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February 2019 babies - thread 2

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Celebelly · 12/04/2019 11:47

New thread, ladies!

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bubblybrit · 19/04/2019 20:20

@lanalawr. Do you continue to cuddle ds to ensure he sleeps? I just can’t get anything done during the day as stuck on the sofa cuddling her to make sure she has a nap! If I put her down she wakes up straight away. It’s really putting me off trying to settle her in her crib as it’s hard work to get her to nap in the first place. Going to a sling ‘class’ next week to see if that helps!

Lookingforadvice123 · 19/04/2019 20:53

Really need to work harder on getting DS2 to nap in the evening as he's basically been awake since 4pm today with maybe 10 mins nap and he's beside himself with overtiredness at bedtime now Sad and then falls asleep during his bottle all the time. I have no idea how though, he's ok ish to get to sleep during the day but in the evening nothing normal eg napping, walk in pram seems to work. Might try the baby carrier tomorrow night...

AmberRose17 · 19/04/2019 22:00

@bubblybrit I think it’s totally normal for babies to not want to be put down for naps during the day (or at least has been for both my boys). My eldest would only nap in a sling or buggy for seven months. I gradually coaxed him into napping in the cot by transferring him from the sling. He was a great napper after that. This time around I’m not really even trying that hard. Baby O likes a big nap in the morning in the sling so I just plan my morning around that. Ask to try a Mamaruga Zensling if you can. It’s like a cuddle for the babies! Stretchy wrap also great but they’re probably getting a bit big now.

mummymummymummummum · 20/04/2019 06:57

@bubblybrit I can rarely get A down during the day. Naps are preferably on me! Or pram, car seat or sling. At night she settles just fine in her crib.

lanalawr · 20/04/2019 07:50

@bubblybrit yes he stays on me until he wakes or I need to do something for toddler that I can't do one handed. If I really need to get jobs done then I put him in the sling or take him for a walk in the pram first but most jobs just wait. I'm lucky in that dh will do them or he can have ds while I run round like a nutter getting all the jobs done at night. I tend to do things like sorting laundry, ironing, washing up while I'm expressing in the evening (I can be pretty productive with a milk machine dangling from me).

babyp160 · 20/04/2019 09:50

I was thinking the same yesterday as he is sooooo grumpy come 5pm if he hasn't had a nap, esp if we are out in the day he doesn't sleep like he is going to miss out on something 🙈 xx

Lookingforadvice123 · 20/04/2019 10:07

I need someone to knock some sense into me as I'm getting a bit demotivated with DS2's sleep. He's been good at going down in his crib from early on and since we introduced a bedtime/nighttime bottle of formula at 2-3 weeks old he's only been having one night feed between 10pm and 5-6am, so I know I shouldn't complain.

But he's still sleeping for exactly the same amount of time, 4-4.5 hours generally. When he was 3 weeks and we first introduced the bedtime bottle, he did 3 or 4 nights of 5-5.5 hours which was amazing. And then last week by fluke he did one stint of 6 hours. But that's it, every other single night is 4-4.5 hours, we can set our watches by it.

I know it's fine, he's only 8 weeks tomorrow so I really shouldn't complain. And I'm trying not to compare him to DS1 who was a great sleeper early on and was sleeping 8+ hours every night by 10 weeks (and probably doing 6-7 hours every night by this age). But it's more the fact that he hasn't increased how long he sleeps at all, in 5 weeks, and has actually gone back from those amazing 5+ hour stints he did back then.

It'll get better right? He's great otherwise at night ie he seems to know it's night time so is so easy to put in his bed at bedtime, and then again after his night / first morning feed. I just keep picturing us in 2 months' time when he's say 4 months old and is still waking for one night feed (which by that point he won't actually need!). He was combi fed from 3 weeks but this last week now we've moved onto formula completely and got into a roughly 3-4 hour feeding routine in the day.

Lookingforadvice123 · 20/04/2019 10:09

When I say he sleeps for 4-4.5 hours obviously that's his first/longest stint. After his night feed he typically then sleeps for 2-3 hours max before his first morning feed.

DeliberatelyGinger · 20/04/2019 10:57

@Lookingforadvice123 you've got it made! My LO barely sleeps at night at 6 weeks old. Last night I was happy to get two blocks of two hours and that was a miracle frankly. She was fussing for hours before we could get her down; both with expressed milk and direct BF

Celebelly · 20/04/2019 11:21

Yeah I think you're actually pretty lucky! I think a lot of ladies on here would be delighted with that!

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Celebelly · 20/04/2019 11:23

Also I think being four months and waking for one night feed is still pretty normal. Have a look at the sleep forums on here - it might make you feel a bit better about things Thanks

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detachablehoof · 20/04/2019 12:19

Babies are all so different aren't they! I've realised it's a mistake to talk to my real life friends about sleep - either their babies are way better and I feel hugely envious, or they are way worse and I feel guilty that my little girl is usually pretty good 😅

Lookingforadvice123 · 20/04/2019 12:50

Ugh I know thanks ladies. I feel really positive and happy about it all day and am barely tired. But then in the middle of the night when he wakes exactly the same time every night I just think will he ever sleep longer. We were also absolutely spoilt with our eldest, I was one of those mums who felt guilty and didn't want to say how well he slept.

And sorry to those with babies who sleep less, I would want to punch me in the face for moaning Grin

Yakadee · 20/04/2019 13:25

We are amazingly lucky with ours. I really can't complain. All I will say is that these days don't last forever so fingers crossed sleeps will just get better and better for everyone xx

Since2016 · 20/04/2019 14:02

I mean I think that sounds pretty good! DD went down in her room at 9:30 last night, slept till 3:30. Then fed at 5 and 7ish maybe? I don’t really keep check as Bf so mostly half asleep. In comparison to dD1 she’s an absolute dream so no complaints here!!

bubblybrit · 20/04/2019 20:13

Thanks @AmberRose17. I’ll have a look online in advance of my class!

@mummymummymummummum. Same here. I have very little issues at night but she is a nightmare during the day and early evening! She needs to nap on me or I need to take her for a walk!

@lanalawr. My DH does a lot of the jobs around the house. I just feel guilty sitting on the sofa cuddling baby to sleep when he is flat out!

detachablehoof · 21/04/2019 14:20

We seemed to have got into a great routine of bed at 10, feed at 5 and straight back to sleep, up again at 9ish and a bottle at 10, go out somewhere and sleep in car seat til next bottle at 2ish, play for a bit and then sleep til about half five, have another bottle then usually awake most of the evening, next bottle at 20:30 and bed at 10.

However since jabs on Tuesday we're back to being all over the place and I really feel like I can't handle it any more. She's not sleeping well at all, longest stretch last night was 2.5 hours. Usually she'd sleep quite well during the day but now she seems to wake up after 20 minutes. I have never felt like this before - despite my husband looking after her this morning so I could have a sleep, I still feel really depressed, can't stop crying, and wish I'd never had her / that someone could take her away from me. I really don't want to be on my own with her again (husband off work tomorrow thankfully)

My questions are a) should I seek help for PND (only been feeling down since her jabs and only been really bad today) and B) should I try and get back into the same routine as before? Does it sound OK? Or should I see what happens and see if we find a new one? Maybe it wasn't enough feeds? And has anyone else had their baby be really unsettled after jabs but then settle back down? I realise that we were very lucky before but I don't feel like I can handle the lack of sleep any more 😭

Notquiteagandt · 21/04/2019 14:42

@detachablehoof is it the 1st lots? Men b is a bitch. My little girl cried non stop and didnt sleep for a week afterwards. Its horrible. I took her the drs as I was convinced there must be something wrong with her. But nope just reacting to her jabs. Thr jabs also seem to coinside with leaps just to make things extra hard. Do you use the wonder week app? Its great in understanding whats going on developmentally.

My little girl after an unsettled week went back to normal. So be reassured it will pass.

Dont be so hard on your self. Sleep deprevation can break even the strongest. Its why they use it as a touture method Flowers

detachablehoof · 21/04/2019 17:12

@Notquiteagandt yes it was first jabs. Comforting to know maybe that's why she's off schedule. I've downloaded the wonder weeks app and am trying to get my head around it! Thanks so much for your encouraging message. Means a lot!

detachablehoof · 21/04/2019 17:13

We've decided to take the step of putting her in her own room tonight. Not sure whether it will just be extra stress and make things worse. We've been wanting to do it for a couple of weeks though and hopefully it will mean that I can sleep when she's asleep - better quality if not better quantity? We shall see!

maxiflump1 · 21/04/2019 17:29

Aw @detachablehoof sorry you are having such a rubbish day. My little one was awful sleep wise for about 4 days after his jabs. We actually find that once he got over it his sleep was actually much better and he now goes down in the evening between 8 and 9 which is lovely as DH and I can have some sort of evening together.

The thing with babies is just when you think you've got it nailed in terms of routine they then totally change!!

Please don't be so hard on yourself. Sleep deprivation is a bitch! Rest up whilst you can and hopefully things will settle for you ThanksThanks

detachablehoof · 21/04/2019 17:42

@maxiflump1 thanks so much. Maybe my little girl will also start sleeping better this week then 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
You're dead right about routines and them changing just when you think you've got it nailed!

Notquiteagandt · 21/04/2019 18:14

Is anyone elses baby struggling with this heat?

Shes just cried or drank and been on the boob all day. Not let me put her down. Generally been hot bothered and all out of sorts.

Have got room as cool as I can. We have just started bedtime routine. Albeit a little early but her reflux has been playing up so epic vomit meant a slightly earlier bath.

But she is looking at me like erm its still so sunny out who are you kidding? Even black out curtains arent cutting it with this sun.

Cuddled up reading the stories from her easter basket still aiming for asleep in bed by 8 at latest. 💤😴💤

Ive put her in a long sleeved vest and a 0.5tog sleeping bag last few nights. Whats everyone else been wearing?

Celebelly · 21/04/2019 18:18

I've had fan on, windows closed all day with blackout blinds, and it's still almost 23 degrees in our room. She's napping at the moment in short sleeve vest and one tog sleeping bag and seems comfortable enough. She's been quite thirsty and drunk more than usual too. I actually gave her some EBM straight from fridge without warming after our walk today and she guzzled it down.

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bubblybrit · 21/04/2019 19:32

Yes to struggling with the heat. Anna has literally not stopped crying since 9am this morning. I took her out for some fresh air in the shade (only 1 hour) which she enjoyed as dozed off. The minute we came back inside she screamed blue murder. I’ve literally got her in a short sleeved vest and nothing else. She has been fussy with feeding as gets into such a state that she refuses the bottle!

She also refuses to sleep today. Had 20 min nap earlier but nothing since!

Only thing soothing her right now is her dummy. I’m cuddling and rocking her and desperately trying to help her fall asleep but she is wide awake!