November 2017 - rocking and rolling - postnatal thread #1

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Link to old thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3082493-November-2017-5-You-wait-ages-for-a-baby-then-3-come-along-at-once-Ante-post-natal-chat

Looking forward to sharing news of our babies as they reach their first milestones and grow into little people.

@motherhippy16 hope you get some answers soon

Are you all getting out in the sun with the babies? I'm really enjoying being on maternity leave this week, dh is very jealous. Spent yesterday afternoon in the park which was lovely. I have struggled with what Freddie should wearing though, I keep worrying that he's too hot.

Morning all .... Up every hour last night.... He's in such a light sleep all the time I can't even put him down if he's fallen asleep on me to feed (like now). I'm in this massive conundrum.... I want him to get decent sleep but I know if I put him down to nap he will start to cry or if he does go down wake up after 20mins and he's wide awake but gets grizzly really quickly because he hasn't rested properly and he's overtired.or do i just let him nap on me which means I can't get anything done? Any help greatly appreciated... feeling a complete failure atm......

@butterybollocks Sainsbury's have got some lovely little short sleeve and short leg loose baby grow things with a jungle theme.... really cute and light material. Have seen conflicting advise about giving sun cream to under 6 months.... what do you all think? X

Sending sympathies to the sleep deprived mamas :( I am very lucky that Matilda sleeps well but I am an awful sleeper and wake up constantly myself, and I think it is actually me that disturbs her half the time, and I’m another one whose baby only really calms down when she wakes up or is upset if I put her on the breast, the only other thing that briefly helps is singing frère Jacques, she bloody loves it I don’t know why 😂 my niece is obsessed with singing “frère Tildy!” which is ‘brother’ Tildy but oh well ha.

@buttery I’ve been the same, worrying she’ll be too cold or too hot all the time! Last night I just kept taking her temperature, she had heat patches all over her face and felt so hot to me. She also slept loads in the day which worried me (I’m talking over an hour when she usually naps for 20 mine here and there!) I guess the heat drains them?

I too have been loving maternity leave this week! We went to Marwell on Thursday with a couple of friends it was so nice just sitting under a tree with our babies in the shade (we all have passes so don’t feel lots of pressures to dash round and see all the animals!) I do worry that I have a monster baby, she was the youngest there but also the biggest by far..! She’s just so very long.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend :) DH is away on a stag and I’m usually fine when he’s away but it feels different now we’ve got Matilda, I actually miss him lol x

I didn’t know about that @motherhippy I’ve been slathering her everywhere even under clothes?!

PPS @motherhippy you are not a failure! Please don’t beat yourself up, all you can do is your best which you clearly already are xx

Awww @Motherhippy16 I feel your pain :( what do u need to get done? I'd probably let him sleep on you so he is in a better mood and less likely to get overtired. I am back on dairy and we are back to fractious, screaming baby :( my dad was here today and thinks it's just frustration but it's so hard to tell. She is definitely sleeping more and crying more in the heat. I haven't put sun cream on yet but she has only been in shade really!

@Motherhippy16 no way are you a failure! You are awesome :-)

@Hazandduck also felt like this is my first proper week of nice maternity leave
Despite increased fractious baby. DH on rare night out tonight, I've spent an hour feeding baby to sleep so now torn whether to try and go to sleep myself for go and have a cheeky prosecco. I'm such a bad sleeper too, and a little drink does help!

@Motherhippy16 sending you a hug. Motherhood is hard work, and you are doing a brilliant job.

@Hazandduck I have evicted Bea to her nursery at night time. She sleeps like a lot, but like you I'm awake constantly throughout the night. I'm lucky if I get 4 hours of sleep. I'm going to the doctors on Tuesday about it because I'm struggling to function.

I too have had my first really nice week of maternity leave, one highlight was an afternoon in the park with my new mum friends and babies.

Thanks lovelies you are all very kind. Tried him on baby rice tonight and he loved it! Fell asleep straight away with a little comfort from the breast at 7.30 and stayed asleep for 2hrs so I was able to enjoy an eve with friends that popped over.. He's just had a nother little feed and I've come to bed as well and he's gone straight off again. Much love to all x

@theotherendofthesockportal would be interested to hear what doctors say to you because I have been with same issue and got no help at all other than being offered anti depressants :-/

@motherhippy maybe having a bit of a fuller stomach helps? My GP advised me to give baby rice when she was 4 months to help with her reflux. Every baby is different and the advice is just a guideline, if you find something that actually makes your journey as a mother easier and happier (as long as baby is safe/healthy) then I say do it. I think struggling to fit someone else’s idea of parenting can actually have a very negative impact on your mental health when it doesn’t work out like that.

@lydia Tildy hasn’t been in direct sun but I am paranoid about her burning even in the shade 🙈 I had heatstroke as a kid I was so unbelievably ill from it and am so scared of getting it again and of anyone else getting it!

Oh @sock it’s miserable isn’t it :( I think I am one of those people that functions better on a little less sleep (4/6 hours average) but some mornings I get up after a very bad night and do think how will I get through looking after a baby all day after so little sleep! I do allow myself rest days to be fair where we don’t leave the house and we snuggle on the sofa.

@lydia sorry you are having a tough week. Could she have a tooth coming through too?? I now think Matilda has hay fever because her eyes and nose stream when we walk outside! X

@Hazandduck did baby rice help? I want to feed her more, I liked the idea of baby led weaning but not much actually gets eaten! Instead trying to shovel in purée but she doesn't like it!

I also had sunstroke as a kid and remember how awful it was!

@theotherendofthesockportal we are also having a rough week no known reason! She wriggles around a lot and this morning when I put my hand on her belly to calm her she farted and filled her nappy! So now I don't know if it's dairy causing her pain or the new foods she is trying just being digested!

@lydiangel83 sorry to hear you are having a rough week. What sort of foods have you been trying?

@Hazandduck I had a good appointment at the doctor, he was concerned about how little I've been sleeping especially now it is affecting my cognitive functions. He has prescribed me medication which should help me sleep and also help my anxiety, I can't remember what is it called, I'll check and let you know.

We have booked our first family holiday for May. We are going to Cornwall. I had to buy a new (second hand) stroller as I've realised just how much stuff we have to pack to take away and needed a more compact one.

@theotherendofthesockportal would love to know your medication and also sleeping so badly and it is impacting my brain and emotions all over the place!

Sorry to hear there are some tough weeks going on.... Some of these babies must be cutting teeth soon! Freddie has an awful dribble rash, I keep putting cream on, it gets a bit better, then he dribbles again and it looks worse.

I've been enjoying the aldi baby event - got a clip on fan for the pushchair and a little steam and mash thing for weaning which is fab.

Oh I forgot that was on @butterybollocks and I need to get a fan as well. Oh Well!
Have started the new routine for sleep and last night was the best night we've had for ages! All in his cot... we even managed to get a 4 hour stretch of sleep in at one point. He's down for his first nap of the day exactly 1 and a half hours after waking up. Of course this could just be a fluke and it will all go tits up tonight! Hope everyone is well x x x x

@Hazandduck and @lydiangel83 I have been prescribed amitripyline to help me sleep. I'm going to take it for the first time tonight. I'll let you know how I get on

@motherhippy16 Please do share your routine! Sounds amazing!

In other news, our TV appears to have broken. Nightmare!

I've been told today that coccyx May well hurt forever and nothing that can be done :-( so fed up. Think I'm traumatised by birth as still get very upset talking about it :-/ wish I could have another go at labour as I have learned so much since then. Is this how people end up with another kid lol?!

@theotherendofthesockportal I hope it works. Guessing it's ok if you're bf or are you using formula I can't remember sorry x

@lydiangel83 I'm sorry to hear that you are still in pain. I still feel traumatised about Bea's arrival in the world, but I have been assured this will fade with time. I hope it does as I'm so anti having a second child even though I always imagined having two. With regards to my medication I am formula feeding, I wasn't able to breast feed.