Thanks Fairyfay. Another member of the surgical team came to me and pointed out that that is not what they would normally do and that she had been spoken to and it had been dealt with. The way he said it (sternly and a couple of times) suggested it was taken seriously. She was obviously inexperienced and thoughtless.
The team as a whole, and the ward staff, were lovely and very accommodating and I can't fault them (which I've said in the letter). So I'm happy that I've made my point about her, but taken the opportunity to thank them and tell them how good they've been .