April 2007 - where Ellie has mouse guests, SOKL talks poo, Eddas wears leia bunches, and bodysuits Dippy won't do!

[EllieK]

i really do need to get a life

they replaced it.... but because i gotb it in the sale i had to pay another £150 to get the equivalent model as the one i had bought was discontinued.... i spent 3 hours in there a week before he was born.... feckers..

if you decide to take it back up here let me know and we can meet up for a coffee - the fort is just off the m8 at easterhouse if that means anything to you? Probably half hour from bathgate?

Hi everyone, I'm feeling bloomin awful. Have been really down whenever Alan's meant to be going to work. He had to take Friday off and today. Got HV to come round this am for a chat. She was really nice and is coming again next week. I think it's PND but am fed up with the docs. I was told the appointment for 6 wk check and 8wk jabs would come in the post but it didn't. Queried it with reception who said to book 8wk appointment and my check would be done at the same time. HV tells me today 8wk is only for baby and I should have made appointment for 6wk check. So I ring up and cos I want a female doc there's no appointments til next week BUT that's when my periods due. So I said I'd see any doc and she tells me to ring up each morning to try and get an appointment .

Also the response to my hospital complaint says if I choose I can debrief with a snr mw but doesn't tell me how , contains FALSE information and I still haven't been given access to my medical notes .

Just received very funny email from my (would be) MIL so have sent it to everyone, i think! Someone let me know if I haven't please and ill try again

Sorry you are feeling so down nutty, cant really offer any help or advice but I'll send you some {{{{hugs}}}}}

Hi all. Sorry to hear you are feeling so down nutty. Why cant you get access to your medical notes? Just wondered if you have been given a reason, because legally they HAVE to let you see them. They can charge you a fee under the data protection act (I think) but its only a max of £10. I had PND first time round and I used to hate it when dh had to go to work. The thought of being left alone with the baby just made me cry and I really felt like I couldnt cope. Dont know if that is like you but wanted you to know I understand where you are coming from and its not a nice place to be. Please do come back and vent if you need to as it really does help to get things off your chest.

Maveta, so glad you got the tongue tie sorted. Best of luck with your future feeding!!

Have a good day all xxx

Sorry nutty x posted. Sorry you're feeling so down and being messed around so much. But ts really good that you have a nice hv who you feel able to talk to about things and that you can recognise its pnd, it makes all the difference. And remember we're all here for you whenever you need to talk, either serious talk or utter crap talk to take your mind off things (my personal speciality )!

Thanks everyone.

Mammyjo - That's exactly what it's like. Every morning I cry when he goes to work even though I always manage when he does.

I asked in my complaint letter about seeing my notes and got sent a form to fill in but have heard nothing back. They say it can take 6 weeks but it's almost that now and from what I've read online they only really had 21 days to provide mine (because I requested it so soon after the birth).

Nutty, I know what you mean. I used to feel like I just couldnt cope at all. I would cry to dh saying I couldnt manage but I always did. Ds always looked perfectly clean, tidy and well looked after. Outwardly I was coping very well, it was just in my head that I wasnt. If you want to chat or email me please do feel free. Would be happy to give you my mobile number too. I know what its like and its so hard. Wanted to let you know that it truly does get better. May take a while but you will get there xxx

Hi ladies

Nutty, I just wanted to send you a huge hug too. I know exactly how you feel. I am not so bad this time, but when B was born, I would cry when dh went off to work, and would feel physically sick at the thought of being left alone. I would watch the clock too, desperate for it to be home time.

I just brushed things under the carpet, and didn't let anyone know how I was feeling as I was too proud to admit how I felt.

In hindsight, I wish I had spoken up, and I think it is great that you have been able to speak to your HV about how you feel.

I thought a couple of weeks ago, that I was starting to feel the same, but thankfully not.

I found getting out and about as often as I could helped, and used to meet once a week with a couple of mums and their babies who I had met through a/n classes.

Anyway, enough of my ramble. Really hope you are ok, and as others have already said, MN is a great pace to come to and open up. xx

Me too, mammyjo & SOKL - I HATE it when DH has to go to work - I get all stressed out & teary .... feeling completely useless & ridiculous ..... You are most definitely not alone, nutty my love ...... Likewise - you can email me anytime & I am happy to chat on the 'phone etc too ....... {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} to you, sweetie ....... Thinking the bad birth experience probably has a lot to do with it too. Sounds like you need to get out of the house more .... go for lots of walks & meet some other mummies .......

Well, DD's 1 & 2 are playing in their bedroom & DD3 is sleeping. DH is making playdough in the kitchen & I'm just catching up here ...... lovely! Off to children's cafe after a bit of dough play .....

Hi CD. Glad the wedding went well at the weekend. Am sure you looked gorgeous!! Its funny when I come on here. When things are tough it feels like no-one else has ever been through anything like it, but here we all have. Makes me feel almost normal sometimes!!

Nuttygirl, sorry to hear you're feeling down. If you want to call I think I sent you some tel nos, and I can call you back, I think I can afford to use up some of my contract allowance.

I'm finding today a bit too quiet myself, but have at least one thing to leave the house for on the rest of the week days this week.

Quite enjoy the odd quiet day TBH!! Having 2 dc's now, mean I dont get many any more! Hope you are ok today elkie

Am thinking of going into work tomorrow morning with F to let them all see her. I have promised for ages to go but the weeks just seem to fly by just now. I work in a hospital with mainly women so they will all be clucking over her I'm sure!

Luce - I'm free on the 26th - afternoon better than morning but could do either.

Nutty - sorry to hear you're feeling down. Just to echo others, when I had PND last time DH leaving for work was awful. One day I just broke down & he had to call in sick - luckily one of his bosses wives had had PND so they were very sympathetic & gave him a week's compassionate leave. Also, don't let having your period put you off seeing the GP as they probably won't want to examine you unless you're concerned about anything "down there"!!

Maveta I am SO glad the snip seems to have helped the BF and good on you for getting through the last few weeks.

Had a slightly stressy few days at home. I love my family loads but we have a slightly odd dynamic that if all of us are together things get a bit tense. As long as one sister isn't there everything is fine.....odd!

Supposed to be going to a wedding next month - 3 hour drive away and DH can't get leave that day so I'd be going alone with both kids. Not sure whether to go or not - need to confirm today or will lose the hotel room. Eek. Any advice??

Hi eveyone,

Me and ds had our 6wk check(but at 8 wks,lol!) and all was fine ds is now 11lbs 11ozs but 62cms so is 'average' weight but long nutty they didn't do anything to me except ask questions, no examination and I didn't have one after dd either. One of my friends did thoughnot sure why, she had a normal delivery. Oh and they asked about contraception. Wasn't going to go for the pill again but doctor explained other methods and basically they all contained hormones even the coil which i didn't realise so decided to stick to what i've always had since it seems to agree with me. Plus then I won't have any poking around putting a coil in

DD had her bday yesterday and got lots although thankfully not too much in the way of 'tat' She got lots of clothes to go with her already substanital wardrobe but then I did suggest them instead of yet more toys that would get ignored, and they will allow me to put off the ironing mountain bit longer

I also did the race for life yesterday. I only walked though but it was very hot and I am significantly overweight,lol!

Congrats Eddas on doing the race for life. I did it a couple of years ago and it actually made me quite emotional seeing all the people with the pictures of those they were running for on their backs. Felt great to have managed it at the end though, I didnt run either!

Liath, will you have other family or friends at the wedding who can give you a hand. I wouldnt fancy going on my own with both children and no safety net IYKWIM!

What on earth is your GP talking about, Eddas - the coil doesn't contain hormones. The only one that does is the mirena coil which has progesterone but the standard copper coil doesn't. Still involves poking, though.....

liath, she was talking about the mirena coil she didn't mention other ones actually but hey i don't like change much anyway so i'll stick to the pill!!

mammyjo, i felt emotional too seeing the pictures. Actually, had a lump in my throat when i was walking to the start of the race as i thought about my mum and everone else i know who've had cancer. Horrible disease. Still at least I managed to raise a bit of money. My sister is doing her race in July so i'll sponsor her. Would love to do more to raise money for cancer research but really don't have the time. Maybe when i'm older without dc's round my feet i can volunteer or something.

Morning would be fine. Dd will be less whingy then too!

Hi all, thank you all so much for your support. All the offers of phonecalls means I'll have to admit my phone phobia ...that's scared of talking to people on the phone not scared of the phone .

Well eventually got an appointment with the doc for TODAY for my 6 week check (funny what mentioning the D word will do). He was v nice and after doing a questionnaire he thinks it's just 'baby blues' and not PND at the moment but I've to go back in 2 weeks (or sooner if I need to). He also checked 'down there' cos I was a bit worried about my tear (having refused the stitches the mw wanted me to have) cos it's been a bit painful when trying to have sex. He took a swab to make sure it wasn't infected and he thinks it isn't fully healed yet. He's going to check it again in 2 weeks time and if it isn't healed then I might have to think about the options. Oh and I got told about condoms not being 100% safe etc, and got a free bag of them.

Congrats on the race for life Eddas.

Reading this reminds me I need to make a 6 week appointment too (that's what it will be on Friday, already!)