May 2007 - The babies are arriving!!

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Thought i would start the offical May 2007 thread as it is May and we have now had our first offical May baby - even though we have 6 naughty babies who queue jumped and arrived in April .

Probably be a while before there are many messages but a least we have a thread now

hello everyone - have just caught up with news after a rather busy weekend (ie lots of feeding...)
Abby - it was really comforting to hear what you had to say about LO seeming constipated - Samuel has seemed as if he is - and we have had a couple of exploding nappy moments - our bedroom wall will never be the same...am trying infacol. He was so good to start off with but the last few nights have been awful. On Sunday night he woke for a feed at midnight and then did not really settle til 5 am - I was pretty ragged by that stage.
LW - hope you are feeling better. Keep making yourself drink more water than you think you would need - it does help. I had weepy times with DS1 and Samuel and it does pass.
Lupins - what type of washables are you using?

must go - Samuel wants a feed and my left boob DEFINITELY wants to feed him...

PinkJ, is she settling to sleep at any point during the day or night? My girl has trouble from 8pm till midnight, I think it's cause her day/night is mixed up. Have tried putting her in the lounge with DS playing today to reinforce "this is crazy daytime" and hope it tires her out a bit more! Does your LO always hard to settle her to sleep after a feed? Possible reflux/winding issue if so - maybe she just needs a bit of time upright before you put her down to sleep. HTH!

Met up with Lupins today and went to check out the new KK shop in Reading we got a FREE KK each - RESULT!! Arlen is such a cutie and looks really well. Lups, W is such a sweetie

LW - wow thats great 6hrs straight!!! Am jealous How did you get on with the MW?

Have tried E on EBM and she was not impressed at having a bottle! You would have thought that i was feeding her poison by the look on her face. I really need her to like the bottle as i have a hen night to go to at the end of June and dh will need to feed her when i am out. Got the same look on her face when i offered her a dummy, only this time she decided to vomit

I went to Mothercare after seeing lupins and got Ella some little trousers and cardigans. We have loads of dresses and sleepsuits but no trousers. We now have a nice little selection of clothes that i can mix and match.

Just going to sort out my annoying ds who seems to think that if he repeats the same bloody sentance over and over that it will make me go faster..... it will not, it just makes me make mistakes therefore taking longer to type!

Cam they seem to be in loads of shops round here let me know if you want me to send you one

AM must have just missed you in mcare after we left you A decided that if E was hungry so was he, so we had to go in search of steri bottles as i had taken mine out of bag grrr, even tho he had eaten about 2ince we have been in he has 2 feeds so thats 4 feeds since 2pm no wonder the weight is piling on, W was being a madam she doesnt usually play up like that must have been the 2 donuts and sprite lol, i want more they were yummy will make it a mission to try lots of flavours (once might weight is better),

Pink I usually leave A about 3/4 mins if he is unsettled after checking the obvious, then give a stroke of the head and tummy and a talk to this can sooth him if not i pick him up, have you tried massaging the feet, they dont like it to start with but A finds it really soothing after the 1st couple of minutes - goes trance like

Anneme - I have some cotton bottoms, minky diapers a fleece tots bot wrap and fuzzi bunz - must say im finding them better this week think he might be growing into them, i love the fuzzi and the fleece wrap but they are so bulky

LW 6hrs OMG im jealous!!! glad you are feeling bit better

DP is trying to convince me to move to portugal, i am not against the idea just a bit daunting, dont speak a word of portugese!!!!!!!! must say tho it is a lovely slow way of life and they are so family friendly hmmmmm decision decisions

Well m/w extremely happy with Lottie. Birth weight 7lbs 6.5oz, then went down to 6lbs 11oz, and today she was an even 7lbs which m/w was very happy about. I'm feeling dead chuffed as it means that my breastfeeding is going well and makes me feel so good to know I'm getting it right iykwim? Gold star for LW

AM with regards to the bottle, if E isn't liking it could you try either feeding her with a cup or a syrynge (sp?) That way it would avoid confusion between the bottle and your breasts? Something the m/w's at the hospital advised me to do if I felt I needed to formula feed every now and then for a top up. Or what about those tommy tipee (sp) bottles, aren't they supposed to be made to feel like boobs? Might be worth a try hun

Nothing else to report really, I'm going to attempt to snatch my newborn from my mother so that I can have a cuddle. Have a feeling it will result in me not getting a hold and have no hands left!

Thanks Lups, will let you know, I shall see if the saline drops work tonight. I am dead jealous about the KKs and I have never even had any before!

I am more dead jealous about the 6hours LW how did you manage that?

J loves having his feet massaged too! It makes him go all calm and gooey. Also I try at night to minimise the lights and talking and i only change Js nappy if i really have to.

Right, less chatting for me, I need to do a Tesco online shop, its very frustrating not being able to drive.. I think I will try it at the weekend.

Sending lots of lovely sleepy sandman vibes to all those cute babies.

Cam it was my 1st KK well worth the wait, wont be having too many tho as im sure something that tastes that good cant be good for the waistline!!

Right i am off to bed, tired and cant face doing any more ebay listing, night all sleep well

Hello, hope it's ok if I gatecrash a bit? Could do with a bit of encouragement from likeminded mummies of May babies! P was born on 24th May, my first, and however gorgeous she is, so far things seem to be lurching from bad to worse....well maybe it's that time of day and the sleep deprivation but it feels like I'm doing a crap job sometimes. My stitches and tearing are still killing me, seems to get worse each day even tho the m/w insists it's healing. DD is permanently hungry, my tits are wrecked but I'll feel like a total failure if I even contemplate giving up b/f after 5 days. From late evening she can't go more than half an hour between feeds and constantly wants to suck on something (my tits!). We tried a dummy but she looked like Hannibal Lecter and I felt dreadful so we gave up on it. I tried expressing but it was too painful and I only had a teaspoon after half an hour. Poor thing, I'm such an awful mother so far. Someone tell me things get easier. I can't stop crying at the mo, just what DH needs, me and P in tears... on the positive side she had stayed 8lb 3oz at her check up, which is good I guess. Maybe I just need to get a grip. No one tells you how hard it is though... there's me thinking it would all be like a Pampers ad...

PB you poor thing - sounds like you are going through th worst of it at the mo - it will get better! have you got some lasinoh to put on your nipples after each feed? Have you got a breastfeeding consultant that can help you? it sounds as if there may be a prob with the latch which could mean that your baby is not only hurting you during feeds, but isn't getting the hindmilk which fills them up for 3 hours - I'm not an expert but have just gone through all this and a decent latch makes a hell of a difference! The babycentre breastfeeding page is excellent for advice articles.

Do try and get some sleep during the day too - it helps with the crying!

xxxx hope you get it sorted

Hi all..
no news to report..am just lurking a little on your thread to see how you are all getting along..love to all of our babies..

Hi to Phoebe..dont beat your self up hon-the first few days and weeks can be a bit of a nightmare-you are knackered, in pain and understandably emotional..but one thing you arent is a bad Mum!(the reason you feel all of the above is becuase you are trying to do the best for your baby, which makes you a great Mum, and dont you forget it!)I second all that BB said re the BFing..however even if you DO for some reason end up using formula, or just topping up with it, it DOES NOT make you a failure..(BFing is undoubtedly best for the baby, but only where its not causing enormous distress to the Mum IMO-oh dear I will probably be shot for saying that!)ditto using a dummy..I hate them, but it was the only way DD would settle and sometimes its more important for the baby to be settled and you to get some sleep and thus not feel as overwhelmed..(DD still has hers now to go to sleep with-she is 17 months and I refuse to feel any shame about it!)

Good luck with it all and keep coming on here..the May ladies are the best!..with any luck I will one day really be allowed to post on this thread..6 days overdue now and counting...

(Scoot slinks off to the very quiet antenatal thread in a sulk)

I spent ages in MC as i couldnt make mind up on what to get! Also booked her in for a session at pixi photo. They are doing an offer of ten quid for a 10x12 print - bargain!

Lups, didnt realise that it was your first time!! Congrats, you will never look back now Did you want the pregnacare tablets i have for your cousin?

LW, thats great on the weight front for little lottie. My says that its down to 'wonder boobs' I have got those bottles already so perhaps i should try them every now and again to get her used to them.

PB, congratulations on your dd I agree with BB and Scoot. You are doing a great job. baby is 5 days old and you havent gone down the formula route even though you are knackered and have sore boobs. Definately get yourself some lasinoh its great stuff. Your milk should start coming in now and if you just give it a few days then your dd should calm down on the feeding. Do you have a lactation clinic as part of your hospital? or is there a mw that specialises in bfing? If you are wanting to keep bf'ing then please ask for help as it can make all the difference. However, (and i might get shot for this) bf'ing isnt for everyone, not everyone can do it and by not bfing it is not a failure in anyway, shape or form. My SIL couldnt bf her ds, he had tongue tie and she had inverted nipples so she was fighting a losing battle. You will always find support, advice and comforting words from the wonderful May ladies

PB welcome, sorry you are going through it atm, it does got better honest (she says after only a few hours sleep )

AM yes pls to the pregnacare, give me a shout next time you are in Reading and I will meet you (erm no its not an excuse for KK, altho could be). We had pixi photos for Willow and thier quite good, would be nice to get a brother and sister pic.

Right its 11oclock have only been up 45 mins due to pants night sleep am not even dressed, fed 12 but didnt settle, 3 then 5 then 7 then dd came in at 8 so dp offered to get up, woo hoo i do believe he is getting the message, when i came down he said, blimey she doesnt give you a minutes peace - errr hello welcome to my world!!, anyway at least he's trying

Will pop them in the post to you. Woohoo at dp getting an insight to your world.

Welcome PB and congratulations! Sorry you are feeling so blue, but it really will get better. As your milk comes in your dd will feed for longer and less often and by 2/2.5 weeks she should be able to go for about 2.5/3 hours between feeds and if you are really lucky 4 hours Make sure you are getting plenty of rest, and eating and drinking lots too. If your nips continue to be sore ask the mw to check how your dd is latching on and that she doesn't have thrush in her mouth as that can make your nips sore too. You are a good mum, just remember that.

The saline drops seemed to work well last night Lups, so fingers crossed for tonight too. I love the idea of Portugal, having been an expat for many years I am all for it! I can't believe the change in your dp either - a new man!

The HV has just been to give J his hearing test for the second time as first time it didn't work, it didn't work again this time so we have to wait for another woman to come with another machine next week to check again. Has anyone else had the same problem?

Come on Scoot, get that baby out and join us here quickly, you know what Mars and Lulu say, plenty of nipple stim

Its raining and miserable here...

PB I know this is a difficult & touchy topic but just wanted to and let you know that someone out there (ahem, me) switched to formula after day 4 this time round, and after a month with DS. And the world did not end, either time!

I did feel a real failure at first, and totally relate to everything you say in that regard, but the feelings pass. It is hard no matter when you give up, I think!

Why did I "give up" so soon? I was nearly suicidal over the dread of the pain! I tried counselors and latching changes galore, but ended up with mastitis several times and was a crying, bleeding miserable mess at every feeding time. Am I a failure? Dunno. DS is healthy, S is too so far, and I am happy. So I guess I'm ok with it.

As for S, we've settled into a good 3 hour eating routine now that I am free from my BF nightmare. Now if I could only get her to take a longer break at nighttime....those middle of the night feeds are real buggers. God I feel old and tired!!

Right must rescue MIL who is trying to feed DS lunch. Ah, toddlers...

Hello ladies! Lovely to be back. I have missed you all.

Beau is sleeping in his moses basket but not for long, he doesnt really do sleep. He is nocturnal, screaming most of the night between 11 and 3-4.30, it looks like trapped wind to me. Im hoping it is just his digestive system adjusting to the milk and not colic for the next 3 months.

How are you all? I cant believe how busy ive been, babies are sooo time consuming. I dont get a chance to do anything else. Im terrified today as DH has to go in to work He goes at 1 and has to organise some reception thingy so wont be back till 9ish. I will have all 6 on my own. I may cry.

I jsy skimmed the threads and read SOH's post about the horrific treatment she recieved in hospital. It bought tears to my eyes.

I couldnt fault the treatment i got in hospital, i loved all the midwives and even the Reg who delivered Beau was very nice. She was kinda bossy and abrupt but really did her best for me and i am eternally grateful to her for not ploughing in with an episiotomy and forceps before doing a section. I was convinced that is what would happen. It was horrendous. I mean it when i say never again , i may adopt.

LW - still waiting to hear of your magical secret for getting a baby to sleep for 6 hours....at night!

hello evry1....

I've missed you all this week. Have had my bf here for a week. It was really lovely to spend some time with her and her two boys.

Will try to keep up with thread now but I agree with lg&t, I too had forgotten how time consuming a new baby is. (and one handed typing)

Jorja is doing great, sleeps really well but needs to be wrapped up very tight to settle. Bfeeding is going good but I'm struggling during the day to have the time to sit and let her feed.

LW I hope you are feeling a little better hunny.

SOh Mathilda is doing fab with her weight, could you send some of your clotted cream over for Jorja please as she is not putting on very much. Weighed again tommorow so I'll see how this weeks gone. A and I do the same routine at night, it works well, I feed, he winds and changes.

Lups, good news on DP. We were up at 4.30 am to see bf off, A took Jorja from me when we went back to bed as she was fed, he settled her to sleep and I had a lovely 3.5 hrs before she woke again.

Welcome PB and good to have you back lilkelbel, >CONGRATULATIONS to you both.

AM, are you home this evening? Was going to give you a ring tonight if you fancy a chin wag? Whats the best time?

Oh I fogot to say, I've added a slightly less puffy, spotty photo of Jorja on to my profile.

Only one more day before I have a JUNE baby. How can this be???

I'm so of you all.

Lovely new pic MrsJB.

Hello everyone, bit late checking in today. Hope you're all well and babies and little ones too. If you're still waiting you have my sympathies and sending labour vibes to you.
R is doing well although she was a little monkey last night - awake from 1.15-3.15 which is not like her.
I won't be on for a few days now as we are off to my sister's in about an hour. We are babysitting her 2 kids tomorrow as her cm doesn't work holidays - 4 kids under 4, that should be fun. Dneice, almost 4, ds 2.5, dnephew 13 months and dd 3 weeks! Aaahh! On Friday my other sister gets married and ds is being a page boy. I can't wait to see him in his little tailcoat, he will look so cute! We are hoping for better weather for Friday, the forecast does look a bit more hopeful.
Hopefully by the time I get back on there will be all the May babies born - good luck to everyone still waiting and have a good weekend the rest of you.

Lovely pic MrsJB chat tonight x

Hi All

I don't know my secret! I think I just have a good baby. To be honest I think I would have completely cracked up by now if she wasn't so good with the way I've been feeling! I change her before feeds so she's comfortable, she feeds well for about 20 mins, winds, settles down to sleep and I don't hear from her for another 4 hours. At nights I've got really lucky cause she'll go down for 6 hours. But I also give her loads of skin to skin contact and cuddles instead of just leaving her in her moses basket all day - seems to really comfort her. Kind of got a wee routine in place which is cool. She also gets lots of attention from my family so she is used to being handled by other people and I don't keep her in a silent state all day. I've made sure I've got her used to noise around the house. Seems to work for us

Had some family round today and they were so cooey over Lottie it was melting my heart thinking of how much love this little girl was recieving - and I made her! Feeling much better today, not in as much pain and managed to get dressed and put on makeup

Hi all

We've been to Alder Hey for the clicky hip appointment, and there's good news and not good news?

Apparently her hips are now in their sockets and not dislocatable any more, which is great news. However, her hip sockets are still a little shallow, need to be 60 or something and hers are 48. So she's in a little canvas harness under her babygro which keeps her legs slightly apart, goes across her chest and under each foot. She has to wear it until August, as a precaution apparently, in case her hips pop out again. She looks like a little von trapp.

I cried my eyes out all the way through the appointment. Despite the fact I was in a bloody children's hospital, surrounded by people so much worse off. We have been assured that as she is so little, it won't cause her any discomfort or distress, but you just know that every time she cries, I'll be like, its that bloody harness.

All my friends are like, you must be so relieved, why don't I feel it. Am I awful?

LW my of you continues. What an angelic little one you seem to have!! And putting on makeup...that defo wins respect.

PinkJ - my heart goes out to you and your wee one. How distressing!! I'm sure it's for the best that it's being dealt with now though, and in a few months it will have been worthwhile. Just makes you realise how fragile it all is...

MrsJB love the pics! Sweet!!

Question for y'all...I'm having to wake up S to feed her every 3 hours during the day. Once I've roused her she takes 1.5-3oz at a time, then drops off to sleep again till I next wake her. I'm just wondering, because she's not begging for the food, should I try going for a 4-hour routine instead?? With DS it was so different, he was wailing his head off every 2 hours - am actually a little worried that S is so sleepy!! Thoughts? Oh, at night it's a different matter. I think 3 hours at night is the most she can do.