October 2019 Babies

[Figuringitout]

Creating a thread for graduates of the October pregnancy thread. Hoping to see some familiar names, but also welcome new ones who want to chat about how their newborns are getting on.
Thought I’d tag a few other people who might want to come over. Feel free to tag others - no offence if I missed people; I have baby brain!
@Frizzy1986 @Em39ma @HJWT @SC0508 @cattaxi @KatnissK @Sw2102 @Positivity86

@HJWT glad that coby is getting better. Hope he is fully fit for Christmas!
Doc could see a slight external tear/cut so I've got some cream to use and laxatives to help it heal. The prolapse into the front is something they don't do anything about unless it causes issues or the bulge is coming down and out of your vagina. Hope it never gets to that stage!
At least I'm leaking less wee now so that's a positive right!
We went to the Xmas play this morning and orson slept through it which was good. He had been screaming about 15 mins before we went in.
Dd was the only angel and was so excited. She's super excited about her birthday next week too and has also advised us that we must be santa as she's not sure if he's real (although she flits between this and thinking he is so who knows)

Been to urgent care DD now has an ear infection! Honestly I am jinxed 😪🥴

@Frizzy1986 Thats good hope it heals quickly! Oh gosh isn't your DD only young? Must be other children putting ideas in her head 🤦🏻‍♀️ Santa is real 😁

Just catching up! How are Coby and dd now @HJWT? I hope everyone is feeling better.

How is everyone doing? All good here. Ds seems to be working out night & day, so we are sleeping better. Only a couple of quick feeds now and no need for nappy changes. He does seem to like a lie in, so I’m glad of a couple of weeks off the school run.
He’s getting so big now. And alert! He really isn’t like a tiny newborn & is starting to really enjoy his play mat & is very smiley & chatty. Time seems to be going so quickly.

Merry Christmas to everyone! I hope the October babies enjoy their first festive season 🎅🏻

@cattaxi Coby is fine now! Also very happy and alert and sleep well at night which DD has never done so can't complain 😁

As for DD she then got tonsillitis so thankfully she was already on antibiotics and luckily started eating again today!! Will need to go back to doctors tomorrow to get more though as only gave us 5 days worth for the ear infection!

Hope you all have a lovely christmas and your baby's enjoy the wrapping paper 🥰 xx

@HJWT so glad Coby is better now! Just in time for Christmas .

Ds had been sleeping well through the night, with only one wake up however the last few nights he’s been waking up once or twice more for a feed. Maybe he’s going through a growth spurt! He’s definitely filled out loads over the last couple of weeks.

Can I ask what your ‘routine’ is at night? Ds has been downstairs with us, feeding on and off and properly going off to sleep around 9pm. Recently though he seems to be getting annoyed at the tv/lights and seems to want a dark room from 7/8 onwards.

Glad to hear that Cody is ok @HJWT. Hopefully dd will be back on top form just in time for Christmas!

We don’t really have much of a routine yet @BellaBellaBelle. Ds2 mostly does well overnight, with only a couple of quick feeds. So far I’m going up with him quite late. I think he could do with going a bit earlier. But he takes ages to settle we aren’t comfortable leaving him alone yet. I don’t want to spend all evening upstairs with him as I need to spend time with dh & the teenager. I’m kind of hoping we’ll fall into a routine sometime after Christmas.
He seems to like a lie in, so I’m making the most of enjoying that while dh is off work & can get up with ds1.

@cattaxi that’s how I feel at the moment too! Don’t want to leave him upstairs just yet, but I have spent a couple of nights upstairs. Thing is he won’t let me put him down before 9pm anyway so I don’t think there’s any point trying to force a routine at the moment.

Ds sleeps pretty much attached to my boob @BellaBellaBelle! So I know I’m going to be in trouble when he wants to go to bed earlier. I’m not going to Try not think about until next year!

Oh dear! Pressed post to soon. That should read

• I’m going to try not to think about it until next year!

We keep Orson with us until I go to bed around 10. We do a bath time routine earlier on though and hopefully start a proper routine in the new year as most people find it useless before 3 months.
He still wakes 2-3 times overnight and his best stretch is usually from 11pm and that can be 4-5hrs if we are lucky. I'm just thankful it's better than dd who was a nightmare.
We did a party for dd yesterday which was for 8 friends and was manic. Baking and decorating cookies.
She's 6 on Xmas eve so it feels very busy. I'm looking forward to heading south between Xmas and NY to see my family which means a bit of a break as dh struggles to get him to sleep, obvs can't feed him either so 90% is me. My mum and sister will rush to help settle him and will be able to (I think dh just hasn't found the knack yet and it took him a while with dd too)

Anyone else's baby drop a percentile?
Ds has been tracking the 75th consistently, putting on around 1lb every 2 weeks. On Wed last week I got him weighed as he'd had his tongue snip and in 3 weeks he'd only put on 7oz and has dropped to just below the 50th. I have to go back after new year to check he's not dropping to the next percentile, but I'm feeling stressed.
He's been grumpy today and was due a feed at 6pm (3hrs since last feed) and he's just cried and cried, refused both breasts and I've ended up rocking him to sleep. I can't have him skipping a feed, what if he drops again, is there something wrong with him. I'm so worried about it, its making me really upset and scared.

I only took him because of the snip as he seemed to be getting bigger, more alert, babbling etc so no signs I saw of anything wrong.
Really not what I need over Xmas!

This happened to us with ds1 @Frizzy1986. he stopped gaining as quickly around 3 months. It levelled out after a few weeks & he pretty much tracked the same centile from then on. I remember being really stressed about it. He is naturally skinny I think - eats like a horse, but has the smallest waist! He also got really alert and nosey around this age, which affected his feeding on busy days.

Do you know what charts they are using - my hv at the time said their ones were out of date. Here is a link explaining
kellymom.com/health/growth/growthcharts/
Try not to worry. It’s good that they are keeping an eye. If ds is generally happy, alert & meeting milestones, I’m sure you don’t have anything to worry about.

Happy birthday To your dd tomorrow 🙂

@Frizzy1986 Happy Birthday to your DD hope she has a great day 🎉

Merry Christmas everyone hope you all have a great day tomorrow 😁

Hope everyone Is having a lovely Christmas, and especially all the new mummies with their first babies! Xx

Merry Christmas everyone! I hope you’ve all been enjoying some family time. I’ve definitely enjoyed having some hands free time, with lots of volunteers to entertain my dd and cuddle baby ds! I really feel as though ds is well out of the newborn stage now, which makes me sad as I won’t be having any more babies. Will have to wait for some nieces and nephews .

Merry Christmas everyone! I hope all the babies have enjoyed their first festive season 🎄

Quick question how often is everyone's health visitor visiting or calling? I've not seen mine since 19th of November and she last called to check in on the 26th of November. Little man hasn't been weighed since then so am not sure if his weight is progressing well or not.

@sc0508 our has been coming quite regularly. Every week to start, then every 2 weeks since the beginning of December. We are in wales and they follow the “healthy child wales” program, which I think is more frequent than England.
That’s a long tome to go without weighing. Do they have a drop in clinic or something? I would definitely get in touch with them to ask how you get him weighed.

Happy new year everybody!

@cattaxi my doctor surgery stopped the drop in clinic now it is just home visits and that's all. I am in Scotland but definitely don't think it should be that long in between visits. Whenever I call I never get a reply and they are only in their office on a Tuesday not that they answer when there. We got him weighed at his hospital appointment but that was at the beginning of December. It's just very frustrating not knowing how he is doing to me he seems like he's on the right path but how can I know if he's not getting visits 🙁

That’s so frustrating @SC0508
Can you contact PALS or similar if they are not responding?
I think my hv goes to the breastfeeding group to offer weighing for the older ones. Might be worth checking if you have anything like that locally?

I’m assuming you are not worried about him, but it’s still good to know that they are doing ok at this age. Weight gain is a good indicator of their health.
I hope you get sorted.

Ds2 is a bit grumpy today & not quite himself. My throat feels scratchy. I really hope he’s not coming down with something. We have second jabs in a week, so there is barely time to recover. And we have a houseful tomorrow night! Seemed like a Good idea at the time!

Happy New Year everyone.
We don't have HV visits after 8 weeks so have to go to a weekly drop in clinic if we want weighing.
We went for our check yesterday after him dropping to the 50th percentile and he's dropped again to just over the 25th.
No one has any idea why as he is feeding every 3 hours for around 10-15mins except overnight when we get an initial stretch of 4-5hrs and then every 3.
The clinic told me to get a gp check which we managed to have yesterday as they clearly thought it was a priority, I'm expecting a call from my HV and need to go to the bf support group on Friday for them to observe a feed.
The doc suggested bottle feeding expressed milk once or twice a day and topping up with formula to get his weight back on track.
I'm feeling really deflated and very upset, like I'm failing. I wanted to avoid formula and bottles as what if he doesn't want to bf anymore.
It's frustrating, as he seems to be doing well. Smiling, babbling, reaching for things with his hands. No one can tell me why he's not putting on as much weight as they'd expect as he is feeding often, having wet and dirty nappies.

We've got an electric pump and some bottles and milk storage bags due so I can try and keep him on breastmilk and hopefully transition back to only breast (no bottled expressed milk) after he's gained some more weight.

That sounds really tough @Frizzy1986. I hope you get sorted.
I know it’s easy for me to say, but if he’s happy in himself, gaining some weight & having plenty of wet / dirty nappies, I wouldn’t worry too much. Those centile lines are not the only indicator of a child’s Heath & progress.

It's been another emotional weekend. Ds has had some lovely moments but a lot where he has been inconsolable.
I think when he is tired, agitated or gassy his latch goes out the window. His cheeks dimple as he sucks and he'll come on and off.
Hopefully the bf support cafe in Friday will be able to help.
I thought we had it sorted, but it's been tough since he had his tongue tie snipped in hindsight. I worry we made the wrong choice as he was doing well before it, but we worried about future impact of the tongue tie.
I've cried a lot over the past few days. Feel completely inadequate as a mother to both kids as I can't seem to make things better for ds, but then haven't had much time for dd.
I feel like a failure, I feel stressed about the weight issues, I'm having to express which takes time with pumping and sterilising (just for one feed a day) and am beside myself that my bf journey is going to end as I really don't want it to.

@Frizzy1986 so sorry you are feeling like this, If your little one is happy, and you feel he is ok I wouldn’t worry too much about the weight centiles. I personally have never really bothered with going to get them weighed very often just once every few months , I don’t think it helps unless you are concerned. If nappy output is good and baby is generally happy and meeting milestones etc then there’s nothing usually to worry about. I hope you feel better soon, and it doesn’t have to be the end of bf at all. Sending lots of hugs x