August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

[IVEgottheDECAF]

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

[Stroan]

I don't think there is ever a perfect age gap really. I'd have preferred a smaller one but lost my job after having DD so had to find a new one first! My sister has a 16m gap between hers and doesn't leave the house as they are a bit wild.

I really felt the second pregnancy at 35, felt so much older. I couldn't do it again for lots of reasons, but I'm sure it's all relative. There will be some mums at 40 who find pregnancy easier than mums in their 20's.

[yevans]

My mum had me at 38 (a nice surprise she called me, 15 years between me and my eldest sibling) and she always said it kept her young as she was always friendly with younger mum's and families!

[IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH]

Opposite to yevans my mum had me at 22 and my sister at 36. She says she found it a lot harder being older!

[KnobJockey]

I have a big age gap (15 years) and pregnancy was so much harder than at 18, but so far baby minding is muc easier- you're a lot less aware of what you're missing at this age!

However, my mum had a big spread of ages- 5 kids in 18 years, with an 8 year gap before the last, and by the time the youngest hit teenagehood she was done. He ended up going off the rails (had 2 babies himself by 16), and she just buried her head in the sand as she'd spent all of her adult life concentrating on kids, couldn't take it anymore. He's coming out the other side now at 22! But I'm very aware of how it can slowly drain the life from you, and trying to be as present as I can- I think having time to yourself is probably key.

[Stroan]

My Mum had me at 17, I was at university by he time she was 35. I'm now 35 with a newborn! She's got 4 grandchildren now and is always surprised that they tire her out!

(I can call him my newborn until about his 1st birthday, right?)

[IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH]

Gosh 2 babies at 16!

BabyDECAF has just had a massive screaming session. Very out of character

[Dyra]

I can only go my siblings and I.

There's 26 months (should have been 27 or 28) between DSis and me. We got on ok as kids. Teenage years she barely acknowledged me or the rest of our siblings. Got on much better once she got into her late 20s.

DSis1 and DBro1 have 21 months between them. He and I get on great we have very similar personalities. DSis1 and DBro1 aren't close at all. Don't argue or fight, they're just two very different people.

DBro1 and DBro2 have 33 months between them. They had a best friend worst enemy thing going as kids. They get on better now as adults. DSis1 and DBro2 have very similar personalities, so probably get on best.

Finally DBro2 and DSis2 have 7 years and 1 month between them. She's the baby. Everybody loves her. Both DBros tease her mercilessly, as older brothers do. She's probably closest to DBro1 though since both live at home still.

Another in the 33 club. Back is more like to fail than my knees. But doing ok with both. Worst joints are my wrists. I have the fancy term de Quervain's tenosynovitis (aka Mother's thumb) in both hands apparently.

[Littlehouseinthebigcity]

I'm 28 but have an injury to my leg leaving me with mobility issues so chasing round after children was going to be hard at any age. I have a 2 year age gap. I was initially aiming for a smaller gap (mc last October) but think that would've been really rough, my DD just about has enough level of understanding to be a bit more gentle with DD2.

[Horehound]

Yes my back is also failing...I'm falling apart.

Got in law's visiting this weekend, they should be arriving shortly. I've also got my parents dog for two weeks as if today and she's pretty dead and blind. She's already managed to escape the garden. Wish me luck..I've not even managed to shower yet argh

[Horehound]

Deaf* eek

[Littlehouseinthebigcity]

😂 Was wondering how a pretty dead dog managed to escape to the garden 🙈

[DustyDoorframes]

I've got exactly 3 and 1/4 years between each of mine, and I like the age gap. I'm 39 now, don't think I fancy a 4th at 42!
This pregnancy was hardest, but the baby days seem pretty similar, physically.
I'd have liked to start younger, but it never seemed quite the moment. And I bet I'd have kept going and had 8 if I'd started young!

[IVEgotthetinselBITCHES]

I have a 16m gap, then 3 years 11 month, then 3 years 6 months, then 2 years 11 months

I like how close 1&2 are. Theyre like a package deal

[NotwhereIshouldbe]

@PhoebeBear Can you ask to be referred to women’s health physio? They will be much more knowledgeable and should be to help?

I have always had in my mind two but not sure my marriage will survive another baby as LO has proven to be high needs and DH has found it very hard.

[Horehound]

I've noticed Arthur has a red penis tip..do you think this is something I should go to Dr about? Health visitor is coming Tuesday and he doesn't seem in pain or struggling to pee.
I also noticed recently he has what seem to be erections which last less than 30 seconds. Is this also normal?!

[IVEgotthetinselBITCHES]

Yes horehound little boys willies do all sorts! Re the red bit i would dab a little cream on and see if it clears up.

One of mine once had an infection but it was very obvious. (Red, swollen so much it looked like it may burst, and some discharge)

[Geegrl19]

I'm on number 3 at 44. Eldest is 15 and middle dd is 11 (some days they hate each other, others they're best friends). I Felt good in pregnancy, but I was super fit before (no exercise happening now tho!) not feeling it too bad, same as the other two. Ask me in a few years tho!

@PhoebeBear Sorry to hear you're in such discomfort. Go back to the gp and be super insistent. You shouldn't have to be suffering like that you poor thing. I've had two forceps deliveries now. I didn't realise the risks with it until reading up during this pregnancy and so was a bit worried when they said it was forceps again. Recovered fine from the first but this one took quite a bit longer. Maybe my old age?! TMI but this time it felt like I was constantly passing wind after, like it had wrecked my bum muscles and if I needed to poop it was urgent. Carried on a few weeks but has eased now thank goodness. Not sure I'm ever jumping on a Trampoline again though and not sure when I'll be back running. Please persist in your request for treatment. You deserve to be completely healed.

[kyles101]

@Horehound we have all sorts going on with ds penis too. A little cream cleared up the redness we had. He has also discovered it so gives it a yank when he has a bath 🙄

There is 1 week shy of a year between by younger sister and brother. I know DSis felt left out a bit, and is a bit middle-childey. My mum literally had 2 under 1! I had to help out a lot, especially as she has some mh issues too. It's part of the reason it took me a long time to decide whether I wanted children of my own, part of me felt I'd already raised 2!

[Dyra]

Oh I forgot the smallest gap I know! My Nan had twins two weeks before my Mum's first birthday. So technically she had 3 under 1!

She doesn't remember a lot from those days.

[DustyDoorframes]

@Dyra that happened to a friend of mine- she had married money so could afford staff, but she struggled to even get nannies to take them on, people kept turning down the job!

[happydays00]

Completely co-incidentally I have the exact same age gap between my two as I do between my brother and I (2 years 9 months). We fought terribly until we were about 15 and 17 and then got on really well and generally had the same friendship group. I really hope mine get on better as kids though 😬

[iano]

Has anyone else's baby put on a lot of weight since birth?
My first was always on 91st centile until he started walking so I'm used to big babies, but I am still a tad worried as DS2 isn't tracking. He was born just under 50th centile. He's now shot it to 91st centile. Do I need to worry about this. He's breastfeeding exclusively and doesn't feed for very long or particularly often imo...

[kyles101]

@iano I had the opposite problem in that ds slipped from 25th to 2nd so I'm now combi and he's visibly put on quite a or of weight over the last week. As your last was big maybe babe was a little "underweight" by what he is meant to be, and has now moved up to his proper centile if that makes sense? Tbh I think they're all just a guide - and remember it's all in the healthy range. Where is ds on the length chart? Have you asked your hv what they think? I wouldn't worry too much personally.

[Fortheloveofscience]

@iano my DD was born on 25th percentile and is now 75th. She came out very long and thin so I’m not totally surprised that the weight’s piled on. The HV have all just said what a great job I’ve been doing EBF and that it’s a good thing so I really wouldn’t worry.