December 2019 babies

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

Hi All,

Thought I’d just start a December 2019 babies thread for those who have given birth in December and want to catchup/chat/rant/need support etc.

We are 11 days in...!
How is everyone doing?

@primarywoodle @forevercurious that makes me feel better! They're still so tiny though. My elder two are both school age and I feel like I've forgotten everything about beginning a routine etc, I'm sure it just sort of happens itself? I'm hoping so anyway.

Has anybody looked into doing Waterbabies? I'd really like to do it with little one but it's £16 per 30 min class...!

Hope you all have a lovely weekend.

Even the back of the formula tin is telling me I should be breastfeeding. Just feel like I didn't try hard enough and have in too easily

@Comps83, stop beating yourself up, you'll drive yourself around the twist. You're doing a great job xxx

So glad that most of us seem in the same boat on routine /lack of! We're hoping to get one started about the 3 months mark, once we're past 4th trimester stage. We have a few set things in place, but definitely not what you'd call structured!

Meal out was lovely, managed to not freak out/run home/call every 10 mins 😂 Joe was absolutely fine and mum and dad loved having him to themselves for a couple of hours. Although he did do his very first poonami with them 😂😲

Anyone else have a fidget baby at night?? Joe is sooo fidgety at night sometimes, doesn't look comfy but isn't crying or making the Hungry face?! He settles for a few mins then starts again, keeps me up and I'm never sure if I should leave him or pick him up?!! Makes me feel a bit lacking in the instincts department, 😕

Although we've had proper smiles and cooing this morning, it was adorable 😍 Dh was there for it too, he got a bit emotional!

@comps83 i hate that you feel like that. Even if you didnt "try" at all that would be fine. Seriously though, you feel like this cause your a mum. No matter what you do or choose about anything youll feel guilty about it!

fivebyfive yes!!!! So fidgety!!! Im trying to just leave him unless he starts crying cause hes not upset :/ i cant sleep either though lol, Ive found turning the white noise up helps?
My DD is school aged too and i really cant remember any of what to do. I think i know less now cause last time i read up on babies before she came but this time i assumed id know what to do 🤣 how wrong i was

@Comps83 I feel guilty occasionally for stopping breast feeding but tbh, although all the cleaning/sterilising of the bottles is a ball ache, I find it so much easier to formula feed. I do miss the close ness breast feeding gave me to him but I havent done it now for a couple of days and feel like my milk has probably dried up now anyway. Also, like a previous poster said- fed is best whichever way it happens so try to be forgiving to yourself.

On another note, I feel like my emotions are up and down quite a bit. By the weekend, when oh is not at work, I feel ready to snap his head off because I feel like I do everything! I think its lack of sleep as when I do manage a couple of hours or an hour nap I feel so much better. Really need to just chill out a bit about it but it's so hard.

Has anyone used gripe water with their babies yet? the past couple of days, DS has been struggling with wind and reflux I think, I’ve got a bottle of gripe water but haven’t used it yet.

@forevercurious, afraid not, we use infacol for Joe's wind.

Had a tough day, didn't get much sleep and Joe has been quite fussy; he keeps going to my boob to feed and coming off crying, or he makes the hungry face but resists going on?! He gets quite agitated as well, hitting the boob and squirming around. Not every time, he's had a few decent feeds today, but enough to make me stress out! If he's still doing it tomorrow I'll ring the health visitor /midwife for advice I think. Not sure if it's my supply or he's just having a funny day, or a bit of both?! Anyone else had this?? Xx

Not having the best time either here. Baby won't stop crying and we've tried everything now for hours. Feeding multiple times and he cries immediately when he comes off and even sometimes during feeding. He also gets really tense and squirms about, digging into me which means he's not feeding effectively I don't think. I'm at my wits end. I really don't want to just have him attached to me feeding just to stop him crying, can't cope physically or mentally with that again.

We're using infacol atm, but we did buy gripe water, just not used it yet. We tried dentinox as well but didn't think it worked for us.

@Dec19baby ask your GP to prescribe infant gaviscon. If sounds like reflux rather than wind.

I had thought if it was reflux he'd have more symptoms? It doesn't happen every time and he's rarely sick? Looking at him you would think it's wind, as when he's winded enough he's much better.

@Dec19baby,did you get your little one to settle in the end?? Hope you're OK xx

We had to take Joe to hospital at 1am! He was crying and struggling to feed in the evening, then he full on projectile vomited everywhere, after that he wanted to feed but whenever he took anything, he'd have diarrhea ☹️ We called 111 for advice, they arranged a call back, a Dr said it sounds like a tummy bug but because he is so young, arranged for the ooh team to call us. They called and told us to come in. Luckily he'd settled down by then, so Dr could look at him without too much trouble. Basically he's fine, just has a bug he needs to get out of his system, but I'm glad we took him for peace of mind. He's actually been loads better in the night, just feeding normally and sleeping 2 hours at a time... I think the evening must have worn him out bless him!

I was feeling surprisingly calm calling 111 and at the hospital, but burst into tears when we got home! Feeling a bit better for a bit of sleep and seeing Joe being more himself 🙂 Hopefully he'll be OK today.

@Fivebyfive2 i eventually got him down to sleep before half 11, but when he woke at 2.15am he would not settle and took me 2 hours. I'm literally running on empty. And husband doesn't do anything at night coz he's working With a long commute.

We've also been to OOH after calling nhs24. He cried from 4pm-1pm and I was getting increasingly worried, particularly as he was sick after birth. Its always best to be safe then sorry.

@Dec19baby there's 'silent' reflux.

Does anyone have any tips on how to get the baby to stay asleep once he’s put down in the day time?! DS will stay asleep when he’s put down at night but during the day he’ll wake up after a few minutes. I’m starting to wonder if I should put him in the next to me crib in the dark during daytime sleeps but I know he’s supposed to nap in the same room that we’re in so don’t feel entirely comfortable doing that.

Or does anyone else’s baby actually stay asleep when put down for a nap?! It would make me feel better if they didn’t to be honest.

Sometimes mine doesn't, so you're not alone. I tend to now put him to sleep in the pram during the day, in the carrycot. The rolling back and forth seems to settle him, and if he stirs we just go back and roll it again. In the first few weeks we used the baby box and he loved it. Now he won't stay asleep in it

@forevercurious, in the day he naps while we're out normally, in the pram. Otherwise he naps on me and then I put him in the moses basket. Sometimes he wakes right up but others he'll stay settled for a while.

@fivebyfive2 Ash does this but have worked out its when he is really tired and wants to go to sleep or if he needs a burp/big poo. How scary about the vomiting but at least you know now - i find a&e are so good with little babies

@dec19baby have you had him checked for tongue tie? The best people to ring for advice are la leche league!

@forevercurious it is TOTALLY down to your baby. My DD never ever ever stayed asleep unless she was being held or walked until about 12 months but even then she had to be fed to sleep or walked to sleep to get there. Ash will usually go down in the day or night and stay asleep but sometimes he doesnt. Everyone always told me to just pick up, resettle and try again with DD but dont think it ever would have worked. In the end i just made sure we went for a walk whenever it was nap time or popped her in the sling - you could try persisting though and it is supposed to get better as they get older. Is it easier to get him to go down for morning naps rather than afternoon? Cause i find they get more cranky through the day and the afternoon naps are much more hit and miss whether he'll stay asleep.

Thanks to whoever it was that mentioned about the allergy to wipes btw! Weve gone back to cotton wool/water and its nearly cleared. Might need to try water wipes or something for a few weeks

How much are your babies awake? I feel like Ash is so sleepy :/ still not had a smile and he's 6+3 :'( so impatient

@Dec19baby I’ll have to try the pram, he sleeps in it when out and about but does tend to wake up if the rocking stops so not sure how well it work but I’ll try anything!

@fivebyfive2 ah, DS sounds so similar - he will sleep in the pram and car seat but does wake up easily!

@primarywoodle ah that’s interesting thankyou! I haven’t noticed a difference in morning and afternoon naps but then i guess I haven’t been paying attention to it. Glad you’ve sorted the bad nappy rash! :) I feel DS is usually awake half of the time in the day, I worry he doesn’t sleep enough as he’s such a light sleeper and doesn’t usually stay asleep unless cuddled / held or out in the pram or car.

Have you downloaded the wonder weeks app? They do change so quickly at this age and he may be waking more easily if hes going through a "leap" and if not his sleep may improve in a few days/weeks. I only mentioned my daughter because i really did try everything and i felt like such a shit mum but now ive had Ash i realise that every baby really is different so dont feel bad if things arent going 'as planned'!

How is his night sleep? Does he have a dummy?

@primarywoodle to be honest I’ve held off from downloading that app. I’ve read somewhere online that with that app it’s easy to base everything on the developmental leaps and for example: if the leap is said to end in 5 days but the behaviour continues it can become stressful. Apologises as I’ve paraphrased that really badly, when I read it, it made sense!

Generally his night sleep is manageable, so he will go down between 9 & 10ish. Sleep for around 4 hours, have a quick feed, sleep for 2-3 hours, have a quick feed, sleep for 1-2 hours and continue. He’s usually woken up around 7:30 when I get up to sort my step son out for school, the days I don’t have to do that he sleeps in a little later.

I tried to get him to take a dummy from 6 weeks but he wasn’t keen, kept trying and he finally took one on the day of his jabs at 8 weeks. I’ve tried most days since then and he doesn’t take it consistently. Some times he spits it out immediately and then other times he’ll take it for a few mins before rejecting it. I really wish he’d take a dummy and I should have introduced one before 6 weeks but followed the advice given in regards to breast feeding!

Wow sorry that was a long post!

Does anyone else find they just don't have time to do anything? I thought I'd have all the time in the world but the days just fly over and I can't seem to get anything done

Also I'm getting increasingly annoyed with dh. I know he has to go to work but I feel he's just not helping where he can . I woke up this morning to the baby getting really upset in his crib and then noticed dh was awake and playing on his phone . Not amused .

I literally get nothing done that doesn't involve feeding, nappy change or trying to entertain a baby. I thought he would sleep a few times during the day so I could get washing on etc.. nope. He doesn't sleep unless we're out which obviously means I can't get anything done.

Oohh I would not be happy if my husband was on his phone while baby was crying!! Unless he thought it was just a few wee noises and he was gonna let him settle himself? My husband always looks up when ours is making noises but I just lie there coz I know he'll settle in a minute. 🤷