June '07 - I'd walk a million miles for one of your smiles

[daisyandbabybootoo]

Gawd I know. I'm so relieved I'm not such a psycho as I was with DD1 - felt sick putting her down at night in case she died in her sleep, wouldn't let anyone else hold her etc. Still check she hasn't died before I go to bed every night !!

Hi Bumper - coping but only just. is exhausting being on call 24/7. My mum came over today to take DD out & give me a break but it was pissing down all day so we kept each other company whilst DD screamed &refused to sleep.

She is now dozing in her sling a la DKMA but I can't really scrub the loo & wash the floor like this. How did you make the transition from napping in the sling to going down properly?

Evening!

My dp was away all of last week and tbh it was easier when he was away! It's not as if he does anything when he's here, it's like having another child to tidy up after and cook for!

Don't worry about the loo tallulah! Just squirt a bit of bleach down it, it'll be fine!

Oh and wash the floor with your feet! Just chuck a cloth on the floor and move it around with your foot, it works a treat and can be done whilst carrying small screaming children!

Love the tips Holly - Good Housekeeping by frazzled mums.

Ahhh
The 'Baked ratatouie (sp?) with cous cous and olives' will be ready in 15 mins!
This is the first of my low GI dinners and I'm excited that I regaining control over my big fat self!

Tallula - I bunged him in the sling at nap times for a few days and then one day he was in his bouncy chair getting grizzly (not crying tho) and I thought it was about 11 o'clock so didn't put him in his sling (as he was due a nap at 12 till 2 ish) I just threw a blanket over him and turned the vibrate off - and he fell asleep. I couldn't believe it!? I was thinking 'oh no it's too early' but checked the clock and bugger me it was only 12.02!!! He was running like clockwork!! We've not looked back since! So when it's getting close to nap time - wherever he is I just try to keep the stimulation to a minimum - ram a dummy in his mouth - make sure he's warm and cosy and bob's your uncle he sleeps!!
It's great! But for the first 4 weeks of his life he would not be put down at all - I was besides myself! He just wanted to feed and be held all day long - the sling and the dummy were my saviours!!

Right will try that starting tomorrow.Thanks. No dummy tho she just spits it right back at me!

Just plonked DD down on her playmat after a feed. She was screaming as per & then all went quiet. Thought she was suitably stimulated by baby einstein but no she is glued to Dance x. Only wish i had videotape ready so could replay it every time she grizzles.

DS used to LOVE bathtime, but last week when I was putting him in the bath he slipped, he didn't hit anything as I caught him but now he is PETRIFIED of the bath and screams until he gets out
I have tried going back to topping and tailing, getting in with him, all sorts, but still he screams

Any ideas on how to get the trust back?

Tallula - I tried the whole Gina Ford thing to start with but my LO really did not like being put down - or spending any time on his own - he would cry himself into a frenzy (a very strong minded baby).
Someone pointed me in the direction of this I read through the bit about sleeping, and the stuff about fussy babies - it seemed to make sense but it the total opposite to Gina Ford.
I gave it a go for about a week and I now seem to have a baby who cries less and is happy to entertain himself for short spells which means I can actually get in the shower without him having a tity fit!
It works on the principle that if you go to your baby straight away when they cry or or unhappy - then that baby develops more confidence in you and the world in general (who knows?), and in turn is eventually happy to spend time on their own as they know if they need you - you will come straight away (so they are less stressed and worried about being on their own).
I don't know if he became easier because I was doing this - or he just grew out of it? Who knows - but might be worth a try?

TA
Ah bless
Don't know what to advise
You wouldn't think they had such strong memories would you?

Maybe you could take him in the bath with you when he's got a tummy ache TA. The warm water will help his tummy pain and maybe make him relise baths are cool!

Lol Tallulah, i hope you can get some taped for future screaming fits. My DS loved the Countdown music and would stop mid scream if he heard it!

FWIW, I was on my own with DS until he was three...and as foxy said ages ago, you do get into a groove. I found it quite difficult to adapt to being a family of three when DH and I finally got married. Are your folks close by? My sis was only 10 mins away by car and she was a great source of support for me. she came over and soirted me out one night when DS was about 5 wks as I'd got myself in a right pickle with the housewrk (10 jobs started, but none complete so the house looked like a whirlwind had hit) and DS was at the height of his feeding problems.

Been shopping for my new DNs today and will get to see them tomorrow

Can't remember who asked...I did try Gina, but a more relaxed version, starting when DD was 7 weeks, but it got scuttled when we went on holiday. she's kind of found her own wee groove now though and is sleeping from 9ish to 6-7 next morning. she sleeps quite a bit in the day as well and i was a bit worried that she wasn't getting enough to eat and was sleeping to conserve energy, but she is bright and alert and awake for 2-3 hours at a time now and has lots of wet nappies (no pooey one since Wednesday though????) she is such a happy and relaxed baby though, and seldom cries, even when she is really hungry.
She is quite a happy and content wee thing though, although that may change when she realises her entire wardrobe will soon consist of tie dyed garments

TA - My DD hated the bath too - I got her one of the reclining bath supports which they lie on in the water, and she seemed much happier - maybe because she was lying on something solid rather than being held in one hand? Might be worth a try. I have one from John Lewis which is fabric on a metal frame but I have also seen solid plastic ones.

The other thing someone said to me last time was that babies don't need bathing as often as we tend to do it, so maybe you could just do it once a week for a while and strip wash him with a flannel in between. Good luck

TA...i crossed posts. sorry he hates the bath after his wee slip. Can you try just dipping his toes in and getting him used to the water again gradually? He will forget soon.....I poured water into DDs mouth and she screamed for every bath for about three weeks, but now she can hold herself up a abit better she is enjoying them more. I only bath her twice a week as well (sometimes less if there is no baby cheese under her chin)

Re nappies. I've got lots of size 1 nappies that I bought second hand, so I'm going to wait and get size 2s when she is a bit bigger. Try the nappy lady website or bumfluff nappies. i got my trial pack from bumfluff and bought my second hand ones from the Nappy Lady classifieds. Both sites have a classified section. It'll give you an idea of what to get for them as well.

All the recent talk of dieting and eating plans on here has inspired me to try and do something about my lardy arse too - can anyone recommend an online eating plan or similar which doesn't leave you starving hungry?

Re - diets
I do this one
I think it's very good - you can choose which diet is right for you (I like low GI cos I don't feel hungry at all when I do it), you can change your meal choices if you want (from a list), it gives you a shopping list (in sections like dairy, tinned, meat so it's idiot proof in the supermarket) and it does a weekly weigh in (and it plots it all on a graph!)

ooh I'm a right smarty pants tonight aren't I!!
Anyone would think I was perfect - LOL

Aww TA, bless, poor thing. Don't know what to suggest either

Daisy, you DD sounds perfect. DD doesn't cry very much either, but unlike yours she gets pretty cranky as soon as she realises she is hungry (like her mummy!).

She had her jabs on weds, any chance she could still be feeling the effects? I say she doesn't cry very much but she has been quite whingy and clingy since then.

Can I ask a stupid question too, I know some of you have your DCs in their own room, but for those who don't do you worry about putting them to sleep in another room and them waking up on their own? Especially in a strange house? Just wondering as DD sleeps in the living room till we go to bed and during the day. Yesterday we were at a party and was going to put her to sleep upstairs but couldn't bear the thought of her waking up in a strange place on her own. Am I being PFB?!

IKWYM Bumper
I am totally paranoid - thats why I've got the CCTV - so I can see his little face!

hello

Hey foxy!

DKMA, I'm sorely tempted by that diet plan - is it worth the money? Do you find it easy? Are the shopping lists ok? I'm torn between wanting to be skinny and my extreme hatred for tescos!

hello foxy!

i've joined the WW thread - starting again tomorrow!

how are you all this fine evening?

Hey Foxy

Bumper - The meals are really easy and quick (I am totally crap at cooking and can do them) and they are tasty!
The shopping list thingy is great and I find it saves me a lot of time trolling through ingredients and doing lists.
I don't actually get my food from Tescos - I get most of it from our local farm shop and the rest from the supermarket if I need to.
I think it is worth the money for me

Bumper, iirc, I was quite happy to put DS to sleep anywhere, but I'd been around my sis's babies a lot. They're pretty resilient wee things and I don't think they even notice they are in a strange place as they usually wake up somewhere different every time anyway. Maybe a little bit PFB, but hey, you're entitled, she is after all, your PFB

I'm going to do Slimming World. I've done it before and lost nearly a stone, but I got PG and stopped it. It's good for letting you fill up with unlimited rice and pasta on a green day...great for big appetites like mine!

Right off to enjoy the silence of two LOs tucked up since 8:30 and then my own bed again (I've been on the sofa since Tuesday)