January 2020 babies new decade new babies

[muddypuddlejumping]

Would anyone like to join as I can't find a thread for the January babies. DS is a few days old born early via emcs but we're doing well. This is our second.

Currently surviving the night feeds by keeping the Jaffa cake production in business and the odd daytime nap.

@LucaFritz it's so overwhelming at times, isn't it. How was your birth? I have found it easier second time around because I have yet accepted that my baby is doing what he s supposed to do eg feeding lots/ needing me. Night 2 or 3 is often the worst as they up your milk supply and aren't so sleepy from birth but it's hard for you as you are trying to recover still.

Birth was induced and i had a 26hr labour with an epidural and a 2nd degree tear i feel fine now though just a bit tender moving about..
Breastfeeding is going well no latch issues yet its just sleep we're both struggling with

Hi All!
I had my girl on Thursday 23rd. My 1st baby. She won't be put down to sleep so me and partner have tried to share the naps and cuddles between feeding. I am breastfeeding. It's so comforting to hear if anyone else is having this as you start to wonder if you are doing something wrong. And the baby blues make it worse. I can do all the feeding but would be so much easier if we could put her down and nap in between.

Hey @MGC40 sounds just like my DS he loves his feeds and cuddles but as soon as i put him down he screams blue murder and just doesn't sleep or settle! Its perfectly normal for the first week while they find their feet and establish their feeding etc so don't worry, DS is currently asleep skin to skin on my chest as he's decided he wants sleep more than feeding today im just enjoying the warm snuggles and ignoring the fact i haven't really slept since he arrived Friday

Hope you've managed a bit of sleep tonight.

I've been struggling a little with coming to terms with my birth again. Had almost like a birth debrief with my husband tonight through lots of tears but helped me piece bits together.

Is anyone else sick of the night sweats!! I am so uncomfortable with them and desperate for them to stop now.

I thought it was just me im sat here in just undies and I'm so warm! Keeps DS warm too i suppose but I'm so sticky and uncomfortable can't wait for a bath later
DS has been fast asleep on my chest since 2:30 I'm worried he's not woken for a feed yet he tried to latch at 1am and 2am but just seemed so tired and out of it that he fell fast asleep

I've had a few times where mine hasn't woken for a feed so I've stripped him off and that helps him wake up. I don't let him go more than 4 hours but I had a very bad experience last time with my daughter so that sticks in my mind!

I neeeeeed a shower! The compression stockings I've got to wear are not helping the sweat situation either!

He woke up at 5:10 and had a mammoth feeding session on both breasts he favours the right though which is getting a bit sore even with lots of Lanolin and ice so i hope i don't get an infection or anything

@LucaFritz Thank you...even though so many people tell you they went through the same thing it is "lovely" to hear from someone going through it with you now. It made me cry! My girl managed to settle around 4 so she went for daddy cuddles while I grabbed some sleep. Back on the breast now and daddy back in bed. We are just trying to rage team it but hope she will manage a sleep in her bed soon.
Her cotbed is too big for her, we are seeing if she will settle in her pramette before buying a Moses basket. I'd rather her in that than a sleepyhead, worried about the raised sides

@MGC40 we have a next to me crib which I love. It's the only big thing we purchased this time around though as had everything else.

@muddypuddlejumping I am looking at them too, just wondering if baby won't settle out of our arms would they settle in one of those beds? Or is it because they can see you? Maybe I could experiment and see if baby would fall asleep next to me in bed (without me actually falling asleep) before buying one. Did you have trouble settling your baby before the bed? Or have they always settled in to it?

@MGC40 with our first, we used a Moses basket and I remember it being much harder to get her to settle. We tried everything to get her to sleep! This baby seems to settle in it really well but I've no idea why and am just grateful each time he settles as I reckon it won't last! We're still not at his due date yet so a little apprehensive that it'll all change then!
I like it because I can see him easily and he can see me but without the worry of co-sleeping.
Have you read anything about the fourth trimester?

My daughter had her first baby on 13th Jan - a girl Sophia. After wanting a natural birth in the end she had about every medical intervention possible - Induction (the baby was considered big) 2 epidurals and a c section.
She could do with getting out of the house to mix with other mums to chat, and laugh, about this new reality that no-one can prepare you for. Any ideas?

Sorry forgot to say she is in Bristol.

@muddypuddlejumping No, nothing about the fourth trimester....will definitely read about it. Thank you xx
@Nonnabooks Not sure what you have around you but I've seen baby sensory classes about and breastfeeding classes/support groups at our hospital that may help. Maybe there is a local Facebook page for local mums?
I reached out to Mumsnet last night and even with just this thread have really welcomed the chat and support. Why don't you ask your daughter to join this chat? X

Getting the timing right for classes is such a challenge in the beginning when there isn't much time between feeds. I cannot see anything local but I will keep trying - and yes I will suggest she joins. Thank you x

Think we've made it through the worst ! DS slept for 6hrs in total last night and my milk has come in too feel better today than i have in weeks

@LucaFritz Excellent! Congratulations! I can imagine how good that feeling is. 
My girl will sleep for 3-6 hours at times, she just won't be put down. I can't wait till she gets confident enough to do that!
@Nonnabooks I totally understand the timing. We made our midwife appointment by 1 min because baby was feeding. I thought exactly the same, how would I make a class

Congratulations to all the posters who have joined! More January babies!

We ended up going to hospital with DS yesterday as the GP wanted a pediatrician to look at his jaundice.
Apparently it's within acceptable range but we have an appointment for the prolonged jaundice clinic on Friday. Hopefully it's something they can sort quickly!

@Bluebutterfly90 hope the jaundice clears soon. My DS still has it in his eyes a bit but midwife was happy to discharge us.

My husband gave DS an expressed bottle this evening so I slept from 8-2! 😱 it was amazing. I haven't slept that long since conception 😂 DS has fed lots since then though so just as well I'd had sleep!

I too had an amazing nights sleep think we got about 10hrs in between feedings he's now asleep in his pram while i have some breakfast and a shower not felt this human in days

Saw the HV today who wants to monitor DS jaundice and night refer to the prolonged jaundice clinic next week. Can you let me know what happens for you @Bluebutterfly90 tomorrow please?

Hi all. I tried to write multiple times but then got distracted by screaming baby. I am finding this really hard.
Baby lost almost 12% of weight on day 3 and now on day 10 we only gained 50g as it was really hard to establish breast feeding.
This stress and the lack of sleep make me feel like a shit mom and a zombie.
How do you cooe with the lack of sleep?

@Felinewoman Hi!!! I can't help with how to cope with sleepless nights, I'm having loads. The blues and sleep deprivation really get to you. What's helped me is knowing that we are not alone. So, I'm here (currently on the sofa with baby in arms, eating jelly babies to try and stay awake) if you need to chat!
Amazing ladies you managed to get some sleep! Very jealous! Any tips? I would love to settle DD in her cot/pram/Moses basket for just a few hours at least at night!!

@MGC40
We will get tbrough this!!! In a fww weeks we will have adjusted and babies will become more interactive. I'm looking forward to head control and social smile.
It should feel less like a chore then.
I manage to get her to sleep for1. 5-2 hours after feeds... So at least something