August 2007 - milk, mash or puree - take your pick and take cover!

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James - sorry, couldn't wait any longer... hope my link works...

Tasha, best of luck, we'll all be thinking of you and ds3. Sorry I didn't get your ranty text (about dp) til this morning but I just had a huge headache for ages last night and forgot to look at my phone.

Had a dilemma this morning regarding being put forward for a fulltime job starting monday see thread but now I've decided I don't want to work fulltime, so that will narrow down the jobhunt somewhat.

TMI alert! (poo) James left me a cigar in his nappy this morning rather than his usual vast soft offering, so was a bit worried he was constipated, but thinking back to what he ate yesterday (apricot porridge, squash and pear puree, jar of baked beans and bacon, petit filous) and none of that should constipate him should it? is it maybe that his poos are becoming a bit more like an adults? someone with older children advise!!!

I just remember I haven't sorted out J's trust fund voucher yet. I had loads of banks and companies jostling for it so got fed up and chucked it in a drawer. What did everyone else do with theirs? Don't know who to go with.

Last night was a little easier. I asked dh if he was going to put ds to bed again. He said he didn't really want to but decided that he should (he knew that I wouldn't let him scream). Ds cried for about 10 seconds, dh made sure he kept his dummy in and he was asleep in a few minutes (unlike dd who was still asleep at 10pm). He still woke a few times in the night but I left him on his tummy and just put the dummy in his mouth which got him back to sleep straight away Much better than messing about putting him on his back again.

Hope you're feeling better today James. It's really hard working full time so I don't blame you. And you lose precious time with James so as you can afford it definitely do part time. I wish I could too but that's way off in the future when dh gets a much higher paid job and we've paid off a lot of our debt.

James' poo will be changing now he's on solids so as long as it's still soft then he's fine. Have you noticed the smell is worse now too?

Sorted it out? I haven't even got Alex's child trust fund voucher yet. Dd's was really late too and I had to phone up to chase it. I think they must have forgotten about us cos the woman on the phone sounded surprised and it arrived shortly after. I must remember to phone them.

BTW - we just went with our bank. I don't know how anyone decides when there are so many companies who will invest them for you. I wouldn't even know where to start trying to compare them.

Thanks for the advice on the child trust fund voucher Gill, I might post a thread about it to see what everyone else recommends. I don't like my bank (hsbc) and wouldn't really like to start James off with them.

Oh sounds like Alex got used to being put down as opposed to being cuddled really quickly then. I can put James down usually, but have to admit 9 times out of 10 I snuggle him to sleep and damn the consequences! (dp doesn't care or notice either way I don't think)

And yes, his nappies now stink! especially after meat

Excuse the mini-moan but dp appears to be going through a bit of an amorous patch at the moment, which would normally be fun but he only seems to get in the mood after midnight (sometimes suggests sex at 1.30am ffs!) and it means I'm up til stupid o'clock, and then I only get three or four hours sleep til James stirs, so I constantly feel like a zombie. It always makes him late for work too as he's so tired in the morning.

Plus he gives me no warning at all that he might be in the mood, so I'm immersed in bills, or busy jobhunting or trying to get some cleaning done before bed and then he's all "come upstairs" and there I am, stressed out, not in the mood and/or stinking of bleach/toilet duck! I can't seem to find a diplomatic way of saying please f*ck off and let me catch up on some sleep so I've pissed him off two nights running now.

hello everyone

james - your last comment is exactly what i tell DP!!! and the poo sounds normal - think sometimes it depends how quick you get to it (i.e. if they have time to squish/mash it around with all their wriggling)

my wee one has a chest infection - everything seemed to go down hill quickly yesterday and ended up at the dr's - so she's got antibotics (which have given her diarrhoea - do that to dd1 as well). but she won't sleep lying down so we ended being up ALL fecking night. she's brightened up a bit this afternoon and is even having a play in her bounce and groove and babbling away so fingers crossed the ABs have kicked in.

tasha big hug to you and your wee one

(((((waves)))) loler x x

hi everyone!

it's been a very whingey house chez leif the past coouple of days. normally dd is a angel so when she is like this i always struggle! on tuesday she had a temperature and has just got a cold really so nothing to worry about but it has really disrupted her sleep. tuesday night wasn't too bad but last night was horrendous. lost count of the times i had to get up to her, mainly to put her on her back again. seems that when she's slightly awake she'll roll over, which wakes her up more then she can't settle. i finally dropped off about 3.30. woke again 6.30. then dh took over 7.30. thank god, and he's got man flu so i was doubly grateful for my lie in!

james - we put our trust fund with children's mutual. dh looked into it all and that's the one he felt suited us best, it's an ethical one which was all i was bothered about really. i hope you enjoy meeting up with the other mums. i've found it great, getting to know people in the area. it's made a real difference.

we're going to look at a couple of new houses this afternoon. they're in a village a few miles from here so will be interesting to see what they're like.

as for amorous liaisons i always know when dh is in the mood (constantly) so he takes it for granted he won't get anything unless i initiate it! he does hint every night though!

Banana - the money saving expert from the radio has got loads of really good info on child trust funds. I've got my dcs at the Britannia building soc as it had the best interest rate but we're not adding to it as the money then becomes the childs and you have no control over what they spend it on! Can imagine lots of wild 18th parties in a few years when they get their hands on the money. I also haven't had mine come through this time but have only just got around to sending off Family allowance form - been a bit lax!

I'm just putting Lexie's in a abbey NAtional Stakeholder one, which is what we did with Lizzie's.

Although i am waiting for a replacement voucher as i have filed Lexie's one in that safe place that i can no longer remember where it is . Bl**dy pregnancy brain .

Something funny to cheer us all up:

Do's and don'ts with babies - I don't care who you are, there are times we've all wanted to do the washing one- such as at lunchtime today when he was eating apple and prune puree, and had a sudden eruption of poo out the side of his nappy and down his leg, and both substances were everywhere and looked exactly the same!

Cue absolute horror on my face as he happily flailed about (flicking poo all over my trousers) and munched on his sticky brown hands!

Nightmare

Woah Lizzie I had to read that twice, I thought you were currently pregnant!

Wonder who will be first to go duffwards?

LOL james#

I can guarantee it will not be me. I have done it twice and will not be doing it again.

Plus i don't find it easy to get pregnant it has taken 5 years to get the 2 we have, and as i am 38yrs i don't want to spend the 3 years again ttc if that makes sense.

James - we started putting him down to sleep a couple of months ago and he was generally fine to put himself to sleep. So it was a bit strange that he started screaming a few nights ago.

dh knows he won't get any on weekdays and he asks every Friday, Saturday and Sunday until he gets it. He knows though that it depends when the dcs go to sleep and how much sleep I had the night before.

Hope your lo gets better soon my2weegirls. Does dd1 wake any later these days?

leifmum - have you tried leaving your dd on her front. I did that with ds and he went back to sleep almost instantly each time he woke and I put his dummy back in. Did you like the houses?

Definitely won't be me James, although I'm thinking we should start trying again at the start of 2009 (so unless no one falls pg before then it could be me) - just so there's a good gap between ds and the next one but not too big a gap.

BTW - I've got some time off work from 11th - 15th Feb. Pink, sagpuss, Hersetta, anyone else in South East England - do you fancy meeting up that week?

hey gill - the houses were lovely and the village seemed nice too although quite a bit quieter than where we are now. no bad thing! we're going to talk to the builder and see if we can actually afford the house because it's over our ideal budget, then see if we can cover the mortgage etc...will keep you posted!

dd's funny about being on her front. i have seen her sleeping quite happily on her tummy. it seems that if she's put down for her nap but isn't quite ready and starts "protesting" when she flips onto her front it gets her more wound up. i can normally leave her to self soothe when she wakes up at night but if she's got herself on her front whilst conscious, doesn't work. will probably try leaving her tonight and see what happens. in the past have tried a dummy as well but she just doesn't seem to like them.

just hope we have a better night tonight....! feel bad whinging really because i know i'm dead lucky she's so chilles normally. thinking about tasha and the stresses she has. hope her little one's ok.

off to watch er now. night all x

hey everyone!

happy new year and all that... i've totally gotten out of the internet habit. my laptop blew up before xmas cos of power surge and poor earthing. so glad to see you're all around.

well miss mila is only a wee 6kgs/ 13 lbs so not even doubled her birth weight yet and looking a bit long n lean although healthy so we started on the purees 2 weeks ago. still breast feeding but she started waking upto 4 times in the night for feeds.. often singing for an hour or more 4-6 am agghhh i'm so bloody tired most days!

she's rolling but falls forward when sitting. but she's the funniest wee thing always laughing and chatting. oh jesus and she caught that nasty skin infection/ impertigo from our horrible guests but recovered fast.

it's so so hot here, poor wee girl is always sweaty. she loves her purees cold from the fridge

and i think i'm losing weight but still have big jelly belly. started doing a yoga dvd when mila's having morning nap.

there's a question- how much do your babies sleep during the day? and how much/ often do they eat? (hmm 2 q's!)

Everyone please keep Tasha and he ds3 in your prayers tonight, he's out of surgery now but she says he's in a lot of pain. Hopefully they'll sort out his pain meds so they can both get some sleep. Her dp isn't with her (he's home with the other boys) so she's there by herself.

Wish there was something more we could do, shame none of us are in Ireland.

James,

Thinking of you tasha, I hope they get his pain releif sorted.

Mamamila

Happy new year

DD2 was 14lb 10oz (6.66kgs) at 14 weeks, haven't had her weighed since as the weather has been Very wet and i haven't wanted to walk the extra half an hour to get her weighed.

DD2 is 20weeks and has 5 4/5oz (about every 4hours) bottles a day. Did start weening but stopped because she just drinking her milk, so will start again soon.

As for sleep she wakes at 6.30am and as we have to leave to walk dd1 to school at 8.30am so she sleeps until i wake her at 10.30am to change and (try) to give her bottle and then we leave to get dd1 at 11am and she will stay asleep until about 2pm. She will then have nap (30min) between 4 and 5pm then be asleep inbed by 7pm. She will wake about 11.30pm for feed then sleep until 6.30am.

Right i must go and do some tidying as the toy plane has drop a massive bomb of toys in my living room and i must wash the kitchen floor as i have had a total waste of time trying to sort out DD2 trust fund and saving account with the Abbey but their computer system broke then i took dd1 to get some new shoes and once again Clarks have no shoes which fit her (9.5E fitting) [angry}.

Aaah poor Tasha and her little DS. You are right James it is a shame none of us are closer to lend some support.

I was momentarily feeling better about Loler not weaning yet..and then realised that DS2 was actually born on 30/7 so is nearly a whole month older .

Call me mad, but am thinking that having LO no.3 quite quickly might be no bad thing - get it over and done with an' all that. Although I have no plans regarding this! Especially as DS2 is still not sleeping.

About the child trust fund if you forget to sort it out (like I did with DS1) they automatically invest the money somewhere for you - you can move it somewhere else if you choose though.

I don't find much time to post on here these days but it is good to catch up with you all.

Sorry had to go to the bedtime routine, wanted to say a big hello to mamamila, glad lo is doing well!

James does most of his sleeping at night, generally sleeps 7.30pm ish til about 9.30am ish (he wakes for milk at 7am and goes back to sleep for a couple of hours) so doesn't nap much in the day, usually about an hour, spread over two or three naps.

As for food/milk: He has first bottle of 8oz hungry baby milk at 7am, porridge when we get up at about 9.30am, then second 8oz bottle about noon, lunch at about 2pm, milk at about 4pm, dinner at 6pm, then bath and final bottle at bedtime.

He seems to be eating LOADS but don't know if it's a problem. I'm thinking of seeing the health visitor next week to ask what she thinks, whether I need to reduce his milk/increase his food or vice versa, or leave it alone!

It's always good to hear from you, Washy! Don't worry about not weaning yet just because most of us have started it. I was going to wait til 6 months but caved at about 4 1/2 months and I'll admit it was mostly out of boredom.

I had so many "things I wasn't going to do with MY baby" when I was pregnant, but it's different when you're faced with the reality (and tedium) of everyday life with a baby. I've succumbed to things like early weaning, disposable nappies, formula, jar food, cbeebies, dummies, I even once gave him a white chocolate button!

Anyway, so today was the day of my meetup. One lady couldn't make it, one lady wanted to come but her ds was poorly in the morning, so in the end there was just me and one other woman and her 8 month old ds. She was really nice and approachable, and we had a good natter, got on really well. Her boy was sooo cute and James and he sat opposite each other making each other giggle, it was adorable. So we're talking about going to a mother and baby group together next week, and possibly to an Ann Summers party on wed night! Glad I plucked up the courage, I feel a bit of a prat for not doing it earlier!

So washy might be the first to get re-pregnant, then! Mind you, didn't TT say she'd be trying again very soon? (Is the race on???) lol

I was only thanking the lord for cbeebies earlier on today actually. Some days are such hard work with both of them. DS1 just cannot play on his own at the moment - it is always "mummy, mummy, I can't do it, I can't do it mummy, come and play mummy, mummmmmmmmyyyyy"

Fortunately the boys love each other lots, so now DS2 is moving around a bit more it is starting to get a bit easier, I wish DS2 would sleep.

I am pleased your meet up went well James, I have found it really makes a difference to have someone who you can spend time with who is on your level with the baby stuff, IYKWIM?

I think if I get pregnant anytime soon it will be more fate than planning.

My younger sister announced yesterday that she is expecting no.3 this August and my dad said "oh your not are you?". I couldn't imagine what his response would be IF I told him I was going to have another

Both dcs were asleep by 8pm tonight. Dd fell asleep in the car on the way home from mum's and ds is now back to normal going to sleep on his own with a few trips to give him back his dummy. I'm going to try to get to bed v soon as I'm sure dd will be awake in a couple of hours, if not sooner.

Hi mamamila. Glad you're well. Sorry to hear about your bad nights. Ds sleeps from around 8pm til 6 or 7am and then has 2 or 3 naps which can last anything from 30 minutes to 3 hours. He has a 5-8oz bottle at about 7am, some porridge and milk at about 10am, a 7oz bottle at about 2pm, veg and fruit or yoghurt at 4:30pm and a 5-8oz bottle at 7:30pm ish.

Thinking of you tasha. Feel so bad for ds3 being in pain. It must be heartbreaking. Hope they sort out the meds soon.

Glad your meet up went well James. I think sometimes it's easier when it's just 2 of you. I find it quite difficult to make a conversation with a group of people. Although it's easier when you've got babies in common.

Why do you think your dad had that reaction washy?

I got a call from the SureStart midwife about the doula course today. She said that it is fine just to do it at the weekend and she is going to put my name forward for consideration.

I just messaged Tasha and passed on all your best wishes, she messaged back:

I'm ok ds3 is asleep now. I've felt like crying all day but he seems settled now. He isn't getting enough morphine, and he isn't allowed any more than he's getting because he was premature and there's a chance he would stop breathing. He's drank 5oz of milk today but they said he should be in better form tomorrow.

Hi, i was hoping i could join this thread.

I am 25 and mum to Callum, who is 5 months old (born on 20th aug). DH and i live in Wemyss Bay in Scotland. We've just started weaning and i'm looking forward to him eating more than just baby rice- i tried banana today too but i got a face full of banana from him blowing raspberry's and then giggling to himself!!! I'll try again tomorrow.

I have fibromyalgia and CFS but Callum is a gem at sleeping during the day-he goes to bed with us (which suits us) and then he sleeps till about 1.30pm-2pm waking for bottles in between.

Callum loves standing and walking whilst holding your hands(I have a feeling i have a monkey on my hands) and he hates being on his front so it seems he may just skip crawling! Does anyone elses's DC hate being on their front?

Anyway night night x