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December 2019 babies

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TTc2019BabyNo1 · 01/01/2020 15:49

Hi All,

Thought I’d just start a December 2019 babies thread for those who have given birth in December and want to catchup/chat/rant/need support etc.

We are 11 days in...!
How is everyone doing?

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TheTiaraManager · 07/03/2020 17:54

No advice but he's a git. Will your family be supportive?

primarywoodle · 07/03/2020 18:57

My dad is supportive and my grandparents but they all live 1-2 hours away. More local friends are stepping in though which is nice, didnt realise i had such a nice support network close to home.

I caved and sent him a text earlier detailing exactly what i thought about his behaviour but tbh i feel a sense of closure now. Hes a piece of shit, next step - divorce.

primarywoodle · 07/03/2020 18:59

@december2019 wow you are incredible. I cant imagone them being so young, if you dont mind me asking did the dad leave before or after dc2 was born?

December2019 · 07/03/2020 19:04

@primarywoodle he was about 3 weeks old... it will get easier though doll honestly I really struggled for the 1st week but once u was in a routine it got easier... and just think you don't have to wash his underpants anymore 😂

primarywoodle · 07/03/2020 21:48

Oh @december2019 what the fuck, dont understand why they think this behaviour is in the slightest bit ok. I just want to get on with filing for divorce now.

AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps · 09/03/2020 17:27

DH is pissing me off atm... :(

He's being super moody, snappy and grumpy to me all fucking day (he had a day of today) ... his mate comes over...and he's all fucking sweetness and light and cheerful.

tosser...

starflake · 10/03/2020 09:23

@primarywoodle I'm so sorry, what an horrific thing to do when you both should be enjoying this part of your lives together! Some men are just horrible. Just remember to look after yourself and take any help you can get with baba.

Haven't been on this in a while but have being reading.... My DD is 12 weeks now, things going really well, she's breastfeeding like a champion, sleeping like a champion, we chose to co-sleep as she slept right through the night that way and we love her in the bed,the only thing is she's after attaching herself to me in a really bad way!
She cries if anyone else holds her unless she's asleep, even with DP, if her eyes see me leave the room she cries. Is thing just at this stage thing? Anyone elses baby doing similar? Hoping it doesn't last as it's draining me.
Also development wise where are your babies at? Is tummy time going ok? My DD hates it so I really don't do it enough, hate seeing her upset.

Well done to all for making it this far without any major breakdowns Grin I can't believe they are all 3 months already

Comps83 · 10/03/2020 09:25

Mine hates tummy time so I deffo don't do it enough
In fact this morning DH said he needs to do it more before turning baby over and going to work to leave me with a screaming baby . Cheers for that

primarywoodle · 10/03/2020 09:54

Oh god just cried on the school run on front of all the parents 🙈

In terms of attachment - DD was like that and i hate to say she remained that way lol. I found the sling was an absolute lifesaver. I know your breastfeeding but are you doing any bottles? My DD refused them but that might help as then your partner can take her out for a little while and bond wothout the pressure of her screaming for you and then you wont stress about her starving!

In terms of tummy time, if you do have them in the sling that counts! DS doesnt mind it tbf but he loves it when hes lying on his front over the boppy pillow with toys to look at on the floor

AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps · 10/03/2020 11:29

Mine is 12 weeks old, hates tummy time, so I hardly bother. Her neck control is good and she goes in the sling a fair bit.

starflake · 10/03/2020 17:53

Ah ok so no major pressure for tummy time! Phew! She does go in sling a good bit & her head control is quite impressive for someone with little or no tummy time Grin
@primarywoodle yes she does take a bottle, we try to leave her with mil once a week to give her a break from me/us and mil adores her so it works well, she gives her my milk in bottle and she's taking them quite well. Takes a week though to build up the milk for just those few hours in mil. I use the Hakka, expressing was leaving my nipples in bits!
Sorry for the tears on school run, blame the hormones if you don't want them to know just yet! You should post on relationship board, you will get fantastic advice on there as to what to do.
@Comps83 my dp has done similar and I've gone ape. His favourite is to kiss her goodbye so hard he wakes her, I nearly make him bring her wherever he's going when he does that which soon stopped.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/03/2020 20:09

primarywoodle I'm so sorry he's a dick 😩

Mine have a tendency to vom when thry do tummy time against their will, twin 2 rolled himself over today tho 😮😮

Twelve week injections toda6

Fivebyfive2 · 11/03/2020 06:42

Hi all, sorry I haven't posted in a while!

@primarywoodle, your husband is a stupid twat and you and your babies are better off without him! Sod what anyone on the school run thinks. You're amazing xxx

Glad to hear Joe isn't alone in his hatred of tummy time 😂 He likes being on his dad's show looking around and crawls over me whilst breastfeeding so I count those. @SleepingStandingUp, he also spits up if on his tummy against his will, especially if we have him on the rolly thing that's supposed to help?! That's amazing about your little one rolling over!! 😀

We have the 12 weeks jabs tomorrow 😲😳

We have a new sleep record... 5 hours of peaceful, settled sleep from Joe, 1.15am until 6.15! I'm hoping we might be getting somewhere now, but will probably be up every 2 hours tonight... Xxx

popgoesperfection · 11/03/2020 08:20

We're not a big lover of tummy time here either 🙈 I do try but he either whinges or rolls himself back over !! That's brill @Fivebyfive2 well done joe!!

popgoesperfection · 11/03/2020 10:11

Anyone else's lo started leap 4???

Comps83 · 11/03/2020 10:30

Leap 4?

popgoesperfection · 11/03/2020 10:38

The 4th leap on the wonder weeks app?

forevercurious · 13/03/2020 08:58

@popgoesperfection what does the 4th leap include? DS’s sleep has gone to pot this week - either waking hourly or just not settling in his crib but then he also has another cold which is part of the problem!

popgoesperfection · 13/03/2020 14:13

On the app it says bad sleep, cranky, crying more, being clingy, eating more/less. If you google wonder weeks there's some info on there 👍🏻

forevercurious · 15/03/2020 13:54

@popgoesperfection we are definitely experiencing some of that but I think a lot of it was to do with the cold he has.

Is anyone having luck with self settling? I keep reading about the 4 month sleep regression, creating good habits etc yet DS still feeds to sleep, wakes every 2-4 hours in the night etc! I don’t know if to try and get him to self settle now or leave it another couple of months.

Fivebyfive2 · 15/03/2020 15:20

@forevercurious, we're a bit in the middle with sleep at the moment too! Joe usually goes anything from 2 to 4 hours at night now, but in the week he randomly went 5.5 and 6 hours some nights, then last night was back to 3 hour wake ups 😕 I did actually get him to self settle last night, for only the 2nd time ever! I'd tried all the usual (feeding, cuddles, rocking etc) and he was still fighting the sleep so I thought what the hell, I'll try it... Swaddled him in his sleeping bag, lights down, white noise, he lay there ooing and arrring, looking around, but decided to give him 10 mins (as long as he didn't get upset) and at pretty much bang on 10 mins he was asleep?! Probably a fluke, never to be replicated though, like his 6 hour stint in the week 😂

forevercurious · 15/03/2020 15:55

Maybe it’s all common at this age, like Joe DS has settled a couple of times on his own and slept 5/6 hours but it’s all one offs and not regularly :( I think DP & I have agreed once he’s had all of his jabs we will start really focusing on the self settling as we don’t want to establish it for it then to go wrong after his jabs.

popgoesperfection · 15/03/2020 17:31

We haven't even tried self settling yet 🙈 think we'll do the same as you @forevercurious. We'll wait until after jabs to start the process. We still cuddle to sleep, he lays on sofa until I go up then he has a dream feed around 10 then in his Moses at the moment.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/03/2020 22:52

Ours have been put down awake for weeks (now 12 weeks). If thry cry and a shish and pat doesn't work they're lifted, cuddled, calmed and set back down. If they fall asleep in arms that's fine but the expectation is they're laid in their cots awake when we go to bed, lights off, night light on.
Thry do however wake up 3 hourly for feeds, on occasion 2 hourly and only once or twice four hourly (flowed by a 2 hour)

forevercurious · 16/03/2020 11:45

@SleepingStandingUp oh wow that’s really good!

For his morning nap today I just cuddled DS until he feel asleep, I’m hoping to introduce self settling gradually and he’s usually fed to sleep so cuddling is one step better right? I’m planning on seeing how the cuddling goes - it’s more for the nighttime wake ups, I’m hoping if he doesn’t get milk everytime he wakes up he’ll start sleeping for longer but I don’t know if that’s realistic or not haha.