June 2020 Babies-Newborn, snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds! 2nd thread

[Busylizzie85]

New thread!

Naps are a big fight here too, have managed to get him to have the odd nap in his cot during the day, he will winge for about 15/20 mins after being put in cot but I go in and put his dummy back in every couple of minutes and he soon gets the message and goes to sleep, I use the Ewan sheep too. Naps never last longer than half an choir though but is nice to have that little bit of breathing space (though I do miss him haha). Only just started using a dummy to help him self settle so hope haven't made a rod for my own back now having to put it back in at night.

Ladies struggling with anxiety, I've been doing online CBT Once a week for about ten weeks now due to severe SIDS anxiety (work as an ED nurse and sadly cared for too many babies). I thinks it's really starting to help so would highly recommend speaking to your GP for a referral.

Loving the baby pics - so adorable!

Sorry to hear so many are struggling with sleep. I'm in the same boat. DD used to sleep for a good 4/5 hours in the first part of the night, but lately it's all over the place. She's 3.5 months so not sure if it's her age or the fact we moved her into the Snüz pod recently. Previously we'd co-slept but now she's beginning to move around more it didn't feel safe enough to have her on my bed. I feel like she wakes every hour lately and it can take a while to get her back to sleep. In the daytime I rock her to sleep on my lap and it works well, but at night she fights it so much more and I find myself getting tearful in the early hours willing her to sleep as I'm so exhausted. I guess we've just got to push on and hope this phase is short.

Hi everyone, sorry to read about all the disturbed sleep.
Amelias sleep settled down a bit by the weekend, but shes still waking up for the bottle from 3-4, her moods have definitely improved.
We have her 12wk injections tomorrow, she'll be 15weeks tomorrow too.
Everything seems on the go slow my end with injections & app etc.
How did those who have had tge 12wk j
Injections find LO afterwards, as tgrg ssy 2nd lot are not as bad....i hope

1st pictures were at 6am one morning last week 🤦‍♀️
Very impressed with herself she was.
2nd was this morning 🙂

Also has anyone started with postpartum hairloss?
My hair is pouring out!

my god i must go to sleep.
Typos everywhere!
2nd picture was 6am one morning last week.

@Zoey92 Yes my hair started coming out about two weeks ago! It was scary just quite how much does come out! I read after about three months time it should settle down again once hormones are settled.

LO has her 2nd lot of imms on Monday, she cried a bit more than the first lot but was fine after. She was 16 weeks on Saturday so a little out with them.
But I made sure they let me book the 3rd lot before I left so they weren't delayed too. 9th November then I think it's nothing until she's 1!

@Zoey92 honestly, first ones were grim I sobbed she screamed she had a temp very sleepy and horrible nappies.
2nd lot didn't effect her at all not looking forward to third as they have similar stuff in them to first ones and can make them poorly
Good luck !

@Zoey92 the second lot are fine really just keep an eye on their temp! Ivy had a bit of a temp in the afternoon after hers but fine otherwise and slept better the next day.
We have our third lot on Monday not looking forward to them but at the same time can't wait till they are over so there are no more till she's one!

Omg Grace slept 7pm - 4am then a quick feed and back down 4.30 - 7.30!

She needed resettling a few times (dummy & Stroking her arm/tummy meaning I fell asleep holding her hand a few times lol) in that period but I’ll take that over the feeds every 2.5 hours we had before!

Probably just a fluke but I feel like a new woman now lol!

I can’t wait for Grace’s 3rd lot of jabs to be over with either! I found she reacted to the second lot worse than the first, but every baby is different and I hear most are totally fine with the second lot!

Awww all the baby pics are sooo cute! I love the idea of celebrating 100 days that’s such a lovely tradition @UKtoSK

Thanks @Cornishbumpkin glad to hear the CBT has been helping you, currently on the waiting list so hoping to hear soon!

@Smiffette honestly i got abit worried for a minute, i thought I'd missed the whole hairloss stage...definitely not.

Thank you all for your replies in regards to 2nd imms, shes been ok so far, shes slept the last hour which she wouldnt usually but I'll let her off.
She has her 3rd imms on 4th November.

@mrssunshinexxx totally agree 1st lot were just awfull, we had upset stomach, temp, nasty nappys & being sick that was just the 1st night the second night her belly really gave her some hassle & had screaming for 2½hrs solid

Hi everyone. Just catching up with you all. Freddie had his 16 weeks jabs yesterday and he has been so poorly from them. The first 2 he was ok, just a bit grouchy, but last night was awful. He's not really a screamy baby, more of a whimper/whinger but last night he screamed in pain for hours. He had a temperature and refused to feed (he's EBF) so we caved in and put him in the car in the middle of the night to try and calm him down. It worked and he fell asleep then had a feed and another sleep when we got back. He's a lot happier today, thankfully.

With regards to sleep regression, we're in full swing of it here. He is 18 weeks on friday and the last week or so has been awful. Waking every hour at least. I'm really hoping it passes soon and I'm so glad his jabs are done with. People keep telling me to put him in his own room at night as we are disturbing him as he's a light sleeper but I can't bring myself to do it. It just doesn't feel like the right time yet, regardless of the guidelines.

As for naps, I have starting putting him in his bed (next to me crib) in the afternoons and I lie next to him whilst he gets himself to sleep. I then creep downstairs and watch him on the monitor. I get anywhere between 40 mins to 3 hours (usually more like 40 mins but occasionally he does a mega sleep!). I've found that now we are out and about more it really helps him sleep. We have swimming lessons on Tuesdays, baby massage class on Wednesdays, and baby Sensory on Thursdays. He's exhausted by Thursday afternoons and usually has a good sleep then!

Sounds like you're all doing a sterling job coping with what is thrown at you in your own way. Remember: it's not an exact science and all you can do is try things out and see what happens. X

Well we've just finished an on & off 3hr screaming session.
Her 2nd injections have gone down like a lead balloon, it was like someone just flicked a switche come 7pm.
Her poor stomach is churning away and her wind is so smelly (not like her at all)
Calpol is a total fail as she literally spits it out.
Any suggestions there?
Ive literally sat on the bed the last 3hrs holding her because everytime i lay her down all hell broke loose, so waited till she was in a complete deep sleep.
I best grab some sleep while i can!

Oh @Zoey92 I'm sorry I don't have any practical advice on the calpol side but I just wanted to send a virtual hug as it sounds like you are having a bit of an evening of it. Sounds like LO needs those extra cuddles. Hopefully she will tire soon and you can all catch up on some rest.

Also have LO laying on me as she won't settle in the crib this evening. Bit unlike her, putting it down to teething as she was crying with her dummy in and usually the cry is because she has lost her dummy.

@APD1981 nice to hear your update and that you are getting out and about! I'm going to try your trick with the daytime naps as I need to try something like that!!

Okay. I'm going to try and pop the baby down! 😌

Sorry everyone is having such a rough time with the last lot of immunisations. It’s so horrible seeing them so upset isn’t it. And when you can’t get any sleep yourself... We’re on a different schedule here but I’m not looking forward to the second dose of rotavirus, that’s the only one that has badly affected her so far.

We enjoyed our first real “sleeping through” two nights ago. 8.5 hours from 9pm to 5:30am! Hoping for more of the same 🤞

Is anyone else’s baby not at all interested in toys yet? Jia likes looking at faces and pictures and screens (can’t watch TV with her awake or she’s always trying to twist her head to see!) but she isn’t interested in rattles or anything at all yet.

Hair falling out all over the place here too (mine not the baby's!)

We have had ridiculous grouchiness since 16 week vaccinations. The injection site is also a bit red and there is a small lump on both legs. Sleep regression continues too sigh! We are co sleeping second half of the night to survive!

Re:calpol, you need the syringe not a spoon and syringe about 0.5ml at a time right into the cheek pouch and gently push up under the chin slightly so mouth stays closed until it is swallowed. We got a bollocking from a paed with baby 1 who developed a raging fever as couldn't get calpol in to bring it down so am now militant about it!

Just catching up on this and oh my goodness we've had the same!! 12 week jabs were on Tuesday (4 weeks late!) and he's just been so unhappy since! Not sleeping well at all and in loads of pain. Think the rotavirus one plays havoc with his tummy and it's coinciding with him turning 4 months... the dreamy sleep days are over 😭

My hair is totally falling out too @Pegase! Every time I feed I'm having to pull hairs out of his way poor kid! Anyone found anything that helps reduce the hair loss?

Just catching up...sounds like everyone is having a hard time - just remember - this too will pass!!

@Zoey92 are you having a better day today?

I second the advice with calpol, we use a syringe too and it's easier. Mine had his 12 week injections on Tuesday and that night he was grumpy but last night wasnt too bad.

I've decided to wean him off his dummy. I felt like it was having more negative affects than positive ones as we were continuously putting his dummy in through the night. I'm hoping that with him being so young he will forget about it quicker! We started Tuesday day time with his naps which went fine but Tuesday night was difficult as he was constantly looking for it and so hard to soothe him when the dummy was always the go to option! Last night though was better, he didnt seem to be looking for it as much and slept from 7.45 till 6.15. He woke up crying at about 11.30 but reassured him and he went off to sleep again. Hopefully it stays that way and overall the dummy weaning hasnt been as bad as I feared

Any hair of mine that isn't falling out naturally is being pulled out by the baby! 😅 I should just tie it up the whole time but you know what it's like!

Sadly I don't think there is anything that can be done about the hair loss...I believe we are losing the hair that didn't fall out during pregnancy. Just be gentle on the brushing💁‍♀️*@BabyBird20*

My baby has started losing hair (which is a thing I'm told) from where she leans on it when she sleeps and plays - so she has this ring around her head where the hair is missing!

@UKtoSK my 14 week old (100 days old yesterday! As I looked it up!) is quite playful with the jungle gym hanging toys in that she'll give them a tap and grab them when she is in the right mood. If I gave her a toy to play with she would just try to put it in her mouth to be honest. I found this little toy to be good for teething as she is not so good at keeping hold of teething rings yet.

• Bright Starts Snuggle & Teethe Plush Teether Toy, Elephant or Giraffe, Assortment (1 piece) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0049SP0AE/ref=cmswwrcppapiii_67TFFbV6XJ7QC

@SRS1311 how old is your LO now? I'm considering doing the same as it's a nightmare at the moment having to make sure I always have a supply of fresh clean dummies every where I go! I just want him to be able to fall asleep but so scared he just won't if I don't give him one. Guess I just have to try it!! 😬

@BabyBird20 hes 13.5 weeks. In the beginning the dummy was a sanity saver because he had reflux / colic and it was hard for him to settle. I read that the night time reinserting only gets worse as they get older and I couldnt handle the thought of it! In a couple of months he will be in his own room and dont want to be getting up 4 times a night for dummy issues!

My advice would be to persevere if your going to try it. I found it really hard when he was full on crying and there was little i could do to comfort him. But I would just pat him and say "shhh" and then leave him and after four or five minutes he would be okay. But four or five minutes can feel a lot longer when they're crying!!

@Magpie21 happy 100 days! I’m looking forward to Jia starting to do even that, she won’t hit them or hold anything I give her. The only things she will grab intentionally are me or my clothes!

@SRS1311 wow he slept from 7:45 to 6:15 with no feeds? And I was amazed by our 9:15 to 5:30 stretch! Also hearing people talk about having to reinsert the dummy throughout the night has made me glad that Jia has never taken one. Does sound like it creates more problems than it solves.

I wish i never entertained the dummy idea, ivy started sucking her thumb and that was great but seems to have forgotten how to now and often has a dummy to try and sooth her!
Last couple of night have been better with only the normal 3 wake ups which have been fairly consistent for a while but her day time naps are giving me a headache. I have tried darkened room all be it my living room as her room is far to bright and I don't have a black out blind, I have tried white noise and walking away, I have also tried the pick up put down method to some degree but she constantly fights it and cry's and cry's, 80% of her naps are on me and when I try and put her down whilst fast asleep she wakes straight up. This can't be good for her in the long run I just have no idea how it's got to this point or how to fix it. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@UKtoSK yeah I feel lucky so far with the sleeping and I'm dreading any regression! I think his weight might help him, hes such a chunky monkey!! Hes huge, he takes 7 ounce bottles every 3 hrs and then 8 ounces before bed at half 7!!

@Busylizzie85 when you put her down, how long do you leave it before going back in / picking her up if shes crying etc?

@SRS1311 probably not long enough I really struggle with the crying side of things as she gets so fret up!

Ladies, I feel all your struggles. I'm having a particularly difficult day. Multiple wakes at night, then not great naps today. Cried for a good hour before napping at 1130, then woke up 30 mins later.
Husband is working from home, but it got to a point where I told him he has to hold LO so I can sleep. Of course, LO started crying for boob within 30 mins. I'm becoming a zombie due to lack of sleep!