August/ September 2019 babies #2

[kyles101]

Thread number 2 for our August / September 2019 due date babies.

DS is having a regression on nighttime sleep since moving over to combi - seems to want to wale at 1am whereas before would always go through until 3am...

I only bath Felicity once or twice a week, won’t add daily baths until we are weaning and she gets actually dirty (I top and tail daily instead). I have very sensitive skin and had eczema as a baby so been advised that minimal contact with water is best for as long as possible.
I usually change her for bed about 9pm so she’s then ready whenever I am.
Our bedtime “routine” is - take baby to bed when I want to go (any time from 9-11ish usually. Lie down in bed and feed baby. Fall asleep.
I don’t see the need to over complicate it and wouldn’t leave her sleeping elsewhere to me for months yet so what’s the point of trying to put her to bed before I’ve even had dinner? (We don’t eat until 7 at the earliest).

Oh I remember those lovely lazy mornings in bed with DD. I'm hopeful I might get a few when DH finishes up for Christmas tomorrow.

We bath DS when he smells, poos up his back or when DD is happy to have him in with her. Probably every 2-3 days for 10 mins. He loves it but is trying to get out of his bath support thingy. He kind of bucks himself out of it and laughs at me. Last night I let half the water out and just let him lie in the bath, he loved it so much I felt bad taking him out.

Same bedtime set up as @Megan2018 for us. He goes to sleep so easily when I go to bed and I don't want to add another bedtime routine into my evening. It's nice to have some dedicated for for him too after the whirlwind goes to bed. I guess we might try putting him down earlier in the New year or if it starts to cause a problem.

@Stroan
So glad its not just me-I am deliberately not reading any books and just going with what I feel, but so many people are doing it differently and having structure that I get a bit paranoid that I’m crap at parenting

I am consistent in that I keep the lights off and only have a dim nightlight on, and when she wakes in the night I feed but don’t talk to her or engage, just latch and ignore so that nights are different to days. But that’s about the sum of it!

We are also bathing every 2-3 days with no real bedtime routine. She just goes to bed when we do! Between 10 and 12 usually. She wakes up at 7 most morning because this is when DH gets up and changes her if she's awake so that's some routine at least! 🙈

Any ideas on how to help a teething 12 week old?...she can only hold things for a few seconds at the moment and I've tried putting teething toys etc in her mouth for her to chew but she just looks disgusted and spits them out. She's been chomping on her hands a lot but I'm worried she will make them sore!

yevans you can buy a special teething glove!

Baths are only once or twice a week here too. Usually late morning/early afternoon (when Alice deigns to wake up), or in response to a poonami. Takes 5-10 minutes.

Bedtime routine is.... Well we don't have one. I usually get Alice into her baby grow and sleep bag about 8-9pm, but it's entirely dependent on when she's awake. I hate waking her up.

Last night I made the mistake of trying to put her down in her basket at 5 to 11, when DH went to bed. Naturally she immediately woke up and wanted to play. She finally managed to fall asleep at about half midnight and I fell into bed about 15 minutes later. She was stirring at half 3, which woke me up, but went back to sleep until 6am. Brought her into bed with me at 8am since I was awake, and then we usually don't get out of bed until the afternoon. Unless we have a baby group. Then we get up so we can at least get 30 minutes at the group. Thank God she's my first.

I think this is going to be us until she goes into a cot. She sleeps super well on me on an evening. If she would sleep in her basket before 11pm, I would love to put her down, and maybe we could get some sort of routine going. But she just won't. HV is coming over today, so I'm going to get her advice about sleeping.

@Geegrl19 Hope you all didn't melt. I like it warm, but 40C is far too hot. Hope DD is in much less pain and is doing well.

If you are doing it wrong @Megan2018, then I am too! Baby goes to bed when I do. Sometimes she conks out feeding on the sofa in the evening and just stays asleep in the sidecar cot when I go up to bed, but generally it's lying down together for milk and sleep. Baths also distinctly few and far between!

@yevans anbesol liquid was the only thing that ever helped DD, you can get it from the pharmacy. She wasn't interested in chewing on anything at all. Hope it pops through soon, poor little thing.

@megan2018 I had no real structure with DD, we did a bath/feed/story routine loosely and she was cuddled to sleep in our bed until she was 9 months and then settled straight into her cot. Transferred into her own room at 2 and barely even noticed. Now she's 4, goes to bed easily and sleeps for 12 hours. I'm a firm believer in doing what's right for you, if that's a firm routine - great. If not, still great.

I'm aware that I'm lucky that this suits us, if it seemed to be causing an issue I would look into a different way.

Phew, survived the day. Was a bit unbearable by 5pm though but had dd2s primary school graduation to go to which was nice and cool. Got a delightful 45 deg to look forward to on Friday 😱 . Might have to hide out at a shopping center and use their aircon.

Totally agree that just go with whatever works for you, routine or no routine. Don't feel like you're not doing things right by there being no routine as in your own way you will kind of have something that works for you! I've only kept up the bath each night etc as nate is such a cranky little thing if tired and it keeps him calm. I try not to wash his hair, well head, as he has no hair, each night as I find this really dries his scalp.

DS has a bath every other day, sometimes every day if we're a bit bored. He loves it, his new party trick is kick kicking his legs really hard, and he gazes out of the kitchen window (we have a Belfast sink so I pop his baby bath in that to save my back!!) Usually after his 9am sleep so he's nice and fresh for wherever we're going for the day. Or about 5pm if we've been out early. He has naturally fallen into a fab routine:

6am dreamy boob
7am wake, bottle
9am nap
10am wake, bottle
12noon nap
1pm wake, bottle
3pm nap
5pm wake, bottle
8-9pm last bottle & bed if dh is at work early, otherwise he'll have boob again to settle him when we move to bed around 10/11pm on the weekend.

Basically we eat every 3 hours then play or do another activity until he's tired.

In no way have I enforced any of that, it's entirely him, I wouldn't be bothered if every day was different but I must say it's so handy knowing what he'll want when he grizzles as he's so predictable!

We are on 2 maybe 3 baths a week, only 5-10 mins. Little one loves it in there but baths are a bit chaotic here.

I take him up to bed when i go somewhere between 10 and 12. He has had a few nights he has slept through, the worst is when he wakes to be fed around 5 because then he is asleep when i need to leave for school and i am trying to wrap him up asleep. He then tends to wake up hungry while we are out! I need to train him to feed around 7am!

Oh good! I don't either he prob gets two baths a week. I read some stories some days but not part of a routine or anything just to fill some time in the day.
The daytime naps just happen and are similar most days but the times vary a lot. He does go down quite well at night anyway.
I guess you can read all the "this is what you should do" but actually, you just have to do what you want. As long as they are happy, healthy, fed and clean it doesn't really matter does it? Here's my pie with his bauble from Father Christmas :)

@kyles101 Great routine! Is good when it just happens

@Horehound what a cute picture 😄

Hehe thanks.

I'm having a hell of a night..this must be regression. Third feed since 11.30 :( I'm soooo tired and scared for the rest of the night!

And again..

Argh! How are you doing? Can you have a nice lazy day?

Awake again for another feed. Yes I definitely will be having a lazy day although we had planned to be going on a walk round a nature reserve...dunno if I have the energy!

Help me please 😩 I have gradually moved my baby from expresses breast milk to formula, he has now been on formula exclusively for a week and the last three days it's gone down hill. Every time he feeds (4oz every 3 hours) he screams I can hear his tummy gurgling he then gets himself so worked up only a dummy will Calm him. Eventually he will drink the bottle but it's a battle, every time it goes in his mouth the gurgling starts before he has even started sucking. As you can tell I'm pretty desperate! Hv said doesnt sound like colic or reflux so probably just digestion but it's every bottle now. We had the odd occasion of this with my milk but much worse now. starting to dread getting out the house incase it coincides with a feed and it's really getting me down.

He is 13weeks old, any advice please I'm willing to try anything

@2018isanewyear I'd make a gp appointment if I were you. It sounds tough going!

Could he be sucking in too much air via the bottle? You could try medala bottles and teats that stop this.
But yes, call gp, HV anyone! Maybe if you can record him too it might help

@2018isanewyear could he be getting too hungry before you get to him? I moved my ds over to formula from ebf 3 or 4 weeks ago and he takes 7 or 8 oz every 3 hours so 5 bottles over the course of 12 hours.

We are on 5 or 6 bottles of 6oz each in 24 hours but think i will up to 7oz soon

I have since babyDECAF was born submitted and PASSED three essays! Fourth was due today but i have an extension as i have been so poorly!

Whoop whoop congratulations @IVEgotthetinselBITCHES celebrations in order 🥂 ds is a guts. He downs it 9 times out of 10 with one burp break. And he may get a bit of boob at night if we go to bed late 🐷

DS will only take 4/5 oz 5 times a day sometimes (like the last two days) he refuses a bottle for 5/6 hours and no matter how much you try, he just won't take it.