June 2020 Babies-Newborn, snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds! 2nd thread

[Busylizzie85]

New thread!

@Zoey92 how are you feeling ?
I'm abit worried about my moods worsening with the mixture of grieving , shit winter weather, not being able to see anyone and lockdown. Her little swimming lessons have been cancelled and I thought they may stay open as it's attached to a school but no :( I'm literally was the highlight of my week

@Zoey92 I'm feeling really disappointed especially as like OP LO's swimming lessons have been cancelled. It was the only thing we had each week and she loved them. I feel really sad for her that she won't understand why she's not going anymore.

The time round with crappy weather and dark nights it's hot as if we can really do a lot of outdoors stuff so I feel like we will be even more isolated.

The only positive I'm thinking right now, is that with 4 weeks stuck at home it might be a good opportunity to get some sleep train ing done without the worry of going anywhere the next day.. I really need to nail putting her down for naps in her cot but she really doesn't like it. Doesn't help that I've been fairly busy over the last weeks so probably give up a little easily after a couple of attempts

Looks like everyones feeling the same.
I'm gutted, i own a hair salon and run it single handedly, my last few month have been such high and lows of emotion as is, i had to go back to work 2weeks after having LO or i wouldnt have had a buisness to go back to, which gave me absolute horrendous anxiety and guilt, but it got me in a routine pretty quick.
1sr lockdown i suppose we got to be at home and relax pregnant, but this time round my partner still has to go to work and works shifts, plus dark nights.
I'm just so deflated im having to shut my doors again and the worry about money, but I'm looking at this next month as delayed maternity (trying to stay and think positive)
Sorry for the rant

@Zoey92 that must be really daunting
Do you have a strong loyal client base ? If so they will be waiting for you as soon as you can open x

@zoey92 that must be so stressful for you and worrying about money is awful, I feel you. That’s a good way to look at it. Either way try and drink in the extra time you have with baby. At least there is a silver lining.

Sorry ladies very chaotic 3days.
I've decided to log out of my fb buisness page & completely switch off and enjoy these 4weeks off with LO

Think that sounds like the best idea @Zoey92 if your able to switch off the work worry.
I've been feeling like a bit of a failure recently. He used to be a really good sleeper, from 5 weeks to 3 months he would sleep 9pm - 5am, then 6am-8am but the last 6 weeks he's waking half an hour after being put down, then waking every 2-3 hrs over night. During the day he would go down in his cot fairly easily for naps and I could usually tell when he was tired but now I can't tell what he wants and if I put him down for a nap he can cry for over half an hour (with me going back every few mins to reassure and reinsert his dummy) until I feel too frustrated and guilty that I get him up again. I'm just feeling so exhausted as I'm EBF so OH can't help at night. Apologies for the rant but I feel like I'm failing as I can't work out what he needs and he seems to be so grouchy most days now and I don't know if it's tired/teething/hungry or what

@Cornishbumpkin isit the 4m sleep regression

@mrssunshinexxx it seems to have been going on since 3 months, do you know how long it lasts or is this the new normal?

@Cornishbumpkin right there with you. Jia turned 4 months yesterday and we’ve been experiencing the sleep regression for a few weeks now. It can happen any time between 3-5 months I believe. It’s super hard and you have my sympathies! I’m also EBF and I also find it hard not to blame myself for her bad sleep but rationally I know it’s not our fault, or hers! www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/4-month-sleep-regression/

My LO turns 5 months next Friday, apart from day time naps being better since the dreaded sleep regression, night time she's still waking every 1 he between midnight and 6 then that's her awake for the day.
It's been this way for about 6 weeks now! I am missing the 2 wakes a night 😩

@Cornishbumpkin just wanted to reassure you that your baby's sleeping habits are completely normal. You probably already know, but at 4 months the babies sleep cycle changes. The length of their naps change to 45mins and at nights 2 hrs, meaning they have to learn to self settle as they are waking up more regularly.

Do you think the dummy falling out causes your little one to wake up? I know it did with mine and was such a nightmare. We got rid of the dummy about 3 or so weeks ago and it's been so much better. He doesnt look for it anymore and sleeps so much better. I know its daunting thinking of getting rid of it though!

Thankyou @UKtoSK I know it's just the natural regression but I didn't realise all his cues would change and that I would be able to know what he wants :( also really difficult to have a rational head with lack of sleep haha

@Smiffette he did hourly wake ups last night it's a killer, not sure how I'm guna get through today, at least we don't have to go out anywhere!

Thankyou @SRS1311 it's silly we only have him a dummy at 3 months old to help him self settle but may stop using it and see if that's any better

@Cornishbumpkin we have been the same! Ivys sleep was horrid when her teeth came through a little while ago and then got slightly better and now last few days have been bad again! I try and get her to self settle without the dummy but it's hit and miss and usually results in me feeding her to her to settle in the night. Moving her to the end of the bed I thought helped initially so she was not so disturbed by me and me by her but it seems it's now worn off as it were 🙈

@Busylizzie85 it is reassuring that I'm not the only one!! I can't work out if Freddie's teething or not, he chomps on everything he can get his hands on but I can't see any coming through. Sorry to hear that effect has worn off

Ivy does as well @Cornishbumpkin anything and everything in reach goes straight in the mouth!! I did not notice until the first one was through just seemed to happen overnight, you can just see them in the picture 🦷🦷

With you all on the sleep side of things.
LO had her last imms yesterday, she sobbed her little heart out i was devastated.
Fine during the night slight temperature, fussy with bottles and woke 3am, 5am then again at 6:30, wondering if its the immunisations or sleep regression starting

@mrssunshinexxx how's the sleep training been this week?

@Busylizzie85 her little teeth are adorable ! I can't imagine my baby with teeth!

@Smiffette really good thanks she's so getting the hang of it

@Cornishbumpkin it is normal my baby from 9 weeks to about 15 weeks was either waking once or sleeping through it was bliss ! Then regression hit and she was waking every 50mins it was killing me so I started gentle sleep training as I read they basically won't get over the regression until they learn to self settle
Been doing it just over a week I think abs she's taken to it so well all her naps are now in her bed upstairs not on me and she self settles 70% of the time and she is now only waking twice at night instead of about 7 times ! X

@SRS1311 how did you find the process of removing the dummy?

@Zoey92 we had Imms on Wednesday and also had 3 night wakings. Happy to say no wakings last night, so hopefully just the same for you

@Busylizzie85 aww, what a beautiful girl!

I resorted to using teething granules today for the first time which seemed to do the trick. It was the first day LO was very upset about her teeth so it seemed like the right time.

@mrssunshinexxx that's good! I'm
Seriously considering getting the little ones sleep training package 3-12 months... is that the one you got?

The self settling I think will Be a big thing in helping with the night wakes and not day napping on me

Send me your email address privately if you want abs I'll email you this sleep programme?

@mrssunshinexxx that's really kind!
Let me figure out how to message on here!

@mrssunshinexxx I think I've sent you a PM

Sent it x