June 2020 Babies-Newborn, snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds! 2nd thread

[Busylizzie85]

New thread!

@mrssunshinexxx oh yes that is the one that I have looked at! I thought I'd wait until 6 months to give her a chance to get over sleep regression, then if she is still having lots of wakes and not self settling I will get the sleep programme

Well ladies I chucked attempting a routine out of the window last night. We just cuddled and chilled out all evening. I put him in his big boys cot &upped his sleeping bag to a 6months+ and 2.5 tog.
He slept from 9.30ish till 2.15! was up at 4.30,5.45 but went back down till 8.30! Coincidence it may be we will find out tonight 🤣 We all feel much better today anyway

@SRS1311 that's really good that it's worked for you ! How mad does your lo get when left to cry it out though?! I don't want to go down that route but can appreciate it works for many !
@Smiffette ah is it ! Oh cool well I'm cracking on as it says if they have been affected bad by the 4m regression which she has she basically won't start sleeping better until she learns to self settle so I thought I would just crack on x

@mrssunshinexxx in the beginning he would cry full on for 4 or 5 minutes, it was hard to hear but I knew he was okay because he had been fed, winded, changed etc and most of the time it was just tiredness. So many times I thought - he wont go to sleep like that, but he would suddenly fall asleep every time! Now if he cries at night or at the beginning of a day time nap it will just be for a few seconds or a minute and it's a lot easier as hes learnt to self settle. Fingers crossed the sleep training works out well for you!

@SRS1311 how old was he when you did it ?
I know it's difficult because you think they are warm fed clean nappy etc but there's lots of research that they feel like they have been abandoned and that's why they stop crying they are preserving their energy but don't get me wrong it's tempting when getting all shit broken sleep !
I'll continue with this programme she did really well in the day but the night was awful as usual x

@mrssunshinexxx aww it would break my heart to think he felt abandoned...in the beginning I stayed with him for a good minute or two gently patting him and saying shhh and if he continued crying for a bit after I'd come back and do the same. With mine I think he cries because hes so tired and hearing frustrated because he just wants to go to sleep - could be reading that wrong though!

We didnt plan to start it but hes nearly weeks and we probably have been doing it for 3 weeks or so. What does the sleep programme suggest you do?

Should say 17 weeks above!!!

This might be complete fluke but Ivy is 20 weeks tomorrow just for age perspective and the last 3 nights she's only woke up twice which is a BIG improvement!! She no longer wakes at the between 9:30-11:30 slot and only wakes after midnight and then 3:30 and finally up at around 6:30. I have made sure she has the same bedtime of 7-7:30 every night even if it means keeping her awake slightly longer or arranging her naps better, she's also now at the bottom of our bed rather than next to me which I think helps a little.
She still only naps on me or in the car/buggy during the day and only for a max of around 40 mins a time but I don't mind too much of the night time is improving. I'm praying this continues and that eventually another feed will drop by it's self 🤞🏼

@Busylizzie85 that's great news how come moving her to the bottom has helped do you think?
@SRS1311 sorry I didn't mean it to come across badly I don't mind what anyone else does I just personally don't want to leave her to cry but I'm the same in the day she very rarely cries
It says to sit with them and pat them or stroke face but no talking until they fall asleep if they get v upset take them out rock them and put back in when calm and repeat until asleep x

@mrssunshinexxx it's helped me sleep better as I'm less disturbed by every noise she makes and I think the same vice versa! I also have found that I am not as quick to get up and check on her if she starts making noise and often she'll fall back to sleep. 😊

@mrssunshinexxx aww dont worry, I definitely believe that every Mummy knows what's best for their babies and they're all so different! We just have to trust our instincts xx

@SRS1311 definitely (I'm jealous your baby is sleeping so well ) x

@Busylizzie85 interesting.. I have heard a few ppl say putting them in there own room really helped with less wake ups as you disturb them more then you think through the nighy x

Hi everyone, hope your nights are going ok! My LO turned 4 months last week and we have started to have some random night wakings - Hello sleep regression!

Has anyone bought a high chair yet? If so which one! I'm going to get one soon, mainly for the reason that we have her sitting in the baby bjorn next to us when we have our evening dinner and she seems ready to be sitting up - May or may not work this early but will need a eventually.

Xx

@Magpie21 I just got the Antilop from IKEA £12 can't really go wrong with that! Then an extra £6 for padding and cover

@Smiffette great! I have heard great things about this one. Amazing price too.

@Magpie21 I was really impressed with it! Simple to put together and LO is always comfy in it

We have been given a Cosatto Noodle 0+ which is very nice easy to clean and put together just a little on the pricy side 😊

We have invested in a Tripp Trapp - she has been sitting in the newborn seat next to us at the dinner table for past few months which has been absolutely amazing so has been worth every penny. Last baby we had the Ikea one- obviously can only use from sitting up but was great to clean.

@Magpie21 the Ikea one cheap and cheerful and easy to clean with the insert for comfort

@Smiffette the sleep training is working already I believe ! So thankful

@mrssunshinexxx that's great news! I'm really pleased for you!

We have the mamas and papas one that clips on to a dining chair (had it from dd). Helps that our dining chairs are both cheap and easy to clean!

This is the one www.mamasandpapas.com/en-gb/baby-bud-booster-seat-with-detachable-tray-dusky-rose/p/4124am601

The activity tray which is separate is brill too.

Hows everyone doing? And how you all feeling with the lockdown looming

@Zoey92 I must admit I'm a little sad and disappointed it's had to come to this again just as I started to get more confident going out and feeling more normal for the first time in months! It frustrates me the there are still so many people ignoring the rules making those like all of us suffer for it 🙁

@Zoey92 feeling a mixture of emotions ...

A feeling of impending dread, as this time we have to contend with it being dark, cold and wet with these tough restrictions

Feeling buoyed up with a fighting spirit to make the best of it and not go mad

Deeply deeply grateful that nurseries are staying open for older kid

Worried about money as my maternity leave ends at the end of December and I hope my work is there to go back to in January

Apprehensive to find out if DH will be furloughed again. Going to work really helps his mental health and he struggles in winter at thes best of times

How are you feeling?