January 2020 babies new decade new babies

[muddypuddlejumping]

Would anyone like to join as I can't find a thread for the January babies. DS is a few days old born early via emcs but we're doing well. This is our second.

Currently surviving the night feeds by keeping the Jaffa cake production in business and the odd daytime nap.

The sleep deprivation is definitely the hardest part! I find the snacks help!
DH and I take turns too so I go to bed early at around 8/9 and DH has baby downstairs with either an expressed bottle or brings him up to feed. I find that not being 'in charge' means I sleep deeply in that time.
Could that work for you?

Not really. My partner is back to work and needs the sleep. He does somwtimes give her an evening bottle and i go to sleep early. But he himself is knackered from work ( hospital doctor with shitty hours).
I managed to get her to sleep well tonight....hope that's not just this night. Fingers crossed. Now off to an hour of sleep ( hopefully)

Yesss! 6.5hours tonight. I think I almost feel human :-)

I've started co sleeping with DS in my bed as of last night. I was terrified of the idea at first because i thought I'd roll onto him or he'd suffocate on a pillow or blanket etc but i just removed all the pillows but mine and pushed the duvet down away from him and we slept like a dream! I have this inbuilt instinct to not roll onto him it seems not sure if that applies to all parents but if anyone is struggling as bad i was on 1 or 2hrs a night then give it a try i am single though so not sure how easy it would be with a partner in your bed too.

@muddypuddlejumping which bottles are you using ? I had to express for DS last night because it was coming out faster than he could take it but he won't take the medela calma teats yet because they are huge for his mouth
Also is it normal for a Ebf baby to do 5 poos and 5 wees a day ? That's our running total today as of 2am and he's still going! Worried too many pees and poos might mean he isn't digesting his feeds properly

@LucaFritz we are just using Tommie tippee bottles as they were what we had sealed and left over from last time and he's had no issue with them.
You could try hand expressing a bit first if your flow is fast to see if that reduces it a bit?
Mine is currently doing about 10+ poos a day and I remember that from DD. It's because breast milk is so easily digestible so nothing to worry about.
Glad the co-sleeping worked well.

I might nip out and get him a tommee tippee to try then and yes i tried hand expressing before i used my haakaa and it's still coming out fast i also leak if he cries im so glad ive not had any latch or supply problems yet though i guess im lucky

@LucaFritz yes you are. Now my little girl got the hubger and I can't supply enough. Used my frozen milk and now i am trying to express and i ran dry. I hope my breasts will adjust to the new demand.

I think its because im eating a lot of oats and fruit i have a huge bowl of porridge every morning and always have a bowl of apples or bananas on the bedside table yo snack on as he feeds you could try that ?

We were at the prolonged jaundice clinic too yesterday. My DD was prem and still yellow. They wanted a nappy she'd pooed in to look at the colour. The Dr did an examination/ asked about her history (we've been in and out a bit where she was prem) and did blood tests - the jaundice blood test and another blood test to check everything (blood count, infection markers, bits like that). Able to go home and will be called about results

@muddypuddlejumping
We were at the jaundice clinic today and it was all fairly relaxed. The doctor told me essentially it's just procedure to get it checked out but that it's likely my son is still jaundiced because he's having breast milk and it takes breastfed babies a little longer.

They redid the light test, weighed DS and took a urine sample, then the doctor examined him. They also had us do a blood test before we left.
I went in quite worried but it seems like it's fairly common and the doctor told us she isn't concerned.

Hope all goes well when you go!

Ah thanks @Bluebutterfly90 and @FlowerTink that's reassuring. He's pooing loads and gaining well so hopefully we'll avoid even needing to go when he's checked again next week 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Felinewoman I'm no expert but I believe that when they feed all of the time, that is what ups your supply. It's not necessarily that they aren't getting enough but they are doing what they are supposed to iyswim.
Also I remember being told that between 1am and 3am is when your supply is regulated so they should wake and feed around that time. As miserable as it is, you could set an alarm to feed at that time if you're not up already!

@muddypuddlejumping
I did pump some milk today and it seems to have triggered milk production. Now I'm constantly leaking
At least the little one will have a good supply.
She's very unsettled tonight... And i was hoping to get some sleep. Oh well, we are only 11 days in. She's still adjusting to being alive and in the outside world. Meanwhile I'm eating chocolates in bed.

Hi All,
My baby blues seem to be getting worse. Anyone else constantly bursting in to tears? I haven't really slept for 24 hours. We are really trying to get DD down in her pram and we are buying a Moses basket today to see if she will sleep in there. So far we are only managing about 30 mins before she cries. Anyone else still struggling with putting baby down? DD is only 10 days old, maybe she is still getting used to being outside?

@MGC40 did the Moses basket improve things for you? Sleep deprivation is so hard. My DS is doing all his best sleeping during the day time still.
@Felinewoman good to hear you're leaking everywhere! 🤣🤣

@muddypuddlejumping day sleeping... Yes. DD sleeps like an angel, up to 3.5 hours in one go during the day.... When the sun sets, the dragon cones out. Wad awake every hour last night, feeding, changing nappies and repeat. She was very unsettled and I am wondering whether she is getting colic. Defo had some major farts... And a poonami.
At least she is feeding well now and started gaining weight. Midwife was here yesterday and DD gained 50g in 2 days.. Woohoo. She's up to only 8.4% loss from birth weight now (from 12%).
I guess I will crash again around 2pm and in laws are arriving. Hope I can give her to them after a feed and have a nap.

@MGC40 I am still crying on a daily basis. It is day 12, so similar to you. Just random thoughts make me cry and I even resented baby on a few occasions. But then I love her to bits. Our hormones are still raging and sleep deprivation adds to that. I'd be surprised if anyone in such a stressful situation (probably hardest weeks of anyones life) wasn't crying.

@muddypuddlejumping we managed to get her down for two hours in the basket!! I'm so encouraged.. She wouldn't settle during the night and I've developed a temperature so for the sake of ease just held her through the night. We managed another hour this morning so hopefully we can get her in there more and more..
@Felinewoman Thank you for sharing. It's such a support to know you are not alone. I too have looked at my DD and thought why have I done this. But I've always wanted to be a mum and hate that I am struggling so much and not enjoying it as much as I would have hoped.

@MGC40 hope you're still making progress with the Moses basket 🤞🏼
I cried a fair bit last week, mostly in relation to my birth experience but could always tell it was hormone related. Feeling on a more even keel this week though.
Totally agree with the great day time sleeping. Mine does his best sleep in the morning although last night I had two 3 hour stints! My boobs were massive afterwards!😂

@muddypuddlejumping The Moses basket was a right off today! DD was cluster feeding and wouldn't settle, even on us. A long day of tears (both baby and mum) and pacing up and down. When DD sleeps on us she can sleep for quite a long time, I feel bad because sometimes we let her go 4-5 hours sleeping.
My boobs are very sore!!! He does seem to drink a lot, but I've bought a pump to see if I can express even more.

That does sound so tough @MGC40 you are doing so well. You must be exhausted. Hope you've at least got lots of chocolate and biscuits to see you through.

Hi can I join? My baby was born 31st January, so just a few days ago and I am feeling it.

Still in a lot of pain with stitches and it is very painful to walk, sit, stand, anything basically.

It's my first and I'm pretty overwhelmed right now, especially as we're living in my husband's country (Malaysia) so everything is different. We have a mother's help and my husband does so much for the baby and for me, so I feel I can't complain as I know many have to struggle through basically alone but I'm finding it really hard.

Hello @LoveIsLovely! Congrats!
I think although it's nice to have helo, they can't replace you, so you will still be shattered.
You are still flooded with raging hormones and the physical burden of having a baby.
My little one is two weeks today and I have family visiting. And although they are helping I am still knackered and am struggling to function.
I am being told it gets better... I hope people are right

@LoveIsLovely Hi! Lovely to hear from you. I have found this group an amazing support, just to hear from other women who are experiencing the struggles alongside you. I am 12 days in and the stitches and swelling does go down, you'll have to give it a few days first though. I am still overwhelmed by it all and feel so useless and clueless as I have no idea what I am doing. And I get so scared as nighttime approaches.
Use here to chat xx

Omg nighttime! I usually start getting really tired around 4 pm and am dreading the night because it is so unpredictable !
Also, I am being chased by the breast fweding support people who make me feel like a failure. DD is still far from regaining her birth weight as she lost so much initially due to not being able to latch. So now they keep calling me and quizzing me and I try so hard and she is putting weight on only slowly.
It is such a hard time. Anxiety and sleep deprivation are a shitty mixture