January 2020 babies new decade new babies

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Would anyone like to join as I can't find a thread for the January babies. DS is a few days old born early via emcs but we're doing well. This is our second.

Currently surviving the night feeds by keeping the Jaffa cake production in business and the odd daytime nap.

Hope everyone had an ok night...
Has anyone managed to leave the house yet on their own? Where I live I have to drive pretty much everywhere, I've been out a couple of times with my mum which has been ok but still found it pretty stressful - but the logistics of getting out on my own terrifies me abit xx

@Dandelion3 we haven’t been out solo yet, but I know what you mean! I keep thinking the same. Tuesday will probably be our first outing but I haven’t decided where to go for our first trip. I’ve been looking at baby classes too and a lot of them start at nine am and I keep thinking I will never make that!

Wow it's been a while since i last posted! Think i fell down the rabbit hole of endless feeding and changing 😂
Me and DS have been out about 3 times so far only to the local shop for necessities but its nice to get out and about with him and he enjoys the fresh air it sends him to sleep for hours after we get back in! Can't believe he's 2 weeks old already he feels so much bigger now

I live in Asia and the tradition here is to stay indoors for three months after giving birth.

I'm not going to follow that but we do have quite a few cases of Coronavirus around so I'm not sure about going out yet. I have to see the doctor on Monday so have to go out for that, then I think maybe the end of February I'll think about going somewhere for fun depending on what the doctor says.

I haven't been out yet alone. My partner is back at work next week and I'm dreading it. DD is cluster feeding and I haven't been able to put her down for over 24 hours! I'm just worried about coping alone. I have friends visiting most days so should help.

Isn't it crazy how quickly time goes and they grow so much! Although we are starting to get the odd smile which is so rewarding!
Went out with both DC yesterday alone for the first time and I survived! It certainly helped that the baby slept in the pram the entire time. Felt a bit like I was winning at life 😂
@LoveIsLovely that's so interesting about the staying indoors. Here (UK) I feel you're expected to just sort of cope and be wonder woman a bit. Maybe that is just my perception though. The coronavirus cases would definitely bother me though, too.

Im a single parent with no RL support so if i stayed indoors for 3 months the bins would be overflowing and the cupboards bare... I think I'd also go stark raving mad

Wow @lovelslovely 3 months? That seems like a really long time! I think I would go a bit mad if I had to stay indoors that long! it killed me waiting four days, I didn’t go very far just to Sainsbury’s but the fresh air was lovely! But you’re right to be concerned about the coronavirus The whole thing is very scary! and @LucaFritz you have my total respect being a single parent with no support! I found postnatal care from the professionals to be very lacking in our area and even my midwife was saying how shocking it is, that once you’ve had the baby your sort of left to it! After my difficult birth I was just saying how hard it would have been had I been on my own!

Im managing quite well i don't have as much time to come on MN or even use my phone at all and i find the night feeds a bit draining and monotonous but other than that we're doing good. I even managed a 30min bubble bath the other night while he slept which was heaven but id love if i had someone who could just take him for a few hours while i got a solid block of sleep in or someone to stick the kettle on while he's feeding

@LucaFritz you have my utmost respect surviving the newborn phase alone and managing a bath! I was impressed that I did the evening alone tonight putting my eldest to bed 😳

How is everyone doing?

We've gone from 2hrs between feeds to 3hrs which is amazing for my sleep but i worry he isn't getting enough milk because it says online at 2 weeks they should have 150ml per feed or about 750ml a day but he only feeds for about 20mins per side and about 3hrs a day in total which seems so little he's gaining weight steadily and does about 5 dirty and wet nappies a day but I'm still fretting i think its the fact i can't actually see what he's taking in that bothers me

Husband went back to work yesterday so we survived our first day alone! It was lovely having cuddles and just mulling about. I was planning on going for a walk to the park but the weather was vile here yesterday with heavy winds hail, rain and snow so we stayed indoors. He’s started to drink 3oz at a time now but drank it so quick he was in pain last night with trapped wind. I tried everything to settle him,eventually bicycle legs worked and then he wore himself out. He has also started to go longer between feeds during the night and we had a solid 3 hour stint which was amazing. Today I feel great having had that extra hour, even managed a very shallow ten minute bath whilst he slept in his moses basket this morning. We’re off out this afternoon to my sister in laws who also has two little ones so hopefully the drive will be fine and the company will be nice. Hope everyone else is doing ok?

How are people getting these mythical 3 hour overnight stints?!! 😂 I mostly got 1 hour sleeps last night so struggled this morning. DH did the school run though while I stayed in bed.
Welcome and congratulations @Waterloosunsets

@LucaFritz Sounds like bubs is feeding enough. I've been told as long as there are wet and pooey nappies they are feeding well. If baby is gaining weight that is correct too. We'll never know how much they are consuming so our guides are the nappies. Also, 20 mins is a good feed, and every 3 hours is fine. They should eat 8-12 times a day....hard to judge with mine as she just attaches to the boob for hours. I need to find a way of settling her without the boob 🙈

Has anyone had a midwife come round again yet ? I haven't seen mine since day 7 and he's nearly 3 weeks now they've just disappeared with no warning and the health visitor doesn't come back till March

@LucaFritz I last saw the midwife on day 7 also but they said that would be the last time they would come and discharged me from their care. That seems to be the standard in our area unless they think you aren’t coping. I had the the health visitor once but won’t see her until March either and then the next time I will see anyone is at the 6-8 week check at the doctors.

That's what i thought but I've had no notification or anything of been discharged they've just vanished and left me to it

Hi everyone,

It's nice to see that people are coping. LucaFritz you're impressive! My partner went back to work 5 dats after dd was born and I found it really hard being at home alone with a newborn.
My little one has finally started to properly put on weight and is almost back to birth weight after losing 12%. She's now 3 weeks old.
With all the initial struggles with breast feeding I am still very anxious about it.
I am worried she is not getting enough or she's sleepi g too. Much during the day etc. Etc. And I am driving myself mad. I am generally an anxious person and this seems now exaggerated.
I still find the lack of sleep very hard to deal with. At least I am getting two hours every evening before my partner brings baby up to bed. She is not an awful sleeper but she makes really annoying sounds which i think is normal in newborns.
Has anyone of you ever tried earplugs? My oartner says he can still hear her cry with earplus in so it shoyld be safe.

@LucaFritz your doing so well!
I managed to go out with baby by myself in the car last week which felt quite an achievement!
We had a night of inconsolable crying the other night it was awful just hours of my little one screaming and nothing would help despite us trying everything - think it was maybe tummy ache / trapped wind. He was super settled yesterday / early last night I'm just dreading that happening again as it was awful not being able to do anything. Has anyone else had this?
@Felinewoman I know what you mean with the sleep deprivation it is really hard - we were up every hour from 2am as my DS wouldn't really go back down and wanted more feeds. I try to keep telling myself that this wont last forever and gradually as he gets older things should get into a bit more of a routine? He does often make lots of noises in his sleep sometimes I think it's when he has wind / needs a poo though.
Does anyone know when the poos usually slow down abit? I must have changed x3 nappies in a row last night with poos!! We're at 4 weeks old.

@Dandelion3 I'm waiting for the poos to slow too 😂
I'm thinking about driving again as it's been 4 weeks since c-section and I'm desperate for my independence back especially with the constant rain making walks less appealing! Are any of you c-section births driving yet?

@Dandelion3 I am thinking the same. It's 4 weeks on Tuesday and I have a GP appointment so was thinking to drive there.
I feel totally fine. My partner suggested to film me while doing star jumps to have some evidence that I'm fine just in case

I just slept for 3 hours in one bit! Amazing! Now the boob hunter is hungry though!
I also implemented earplugs. I can still hear her cries, grunts and squeaks but nit the quiet annoying sounds. Definitely helps with sleeping

Does anyone of you have this anxiety that baby stops breathing in the middle of the night?
I feel it is getting worse and I don't kniw how to deal with it

Hi all, can I join? Baby girl was born on 23rd January. OH goes back to work Monday and starting to stress. She won’t let me put her down, will only fall asleep being held and will not go in her crib. I bought a sleepyhead as heard it was great - she won’t go down in it during the day or night. Have no idea how I will be able to do anything?! Bought a sling can’t get on with it and she’s too small for the baby carrier.
Has anyone got any advice on getting baby to settle in crib as currently cosleeping but keep being told I’m creating bad habits!
We’re at 3 weeks and she still has night and day mixed up - I am up all night feeding and trying to settle her, she’s very windy at night and stuffy nose. Very lonely at night as I leave my OH to sleep and feed in the living room as the sound of his snoring is driving me crazy! I usually get to sleep at 6am-8am so I’m shattered. Has anyone else’s little ones made the switch yet?