April 2007 - As 6 months has passed, a time to reflect on just how lucky we are

[PillockOfTheCommunity]

It's easy to forget just how lucky we are to have beautiful healthy children

Our thoughts are with Vio and her family

And I'm sure we're all thinking of those that have been absent lately, and hoping that they know they can return to us if they need us at any time, no questions asked

PINIONS, SMOLE, MUMINA..., NUTTY, OCTO, (AND ANYONE ELSE I'VE MISSED)...........

sorry, feeling soppy

ah mmk x post thats lovely
when t is asleep in his cot i kiss him goodnight...then again...then a final one...just one more
By the time I've finished its 15 mins later and DH is laughing at me (but he secretly does it too!)

SPB, have you tried laying a blanket over him when he's lying on you, then wrapping it round him as you lift him up, and then putting him down? it worked for Joe.

I also found he needed to go on his front, but don't know if you're happy to do that?

need some advice
I hope this helps,
it may help to teach him to sleep. put him in the cot, in dark room. 30 mins morning, 2 hours lunch time, 15 mins evening.
When he cries, go in, cuddle, reassure and go out. Just do as much as you can. start by having 'nap time' of about 10 mins and keep building up.
Research shows as babies get older, sleep patterns change, and they sleep better if trained.

If all of that is too much effort, let him sleep wrapped in a thick blanket and just lay him down in it. It works much better in a dark room.

thank you maveta- what a lovely kind thing to say.

I so love being a mummy. Everyday, I go walking where we live, it is all parks and walkways. I love pushing my pram so much.

stealth
how lovely for t to have all that kissing. They know, you know. They grow up feeling all loved and safe, and they don't know why. it's because their mums made them feel that way as babies.

MMK you've come back to the right thread- the one where we're all thinking how lucky we are
Hadn't thought abt blanket pillock & mmk but it would make sense as through the night i feed him in his sleeping bag and he has no problems after that
Would be happy for him to sleep on front as he does sometimes anyway so will try that
only other plan was to leave him on the pillow i feed him on and surround him by cushions (on the floor)
Just dont know why he's started doing this - used to sleep no problems but now seems to wake at the slightest thing

Really sorry will catch up later but at mo am filling out an application form for a job as lunch time supervisor at the kids school. Final bit is - Personal attributes: how have these been demonstrated in the past and how do you consider they support your application?

Im thinking patience has gotta be important, motivation, organisation, approachability (?), enthusiastic, dedicated? What else and how do i write it all to sound good without sounding like up my own arsedness and bullshit?!? Someone write it for me...?

yes stealth, if in a blanket, they don't notice that they have been put down. Of course, you could just switch to Gina Ford, and have baby sleep 3 hours a day... (45 mins at 9, 2 hours at 12, 15 mins at 4.30)

dh is clattering about downstairs, loading the dishwasher and making my coffee, ah, here it comes...it's a dog's life I lead here.
Once, Dh suggested that I, yes I, do the ironing. Well what kind of nonsense is that? where would it end? I'm a housewife and mother to memembers of the next generation, I can't do ironing!

you need SOL

Demonstarted in past btw - well ive worked as waitress and telesales. also voluntary work in primary schools, nvq early years care and education but not completed as had to quit and get a paid job, and raising my own children which is most relevant and recent really

Pesha
don't forget your communication/emapthising skills, and the support you give to mothers.

Pillock, what is SOL

SexOnLegs, she's an April mummy, who also happens to be an HR person

SexOnLegs - she's HR person!
mmk, we're a democracy - neither of us irons
who wants flat stuff when creased is so much more interesting??
pesha, all sounds good to me cant think of anything else at the mo but if i do i'll let you know
excuse my typing, expressing as well

OH, I remember SOL

but yes, the ironing..there is much less of it now we have a tumble dryer.

Hey ladies

hey geordie, we were linked in March, weren't we?

March??? Like I can remember then {grin]

Just to let you know that James' funeral is on Friday. WO and I are going with c&c.

Have spoken to Vio a few times over the past couple of days. She is incredibly brave, but obviously it isnt going to get easier for some considerable time.

MMK I have forwarded her your email address, and have told her that should she need to talk to someone then you would be happy to chat to her

So to hear about baby james. Thinking of Vio and all the family, can't begin to imagine what they must be going through.

It stii amazes me how much I love and adore Dylan already and how close and connected to him I feel and just how strong my feelings are. And he's my 3rd but everytime it just overwhelms me, we really are so lucky.

Geordie
yes, please let her know that she is not alone. You might see if you can look out the local SANDS group for her. It helped me enormously.

our hearts go out to her, 100% we went through it and survived, but I almost died of pain.

Is there anyway we can organise a floral tribute? if we know the town and some details, I'll happily do it. It may help her to know how many of us are willing to carry some of the pain.

Hi mmk, lovely to see you back!

mmk, that is a lovely idea. Would be happy to contribute. I have cuddled Ffion endlessly today, and shed some tears too. Cant even begin to imagine what vio and her family must be going through right now.

Here is a poem which helped us

"I'll lend you for a little time
A child of Mine." He said.
"For you to love the while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be 5 days or seven years
Or twenty-two or three
But will you, till I call him back
Take care of him for Me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
As solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay
Since all from Earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there
I want the child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over
In my search for teacher's true,
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you;
Now will you give him all your love,
Nor think the labour vain
Nor hate Me when I come to call
And take him back again?

I fancied that I heard them say,
"Dear Lord, Thy will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
For the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for him
Much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes
And try to understand."

Anonymous

thank you mammyjo, it is so nice to be back, I've missed you all.

good ol' Ellie for getting in touch.

As soon as I hear some details i'll organise an all white floral tribute.