May 2007 - The babies are arriving!!

[aprilmeadow]

Thought i would start the offical May 2007 thread as it is May and we have now had our first offical May baby - even though we have 6 naughty babies who queue jumped and arrived in April .

Probably be a while before there are many messages but a least we have a thread now

SOH I am getting very worries about you. Now I know DH needs to sleep, but so do you. And if you end up in hospital on a drip, he won't be able to do 15 hour days, so he needs to speculate to accumulate now. Isn't chocolate good for iron? I take Floradix and Pregnacare for vitamins and iron although if you have a prescription you prolly don't need another iron supplement. Definitely smoothies, shop sandwiches that you don't have to prepare, pies/muffins etc to get your calories in, you really, really need them right now. Boxes of flapjacks that you can keep to hand and dip into?

soh - i've resorted to using the sling whilst moving around flat (getting lunch or washing up) or laying her across my lap whilst mums netting - they both get her to sleep without sucking... worth a try?

I second the nuts, mixed natural nuts work well for me. Also get some ready meals, probably not what you would do normally, but you can bung them in the oven with one hand. What about your mum, can she come down for a few days with a brief to take over and possibly cook a few things to pop into the freezer?

ITS, now you have mentioned flapjacks that's done it, now I have to go and open the pack I bought this morning for the dc and have one, obviously I am anaemic too

Thanks Kel and ITS, but don't worry about me. I've accepted I need to take it easy. Have added a multivitamin for when breastfeeding, smoothies, lots of green leafy stuff, my brother is a butcher so he's sorting lots of steak out for me (and is a typical butcher, eats lots of meat, is a huge tattooed powerlifter and is currently sneering 'that's what you get for living on herbal tea and ginger-based products'). Have also ordered flapjacks and some muffins. Twill be fine. I wish I could get out a bit more, certainly feel cooped up but we're fairly rural and I don't drive. Has rained for days so a nice walk is not possible really. Sound like a right misery today don't I?

just got angry with my 4 mnth maternity trousers for not accomodating a bump...then quickly realised it wasn't the bump they were having difficulty accomodating more the enormous arse/thigh combo

I do carry her in a sling quite a lot Befnal but it's so humid here it makes her overheat and feed more so only staves off the inevitable. Plus, I'm a wee bit faint so am worried that I'll keel over too in the humidity. My parents are in Turkey atm and I even considered asking MIL for help but she just comes and whisks the baby away from me and doesn't necessarily help in any real way. I should join a postnatal group really but believe it or not I'm cripplingly shy in rl.

SOH, DO go and join a bumps and babes, NCT or a church toddler playgroup. It is excruciating the first time when you arrive on your own, but if it is like the ones I have been to, someone comes along and whisks you off quite quickly. If it doesn't happen straight away then I chat happily to the baby and try not to look too much like a loon. If all else fails I ask how to get a cup of tea/where the loo is/how old/cute/name of their baby and before you know it you are having wine and pizza evenings together and talking about your ladygarden and porn fetish to all and sundry

SOH - I know it's wickedly Very Bad for Baby but a bit of dummy time might help ease things a bit? I can't BF myself and find a dummy has quite a soothing effect on S...

Oh Cam by cripplingly shy, I mean mortifyingly shy. I am terrified of these places. Sadly have peered through the window of the church Mums and Tots thing and they all look like they know each other so well. I can't make small talk to save my life. And I blush like you would not believe. On paper, by email etc I am surprisingly articulate but with other real live breathing people I turn into a gibbering wreck. I am going to do it though, for Mathilda's sake.

I found out the other day that DH bought two dummies and hid them upstairs (I also found his haribo stash while I was at it) when dd started feeding like a babe possessed. I so far have resisted it and for some inexplicable reason feel like it's giving in. It would probably make the world of difference but I just can't bring myself to do it. Comletely irrational.

Oh go on, I dare you! Sorry for resorting to playground tactics, but...seriously...give it a go. Just for a day. In the grand scheme of things, a wee little dummy every so often isn't going to make you a bad mum, IMHO. The only time I personally find them objectionable is when they're used at all times or by children over 2 who should be free to speak, not suck, but I imagine you have the self control to limit its use to when it's really necessary. Go on! [goading emoticon]

Oh SOH, poor you, I'm afraid you do just have to grit your teeth, you need only stay for 30 mins the first time.

I am with you on the dummy thing, I have now looked at them three times, once last week in our local chemist and twice in Mothercare this week and I just can't pick them up, but if they are there in the house, there's no harm in trying it, is there? Or snaffling dh's Haribo at the same time

Oh Haribo definitely already raided. The dummies would get snaffled by the cat I'm sure. I just can't do it. Honestly I've a huge chip on my shoulder about having let her down during labour and am obsessed with getting this bit exactly right. Impossible of course. She has a scratch on her face atm cause by my fingernail whilst trying to wrestle her to feed amidst screams and how badly do you think I'm beating myself up about it?

Friend's dd had a dummy aged 4 and it affected her speech. Couldn't stand it, maybe that's where my prejudice stems from?

I must phone up the local postnatal group this afternoon, no matter how scared I am. I'm actually exceedingly dull in rl and nobody will talk to me. I'm the weird lentil weaver one who plays fiddle and wears doc martens. They will run and scream I assure you.

Listen, do you really think i fit in, in deepest darkest Somerset? I'm she who has children with odd names and has lived in funny places All we talk about is how good/bad a sleeper the baby is and anything else baby related or whether the local school got a good ofsted report or not A copy of the local rag often helps give me some topics to chat about!

Cam you sound so exotic, interesting places you've seen, fab names for your children and an international spy for a life partner. I bet they flock round you.

Run a mile more like

soh u cld take ur knitting along

LOL BB

go to go, off to the playground in the rain, now that's what i call exotic

Have a lovely blanket I am crocheting atm, could take that. At the hv's clinic yesterday all the Mums made a beeline for DH. Almost like they'd never seen a man before, asked him lots of questions about how he was coping, what he liked best about fatherhood etc. I got elbowed out of the way and had to watch the adoration from afar. One woman did ask if I found breastfeeding 'primitive' but she was wearing velour so was clearly disturbed.

have 2 ask - what r velour troos?

last night dp said to me 'come on - relax, have u time, switch off the laptop'...think that means he wants me off m'net

watches tumble dryer sadly(weed needed washing).

nearly had a convo going there...

Oh no velour is wrong, wrong, wrong Cam, take off your trousers now.

Velour is almost like a fabric but it isn't it's a cry for help.

Sorry I disappeared, baby squeaking for attention! Have stuck Pride and Prejudice on DVD. Fab.