September and October 2018 arrivals

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A group for those Autumn Mamas whose babies arrived in September or October 2018!

The exhaustion has well and truly set it! Had a vomiting bug on sunday evening and then my little boy had me up since 2.30am this morning. We seems to have swapped the evening crying for middle of the night awake time. Not sure which is worse.

Pretty exhausted myself today @peanut91, I had LO out for a walk with others from my pregnancy yoga class today. As I am only just able to drive again, today was my first time getting him out and about on my own (apart from walks around the area I live). Found it a bit difficult getting him out of the house on my own. After the walk we went for coffee so ended up out of the house for ages, it has really thrown our (sort of) routine all out for the day

@snowy1982
Well done for getting out and about. I promise it does get easier but I definitely find some days throw the routine out the window more than others. I try to only plan one thing to do each day whether that be meet a friend for coffee or do a babh massage class. Any more and I feel a bit overwhelmed. I also like to leave one to two days of the week for chilling at home and catching up on jobs around the house.

I am starting a baby massage class in a couple weeks, am also starting a baby cafe next week and we plan to make this walk a weekly occurrence (weather depending) so think that will be enough for me (apart from my own daily walks with him and shopping of course )

@snowy1982 Well done for getting out of the house yesterday. Such a simple action seems to take considerable effort with a LO.

I've had a tough 24 hours. On Monday my LO fell asleep for our entire visit to the zoo (four hours) and then slept again in the evening for three but then had barely slept after 10pm Monday. Tuesday was a battle as he was fighting sleep all day and screaming. I tried everything but nothing worked. Somehow he miraculously fell asleep about midnight however after feeding him at 3 he woke up again as I put him back in his Moses basket. He is now feeding again and I'm just hoping I can put him back in the basket and get another few hours sleep. I didn't even manage to eat dinner or put the rubbish out last night which they collect at 7am. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this is just a blip and we can get back to normal.

@nicle, oh dear poor you!! I am sure it will be just a blip, ther are days when my wee man fights sleep or will only sleep when being held, but it never seems to last more than a day or two

How is everyone doing?
My little one has awful trouble going and staying asleep. Seems to spend much of the day crying. Hopefully it will ease up soon. We have started getting back into exercise in the past few days too but spent most of the eating junk today. Must try a bit better tomorrow.

@twobambinos How old is your little one now? My baby boy is six weeks and I'm looking forward to some kind of routine. Last week he spent most of the day time awake and slept well at night then this weekend his sleep was all over the place followed by sleeping all day yesterday and waking at 3am and staying awake. I've been getting out for walks most days but am definitely eating too much junk food too as I'm a single mum and end up with food I can't eat with fingers or just a fork. It was good to go to my parents this weekend as they fed me and helped in the daytime. I'm also looking forward to starting baby massage on Thursday. I've just got to find a way to get there on time x

@niclew, I know what you mean about getting places on time!! Getting out of the house with the wee man is grand when we’re only going out by ourselves, but if we have an appointment or are meeting someone it always seems to be a disaster

Is anyone else finding that their LO is getting too big for a Moses basket? My baby boy is so long that he nearly fills it length ways (he was measuring 60cm on Monday). This morning when he was awake I notice that he was hitting his arms against the sides as well as there is so little room width ways too. I have a cotbed but it won't fit in my bedroom so I'm not sure what to do. I'm not happy leaving him in his own room at 8 weeks. Any ideas?

@niclw have you tried a Chicco or snuzpod side sleeping crib? They are quite pricey though and only up to 6 months?!

So I heard today from a baby sleep expert that the advice is that all naps and sleeps that baby has need to be in the same room as a parent/adult. We had settled into a good routine that works most of the time where I bath and settle LO between 6-7pm (sometimes she takes longer to sleep) and then would watch her on the baby monitor for between 1-2 hours before I went to bed as well, given her longest stretch of sleep in 24 hours seems to be this time.

Now I'm freaking out that I shouldn't have let her sleep alone for that time! The consultant I spoke to said by all means put her to bed at 7/8pm like you have been doing, but rather in the room with you even if that's the living room and you need to dim the lights etc. I can almost promise that our baby would wake up when we moved her so that doesn't work for us a sit would probably take an hour or two to settle her again 😩 just tried now to see if we could keep her downstairs with us but she's in a state so I'm currently doing the bedtime routine and with this new info, it means I'll be going to bed at 7:45 on a Saturday night 🙄 any thoughts? Or is this life for the next 6-12 months?

I am extra anxious about SIDS as baby was 5 weeks early x

@nervousFTM Thanks for your reply. I looked at the next to me cribs but was put off by the price. My parents came over today and we decided to move furniture around to enable the cotbed to fit in my room. It's blocked entrance to my bathroom but there are two doors so will just need to use the other one. My LO will be sleeping in his Moses basket inside the cotbed for a few nights to get him used to it. I discussed options with my health visitor and she said I could put him in his own room but to use a monitor with a sensor. I don't want him out of the room as I'm worried about SIDS too.
I'm not happy about settling my LO downstairs and then upstairs either so I've postponed the bedtime routine until after he has woken at 10ish. It's not ideal but it's easier for me. I hope you have decided what you want to do with your LO x

My LO looks like he will be out of the moses basket in the next month or so.

I cant justify the cost of a next to me or similar to he will be going into his own room once he has out grown the basket as we dont have room for the cotbed in our room.

We have a single bed in the nursery so either my husband or I will sleep in there with him. Not sure if we will do it all the way up to 6 months but will see how it goes.

My wee man had his vaccinations today, poor wee pet is in such bad form now, he’s only settling if he is on my chest so don’t think I’ll be getting much sleep tonight

@snowy1982 My baby boy had his vaccinations today too. His temperature has gone down a bit now but that might be the 2nd dose of calpol finally working. It was heartbreaking earlier when he just cried and cried as his temp went up and I could see he thought I would be able to do something to help. I'm planning on waiting as long as I can before giving third dose of calpol in the hope that it will then help him through the night. Good luck tonight. I hope you both manage to get some sleep and that you little man feels better soon x

Same to you @niclw!! Is your wee man very sleepy tonight as well?

@snowy1982 Yes very much so. He has slept most if the afternoon too but he doesn't seem to be able to sleep anywhere except my arms. I'm hoping that I'll be able to put him in his cot and get some sleep but I'm not counting on it.

My wee one was the same, would only settle in my arms all evening. Did get him to sleep in cot at night and he slept through but was whimpering all night so I got very little sleep.

He woke up this morning full of smiles so thought we were over the worst of it, but as soon as I got him up to change and feed he got very out of sorts again

@snowy1982 I hope he feels better soon.

My little one slept reasonably well in the end. He missed a lot of his usual feeds yesterday but when he woke at 3am had a small one. He didn't go back to sleep until 4.30 so I had two sleeps of about 3 hours each. He has been ok and back to smiling so far this morning so I'm hoping he is over it now.

So the wee mans mood improved a bit during the day, still wasn’t great but the periods of good moods lasted longer. His temp was still a little on the high side but not at fever levels

My little man had a slightly high temp yesterday too but not too much. We went into town and he slept for 3 hours in his pram and woke up very happy. I'll be glad to get the next two sets of injections over too. Just got to keep in mind that it's all for the best x

Apparently the second set aren’t as bad, think it’s drops and just one injection

How is everyone doing?

My baby girl is 12 weeks tomorrow! She's 7 adjusted on Sunday as was a bit early but doing well, over 10lbs now and a little breastfeeding champ. Really lucky in that our antenatal group of mums is fantastic - 10 of us FTMs. We had a Christmas meal yesterday and most of the dads came too.

Finally settling into a routine, our daughter has a 6ish hour sleep that starts between 7-9pm and then a few little sleeps. She went 8 hours between feeds last night! Also finally getting her talking and giggling which is just amazing.

It continues to be extremely hard work especially as I think she has reflux (throws up after most feeds  - we are investigating) but also the most wonderful thing. Interested in how you are all getting on xx

Hi @nervousFTM I'm glad to hear that your baby girl is doing well. My baby boy is getting big and is already 14lb 5oz. He is 11 weeks today but would have been 13 if he'd been on time.

It's good to have the support of other mums in the area isn't it. My NCT group have been getting together regularly and are doing a Christmas party next week. I've been keeping busy with going to a couple of baby classes each week too so meeting other mums.

I'm jealous of your sleeps. We have no routine over here yet. Last night was long but the night before he slept 6 and a half hours. I'd love some consistency at least but he is so content and smiles lots to make up for it.

Did you go to the doctor about the reflux? I've been considering going as he is bringing up lots of milk up to two hours after a feed. Enough that I've had to change twice already this morning but the health visitors said he is gaining weight in line with growth line so it's not a concern. I'm exclusively breastfeeding so wondered if he is just being greedy and can't digest so much in one go.

I'm looking at nurseries now in preparation for returning to work. I really don't want to go back but as a single mum I don't have a choice. If I was looking at secondary schools I'd know what to look for but nurseries are so confusing. The one is really like doesn't open early enough in the morning and is ridiculously expensive so I'm going to have to use somewhere else instead. The one I saw yesterday is lovely and small. They only opened in September and had only 6 children in yesterday but can only take a maximum of 35 (9 in the 0-2yrs room).

Hi all. I had my beautiful baby boy Stanley on September 3rd.
I can't believe he is 14 weeks old already...yet it feels like SO long ago that he was born. I keep thinking back to those early sleep deprived days and it feels like another person lived that life.
How everyone finding they're going now?
Stanley has slept from 7pm till 4 am since 8 weeks and it's been the best thing for helping me recover and for helping me manage my post partum anxiety. I'm nervous for the 4 month sleep regression I keep hearing about. Anyone experiencing that yet?