Jan '07 part 13: Unlucky for some - especially Jodie's kids who're being dragged off to feed the f...

[2Happy]

Sorry, Jodie

Oh no Jodie Poor Ethan. Fingers crossed for the little chap.

Wilkie we have exactly the same thing with F waking at night for his dummy. Luckily its not that frequent usually, although he always wakes 1 or 2 times in the 1st hour after he goes to sleep. I can't even imagine how we'd get rid of it though! I just don't think he'd ever go to sleep!!

We seem to have started doing a feed really early in the morning now for some reason, which is kind of annoyig me beacuse he was sleeping through fom 7:30 til 7 for ages. But the last week he's been waking about 5ish really hungry. Luckily he does (usually) go straight back to sleep afterwards, but i'm not liking having to get up at 5 every morning! I thought once they were having 3 "meals" a day they were supposed to drink less milk????

Hope your feeling alright today Wilkie. I was feeling really down a little while ago, but the worst of it seems to have past now. Did quite a few "i feel shit and i don't really know why" posts on here and then never sent them cos i didn't feel like i could explain myself. I just kept thinking that it would pass.... and it did! I think it was because I have NO time to myself. I suddenly realized the other day when i popped out to tesco when dp was with F that I NEVER go anywhere without him (even if i'm with other people as well, i still always have F with me IYSWIM). It was the strangest feeling being on my own. And quite liberating!! So i'm going to try and make an effort to do a few things on my own when dp is off work.

RGee - I'm back at work in 3 annd a half weeks, eek! Not looking forward at all. Hope your lunch went well and the g&t's were good!...oh ok, you posted again to say the meal was good! Darn notebook!
Lal - good luck for next week. Are you still doing the spinnig? I've found a place that does it on a weds night, thinking if giving it a go. In case I don't get computer on, happy birthday A for friday, 3 years old wow! Hope the sun shines and cbeebies shows the card
PCF - awwww, well done Max, that's fantastic!
DH - hope L feeling better
vino - how'd the nursery session go?
Wilkie - go J!!! [impressed]. Sorry you're feeling low, though. I'm sure i've mentioned it on this thread before (god I'm dull and my memory's getting worse!) but dsis swears by agnus castus for PMT.
eah - never heard of the candle thing, glad it's eased the pain tho....dammit now read your seconbd post and it didn't, bugger, hope you got into docs
loopy - the zoo was great, it's lovely when they're old enough to get excited over days out
MrsC - did you get an autograph from Pete
UD - congrats on the gnashers!

Jodie - hoping everything's ok, and dh made it to the hospital ok,

Yes, 2happy, we did actually on a little postcard..

Jodie- fingers crosses for you, let us know how you go

fingers crossed.

Shimmer - I guess it will just pass eventually. It's not as bad as it has been in the past I just keep getting waves of depression. Not nice. There's nothing I can put my finger on so think it is just me. I mentioned to DH that he could have J for a couple of hours on Fri when he is off so I can have some time to myself and he didn't actually look that thrilled which really pissed me off. I think men forget sometimes how hard it is being a full time mother. Work is less stressful that looking after a baby 24/7!!!!!

DH is also working really long hours i.e. out at 7.30 not back till 8.30 which makes for a very long day doing everything myself.

God - listen to me whining. Sorry

Off now I've depressed you all...

How to Shower Like a Woman.*

Take off clothes and place them sectioned in laundry basket according to lights and darks.

Walk to bathroom wearing long dressing gown. If you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas.

Look at your womanly physique in the mirror - make mental note to do more sit-ups/leg-lifts, etc.

Get in the shower.

Use face cloth, arm cloth, leg cloth, long loofah, wide loofah and pumice stone.

Wash your hair once with cucumber and sage shampoo with 43 added vitamins.

Wash your hair again to make sure it's clean.

Condition your hair.

Wash your face with crushed apricot facial scrub for 10 minutes until red.

Wash entire rest of body with ginger nut and jaffa cake body wash.

Rinse conditioner off hair.

Shave armpits and legs.

Turn off shower.

Squeegee off all wet surfaces in shower.

Spray mold spots with Tile cleaner.

Get out of shower.

Dry with towel the size of a small country.

Wrap hair in super absorbent towel.

Return to bedroom wearing long dressing gown and the hand towel on head.

If you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas.

How to Shower Like a Man

Take off clothes while sitting on the edge of the bed and leave them in a pile on the floor. Walk naked to the bathroom.

If you see wife along the way, shake Willy at her making the 'woo-woo' sound. Look at your manly physique in the mirror.

Admire the size of your Willy and scratch your bum.

Get in the shower. Wash your face.

Wash your armpits. Blow your nose in your hands and let the water rinse it off.

Fart and laugh at how loud it sounds in the shower.

Spend majority of time washing privates and surrounding area.

Wash your bum, leaving those coarse bum hairs stuck on the soap.

Wash your hair.

Make a Shampoo Mohawk.

Wee.

Rinse off and get out of shower.

Partially dry off.

Fail to notice water on floor because curtain was hanging out of bath the whole time.

Admire Willy size in mirror again.

Leave shower curtain open, wet mat on floor, light and! fan on.

Return to bedroom with towel around waist.
If you pass wife, pull off towel, shake Willy at her and make the 'woo-woo' sound again.

Throw wet towel on bed.

OMG - i shower like a man (except for the willy woo woo bits!)

not depressed me, I know how it feels doing it all yourself, Dh used to only come home a Wednesday night. It's very hard. When are you starting back, Wilkie?

I only ever have a bath! No pressure shower, just dribbles annoyingly.

jodie - oh no i hope everything is ok, thinking of you

wilkie - your last post made me giggle, might have to show dh that

well we emailed the questions we are going to ask the hen in our mr and mrs quiz to her fella and he has only answered a handful so we're a bit stuck with that now, grrrr! can't understand it he hasn't even answered questions about when they met and he fell for her and what he likes best about her and what he is looking forward to after they are married....managed to get his fav crisp flavour though so that'll entertain us all for at least 2 seconds!!

does anyone elses lo cry as soon as a stranger speaks to them, brandon is fine with everyone he meets in the house, eg friends and family that visit but as soon as someone speaks to him when we are out he stares for a min and then starts screaming and i start babbling and make up some excuse about him teething to spare the persons feelings

loopy - Z cries at my FIL, he has a very boomy voice as he is quite deaf and it really startles Z!! also, he can get a bit distressed if we're away from home too long. he struggles to sleep in unfamiliar places and then gets overtired and grumpy!

wilkie - I have been feeling v ill cos of mishaps with my ad's, gave myself an unplanned 'cold turkey' and felt like death warmed up for a few days. Am able to eat again now!
My DH had E on his own from Fri aft-Sun lunchtime and enjoyed it, although said to me that he now realises how hard it is to get things done and feed her let alone entertain her, plus how hard work it can be to feed her sometimes. He is also working long hours, crap isn't it. He leaves at 6.30/7 and isn't back til 7/8ish. Last night he brought work home too and was still at it when I went to bed.

2happy - nursery visit was ok, just a chat. E was quite happy being cuddled by the girl there and its quite small, only a max of 9 babies at once. Found out I havr to take my own purees though. V jealous of rgee's nursery where milk, nappies, food basically everything is provided!E goes twice for an hour on her own next week and the following week twice over a meal time.

Jodie- thinking of you

Shimmer - E tends to wake for a feed 5ish, but thats good for me cos she is starting to go 8pm-5am so if I start going to bed early I might get some proper sleep. IKWYM about having 'me' time.

Loopy - am sure the mr and mrs quiz will be fun however short it might be!

I've had a letter from work today asking me to agree to them not being able to guarantee my working hours.....so have replied saying I need set hours for tues and weds cos of nursery but can do any hours on a monday when mum will look after E.

Had a lovely day as Rgee and Pippa have been over.

rgee - I forgot to give you those eggs and I had put some in a box especially for you! You'll have to have some from my dad next time.

RGee your nursery sounds fab and Vin glad the chats went well and am that you get to meet other Jan 07'ers so easily

Wilkie love that post am going to cut and paste it and forward it to my mates (dh in shower at the mo so can guarantee wet floor/sopping wet towels and shower and screen not cleaned

2Happy hows the expressing going - what do you do for a job I've forgotton

Jodie hope everythings all right been thinking of you and glad dh home

loopy enjoy your weekend and hope dh hone nice and early for you tomorrow

earace has been on and off today am going to go back to drs tomorrow as want to get a 2nd opinion also I have really been struggling with the kids/work etc later so want to have a chat its not fair on Ellie as she seems to spend her life being shouted at because I am in a foul mood

LAL how did today go?

Hattie had her 1st taste of beef today she had braised beef, carrots,mash, peas and sweede and loved it fed her then dished ours up (dh home for dinner for once) and Hattie stayed in highchair munching organix carrot/wotsit thing whilst we ate so was quite nice

Vino - your dad lays eggs??

ud - my dad keeps hens. he breeds them and shows hens and eggs too - yes there are people who meet up to show eggs!!! He is even a qualified egg judge!!

E&H - your braised beef sounds yummy. Me & Ellen are looking fwd to meeting you and Hattie in Aug

OK - so J has been screaming in his cot since 6.15pm. I am at the end of my fucking tether with him. What the hell do I do??????? Why has he started not going to sleep at bedtime?? I could cry. I am so tired and DH is STILL not home. FFS

Thanks all for the thoughts and wishes.

Ethan ended up having an x-ray and thnkfully all was fine. If it would have shown a fracture they would have done a ct but they told us that a ct scan has 500 times the radiation of an x-ray and it raises their risk of retinal cancer. We were also told that they don't know the long term effects of it, so in 10-15 years it could have side effects. So glad he didn't need one now. Ethan is ok, he has concussion so this could last for a few weeks which was a shock, didn't think it would last that long. He's hardly feeding, sleeping more and being sick but unless he has convulsions or starts losing awareness then it's normal. My boobs are so sore and full! I'm going to have to try to keep my supply up as they said he should go back to normal feeding afterwards.

Wilkie - is he teething? Growth spurt? It's usually something like that when they change habits, or coming down with something? Sometimes Ethan does this and we just let him play until he's tired, better than crying for hours. Maybe you've tried this already though so I'm not assuming. he wasn't asleep until 11 last night and gone 9 the night before. It's not often he's in bed early. If he's not going to sleep though and he's happy when you get him up I'd just go with it. Hope you're ok.

Jodie - glad to hear Ethan's ok and didn't need a ct, but about the concussion. can you express to keep your supply up? i know it's a PIA, but worth it to make sure he has something when he's better!! (sorry, not being patronising, i know you know a lot about bf-ing!!)

Wilkie - it's not wind is it? i would second what Jodie said - get him up and play with him, much better than having him screaming. does he have a bath at night? sometimes if Z doesn't go down well i re-start the bedtime routine, so he has another bath, etc...might seem stupid but it works for us!

OK I eat my words. CC is an absolute crock of shit. All I have ended up with after an hour is a very hot, exceptionally upset and clingy little boy.

I've just cuddled him to sleep.

I'm really angry. I thought it was supposed to help them 'settle' themselves??

He has been sick twice and now I feel absolutely awful for trying it.

Think that is one book I can chuck in the bin

BTW Jodie - great news about Ethan!

UD - "I do that except the willy woo-woo bit"....you mean you also pee in the shower?!!

Wilkie - what an awful evening for you. IME any form of sleep training/cc/rapid return etc etc (and you remember the big boy's bed saga right? That wasn't the first time we'd had to do sleep training for ds1!) is definitely something to be attempted only when dh is in the house, the lo's crying when you're on your own is just torture. It's hard with dh around, but without it's impossible. Can dh tell work J is unsettled at the mo and you need him home early just for a week so you get help at bedtime (tho deffo agree that being on your own with lo all day is absolutely exhausting, far more than dh's will ever understand)

Oh, and Jodie so pleased no CT, but hope the concussion takes less than a week, poor kid

Oops, forgotten I'd changed my name

Wilkie - glad j is asleep for you at last. Its so hard when they cry and cry and you have no idea what its about . Hope DH gives you a big when he gets home too.

Jodie - glad it was good news for you today