May 2020 Babies

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Still waiting for my little man to arrive but starting a thread ready. Can't wait to catch up with all the other May 20 mums.

Huge congratulations to those who have already met their little ones. It's been quite a scary time to face giving birth recently and you've all done amazingly.

Hi all

It feels so wrong for me to whinge as baby is fine, but I have no mummy friends and of course never going to meet any so have come hear for understanding...

My third baby (first for my OH) was born end of May. I have two boys (10 and 13) half of the time with my vile ex-husband. I have court yet again end of July (this will be the seventh time) as he is wanting to change his custody from 50/50 after six years to me just seeing them every other weekend. It's pure control.

Eldest "hates" me right now as I was given permission by the judge to reinforce the court order using the police and I've had to use it twice. He swears at me, insults me and my fiancé, and will not even be in the same room as his half-sister. This is now having a negative impact on my younger son and he is struggling to settle or sleep.

This is all because of brainwashing from their dad.

On top of all of this, my partner's ongoing spinal condition has all of a sudden deteriorated. Currently he can barely walk. Although he tries to help with baby he is extremely restricted.

I have parents very close but they can't help because of lockdown.

I haven't really been put except for walks since 16th March.

I know lots of new mums have it so much tougher than me so I feel incredibly guilty complaining but haven't got anyone else to offload to 😢

*out

@Nicknamegoeshere Have you got a thread going as I think I maybe following you. I as hoping things would settle down for you.

@Emmacb82 Thanks, that's good to hear. The paramedic made me feel so small yesterday but the Dr at the hospital was so nice and said come back if you feel you need too. We have the drops but they don't seem to do much as it's hard lumps stuck high up in her nose and doesn't run out.

@Nicknamegoeshere oh my goodness, I am so so sorry to hear your story! I have absolutely no advice as it's such a unique situation, but always here to talk/rant if you need to ❤️
My husband left me suddenly at 24 weeks pregnant and I've just had our second son together. We were not getting on at all before, but we have seemed to find a common ground recently, I just hope it lasts :( Has it always been like this with your ex? Your boys might not see it now because they're still so young to comprehend what you're going through, but when they get older they will! Has your HV offered any support? It sounds like you're doing incredibly given all the obstacles you're facing. It won't be like this forever lovely ❤️
I am so frightened about loosing my sons, physically and mentally. I was also hoping to make new mummy friends after giving birth but the lockdown just seems to be making things so difficult. Anyway I'm not sharing this to take anything away from your post, I just wanted you to know you're not alone ❤️

Well I haven't posted much on this thread but some might remember I had my baby on the 22nd of May by emergency csection at 31 weeks due to failing placenta I'm proud to say that he is finally aloud to come home tomorrow I'm such a proud mummy at the moment but also very nervous

@Courtney2020 oh look at your gorgeous little one! You've done so well, I bet you're so chuffed to be moving upwards and onwards 😍
How have you been coping?

Hi just checking in, hope all mums and babies are well .
Just plodding along here, trying to get stuff done between feeds!

@november90 not going to lie adjusting your the nights of no sleep is a little hard but he is so worth it and loving every minute of him just happy he is now home at 5 weeks old xx

@Courtney2020 He is absolutely gorgeous! So pleased your home!

Hope everyone else is doing well. I've had 3 nights of really good sleeps until last night when she had a poo in the middle of the night which seemed to keep her for the rest of the night after I changed her 😂🙄

Anyone in a "nap" routine yet? I still feel like I'm just winging it and wondering whether I should be making things more structured.

I have my postnatal check on Thursday and Injections for little one- not looking forward to it and hoping she is ok afterwards😬

@Courtney2020 look at your beautiful little boy! Hope you’re enjoying having him at home, must have been so difficult.

@november90thank you ❤️ Marley, what a fab name!! Hope you’re well, I take my hat off to all you new mums who already have kids, I don’t know how you do it!

@Emmacb82 thank you ❤️ So good to come here and share and hear others experiences.

@May2311 I’m so glad you said that about winging it with naps. We have no routine. At all. We just do what needs to be done when it needs to be done! I just found it overwhelming reading about what we ‘should’ be doing - the advice can be so conflicting. So we’re just doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@sazzlerazzle- thanks!!! That is so good to read as I agree reading about what "should" be done is so confusing at times- also makes me worry when she doesn't do what the books say! Also it's so good to know I'm not the only one winging it. Xx

It's Adas first injections this morning- dreading it 😬 I have also had an awful start to the day whilst walking the dog- slipped over in the rain so now having to ice a strained back and potential broken finger!! Let's hope the day gets better after that! Xx

@May2311 aw sounds tough! How's your back/finger now? How did you get on at the doctor's? We've got the first injections next week. Not really looking forward to it! I don't remember any effects with my first though, so hopefully it'll be the same this time!

Regarding the things you "should" be doing, I also don't believe there's any one right way. What works for someone else's baby might not necessarily work for yours. And you know your baby best! I'm still winging it and my first is 3 Then again, I'm pretty much doing everything "wrong" anyway! Still bedsharing, still breastfeeding to sleep... All the rods for my back going!

@May2311 hope you’re feeling better now! And hope the injections go ok, we survived them last week on the hottest day! Noah slept quite a lot after them which did him a favour as it was so hot. He’s now back to constant cuddles and feeding so no rest for me!

They weren't as bad as I thought- she cried a little but then went back to sleep so that was a relief. She has been ok today- just sleeping mainly but a bit of a wimpering cry when she is awake until I pick her up. I can cope with just cuddles all day if that's what she needs 💕

My finger is ok! Back is pretty achy but I'm just staying topped up on paracetamol!! I'll have a nice bath when hubby gets home.

Xxx

Anyone used gripe water?? I’m unsure whether I can just use it when DD has belly ache or do I have to use it when feeding?

So yesterday I had a tooth removed and I am struggling sooooo much! It wasn't a straightforward procedure and there is a lot of trauma to my jaw bone and I literally am in agony. It's actually worse then childbirth and I do not say that lightly!!! It's the side that Marley likes to be carried on and he keeps racking his head and.... just ouch 😩😩😩. Anyway just needed to rant about that!

So advice needed :) Ms nappy's have been so watery ever since starting infacol :( so my HV told me to stop which I have. There is mucus in every nappy though so we know there's some sort of food intolerance going on 😩 I started a milk free diet on Sunday, but if anything it's worsened since then!! What the heck could it be? I have such a plain pallet! Feeling gutted :(

@CharlieB93 we used gripe water for every feed for a week or so and it definitely helped. I found it really frustrating using a cup to give it to her though and it’s so sticky! Went back to infacol selfishly as it’s easier for us to administer and she is tonnes better. A lot happier, sleeping better etc.

@november90 oh you poor thing. Not the same but I had awful mastitis and a huge breast abscess a few weeks back and the pain was ridiculous. Being in that much pain and looking after a brand new baby is hard work! Have they given you decent pain relief?

My little one has her hip scan on Monday then her jabs on Tuesday. She’ll be happy to be left alone on Weds the poor thing!

@november90 poor you! Tooth pain is the worst! Have you got help with the baby? Hope you can get some medication and get some sleep!

Eliminating things from your diet is so tough! This article seems to suggest it could take upwards of 10 days for the milk proteins to leave your system, so you might not see any improvement just yet. What about gluten?

kellymom.com/health/baby-health/food-sensitivity/#signs

@CharlieB93 I don't know about gripe water, but I did read that Infacol was no better than a placebo (for the parents), and a probiotic was actually more effective, so could maybe try that if baby is suffering? Otherwise, I think it's just a case of waiting for baby's gut to mature (around 3 months). How old is your baby now?

@AlmostAlwyn she’s 6 weeks now, she’s fine until about 7pm and then you can clearly see she’s in a lot of pain, we try and burp for a good while after feeding. I didn’t want to be giving her something all the time - I was hoping we could give it as and when she needs it if that makes sense.
It’s so hard as my partner gets home from work she starts crying and doesn’t stop until bedtime, feels like we don’t have a relationship anymore...

@CharlieB93 it's really hard, isn't it! It will get better though! My baby was the same, but she's 9 weeks now and it seems to be better. She likes being bounced on the exercise ball with the hairdryer on! Or have you got a sling? Could always take her out for a walk round the block a few times? The cool air might help keep her calm and you might get a chance to talk to your partner for once?

@November90 tooth pain really is the worse!!! It seems to impact your whole body. Hope your feeling a little better today!

@charlieb93 we use gripe water and put it in her bottle for the feed. I was using it at every feed ( HV told us to) as she wasn't getting any wind up but could tell she needed to. Now she is getting older (8.5weeks) I've started easing to every other feed and so far she is managing ok. Apparently by the time they at 12 weeks their digestion system is more established so things should be easier by then. I was worried about giving her it so much but HV said it's all natural ingredients and that it will be fine and she is so much better for it( aka not in pain with trapped wind!) Xxx

P.s- I am aching like mad today after my fall yesterday 😂😏 I will be in agony when I start running again- I was going to start next week but it have just proved to me that I'll need to take it super easy to begin with. X