo- suggest you get that thing back off your dp and sell it quick.. plus anything else he has that is worth anything. sorry, but he sounds terrible to you and your ds, you are better off without surely? know its easy to say though. can't you be your own best friend and have a good chat with yourself? i do that (not sure i like bossy self

mossy-words fail me!! my dh would be spending xmas elsewhere if he made any crazy suggestions like that.. doesn't mil work then?
re food bill, mine is low but agree is bed ok then men don't seem to notice the grub. can you do a taste test with finest and normal? see if he spots the difference...
bet even if you morphed into nigella he would still moan-or turn to whinging abot housework.

best go, am being v bolsy

sorry am ratty as my sister sent my ds a present and us a letter complaining about being ignored since she refused to come to our wedding detailing a list of excuses why she didn;t come which we know are crap (ie no money-didn;t stop her and her dp going on hols twice this year 5* hotel as usual) have no idea what to do (for once!) send it back? ignore her?

bethoo - kick his butt to the gutter and keep the ps3 - you pay for it - it is yours.

sponge - read it, shred it and ignore her. Not worth the energy.

grommets are fab - dh and I have spent the night whispering and talking very quietly to dd1 and smiling when she responds.

snoosnoo - despite being on her second lot of grommets - dd1 has never had an ear infection - go figure.

Being brave and taking three dds out to the shops for an hour or so to just get a couple more things for dh - he has no idea what he wants as his big present so the usual socks and jocks for his stocking.

So pleased that the grommets have worked! I recall my little brother having them and it turning his life ( and ours )around
Bless her cottons.

Sponge LOL @ bolshy.

Morning everyone. only 5 days til christmas, cant believe it! in two months Hayden will be 1! omg!!!!
i have read your threads in regard to dp and i will be sellign hte ps3 next year if i do not see payments. also will be leaving him. season of good will and all and cant not have sex on christmas!! but joking aside it has gone for me, he has pushed me too far and for me there is no going back. all feelings i had for him dispersed like dandelions in the wind when he told me he could not pay especailly as i had been hounding him previously and he had reassured me over and over that it would be fine and he would have the money! i am givign him a proper christmas with his son and my family then that is it!
he senses something is off as last night and this mornign he said he got the feeling i was avoiding him, wtf does he expect?? but i am busy as got to get house cleaned and tidy as i am off to parents on sunday and still not got any idea who is going to feed my cats for the two weeks i am away. i love coming back from being away to discover cat vomit all over my sofa!

Bethoo - ooh please get rid of him - he is a parasite!!! Sorry to be so blunt but he is taking the piss out of you. You have a son and you don't need another grown up son who leaches of you!

You are tres grogeous and will get snapped up very quickly by someone much nicer and more deserving and you will find your life is much happier [hugs]

Sponge - well what I would do is this: I would give the present to DS and then I would carry on happily ignoring sister. Let her stew, why not? . She will never know if you received it or not and will feel very frustrated Tee Hee [evil woman emoticon]

Am still trying to find time to read everyone's posts below...

Sponge - i agree with foxcub, give present to little one and ignore her though she seems to be repentant contacting you. i would personally contact her and give her a gobful!! but then that is me!

i know you alll say i will find someone but i am just worried that as a single parent it is hard to get out and meet anybody as dp puts up a fuss when i ask him ot look after lo even on a night out of 3 hours (have curfew back by midnight!!!). i guess i will just have to ask my cm to care for him on nights out instead.

bethoo I was a single mum with ds1 for 6 yrs
Had a relaly good CM who had ds1 overnight sometimes, she lived in the same street so was fabby.
I found a super fella and you will too.

Right important
Sleep
All the breastfed babies here
how are the sleeping at night
Should not moan about Finn - dream to settle, goes straight off without a urmur. when he does wake he feeds for 10 mins and then settles again straight away.
Am just tired and cross that it is every 2 hrs most night recently
He eats well during the day?
Co sleeping not an option, due to the Finnster thinking our bed is party zone.
He used to sleep 5-9 hours....
Am missing that

Piffle Monti wakes every 2 hours too at night. I give him a bottle of hungry baby formula for his last feed at about 10.30pm and he sometimes will go for 3 hours for the first stretch but thereafter its every 2 hours. He eats loads in the daytime too ...

piffle - we have had a few unsettled nights and then we get some good ones and then back to the unsettled nights. BUT we have four top teeth ready to come through any second now.

Dd3 is turning into a fruit bat - she just loves cold watermelon, honey dew or rockmelon - cold fresh kiwi fruit spooned out of the skin - she just loves it. Have taken to calling her my little fruit bat.

Hasan probably wakes twice/three times a night. Sometimes it is more and when that happens it is very tiring
Last night ds2 was up needing my attention at 1.30am.
They are not well today Hasan has a rotten cough and is hot, managed to get him to take a little calpol. Ds2 is also hot, dd is probably well enough for school today but we didn't make it.
I feel weary, weary, weary.

But (perking up) I am looking forward to christmas. woohoo, 5 days

Piffle - lucky me last night at 6 Hayden was grumbling as he had not had afternoon nap so he went to bed early at 7 and did not wake til 630 this morning when i bought him into my bed for a feed then he settled for an hour then woke me up by pulling my hair!
all i can say is that everything improved when i moved him into his own cot in his own room. if he wakes up during the night he may whimper for a few minutes but then dozes off again, only in the mornign when he really does protest with little tears down his face! this mornign he woke i went in and he was kneeling on the cot with his arms out as if just waiting in that pose for me to scoop him up!!!

oh me too rosy will be a good xmas this year I can feel it!
Think I am feeling the tiredness more as DP has been away in Rome so much of the last week.
Cute about the fruit bat Eids! Finn loves melon but not kiwi, he puckers his face up in such a funny way, he also hates cheese, unless it's finely grated, or in cheese sauce or melted on toast.. I suppose then I chould not say he does not like it, but to give him a cold slice of it. He looks at you like you've given him chili pepper.
He does really love banana though, limit him as I know it can lead to constipation.

Oh Finn is in his own room alright enough... maybe he will settle when we get out and about more -all the music/baby gym classes have stopped and he is too sniffly to swim, think he is under worked

Piffle - is he active otherwise during the day? i think that having them stand up against things helps tire them out, that is the only thing i can think of to explain lo sleeping better apart from different room. Hayden is always on the go, sadly he is not one for sitting longer than 2 minutes so mum can shower him in kisses and hugs!!

He is upright all day when not sleeping (he naps about 2 hrs in total) in his highchair he just stands and bounces and when on the floor he is up on everything.
I am shattered so surely his little body must be ?
Oh well such is life

Piffle -plenty of buggy walks in the fresh air is another idea to settle him.

am currently without buggy as sold bugaboo to fund Dp's xmas gift (ipod touch) and am waiting for a new buggy but lost in the post
Am slinging him in the meantime

hello all you lovley ladies

Bethoo, kick him out, what a waster, you deserve SO much better

Piffle, Ronnie was awake nearly all last night , but like with Eids we do have good nights too, sadly nearly all of our days are crap

Foxy, at last you got rid of the extra child. What a git, def go for someone a little more mature.

Rosy sorry you are feeling crappo. Most of mine are one their knees with exhaustion.
The three youngest have either vomitings or the runs.
Last night I was just getting Ronnie off to sleep with me when dd2 came in, said she was thirsty and then promptly vomited copious amounts of stinky yuk all over the floor next to me bed. That then woke Ronnie up who started screaming.
He wouldn't settle properly all night and at about 5am dd3 was screaming she had runny poo nappy that had leaked everywhere and simply STANK.

I really don't like Ronnie you know. What a thing to admit.
There's all of you all loved up with your babies and I've never had a decent day with Ronnie since he was born.
Whenever he sees me all he does is whimper and cry and want to suck. I've NEVER been able to pay with him, rough house him.
Yes I know this will pass and that eventually he will improve .
I feel very sad about it but also guilty. Mothers are supposed to adore their babies aren't they? .

Kitty that is one hell of a night and makes my struggles look like a picnic in the park.
Being loved up with the baby is what makes it all okay. What a shame you haven't got that dimension to help you. You must be stretched to your limit and Ronnie has been difficult but even that wouldn't stop the bonding so I wonder if it might be a bit of pnd causing you a problem?
you have had immense stress to cope with with one thing and another.

Kitty yes you do like him Missus! You're just knackered and worn down. Poor you having to juggle baby, vom and poo!

Do you think he is whiney and clingy 'cos his neck makes him uncomfortable? I'm thinking that if his head is held to the side 24 hrs a day, it must put a strain on his back and shoulders.

I know what a PITA Monti is when he is just a teeny bit ill or teething - maybe Ronnie feels permanently uncomfortable and will do until his neck is stretched back to position. Did they give you some excercises to do - sorry you did say but my frazzled old brain can't recall what I said 2 minutes ago, let alone what anyone else said a few days ago.

Please try your best not to worry about it Kitty... sometimes it is all we can do to meet our little one's basic needs... if they get anything on top of that it is a bonus

I agree with foxy - i bet things improve when his neck straightens... plus on top of that he just sounds like a bit of a sensitive soul to me who wants his lovely mummy all to himself! PLUS on top of THAT you have 5 other children!

I don't know how you're still standing personally...

Well, things atm bit better between dh and I. I've had a bit of a chat with him - we've (as in, I've actually agreed, rather than just gone along with him) decided I will work (i.e. for money) come January (as all savings spent up etc), but cut back on the spending massively with the aim of once mil has had him six months, look into either flexible working or full-time SAHMship.

You know the funny thing? Dh missed two days of his ADs due to being too lazy to go to renew prescription... no wonder he had a day of being a total a*hole - I didn't realise ADs had such a strong effect but clearly they do!

Piffle, sleep... ah, what's that? Bertie sucks constantly throughout the night. He is so so so little that I don't feel I can change things yet as breastmilk's so high in calories I feel he needs it. What I do is attach him to one boob, drift off to sleep myself, when I'm woken up by too much sucking I get out of bed, empty my bladder and have a glass of Vimto, turn over and put him on the other side to suck himself to sleep.

Actually I've grown used to that. What I don't like is when he wake wakes. You know he decides that's it, he's up for the day and won't be told to go back to sleep. Ah well.

Kitty, you have my sympathies. Bertie is not an easy baby to deal with during the day either; if I don't give him 100% attention he screams and grizzles until he gets it. However I have only the one baby to deal with (unless you count dh ) so am able to give him that attention. It is draining, but I think had I five other children to deal with I would have lost my marbles tbh! I think you deserve huge kudos for coping how you have done.

Also I think when everything is better wrt his neck he will be happier.

The situation you're in vis-a-vis Ronnie's problems, having other needy kids to deal with and things are not 100% with you and your dp, that would be enough to get anyone down. Would ADs help in the short term do you think? Or would they just make matters worse?

Eids Bertie loves the fruit, too.

Rosy hope you & Hasan are better soon.

Foxy glad you got rid of the lodger! What a piss-taker!!

Yes, I too am looking forward to Christmas...