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April 2007 - It's a minefield out there, nipple tassles on every corner......

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PillockOfTheCommunity · 21/11/2007 22:37

ha ha ha ha ha

this and this

both on GMM's christmas list

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geordiemacminx · 22/11/2007 10:25

I like you theory.

Just read that thread - not only is her husband dying but she has 3 children with SN - how on earth does she cope? What a brave brave woman. It certainly does but things into perspective.

CaptainDippy · 22/11/2007 10:33

Sorry I have got a million and one things to do this am and P has been a bit unpredictable about morning nap atm so don't know how long I have got.....

{{{{hugs}}}} to all those having crappy nights, esp Maveta and spb (from what I remember) I remember DD2 being a TOTAL PITA about this age - waking up for an hour or two in the middle of the night. I have to admit, we just left her in the end and she stopped doing it after a week or so. There is light at the end of the tunnel ...... promise .......

{{{{{NL}}}}}}} Thoughts and Prayers with you all as your face DH's redunancy - hope they give him a good package and enough time to find something even better, like Bramshott said! xxxx

KHIN - I lived with DH's parents for 2.5 yrs so {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I KNOW exactly how are you are feeling right now sweeite - I wish there was more I could say that would help you through this time, but there is light .......

Feeling a bit less grotty today, DC's still poorly, especially poor P who is covered in snot, coughing like a 80 yr old on 80 a day , poor love. xx

CaptainDippy · 22/11/2007 10:34

OJ is an incredible woman - I've been following her story a lot over the last 6 months or so and we're all praying for her on the Prayer Request Thread. It is heart-breakingly

oooggs · 22/11/2007 10:39

go liath go liath - you tell those 1st time mummies off

my party dilema from other thread now sorted

carpet being fitted today it was ordered & paid for 11 mths ago along with the stairs, landing and other two bedrooms.

Hope you all have a fab day

KATY - MAKE SURE YOU GET SOME REST AND SLEEP WHEN T SLEEPS - now you 1st time mummies can do that, you can't with no. 2!

liath · 22/11/2007 10:57

Eek, it was hugely patronising wasn't it? Sorry, it's just life is hard enough without giving ourselves unnecessary guilt trips. Anyway, we all know April Mummies are fabulous and our Mothering skill are second to none !

Maveta · 22/11/2007 11:00

I think you may have something with that theory Katy.. tbh I talk about doing cc but I don't feel it's right for us right now anyway.. when he cries he really cries and although I am so so tired I really am happy to get up and soothe him the quickest and easiest way possible. for now..

Ok made a groundbreaking decision
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we're leaving N with my parents and going to Madrid!! we've changed the return flight to come back earlier on sunday so we are literally away only 24 hours. I'm still a bit nervous and will miss him like mad but actually I think it's the right decision, dh and I need time together, to get drunk together, to SLEEEEEP and it will be great. And over so soon we won't know what we were so worried about.

Right??!

elkiedee · 22/11/2007 11:10

Hi all

Sorry SMB and Maveta that your babies still won't sleep.

D has a cold and is grizzly. He woke at 11.30 last night and it took a while to get him settled but at least we got a few hours' sleep before he woke up around 6/6.30! He's now having a nap which has been a little interrupted but has lasted a while. Unfortunately, I've had to spend it trying to find out my options as my new kitchen is now being delivered WITHOUT a sink . Grrrr. Not helpful when we've got the installation all organised. I think we're going to have to get hold of an alternative sink somehow, Homebase has already agreed to offer a refund.

I'm expecting to give him some food soon and then run away to try the baby cinema. I need to get out somewhere as I'm just so stressed at the moment and there's very little else I can actually do until I can get hold of someone who can suggest an alternative sink.

Eddas · 22/11/2007 11:11

SPB, I was going to type a similar thing before I left early but thought it may not go down to well from a ff mum. Bringing up a child is such a mindfield of phases, they seem to last an age when you are at the stage but when it's over it doesn't seem that bad. A bit like childbirth

Maveta, well done for making the decision. It will be great. Try and enjoy the time off and don't worry about N, he will love the attention he's getting from the grandparents. And you'll be back so quickly Hope you both have a great time

I'm feeling in need of a night off. I am going out sat as i've said but what i really need is some time with dh. I do feel sometimes that we are just housemates not a couple MIL would've had dc's this weekend but, inconviently BIL's bday is today so he got in first and she's having his 3 boys But she did say she'd have ours soon

Think i'm going to have an early lunch. Beans on toast

Eddas · 22/11/2007 11:13

elkiee, have you tried your local plumbing centre? DH works in one and they may have one in the warehouse or will order it in which only takes a day/couple of days

Eddas · 22/11/2007 11:16

so many typos in that first post, earlier not early and BIL has 2 boys not 3

AndaPinionsinaPearTree · 22/11/2007 11:16

Hi people! Haven't really caught up so sorry if I have missed something.

Wanted to say Ange you were right and the reverend was very nice. Indeed. I feel strangely calm, ahh.

Liath thank you for the tip. I have to say that I am not entirely ok with taking it, it doesn't really seem too healthy to not have a period at all, and thinking of it I usually drink loads of water as part of my diet, at least a 2 litre bottle full per day, if not more, but haven't really been doing lately.

FOR ALL THOSE WITH BABIES NOT SLEEPING.

Without going into too much detail. The things that spring to mind are

a: fresh air, make sure you get out every day even if just for half an hour. The more fresh air the better.

b: the more they eat the more they sleep. Hungry babies will be awake all night. We each have our opinion and there is mine.If you are unsure then at least give sth along the lines of weetabix/mixed with fruit/ baby cereal before bed followed by milk feed, either formula or if you are still bf then bf. And try to increase the food in their daily meals, all babies are different some will prefer too eat two largish meals, some will prefer to have "little and often". Either way. If you are in doubt in my experience it is relatively hard to over feed a baby.

c: an attempt at a daily routine. Over tired babies are usually ironically awake a lot more at night. All babies are different but the guidelines are 2-3 hours sleep per day, divided into two sleeps one in the morning and one in the afternoon.

ROUTINE - FRESH AIR ? FOOD

I used to laugh when people told me that ?I really should have a routine? in an ?actually we will do whatever we want? way, but I now realise that they were actually right. We live and learn .

I only came on to say thanks to Ange .

Right fingers crossed that the boiler is fixed at the nursery because I cannot cope with the idea of L being home all day again .

busywithIzzy · 22/11/2007 11:17

Maveta - Well done for making the decision. I'm sure you'll have a great time. Try and make the most of the you and DH time, I'm sure N will be having a fab time with his grandparents! Have a fabulous time

StealthPolarBear · 22/11/2007 11:17

maveta, fantastic! Yes, you'll miss him but I bet you'll be back before you know it! Have fun!
elkie, sorry D has a cold. There seems to be so much of it going round at the moment. Hope you get your sink stressed sorted out.
liath, no not patronising at all, but I do tend to be optimistic and think it's a phase. I actually wondered if him staying up so late last night would break the cycle somehow, so much for that theory
Eddas, really? Maybe it's not such a stupid theory after all! Gives me hope that it can be fixed iyswim, it's always easier to handle when you know the reason behind it, even if it is just a guess

StealthPolarBear · 22/11/2007 11:21

Pinions IME you are right about fresh air and naps. Have been avoiding walks recenty because of the weather will have to get out today.
Wrote a lot more but it disappeared

busywithIzzy · 22/11/2007 11:23

x posts pinions. Glad it went well and you're feeling calm. I told you they were just normal people, he was probably nervous about seeing you, I know my Dad gets nervous about visiting people.

StealthPolarBear · 22/11/2007 11:26

Oooh BWI that's lovely, I know it sounds strange but it is.
Similar to when I've been interviewing, I know what it's like to be on the other side and nervous as anything, I never thought someone like me on the panel would be screaming "Don't say something stupid. Act professionally" in her head!

busywithIzzy · 22/11/2007 11:31

Lol SPB - It's very true!

CaptainDippy · 22/11/2007 11:31

GOOD decision, Mavtea - You NEED it and you DESERVE it - N will be absolutely FINE!

Glad it went well, Pinions

P has been up, had some lunch and is now back down again Still trying to race through mountain of chores .....

CaptainDippy · 22/11/2007 11:33

Mavtea - Whaaaaat!?

busywithIzzy · 22/11/2007 11:37

Hi Dippy

CaptainDippy · 22/11/2007 11:49

Hi BWI! I am stressed!

runnyhabbit · 22/11/2007 11:55

Mil has struck again Trying very hard to keep calm and get some perspective. Anyway......

Agree with the ff v bf sleep theory. J was ff fed and slept through from 10 wks. However, W has a better daytime routine, and after me realising that he only wakes up out of habit, I've become a bit stricter. If he wakes during the night then I check his nappy/temperature, give him a cuddle (cuddling time is getting less and less), then put him back in his cot.
And def agree with the more sleep he has during the day, the better he sleeps at night.

maveta yay for a night away! the time will go sooo quickly (and you still have't agreed to be my friend on facebook....)

lol at that underwear I asked dh what he would like for christmas - with a really cheeky grin, he said "you, in a red bow, high heels and little else" It's saved me a bit of money, cos I was going to get him a watch

StealthPolarBear · 22/11/2007 11:57

lol runny
ewhats your mil done?

CaptainDippy · 22/11/2007 12:07

What's MIL been up to this time, runny? {{{hugs}}}

Think P has finially settled - has been fighting and fighting and fighting ..... Grrrr, hope this cold is over soon.

runnyhabbit · 22/11/2007 12:36

Its probably going to sound quite petty. But I can't get hold of dh and its really wound me up.

Right..

I go back to work in just over a week. Mil will be having boys one morning a week. Asked her a few weeks ago if she wanted to do a "practice" run before I go back, as she hasn't had the boys for more than an hour, and its been a while since she looked after 2 lo. She thought it was a great idea, and me and dh thought it would be ideal time to go christmas shopping.
Came back from baby clinic this morning and had message from her. She can't have the boys next Weds cos she's needed to look after her gd (our niece), who lives in London next mon & tues cos my sil has to work, so she'll be travelling back on the weds morning.

I'm trying to be reasonable and think, well, its not like I'm working, it was only a practice run, she has given a weeks notice etc...but the bit of the message that really got me was at the end when she said sorry she couldn't have the boys, but sil was desperate, and she hopes we manage to sort something out. For all she knew, we could've arranged to do something a lot more serious than christmas shopping. And I'm now wondering whats going to happen when I'm back in work.