Babies due late June - July 2021 (1)

[THATbasicSNOWFLAKE]

Post natal group thread for ladies with babies who were due/born late June - July 2021

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29/6/21 - THATbasicSNOWFLAKE - DC6 - Boy - 8lb12oz

@Sweetpea12 I am so sorry the staff aren't being more sympathetic with you. It must feel horrible. I think sometimes they go on autopilot with their jobs and forget there are people at the heart of it.

How are you both doing this evening? I am sending lots of love your way.

It’s terrible I’ve been in such a state. They sent a social worker today and he couldn’t believe I’ve been here 11 days crying and very emotional with what’s happening he said no one told him I was in that way. It was only I rang a midwife myself and asked for help. There are other people who may not feel they can do that but I knew I needed to speak to someone outside my family for support. I don’t mean to bring everyone down with my moaning sorry

@BlackberrySt he’s probably feeding more because of the bellyache not hunger, then the more they feed the more it hurts. We’ve had this too. Try infacol it should help get the wind up when you are burping and can be used from birth. The first day we gave it to DD she passed so much wind.

Symptoms have been and appeared in this order - diarrhoea developing to mucus/frothy poos, reflux developing to large vomits, rash (not nappy rash) on anus, dry skin developing to eczema, rumbling tummy, colic.

@Sweetpea12 I’m sorry to hear the hospital staff have been unsupportive. You’re family however sound amazing. Don’t feel bad for needing a break, it’s a stressful situation and your baby needs a well looked after, rested mum xx

@BlackberrySt they do feed a lot more than I expected though and was every 2.5 hours until about 5 weeks and she can go up to 4 hours now.

@Sweetpea12 please don't feel you have to appologise! People here are asking after you and baby as we care! Could easily have been any one of us with a poorly little one. I'm glad the SW is now aware of the sitiation!

One of the midwives came to see me which I’m glad for she said to start recording things happening as this morning I was again upset by a surgeon the same one who asked why I was crying. His whole tone is just inconsiderate, he did apologise only because the sister hinted he should. Just so hard I haven’t had that moment of having my baby and bringing him home just 14 straight day in hospital. Thank you so much to anyone asking how we are it’s very much appreciated

@Sweetpea12 I think anyone would be struggling and tearful in your position, honestly the number of tearful breakdowns I had over the week I was in hospital was silly, I was a snotty milky mess. The sleep deprivation alone completely erodes your emotional resilience. Please don’t worry you’re not moaning, it’s really tough and lonely. Hope you get some professional support. But keep chatting to us here as well 🙂and take things day by day, you will get through this.

@PeanutButterFalcon we’re currently at the every 2.5hr stage - he’s coming up for 1 month now so hopefully he’ll start going a little longer soon. Have him on the infacol now and he’s still windy but seems to pass it easier - less drawing his knees up and squirming about. I’ve also been drinking loads of fennel tea, I’ve been making up flasks for night feeds. It’s supposed to pass on through breast milk and help ease wind - no idea if it’s helping really but it tastes nice anyway!

@BlackberrySt it was almost overnight DD stopped feeding so much. I’m pleased it’s helping, I wished we’d started using it so much earlier. I’ve been waiting for DDs six week check to ask the GP about things which was silly. I’ve stopped feeding her led down at night too which helps but I do miss the ease of it

@BlackberrySt thank you so much. Once they confirm a diagnosis for him we should be able to progress which would be great

@Sweetpea12 I hope they are able to do that for you soon. Hope you have had a better day.

Got my sons diagnoses today he’s confirmed as having hirchsprungs disease so if we can get him taking bottles to a certain amount I can take him home before he comes back for the surgery he will need

@Sweetpea12 I am keeping everything crossed for for your little one. How are you feeling? x

I feel a lot better today now I know we may go home soon I honestly thought we would spend months here. For the first time in two weeks I haven’t wanted to just sit and cry and I’ve had some lovely Midwife’s reach out to me which really helps

@Sweetpea12 Fingers crossed you can go really soon. x

I'm glad you got some positive news @Sweetpea12 :)

How is everyone's baby's sleeping at night? i.e. Do they sleep on their back in a cot/moses basket/crib? Much like DS1, DS2 will only sleep on me or cosleep. If he does sleep in a cot, it's on his stomach and, of course, I can't leave him in that position. I don't know how I managed to power through with DS1, but I just don't have the stamina to facilitate cosleeping much longer. I can't sleep properly as I'm so worried he'll come to harm.

Hey. My boy will sleep for an hour at a time in his next-to-me cot, after 1hr he needs to be constantly touched on the head or chest for reassurance. He’ll occasionally sleep in his pushchair downstairs but is only really relaxed when asleep on me or my partner.

In the daytime for the last 2 days he’s either been eating or crying. Is this a phase? The eating or crying stage haha. He’s been eating for an hr at a time too, up from about 20mins. He’s 4 weeks today. It’s driving me bonkers, had a minor breakdown at half 8 this morning as he wanted to be fed for the 3rd time since 4.30 and was screaming over having his nappy changed.

It’s all just very intense isn’t it?

Hope you are doing ok @Sweetpea12 and your baby too x

6 weeks here

Little one sleeps in next to me roughly 1030-330 then 430-6/7

@THATmamaofMANY how many weeks was your lo when they started doing 10.30-3.30? That sounds like bliss hehe

We were initially on about 2/3 hours and its just gradually increased bit id say 5 hours from 4ish weeks. He is formula fed which i do think makes a difference

@BlackberrySt Aah ok. I reckon we could manage up to 1hr in the cot at a time but I don't think I could manage such frequent wake ups. Im also too nervous to try as sometimes just attempting to put him down in the cot instantly wakes him up and he won't settle for a good while. I guess I'm just being an absolute wimp this time around. I don't know how people manage more than 2 kids. I've completely lost my stamina with DC#2 😣.

DC1 went through a very colicky stage. He also had a dairy allergy (unknown at the time) so went through a long stage of either sleeping, feeding or crying/screaming constantly, so I feel for you. I don't know how I survived that period! Hopefully it's just a short development stage perhaps that will pass in a couple of weeks and nothing else. Either way, the crying is definitely exhausting.

@THATmamaofMANY Yes, I think you're right that bottle feeding makes a difference, particularly in the early stages. DS is 3 weeks old and I'm hanging on for the 4th trimester to be over with the hope things will improve by then.

My DS will sometimes manage 4-5 hours in his moses basket, but he's normally done some rather intense cluster feeding before then. He is nothing like DS1, who fed pretty much hourly.

We are still dealing with projectile vomit about once a day and lots of possetting throughout the day and night. I seem to constantly have a wash on. It doesn't seem to bother him too much though, so that is good. The MW and HV think it isn't anything to worry about.

@Sweetpea12 How are you and your little boy getting on?

@Mummy20 I would love a 4-5hour stretch! DS2 is quite a posseter/vomiter too. We've also had quite a few explosive nappies. Not fun to deal with at all. I keep looking forward to getting through the newborn stage but then feeling bad for wishing his life away. As the saying goes - the days are long but the years are short.

@HumunaHey That is so very true! My DS has started to grow out of his newborn clothes. I feel quite sad about it. It is amazing how quickly they grow and change.

How is everyone getting on?

Some of our 0-3 clothes are getting snug! I'm trying to soak up all the tiny baby time as this is our last baby!