March 2007-Today our babies will mostly be eating.............

[KITTYmaspudding]

ok, new thread, old one full!!

Ahhh Callie tis easier than it sounds and failing meticulous cooking I cna always get them so drunk, they they don't notice that they are only eating fish fingers
M+S is great for helping you out in the kitchen too And relying on the old favourite of Antipasti to simplify starters...

Well Finn and I have fallen out again grrr
Fed every 2 hrs last night am thinking teething, as he certainly did not seem hungry and is sleep refusnik this morning - which as I just explained to him
Keep mummy up all night and do not expect one to one all the next day.
No cna do
He is just contemplating that as he maons in his cot...
I'm leaving him for as long as it takes to drink this cup of tea and eat as many biscuits as can force down at the same time.

sorry x posted mossy.

Pork tenderloin from free range butcher £2-3
breadcrumbs made from scratch 2p
simple mustard sauce or apple sauce

sautee potatoes
and green beans or salad veg.

For us as family of 3 adults (Max is adult sized and eats like one) is only about £4

If wine is a must BULK buy fro bottleshop or wine merchant, virgin wines are EXCELLENT

sorry for that could not help

I totally understand and agree with your reasoning mossy, he is being a total twonkhead.

PIffle that's half his problem, there isn't anything approaching a free range butcher round here so he spends a fortune on the supermarket stuff.

Oh sugar better go Bertie crying...

My dh is half caveman, half kn*bhead too.

Luckily I'm perfect enough for the both of us
The only thing to do is agree totally with your man, say he is very right, wise and wonderfull...then do whatever you like...ie don't get a job. Give him loads of wine at dinner, jump his bones(that always confuses them) and honestly he will never notice he is only eating fish fingers as Piffle says

there is a farmers market in st helens on St Helens, Chalon Way
(opposite World of Glass)
Last Friday monthly,
10am - 3pm

also worth mentioning to DH that organic can still mean caged and very intensively farmed stock and not always the best treated animals.
Better eating less of really good quality meat than lots of lower quality meat, you lose the benefits of eating fine meat otherwise.
It cna be a nice trip out at the w/e to drive to farms and farm shops and find good local butchery as well.

F*ck our food bill is approx £230 a week

Will write more later

PIFFLE - now I have your attention - what is wrong with us aussies?!?!?!

Mossy - sorry to hear dhi s being a pain. Perhaps freecycle might be more the go than ebay

Well dd1 did fab today with getting her grommets in and it is amazing - we no longer have to raise our voices - we can whisper and she hears!! Now I definitely know she ignores me when I ask her to stop annoying her sisters. She did really well going under with the gas mask and despite being a little distressed when coming round in recovery - nothing like the hysteria we had last time. We were in at 7am and home in time to pick up dd2 at noon. btw - the arrogant docs were there again and I told him how stupid his prescription was for dd1 and he just looked at me - can he really not see how a tablet that has to be dispersed in a spoonful of water and shoved down a 5yo throat is a bit stupid - let alone a five yo with special needs. ANyway - again really rude and dh just looked at me - so I simply said when he left - see what I mean.

Dh works at this hospital and he ran into all these people - we think he may be asked for feedback of the 'patient journey' so I have it all ready for him and I have decided to contact the head of the department about those two registrars. I was going to do something today to complain but felt it was not the place - today was about making sure dd1 came through it all okay.

Now just rocky road to make for christmas and I am finished.

Given dh my list ready for him to hit the shops tomorrow.

well dinner calls.

if CSA does not exist how would i get dp (soon to be xdp!) to pay maintenance should i ask?
i am very pissed off with dp as remember me telling you (if i did!) that he coersed me into getting him a play station 3 on credit saying he just had to have it now and he would pay me monthly so when the 9 months monthly paying was up he would have the rest to pay. well got the letter through yesterday as they want £383 by 28 dec and lo and behold he cannot give me the money! so now it looks as though i have to pay it off and fracking furious that i actually thought he was tellling the truth that he would not let me, the mother of his son down. last time i had a go about the payments as not seen any since may he then reassures me, coincidentally that is around the time that he started tellign me he loves me and was gong to propose before christmas. willing to bet anyone out there 1 million pounds that he does not! next year if no money by jan i will be seeing his mother about gettign the cash and then i will be telling him ot fuck off! excuse my language! cant even bare to see him right now as i feel so used and stupid! angry that i have to pay all this money for a computer i have never used! the only reason i have not said bye yet is because he is taking me to my parents for christmas and my family have bought him presents! sorry for ranting. i mean he has ony given me £50 for Hayden since he was born and his mum buys Haydens food to put in his cupboards. even great sex is not going to get him out of this one!

bethoo even if he pays you nothing you will be better off
HE effing dare HE!!!!!!!
Kick to the kerb without question, hot sex or not.

mossy - could you not throw something at his eye again? (like an iron )

sorry ... that was a bit catty

bloody hell bethoo ...

that's pretty unforgivable in my book... steal the playstation back and sell it.

Does the bloke have no self respect that he expects all these women to bank roll him.... a grown man getting his mum to foot the bill for HIS offspring???

bethoo... you seem far too intelligent to be letting this happen to you...

technically it is your ps3 bethoo...
god he is making me really mad

i said i would sell it and he said how and that i would defo not get a penny!

so you can see how annoyed i am that i also pay petrol, feed his other child when he already owes me so much money. he must think i am loaded what with earning 10k a year and am not entiltled to housing benefit so the only extra cash i get is my £18 child benefit and family tax credits like everyone else! and i have child care and 4 animals to feed and pay med bills as well as feeding myself! and all my other bills like house insurance, phone bills ,tv licenve etc. i am surprised i do it to be honest!

Bethoo your dp sounds much worse even than my dh what a tosser! It sounds like all you get from him (I'm not saying it isn't a lot but still...) is the sex and nothing else. You are a young rather gorgeous woman and I'm sure you could get fantastic sex somewhere else... what do you think is holding you back from kicking him out?

Piffle I will deffo look into that market, where did you find that? Afai knew there was only the farmers' market that came twice a year (same time as conti market). I did not know that about organic either. I just assumed all organic was free range which was why it was so effing expensive! You know I think dh assumes that too. I know organic f&v is no pesticides etc. and I'm kinda on board with that but the meat side - well if it's not even necessarily "freedom" food then what's the point?

Muppet you're not being catty. I sometimes feel like throwing something at dh as well. A breezeblock.

Eids so glad to hear your dd1 has come through the grommets and her hearing is better. Those doctors make me though. I hope you are able to get something done about them.

I am feeling a bit more sanguine about things now. Maybe I am comparing him to your dp Bethoo and seeing that things aren't so bad I suppose...

I think I have come to the conclusion that I am going to wait for a permanent job to come along. I am going to do full-time for about six months (while mil has Bertie) but at the same time get dh pinned down to a budget and start doing some cooking myself (and food shopping). Save up some money (as we have spent up all our savings as funnily enough - who would have thought it - we couldn't live like we used to on two salaries when we had only one salary) and then when Bertie is a bit older see if we can after all afford at least for me to work part-time, best for me to be SAHM.

See I think the next six months with mil having Bertie will not be two bad. But after that when he is a proper full-on toddler who can answer back, I just don't trust her not to be the incredibly strict disciplinarian she says she was with dh (and regrets blah blah blah but when you're in the thick of it...)

phew...things are getting heated!

eids-grommets are great,arent they?apart from when they get a gungy ear infection,then its all a bit yukky.but worth it.

bethoo-i have contacted the 'CSA' so many times ive lost count.i have 3 children with 2 seperate biological fathers who live away and neither of whom have ever paid a penny in maintenance,or ever even got a letter off the so-called csa.well,xp used to ocasionally give me money or help me out getting stuff when i was on my own and he was trying to get in my knickers,but he hasn't paid a penny officially.

i agree with rosy(?) you could be having great sex with somebody decent.it wouldn't hurt to have a few more to compare him to,would it?

mossy-i know what you mean about apologies not making up for the past.its so difficult to forgive and forget when somebody has treated you badly when you were vulnerable and needed their support more than ever.i dont know about your dh but mine thins that once he's apologised for something then its all ok and like it never happened,and i am never allowed to mention it again as thats 'dragging up the past'

i am in charge of all the finances here.i dont think i would be able to cope with dh being in charge-feck,it makes me feel sick just thinking about it[control freak emoticon].

Well I suppose it doesn't matter who is bringing in the money as long as both people are doing their bit and being valued for that.
Bethoo if your dp was there working with you to bring up your son as a proper partner it might balance out but his attitude seems really self serving and immature. His attitude to money being what illustrates that. Maybe you need to make it clear that he needs to change his attitude if he really doesn't want to lose you.

Oh yeah, Eids that is great that things went well with the grommets.

Is anyone else's man annoying them? let's clobber 'em

my thread here
not quite as serious but in some ways it is...

piff - for £95 the toast had better pop up already buttered with the option of strawberry jam...

As I said to him
Is it going to walk up the stairs and hand deliver it?

He did look really confused by my reaction

He should know how superficial I am

OMG I can't keep up!!!

Kiwi I lurve wheeliebugs - fab pressie. Didn't get time to look at all the other pressie links

Eids will be thinking of your DD1 - grommets are wonderful aren't they - I hope she gets them pronto

Trixie - forgot about the boy think. DD walked early but I guess he probably won't, being a boy...

He's taken to insisting on cuddling me to sleep - its quite cute (actually very nice - like a little cuddly brown bear)

Rosy - I think our postie fancies me actually . I know it sounds very vain, but he is always flirting and knocks on the door at the slightest excuse and wants to chat etc, all smiley

He's about 20 years younger than me

I have just evicted lodger - he didn't pay the rent yesterday and turns out he is broke!!! So he is moving his stuff out now and we have agreed I will keep the deposit (a months rent plus about £75, which will cover cleaning and readvertising). He's all apologetic but I just want him out of my house ASAP now. DH is changing the locks. So we get the rent paid until January 19th and a month to find a new wierdo lodger.

Will try and read the rest of the posts later, when party boy has moved his stuff out

to merryPIFFLEmas merry christmas merry christmas merry christmas