June 2020 Babies-Newborn, snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds! 2nd thread

[Busylizzie85]

New thread!

@Magpie21 usually falls asleep
In the sling on walks, feeding or I rock her no idea how I will stop any of those but not in any rush to yet x

Ergh tonight is hard! Bed at 7.30, awake at 10pm for a feed then woke up at 1.30 at first I managed to rock her back to sleep but she woke as soon as I put her down, so she had some milk and was flat out sparko, put her down and she woke up again 😩😩😩 so currently holding her again but fuck knows if I’ll be able to put her down and get some sleep myself 😩😩😩

Thanks Ladies. I'm glad I'm not the only one. My LO naps so well on me during the day and I'm afraid that when I make the transition to the crib her nap quality will go down and the it will have a knock on effect for the night time. Baby sleeping is so much more difficult than I could have imagined!

Oh @Gigitree I feel for you. I hope you managed to catch up on some sleep. How do they know!

My night was OK. Down at 9pm. Then dummy replacements at 3, 4, 5 and 6. Up at 6:45am. I don't know if I prefer the dummy replacements over an hour long feed. Either way, it's tiring!

Must be something in the air Ivy was awake at 10:30, 12, 2, 3, 4:45 and finally awake at about 7:30 I'm more tired now then the newborn days I swear! I tried to just replace dummy and she was having none of it and just cried so eventually I gave in and fed her as she always then falls back to sleep but I'm worried I'm over feeding her and she's using me as a human dummy 🙁

Thanks @Magpie21 she went down eventually but was awake again at 5 and then went down about 6 until 7.45 my hubby then took over but I couldn’t sleep by then.
At the moment no two nights are the same as the night before she went down about 8 then feed at 2am then through until about 6.30! Last night was tough and my anxiety is now through the roof! Anyone else suffering with any sort or anxiety post partum?

@Busylizzie85 if it helps I think they say you can over feed a breastfed baby. It’s hard though isn’t it, at times last night I wondered if I should be offering the milk or not, but dummy wasn’t soothing her, I rocked her to sleep she she woke up as soon as I put her down so I think she was actually hungry

She pooped a lot yesterday and her poo this morning was quite runny, wondering if she has diarrhoea 😕
Any other formula fed babies gone through this? She normally only poops once or twice a day. She doesn’t have a temp so I wonder if this is growth spurt/leap related and her digestive system is changing/maturing?

You cant over feed a breastfed baby I meant to say! @Busylizzie85

That's good to know @Gigitree although I do wonder where on earth she puts it all!!
I'm also suffering really bad anxiety and in tears a lot for no reason.

@busylizzie85 sorry to hear about the anxiety. Are you able to get a virtual GP appt? Or speak with HV?
We are many weeks in and it's still so hard for most. I had to text my mum at midnight last night begging her to come and visit soon and help because the sleep issue is so hard to manage. I was also on the verge of tears last night.
Sending hugs!

I’m sorry your are suffering with anxiety too @Busylizzie85 it’s horrible isn’t it? I’ve been in tears a lot of the time too. I spoke to me GP on Friday and started antidepressants on Saturday.
Nothing about her birth or these early months has gone how I expected, I was hoping by now I’d be feeling less anxious and tearful but I can’t keep just hoping I’ll feel better soon and I needed to do something.
Have you spoken to your GP or health visitor about how you’re feeling? Feel free to message me directly if you want to talk xx

Thanks @Gigitree I guess I thought it would pass or id 'get over it' but I'm finding I feel low a lot of the time mainly as I am by myself most days while OH is working. I will contact the health visitor again as she did say if I found my mood was low to call her.
Lack of sleep is not helping though I'm praying this phase passes and she's able to sleep better soon 🙏🏻🤞🏼

I would speak to the GP too @Busylizzie85

Sorry to hear you are both feeling low- mat leave can be so hard.

Re: FF stool consistency (!) , my LO had it once and the smell was unmistakable. Hers are a bit runny at the moment but I think due to teething.

Maternity leave has been really tough, I feel like I have lost a bit of my identity. We have local lockdown restrictions again where I live and it means not seeing anyone. Feel like I spend my days in the house with little interaction, just an endless cycle of feeding sleeping playing. It can really feel like a lonely place to be in. I'm sick of the sound of my own voice haha!

I feel the pain with constant putting the dummy back in. At the moment mine sleeps without needing a bottle at night but spend so much time waking up and re inserting his dummy because its fallen out and hes crying for it. Anyone thinking of weaning them off the dummy? Its great it helps them to soothe and bring comfort but feels like a catch 22 when its brings it's own problems. I know if I tried to wean him off it I'd have a good few days of endless tears - dont think I can face it!!

@SRS1311 I would do it sooner than later ! This is why j doesn’t have one . Dd was horrific with it falling out at night & didn’t give hers to the birthday fairy till her second birthday 🙈

Hey ladies.. it's been a while! I hope all your beautiful babies are well and everyone's loving being a mummy as much as me!😘
Ace is 5 months in a weeks time, how on earth did that happen!?!
He's sitting up on his own now and rolling over, I think teethings started, he's the happiest baby ever, wishing you all well xxxx

Aww good to hear from you @amymaria2
He looks like such a happy baby :)
My boy is also so smiley and happy. The smile melts my heart no matter how hard the sleep deprivation gets. Please tell me the sleep is better at 5 month? Haha

@Missgemini Ace sleeps from 8pm-6.30am, no naps through the day at all though which is a it draining but Im grateful for the night sleep! He's slept through since he was 15 weeks tho! Xx

That sounds very promising. My LO turned 16 weeks today, so any moment now :D

@Missgemini yes fingers crossed for you! Times gone sooo quick xx

Just finished a night feed. LO not falling for the dummy trick tonight..

I'm definitely in the zone of 2 days (& nights) not ever being the same. I'm still using Huckleberry and reviewing the data to look for patterns but currently I can't see one forming! I will keep updating the app though as it really helps me keep track of feeds especially when she is not taking the full bottles sometimes. I'm sure it will click soon..

I think under the current circumstances it's very natural to feel anxious. We are not able to mix with other mothers and babies in the way we should be due to the pandemic and that's really really hard. To be missing out on that reassurance and just basic level of human interaction is a bit unnatural, so it's really important to remember that and pat yourself on the back for enduring the 3rd trimester, giving birth and raising a newborn during such times! I'm so upset at the thought of the mummy and baby friends we didn't get to meet but hopefully we'll be in a better place next spring/summer.

@SRS1311 I have defiantly considered dummy weaning! But the sleep issue and night feeds pushed that issue to the back of the pile for a few weeks. Il let you know when I'm brace enough to remove it!

@AmyMaria2 Ace is a lovely little boy! That outfit is adorable! How interesting that he doesn't take a nap during the day and thank goodness you get that lovely long sleep at night 😊

We had another bad night, Ivy was literally awake every hour I tried to settle her just using a dummy but that made her more agitated so resorted to feeding her every time! I am exhausted this morning but annoyingly she is now asleep for the longest stretch after being fully awake at 5am she finally went back to sleep at 6ish and is still asleep now at 7:50 not sure whether to let her sleep and use this as her first nap or to wake her up! The annoying this is she had 3 really good naps on me yesterday for about an hour each so I thought stupidly it might make her night sleep better 🤦🏻‍♀️
I'm really hoping we have just reached the top of the sleep regression mountain and it will start to improve she's nearly 16.5 weeks so maybe by 17 weeks she'll be better.
Thought id include a picture to my long rant this morning, it's hard to be upset with this little face. 😊

Just caught up on all the recent sleep posts. We had an awful week and a half of sleep at around 11 weeks and then things got better again but I’m worried about the looming four month sleep regression.

Someone asked about online sleep training courses. I paid for the taking cara babies course as a couple of friends recommended it to me as it worked for them. I haven’t finished watching it yet or put it into practice yet so can’t comment on if it works for us. One thing I liked is she says don’t stress about naps. Offer them but it’s up to baby to take them and how long they sleep for. Also she says try to get one nap a day in their own bed and then the rest can be on you, in the pram, whatever is easiest. So we still have a combo of naps on me, naps in our bed, naps in the pram or in the carrier. I’m also still feeding her to sleep for at least one nap a day because it works and it’s easy. God knows how I’m ever going to get her to put herself to sleep for naps. I love being a mum, love breastfeeding, don’t even mind nappy changing, but getting her to sleep is the absolute worst and I hate it.

Hi everyone - hopefully we will all get over the sleep regression soon - DS is 18 weeks and seems to be going through some growth spurt feeding. He's on formula and because he's feeding so much has started spitting up some milk (more washing yay) - I'm worried I'm over feeding him and he's just using the bottle as a comforter.

These kids are lucky they are cute! @AmyMaria2 wow sitting up and rolling!

Hope everyone has an easy day after the rough nights. It's true it's tough without the meet ups over coffee etc - not quite the maternity leave I envisioned. I thought I'd won the jackpot with a summer due date thinking I'd be up to all sorts of things having the summer off on maternity leave. But nope... I'm up to absolutely nothing!

We had our first night away from home at the weekend. We went to a nearby pension with the in-laws and I was worried but it was surprisingly good. Jia didn’t cry or make a fuss and slept well enough, just woke up to feed more often than usual. We took some nice family photos to celebrate her 100 days coming up (very important in korean culture). We then went to a cafe the next morning, first time taking her to a cafe and it felt really good to do something so normal. Made me feel human again! She also had a massive poop explosion in the car right as we arrived at the cafe so had to have a big clean up in the back seat 😂

Photos are from the 100 days celebration and one I took on Monday for her 3 months.

@UKtoSK that's a stylish baby! Love the yellow outfit!
Aww that's cute that you celebrate a 100 days. I've been planning my LOs first bday in my head :D
Definitely go out and do normal things. We've been going to restaurants, staying with family etc. Can be quite exciting with a baby :)

Aww loving the cute pictures, so adorable!

Had our 12 week injections today, so far he's okay but a little grumpy. I think he has an infection in his toe as well which he probably isnt happy about

The nurse said she thought he was teething! He has been crying a lot recently...hes also dribbling a lot and has a flushed cheek so who knows, maybe we will see a tooth soon! Anyone else going through teething - any tips?