July 2007 part 2- 4 months in, doesn't time fly?

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Hello July ladies, we are here now!!!!

Nice to 'see' you Keiralou, my dd1 is also being challenging usually with regard to sharing with dd2 now she is mobile and after more interesting toys, also the odd foot here and shove there nothing too bad yet!!!

However reminded me of my friend with two dd's and about the same age gap, both were in a side by side double buggy, friend was distracted and talking to someone else her dd1 undid the buggy straps of her dd2 and pushed her out of the buggy!!!!!!!!!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it doesn't progress to that

love to you all Doris

Hi JAM, hope your sister is OK. Sorry I didn't get back to you about the lunch on Mon but we were away. My DS still isn't really rolling and is a month older than yours, so maybe its mine who's physically dysfunctional!

He's starting to shuffle around on his bum but no crawling either at 10+mo. But it's probably a good thing as we'd need to sort DDs toys for safety reasons and remove any hazards e.g our glass coffee table!

hi all!

minimeep is also in the physically dysfunctional category as well ! she has NEVER rolled - she hates being on her front so doesn't look like she'll crawl and is 10+mo!!!

But she does have the yogatastic ability to reeeeeeeeeach for things she wants and can sneakily bum shiffle herself along without you being able to see her move (IYKWIM)!

I love it justabout! I have a baby I can pop down on the floor and she will still be there when I am back. Occasionaly I am alreted by indignant shouting when she has stretched just that wee bit too far and landed on her tummy - but most of the time she is safe to be left to play! I am enjoying these easy days as I know it will get harder once the bum shuffling steps up a gear!

Hello all...sitting at my desk and pretending to work (I forgot the joys of speedy work internet!!!).
Its Wednesday so its my Friday (woohooo!). I don't seem to be able to get into any kind of routine and mornings have been so hectic. Hopefully it will all fall into place soon.

Justabout - sorry to hear your LO rolled off the bed. Mine did that too and I felt so bad, I think I cried more than he did.

I can't leave him anywhere anymore. He crawls away so fast and is just desperate to stand up (mainly using the glass TV stand!!!!).
We bought him a walker he can lean on but he seems to manage to turn it over onto himself at the moment.

HOpe that you are all well and enjoying this beautiful sunshine! Way too good to be in work.

We have a strict morning routine!! Unfortunately it necessitates me getting up at 6.30am so that I am showered before minimeep wakes for her milk. My DH takes her to nursery so that gives me 15mins on my own to transform myself from Mum to Lawyer (no mean feat!!!)

Everything has to be packed and clothes for the next day organised each night or I know I will be running around trying to find a missing teeny sock in the morning!

DH rolled Minimeep off the bed when she was 4 months old. All I heard was THUMP..................WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!! And what did he do - he turned the baby monitor off!!! From what I can rememeber I phoned NHS24 and he lay beside the Moses basket to make sure she was okay for about 2 hours!! So I agree - it hurts us more than it hurts them!

Minimeep is on food strike at the moment - think she has another cold - and her wee face is covered in a rash again - the GP said just to use Aveeno and it was not worth referring as she was just sensitive to things - aagghhh! Doesn't help when your baby claws at her face making it bleed

Hi all..
MFO your routine will soon fall into place..

kieralou-your dd is doing the same things as Scott does to his brother.. but tbh it is not so much that it is his behaviour in general.. but saying that this week he has been generally good.. No the pools have opened we have been swimming, and he loves it.. I have alos been ill though this week with a fever on thursday night.. temp was39-40 and I was in bed teeth chattering everything asching.. havent been able to swalow as really really hurts since wednesday day, so havent eaten since then.. well I had sometoast yesterday..that hurt.. but thought I better have soemthing other than ice pops.. to give me some energy. Whe i went to eh docs friday, they gave me paracetomol which didnt even touch it, so was awake all friday night too.. ( thursday and friday night Lee decided to wake for 2hrs also!!).. Went back to docs yesterday and as my ears were red the nurse but me through to the doc.. who did give me antibiotics.. so hopefully it will all go soon.. But i was miffed, when speaking to the doc, I read what the nurse wrote on the screen.. and at the end she pu t "She seems very stressed".. I felt like screaming then saying I was trying to stop scott pull everything open in the nirses room, so he didnt hurt himself on medical equipment, stop him tyoing on the pc as he can now do his name on the pc and wants to at every opportunity.. I had had about 5hrs sleep in 48hrs, on my own with three children, feeling like crap!!!! How stressed would she feel!!!! But I am not stressed i am ILL..
Sorry rant over....

Must go Leeready for his morning nap..

Take care everybody.. dh back next weekend and I sooo looking forward to it.. (cant do emotiocons dont know where the keys are for the square brackets on tehis german keyboard..lol) will have to find them''

Hello all.
I have the worst cold. It is 24 degrees out there and I have a stinker of a cold!. My throat was so sore this morning I thought I have tonsillitis. Slight over exaggeration, a cup of tea and I was ok.
My concerns about James' feet seems better now. He can stand flat on his feet and they are straight so all the horrible thought I had of him walking funny if he walked at all seem distant now. I suppose I'm fortunate he only had mild Talipes. I see the pictures of some more severe cases and realise we have been lucky.
He too is trying to crawl. He sits on the floor and lends forward. He can get on to his hands and knee but then rocks for a bit and falls flat on his face. It's funny but you mustn't laugh. If you give him your fingers when sitting down he pulls up to standing. (Our couch is too soft and squishy for small hands to grab.)
Haven't read the whole thread so what is everyone else up to.

Sorry to hear about all the colds. I too had one last week and its just miserable in this weather!

Im having a really tough time having returned to work. We have a new CEO and it seems that everyone is worried about their position. I was told today that my boss has heard people saying that I am 'off my game' since I returned from maternity leave. I just feel so upset about this (Ive only been back two weeks). Ive been told to 'exert my authority' to prove them wrong. Thing is, I just dont feel like I have it in me. I feel that all the pressure is really getting to me. Also, it seems that some have problems iwth the fact that I have negotiated a 3 day week!

i just feel like everyone is ganging up on me.

My Mum bathed my LO before I got home tonight and i felt upset about that too. Thats my time with him and its part of our routine in the evening.

Okay, I know im wittering on and moaning now about everything but Im really starting to wonder if I cope with work and running the house and taking care of DS....

Hear hear. Myfairone - only just read your post and Justabout's wise words but just wanted to write before I jump on the train. You've only been back for two weeks and it doesn't seem as though they are giving you any chance to settle in after a HUGE life-changing event. I'm lucky in that I've managed to keep my head under the radar, but I've only just started to really get back into work, and that's after two months.

Sorry got to dash now, but please don't let work ruin your time with your DS. Take care.

MFO,

Sorry to hear you are having such a horrible time. JAM is right in that you need to keep a log of any behaviour which is unacceptable. When I went back to work the first time (after DD) my boss commented about my performance not being as good as it was, and that my mind wasn't on the job. Well it was probably true, so it was a fair comment! But I soon got back into things and she soon couldn't manage without me again!

But it sounds like you haven't been given chance to get into things again (you need at least a month) and as for the part-time working jealousy thing- that really annoys me because anyone can ask to work flexibly and the fact is you are being paid a lot less so what does it matter to them- they should get on with their job and let you do yours.

I hope things get easier for you. Just think after work tomorrow you have 4 lovely days with your LO. Plan some summer holidays/trips out so you have something to look forward to. It will get better I promise.

Oh MFO - I am so sorry that you are having a rubbish time.

I would second what pula says - you do need at least a month before you start getting back into work again. But it is very unfair of those around you to make comments - it sounds to me as if they are feeling threatened so they are attacking you as being the most vulnerable.

I remember a more junior colleague moaning about how she was always working the longest hours and generally having a go at those who left work earlier than her. I leave work at 4.55 to catch the last but to get me to dd's nursery so I said to her that I hoped she wasn't making comments about me and that she should be aware that many people have to leave then work at home (like me!) I don't think she was quite ready for me being so direct and she soon shut up.

I am lucky in that we have time-recoding so my boss can clearly see if I have been doing what I am meant to.

MFO - can you speak to your boss about what you have heard and then that gives you both an opportunity to discuss how things are going?

I really hope it gets easier for you - the first weeks back at work are stressful enough without nasty collleagues to contend with.

MFO- Sorry you are having a hard time at work,,

I feel better not a 100 percent but getting there.

DH home this weekend and boy am I looking forward to it...
Take care all

Twoplusone - have a lovely weekend with DH and hope you feel 100% soon .

Lots of hugs justabout (((( )))). I think criticism or negativity from someone who you least expected it from always hits hardest . Also I really believe this is a big problem with "virtual relationships" & internet forums because communication is so very different from the "real world" and the subtleties in voice/body language etc. cannot be written or expressed in posts, and so misunderstandings happen very easily- plus of course we all vary so much with how well we can express ourselves in posts and that can vary too if you're just tired/hormonal/distracted.... And we can also then have a tendancy to read too much into something that wasn't meant that way (I do this far too easily!!).

Try to console yourself with the fact that you are better off without her as a "friend" as such negativity is never constructive and the whole purpose of MN I thought was supportive discussion about shared parenting etc. issues (although a couple of other mums I know in the "real" world won't post on MN as they've heard it can be too bitchy!!- "spirited" I'd rather say!!)

Not sure any of this helps at all but as a positive our fundraising for the CF Trust has gone really well- "Team Mairi" consisted of 26 participants in the Belfast Marathon and we've raised over £3k to date!!! I have been awestruck by everyone's generosity and enthusiasm. My faith in humanity is restored!!

Right, PhD beckons and then DD's physio....
Does anyone else still feel like they never get any sleep? My two still insist on waking at least 1-4 times a night... Don't know how I'd function with tea....

Hope you are ok MFO...can empathise as even though after DS I returned to work full-time I did always leave promptly and didn't want to work 10+ hour days and the others in my research group were child-less and really resented my "restrictions"- luckily though my boss was sympathetic (he has 2 DDs) and I still met the deadlines as I used to even though sometimes ended up bringing work home the odd evening.... It's a tough world out there but do remember your rights and also you're really only just back so they really ought to cut you some slack!! xxx

Doh- without tea Maybe it's time for another cup- apparently someone told me green tea has even more stimulant properties that normal black tea?!