October 2019 Babies

[Figuringitout]

Creating a thread for graduates of the October pregnancy thread. Hoping to see some familiar names, but also welcome new ones who want to chat about how their newborns are getting on.
Thought I’d tag a few other people who might want to come over. Feel free to tag others - no offence if I missed people; I have baby brain!
@Frizzy1986 @Em39ma @HJWT @SC0508 @cattaxi @KatnissK @Sw2102 @Positivity86

Sorry you are going through this @Frizzy1986. I echo everything @maryrobinson81 says upthread. I also don’t think you need to sterilise your pump
In between very use as breast milk is sterile and not prone to bacteria in the sane way as formula.
I hope things look up for you x

Thanks @cattaxi and @Maryrobinson81
I’m trying to take each day as it comes, but do find I am panicking about every little thing which I wouldn’t have done before. I only got him weighed as he’d has his tt snipped and they recommend it to check it’s all going ok. Otherwise I could’ve been oblivious and maybe his weight will come back up and I’d never have needed to worry.
I’m hoping that because they haven’t scheduled home weigh visits or hospital tests then it can’t be too bad as they’ve just told me to come back in 2 weeks. I’d like to think if it was a real concern then maybe they wouldn’t want to risk me not returning.
Good to know about the pump though. I’m never sure about how often/what to sterilise as I solely bf last time.

Sorry that you’re feeling like this @frizzy. I have no real advice, but with my dd she was always very small, on the lowest centiles and was a really quick feeder (which some of the midwives used to make me feel really anxious about). Look at her now (she’s 5) and you really wouldn’t know. This parenting business is such a worry and the guilt never seems to disappear does it!

I can’t remember if I’ve said before, but ds1 slid down centiles at about 4 months. It worried me so much at the time. But the hv was pretty sensible, told me they don’t all follow the lines, and that there isn’t a need to worry if they are not losing weight. He eventually settled on the 9th and has stayed there since. He’s naturally slim & also got very nosey & active around the 4 month mark.
It’s so easy to fall into that trap of worrying about everything when you have one thing on your mind. Be kind to yourself. Take it one day, even one feed at the time. More than anything, your kids need you to be ok. You’re doing great.

Anyone else glad to be back to routine this week? I have enjoyed spending time as a family at Christmas. But it’s felt pretty chaotic. And ds1(4) does not stop talking. The Questions and commentary or constant singing has been pretty exhausting. I’m so glad school is back tomorrow!

Hi everybody! I wasn’t on the forum during pregnancy, but looking for a mom community now. Blessed with baby girl Aurora.

@dhirani just saying hi! X

Hi how’s everyone doing

@Frizzy1986 How are you getting on?

Sorry iv not been back guys just feel like I am on a rollercoaster atm! Hope everyone and baby are doing well 🥰

What has everyone been up to? xxx

@HJWT I don't feel we're doing very well at all tbh.
I've not gone to get him weighed again yet as some friends (one of them is a doctor but not paeds) have said you get a clearer picture of they aren't weighed too often as it can fluctuate so much which is why normally they wouldn't want to see you more than once a month.

I went to the bf cafe group last week to check latch and rule it out as a problem, but he was quite grumpy so refused to feed straight away, and when he was ready, the lady who runs it was busy feeding so couldn't observe.
I'm going to try and go again this week (have to force myself to do things some days, thankfully the school run forces me out at least)

I'm dreading taking him to be weighed next week. We've tried to weigh him at home just to monitor difference as our scales won't be accurate. It was supposed to calm me down by seeing he is putting on weight, but our calculations say he's put on 0-2oz in 8 days. Which is awful. It's just stressed me more. Im expecting to go and them tell me he is "failing to thrive"
I'm crying a lot, feeling like a bad mum, unsure what way to turn and what to do. I don't want to give up bf and if they aren't sure that's the issue then I'm not sure why I should (I'm prob getting ahead of myself)
My health visitor hasn't been in contact at all either and the weigh clinic said they'd tell her so I'm not sure if that means they aren't even close to being concerned or if it's just got lost in the system.
Even when people tell me not to worry I am and every time I look at him, I flit between thinking he's getting smaller (hubby says he's not and its just my worry) to seeing his big smile and thinking no way there can be a problem as he's not screaming in hunger and he's doing fine.

@Frizzy1986 honestly try not to worry! As long as he is putting weight on and not losing he is fine! I had Coby weighed today and he has gone down to 75 centile from 97th just keep doing what your doing and try not to worry xx

How are you doing @Frizzy1986?

I hope everyone else is doing ok?
Ds is so big & not like a newborn at all now. It’s a bit sad. But also lovely to see him grow & develop. He’s really into his baby gym now & I love his happy little face when he bats the hanging toys. It’s amazing how they go from not being able to do anything to starting to smile, laugh & grab.

@cattaxi it’s been an ok few days thanks.
Feeding clinic on Friday said my latch was good so that’s not the issue. Went to meet friends today and we all have babies from 3 1/2 to 7 months so it was really nice to catch up and share.
I’ll be back at weigh clinic on Wednesday I think and hopefully it will be better news, but if I’m honest I’m not expecting it to be.

@Frizzy1986 I have had the unfortunate pleasure of working with babies & children who are failing to thrive in my time. I’m sure that the lack of contact / visits / oversight from the hv means no one is that worried about him.
Good news on the latch. And most importantly, he’s a settled baby.
I hope the weigh in this week goes ok x

@cattaxi thanks. I've tried not to stress about it this past week. I'm off to get him weighed today as its been 3 weeks since the last time. I'm hoping that has given him time to settle wherever that may be, but I guess we will see what happens.

@Frizzy1986 I hope everything goes ok with weighing your little man, then hopefully you can not worry so much anymore. My little girl was 3 months yesterday I just can’t believe where time has gone with these October babies!!

I hope it went ok today @Frizzy1986.

Time is going way too fast @Maryrobinson81. I went to a group the other day and all the tile newborns looked so small compared to ds! He’s so alert now & really enjoys using his voice & grabbing at things. I already miss newborn snuggles!

Weigh in today was OK thanks @cattaxi @Maryrobinson81
He's put on 18oz in 21 days which is better than the 7oz in 14 days.
They still want to see him in a few weeks to check its still going OK, but I feel relieved as it must mean I'm producing enough and there isn't anything wrong with him.

Yes, they do look huge compared to newborns. I hate how fast it goes. We've booked a nursery this week, but they only had full time space from 2021 so we are having to split nursery and childminder for the first few months.

That’s great frizzy. You must be so relieved!

It’s crazy that it’s time to think about childcare already. Me & dh were just doing some sums to see if we can afford for me to take 2 months unpaid leave & go back after the summer holidays. A part of me is slightly terrified of being at home with all the kids for 6 weeks!

@cattaxi yes it's scary isn't it.
I'm lucky as I'm taking the full 12 months off so I get the summer with them. I'm not technically sure if lucky is the right word. It's more that my salary is quite low so I'll actually earn more being off for 12 months on smp (with the 0 pay at the end) compared to what I'll get when I go back full time, but have to pay for nursery.

I'm also pondering what to do going back to work. I'm a trainee accountant (very early still) after a career change 3 years ago (it's hard training when you have kids at home)
I don't really like the job I'd be going back to and really need to be closer to home for school and nursery. But do I try and find an accounts role nearer which could be limited, or do I just try and find any job that is closer and has the right salary as I'm not sure how I'll be able to do qualifications with 2 young kids as my husband is supportive but isn't really prepared to take on the childcare and the chores etc so that I can study and progress and I don't want to miss out on the kids because I'm too busy studying.

It’s all so hard, isn’t it @Frizzy1986. I love my job. But I’m feeling very aware of this being my last baby & don’t wavy to rush back. My parents do 1/2 of our childcare, too, so I don’t want to saddle them with both kids for all the holidays.
I was doing a course last year which would give me an uplift, but had to pull out as I had 3 months off with hyperemesis. They have deferred so I can start again when I go back, but like you say, studying with kids is so hard.
I was thinking about it most of the night. Ds slept pretty well, but my brain was in overdrive. I think I’m going to take until September off, but maybe do some kit days so that I go in once a week. The extra cash will help, and it might save my sanity! Our 4 year old is so full on!!

Sorry I meant to post that in the thread about horse books 🤭

How is everyone doing? @Frizzy1986 so good to hear your little one was gaining weight. I hope that’s continued for you.

Yes to how much they’ve changed from the little newborns they were not so long ago! It’s quite sad really as ds is definitely my last so I’m savouring every moment. Sleep wise he was doing ok through the night until he got a cold, but his naps are all over the place. I know from experience with dd that they sleep eventually (even if in her case it wasn’t till she was 18 months!) so I’m trying to just go with it!

Hi. I’d like to join in to this group please. Wasn’t on the pregnancy threads - but my baby girl was born October 2019.

Hi @Ind1emum! Hope you and your little girl are well.