September and October 2018 arrivals

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A group for those Autumn Mamas whose babies arrived in September or October 2018!

@Thegirlhasnoname yes totally normal! I was terrified heading out for the first time but you soon get used to it :) if it's sunny where you are I'd say go get some fresh air ASAP xx

My little girl (will be 5 weeks old tomorrow) has baby acne which looks really horrible some days, others it looks less angry. I've heard breast milk on her face might help - anyone tried that, with favourable results? Feel so sorry for her.

She's sleeping for hours in the day (unless I try nap with her, then she wakes up 🙄) but come nighttime I'm lucky to get 90 minute shifts. Absolutely dying of exhaustion right now!

@thegirlhasnoname I think that's normal with your first one. Maybe try a short walk firstso you can head home at the first sign of the baby making a fuss. Then gradually build up to further trips.

I'm just finding i don't even want to leave the house. I took baby to town for an appointment this week and did the school collections but I just have no interest in being outside the house which is unlike me. Maybe tomorrow.

@nervousFTM the acne sounds sore the poor little baby. Sorry I don't know what you can use to help it.

@nervousftm, how did the night nanny trial go?

Hello ladies, can I join? I had twins on 29/08/2018 via semi elective cs after I had kidney problems. They spent nearly 4 weeks in SCBU and came home yesterday. One would not sleep at all last night and one settled at 4am, we’ve tried really hard making sure they get all their wind up as the both have reflux and tonight is going a lot smoother, thank goodness! I had the mummy guilt - their due date is 10/11/2018 and I feel so bad that they are here and already gone through so much. So good to hear others are going through the same, particular the lack of sleep. It’s not fun!

Congratulations @Happychappy33 I'm glad that your second night has gone much better with your twins.

Congratulations and welcome @hapychappy33. Less of the mummy guilt (although I suffer from it myself from time to time) your babies are here and they are good and that’s all that matters

@Happychappy33 do you mean 29 September? So 6 weeks early? My little girl was born 5 weeks early so I've been through all the mummy guilt too (we were only in hospital for 3 nights but she had jaundice and was being monitored for lungs and also blood sugars) but she's safe, well and gaining weight so as @snowy1982 says we need to let that go! what weight were your babies? Are they boys, girls, one of each? Big congratulations!

My LO is currently suffering with baby acne/eczema all over her face which is horrible, I've been told to cut out dairy so I really hope that helps. Thought "oh that's okay I barely have dairy"... then my husband reminded me that with kill my daily Magnum habit! Been applying coconut oil too to help with the dryness. Found out she also has oral thrush so we are both being treated for that 😢 apparently these things are more common for preemie babies due to underdeveloped immune systems.

@snowy1982 the husband-as-night-nanny worked pretty well! Although I heard baby when she woke up and that night it was every two hours. But good to sleep solidly without her grunting away 😂 I took over at 5am. Then this week hubby actually took her at 10pm as she wouldn't settle and I'd had two very sleep deprived nights with her - next thing I knew it was 4:30am and he was waking me to take over! Best sleep I've had since about February as I didn't even get up for the loo 😁

@twobambinos how are you feeling? @niclw how are you getting on? My mum visits one day a week (2 hour drive away) which I LOVE. So wish she lived closer. Your LO will be forming such a strong bond with his GPs. Did you sort his tongue tie?

Not sure why that whole post was in bold!

@nervousFTM what did they give you for the thrush for the baby?
Hopefully her acne will clear up very soon. And you find a nice replacement for the magnums.

I'm eating far too much crap at the moment to get me through the day. Didnt go anywhere this week other than the gp. And the school run. It's Just too much effort with an unsettled baby. Dh keeps telling me to get out in the evening when he comes home but I'm just too tired. Maybe this weekend now ill head out for an hour it might lift the mood.

The night hubby sounds ideal. My dh has got up the last two nights for the 2am ish feed so have had a nice few hours in a row and you do feel a bit more human after a few hours in a row.

@happychappy33 I can only imagine how busy you are with twins. Hope they are doing ok now.

@nervousftm I clearly still have baby brain - they were born 28/09/2018 so 6 weeks early. Two girls weighing 4 pound 6 each. Thanks for all the encouragement, it’s nice to know there are others that feel the same. I think dry skin/baby acne is normal, mine have all sorts of spots and marks that seem to appear, I hope yours is okay and clears up soon. Thrush sounds horrid too, sending 💐

Luckily they are in a 4 hourly feeding routine from SCBU so we are just trying to follow that. It’s easy at the moment as DP is doing it with me, terrified of when he goes back to work but it isn’t for a while yet.

I know what you mean about the grunting! Trying to learn which ones mean sick or need attention. One of the twins grunted last night, checked her and she had milk coming out her nose and mouth but bless her I cleaned her up and she went straight back to sleep!

Sending everyone happy thoughts for lots of sleep!

@nervousftm, am glad the night nanny routine seems to be working. Is it bad that I am already looking forward to going to bed tonight as I am heading to spare room and DH is on baby duty all night?

Like you I still wake when I hear him crying but it’s great to know you don’t have to actually get up.

My wee man has been sleeping through all week, he is going down at 11 and waking anywhere between 5 and 8 so the nights haven’t been as bad this week, but he really is the noisiest sleeper I have encountered, well not as noisy as his dad but I have done a lot of overnight babysitting for nieces and nephews and he is much noisier then them, so I am still up a lot at night even when he isn’t.

I am finally able to drive again, went out to pick up dinner last night and it felt so strange, but it will be good to be able to go places with the wee man now

@snowy1982 that's great you're getting some long stretches of sleep

I bet my little one could rival yours for Noisiest Sleeper! That's mainly why the spare room holds such appeal 😂

@nervousftm apparently Tescos sell Vegan Magnums which will be dairy free so you can still get your Magnum fix!

DH went out on our first date post baby yesterday. My mum kindly babysat whilst we went to the cinema and then out for a meal. It was lovely to have some time for us but I was missing the little one by the time we went to pick him up.

Also wanted to ask how everyone's OH's are bonding with their babies? My DH is finding it tough at the moment as DS is a bit grizzly in the evenings and as that is the only time DH sees him after work he takes the crying personally. I am trying to encourage DH by suggesting he baths DS every evening when he gets home and I have gone out a couple of times and left them alone but he told me yesterday he is finding it hard to bond. I am FF and he is doing a fair share of the feeding too.

@nervousftm, I second what @peanut91 said, Tesco do a free from magnum type lolly, it should be gluten and dairy free (am coeliac so keep a close eye on the free from range). The grunting and groaning at night is ridiculous, I am always convinced he is awake but nope he is fast asleep.

@peanut91, my LO is also quite grizzly in the evenings, so far I don’t think DH is annoyed by it though. He does most of the evening feeding and nappy changing, we make bath time a joint affair as the wee man hates it so one of us tries to distract him while the other baths him. I think DH is bonding ok regardless of the grizzliness.

I’m more worried about the dogs bonding with him, one of them is happy enough with our new addition, he comes in and has a wee sniff and then either lies in front of the crib or goes back to his bed in the kitchen. The other one is refusing to come into the house. Now the odd time he does come in he shows no signs of having an problem with the baby, he does the same the other and has a wee sniff then goes and lies in his fav spot behind the sofa, but I do worry that his refusal to come inside most of the time is a sign of problems to come

@nervousFTM We're getting on ok. I didn't get any sleep on Monday when my parents were here. We had the tongue tie clinic appt and I was told to comfort feed him whenever he wanted as it helps the healing process but that meant I didn't get a rest. But we had a nice lie in this morning.

I know what you all mean about the grunting. Last night I was convinced something was wrong when he was completely silent but turns out he was having a quiet moment.

Hey everyone. On day 12 at home with DS, been discharged from the midwife as Ds made his birth weight, plus he put on extra 6lbs. Which is good. Nights are OK, he is sleeping a good 3 1/2 hours in the day, night time varies from 2 hours to 3 hours. White noise is really good works a treat on my son, keeps him calm and mellow. I keep the lights very low at night, I don't make eye contact I feed him and put him back down. I'm doing the dream feed too, this ensures I get a good 3 hours at a time otherwise I feel exhausted. Managed a lay in today, got up at 8 fed him put him back down then he fell straight back asleep so I got a rest until 11am! (shocker but I feel great now) apart from suffering with toothache it seems to be going OK. I won't hold my breath for sleepless nights soon though. But for anyone who is, please try white noise it is excellent really helps soothe the baby.

If you make eye contact during the night it stimulates the baby to "wake up more" and they think its time to wake up. So make sure you keep the lights low, feed, change and burp and back down. Ensures you get your nights sleep too! 😄 I'm a first time Mum and these little tips have been helping a treat for me. Hope I can help other Mums x

Hello all. Had my second baby at 13 days overdue last week. So far two very different labours and two very different babies. I was induced both times but this time ended up with no intervention and I really feel more normal and together after this labour, despite having WAY more pain.

Currently getting through the relentless early breastfeeding nights but we've just had three hours sleep, in a row, and that's the most since I gave birth👍.

Congrats to all the new mums on the thread.

Congrats @midnight1983 ! Boy or girl? Glad to hear it went better this time xx

Congratulations @midnight1983 I hope you get 3 hours plus sleep in a row tonight too.

Thank you @nervousFTM and @niclw!

I had a baby boy, 8.13 pounds. Am on day 5 today and feeling a bit of that hormone drop kick in. So far I'm finding I'm really happy in daylight and very low at night. Although sleep does help 👍