September 2006: no longer baby babies (anyone feeling broody) !!

[Coriander73]

Hello...

Marls I feel exactly the same. I find ds very demanding at the moment whereas dd is just lovely and cuddly. Nearly always smiling, although 3rd tooth is making an appearance so not so smiley today!
Good luck with 5 nights on your own. I nearly had that in April but couldn't face it so ds was packed of to grandparents - he had a great time, much beter than if he'd been here with me!
Hope everyone is enjoying the nice weather.
Cori - have you had a leaving do? Did you get presents and flowers? Hope so xxx

hello all
Hope everyone is ok?
seems you all think it is a good idea to hand DS over to the nanny at that wedding....maybe i am being over protective of them, although i think it is more to do with the fact that i don't really want to go to the wedding at all...various reasons which i won't go in to on here, but DS2 hasn't been invited and in my opinion DS1 has only been invited because they don't know any other small male children to act as page boy...and it seems as if oncve he's done his duty he has to 'disappear' with this nanny...that is why i am possibly over reacting a bit!

DS2 has another tooth, he only just got his top two, so i assumed he'd get a bit of a break, but then got another bottom one, so five in all now.

Marls good luck with your 5 nights on your own and the house hunting

I keep disappearing out into this weather too.
I didn't realise you were finishing so soon cori!
You got the gardening (?) thing then

I have just handed my notice in to my job and, although I knew all along that I would not be going back, it still seems very strange to hand it in.
It's real now. I am Really not going to go back to work!
I have just handed in my notice for a very good and enjoyable job. I had not had one of those since I was a teenager. I feel like I may regret it but also that there is no way I will because I love being a SAHM.
V confused and a bit sad

Is anyone else watching BB on here?
I haven't gone onto the dedicated thread. Why do I never seem to be able to find as much time to spend on MN as I used to? I miss it!!
I was shocked that Emily was kicked out. I thought it was just a jokey comment that would be forgotten. I actually thought Charley was making a big deal over it. Can't believe they kicked her out at 3am
But in hind sight, I guess they had to after all that nonsense with Jade.

Sorry! Thats me done, thank you for your ears. I really should have bothered my bum to go find the thread

morning everyone.

this weather is soo lovely, isnt it? my house is very "cottagy" and the walls retain so much heat so the rooms were way too warm (according to the egg) and for the first time, i think i put ds in his grobag with just a short sleeved vest on. seemed to be no problems, although i was worried he might get a little bit chillly....

he's having a lay in at the moment with his daddy...i should be as well . usually he wakes at 530am and sometimes i can boobie him back to sleep for a couple hours.

however, ((i feel like naughty mom!) dh, ds & i were at MIL's last night for a dinner party. took ds's grobag to change him into when it got late, in hopes he would fall asleep there. NO CHANCE! i fought it sooo hard and before we even realized the time, it was 1140pm!!! and there ds was, just googooing at the balloons MIL handed him. i couldnt believe it. sooo, when we got him home last night, the transfer to cot was horrible, screaming and crying for 45 mins, plus this morning, kicking and screaming. . poor little fella! i know he's waaaaay tired still. just feel rotten for not realizing the time!

everyone else having a nice weekend? doing anything particularly "sunny"?

oops, i meant "ds fought it (sleep) so hard", not Me. hehehe

oh, and one more thing...

fairysnuff don't be afraid! Go here BB thread that i'm on...

i think compo visits the thread occassionally as well.. ;)

compo, no...no leaving do or anthing. Just went off at midday with a bit of a whimper! As I'm officially still contracted until mid July I have use of my blackberry still should they need to ask me anything...even though they said it was unlikely..!!! I don't even think it's sunk in yet...8 years & it ends like that.......as for being a SAHM, well I'm only two days in

Fairysnuff, what are your plans?

FWIW munki...J has been in short sleeve vest + grobag past two nights...

Mabel, I don't think your overreacting..I mean the way I see it is; do they want children at the wedding or not? You can't have it both ways can you? Such a British thing isn't it? To be seen & not heard...goodness me they're children...if you really don't want them (which is perfectly understandable) don't invite them...

Mabel - perhaps that's what they would want so have just presumed that's what other people would want to? People do that quite naturally I think - I'm sure if you just explain you feel yours are at a stage where they and you would be unhappy with that your friends can make an arrangement for you to have seats for them at the dinner too.

Marls - c'est moi! LC

How are you all doing with the LO's and general happiness/crying - DS2 seems to cry an awful lot and it's so difficult to keep him happy. I don't always have the time to sit with him and end up leaving him crying while I make dinner, hang out the washing etc etc - are you in the same position or am I missing something? What are your LO's playing with? - maybe I could try some new toys..... HELP!!!!!

Hello everyone, hope you're having a good weekend. Yesterday was awful for me as the air con was broken in my office, and it has a metal roof, like working in a sauna. Was very of all of you outside in the relative cool!

KK, Cranial osteopathy is when the skull (and other bones if you just see an osteopath) is very gently manipulated to 'fix' things. It can work for a range of things including asthma, colic, unexplained crying and it worked wonders for my sisters migraines. I also had a few sessions to ease jaw pain. It was weird because she never seemed to do much but I ached like hell afterwards and there was a definate improvement. My 1st session was £38 followed by £28 for all following sessions, most problems will only need 1 or 2 sessions and my osteopath would refund your money if she couldn't help you. I ran a uk google search for 'cranial osteopath' and found mine through that. HTH. And as for the jars thing, I'd rather a jar than food poisoning because you couldn't refrigerate of reheat the food properly. at the comments you received(although dd won't touch them so she ends up hungry when we are out and about!)

Cori, I hope you enjoy your time as a SAHM, I'm sorry that your last day wasn't all that pleasant for you.

Myrtle, HIPP Fennel tea is available from asda, so it's really easy to get.

Mabel, I'd be about the nanny at the wedding, and ds wouldn't go with anyone he didn'y know anyway. It's your decision how you look after your child.

I was with mil yesterday as she was feeding my 8.5 month old Elizabeth chips (even though I'd said no) with salt on them. We were at a family pub to celebrate my sils birthday and she just wouldn't listen to a word I said. And what really upset me is that she babysits for my dc on a Saturday when I'm at work and if she doesn't follow my instructions when I'm there what does she do when I'm not. To make it worse, I left for work half way through the meal and ds refused to go anywhere with mil, telling my sil that she scares him, it made me that ds was unhappy but at a little bit of payback!

Elizabeth is nearly crawling, is getting up on all 4's but not quite managing to lift her little round tummy off the floor ! We've had an extra cuddly week with her which has been very nice and a wonderful trip to the zoo on Thursday when she actually looked at the animals for the 1st time. Take care x

(Cori - have you seen this www.mumsnet.com/Talk?rn=3289&topicid=1365&thr eadid=337185&redir=3289 )

mhp - thanks for the advice, will look more into it. dd2's behaviour needs sorting out. we're seeing a paediatrician for her on tuesday (because she was so early she needs monitoring until she's 5) have never brought it up with them as feared they might think i'm struggling, she is hard work but because i love her so much i can somehow handle it. also, i wouldn't be happy with dd2 eating any chips but with salton it

t42and24t - my lo's a hard baby anyways. she has gone off her door bouncer. she mainly plays on the floor with dd1's old toys and i keep swopping them around. she loves her taggies toy, have you seen them? we got it from blooming marvelous.

munki - that's all dd2 is wearing at night. it is too hot for them. i check up on her and she feels fine.

so as you know i told the landlord whats what with the law. he's promised the house to some lad and has told us we must still be out by the end of july. hopefully we will be as i can't wait to get out now, but i feel like, how dare he do this to us? he knows he can't get us out yet he's still pushing it. i don't care anymore because there is nothing he can do.

Compo ~ i was in a nosey cow mood and peeked onto the childbirth thread you left here for cori. After reading the entire thread, it's put me in an incredible broody state of mind!! ok so i didnt go through labour or normal delivery but man o man!!! all this talk about what to pack and take with, etc...its making me crazy!!

i've thought it was best that i add that thread to my watch list...i wanna see how it all goes for ...err...trace2, is it?

its alll so exciting!

oh shoot; sorry teafortwo LOL ...

DS2 seems to love playing with DS's Thomas trains!
DH & DS1 will set them all up, all the tracks, all the sets, and then Mr. Destructo comes in hell-bent on destroying what he can!
Seems to relish it, in fact.
Payback for DS1's roughhousing, I suppose
Also loves (as did DS1) these stand-up musical tables ; we have two & he goes back & forth between them.

Kream - your landlord. What a jerk.

MrsHarry ... Ugh; sounds totally familiar (to a native Houstonian). Broken A/C is awful. Sorry. Going to have to get used to sweating more for that next move ...

Finding that we are as nonexistant now that we're on our way out. DH ran into a collegue yesterday who said, "heard you're gone now." It's very strange.

Felt so pathetic after DH left today & DSs in bed cleaned out garage to distract myself ... had to do it anyway as part of "staging" the house for sale ...

Now 2 hours later, & have swept beaucoup varieties of 8-legged (alive-but not long) & 6-legged (dead) fauna ... more than I wanted. Not particularly afraid of spiders, but dreams will have a nightmarish quaility tonight ["yuck" emoticon]

Overdue for sleep ... 'night all

Thanks compo...! how excitng for her, she was so desperate for another wasn't she? Glad PCM all ok too now...

well children in nursery all day (have to give notice hence still 3 full days for another 2 weeks) & I really am going to clean the house instead of sat surfing!!! Feels very stange...nice strange....but still strange! Am off to get hair cut even shorter on Wed with DD! She had a great time on the tube & going into London last tme so stupidly (!!) I agreed to take her along again, do I hope I'm not setting some sort of precedent for her later years..

hello everyone

munki - broodiness! mine has definetly gone. i do want another one, one day i think, but not for us yet. it's too much hard work.

marls - i hate spiders. i really couldn't have done that job, you are so brave. when i was pg with dd1 i was sat watching telly one morning, looked down and there was a huge (one of the biggest fattest spidders i have ever come across) sat on my chest. i flung my dressing gown off, ran upstairs grabbed a shower and left the house. couldn't come back until dp returned from work. when he did the spider had gone. it came back 3 days later when dp was there so he took it outside. i was scared anyways but that has made me terrified of them.

cori - hope your hair cut goes well with dd. i really need mine doing again, it looks dead at the moment! my roots are so long. my sisters a hairdresser though so i'll just get her to do it one night and will babysit for her in return.

dd1 has never had her hair cut (so's dd2 but there's nothing there to cut!) i love little girls with long hair.

anyways got jobs to do and want to take kids out in this lovely weather.

hope everyones having a good day.

Hi to all those who remember me and greetings to those who don't! I haven't been able to come online for ages but have at last managed and thought I'd put in a little update! I used to be just Mandaz but as I have closed down the account I was registered with and forgot my password I had to change it!

DD is now 9 months (as of Friday) and thriving. She has her first two teeth (bottom) and is starting to crawl although she's better at going backwards than forwards! She is a really funny little girl with an ace sense of humour but she is also very strong willed and is prone to the odd tantrum when she doesn't get her way! I think last time I came on I was having problems getting her to eat lumpy foods but she's now well over that and has a huge appetite, especially for bananas.

Being a single Mum's been really hard work but I feel a bit more in control now. I've started training to be a Driving Instructor and have my first set of exams in a couple of weeks. It's going to be hard having to go to work after all this time but it'll mean we have a much better quality of life and hopefully can afford our own place. My ex-hubby has been horrid all the way through our divorce, which is thankfully almost at an end. He's currently applying to the Courts to get his parental responsibilities removed as he says he wants nothing to do with DD but will pay CS (not that I've seen anything yet). I think we'd be much better off without him as he's very unstable and aggressive but it still hurts that he's taking it out on DD.

I am feeling totally broody at the moment. I keep seeing tiny babies everywhere. It must be hormones! All I have to do now is find a new, nice fella! I definitely don't want to go through it all alone again.

I don't know if anyone still uses the Yahoo site but I'll try and upload some photos on it in a while.

I hope everyone is well and all DDs and DSs are thriving too and I'll try to get online more often as I miss the conversations!

Hi all!

Good question re toys T42, it's nice tohear what everyone else is into. I love the look of those tables you have Marls, I know Lucy would love them. She likes any noisy toys. She loves sitting in front of a basket of her stuff and pulling it all out. But the non-toys are still lots of fun...she played for ages with a piece of ribbon earlier. Best outdoor toy is the swing (think i said that) but she also loves the paddling pool (got into that in France) and the baby walker today became an outdoor toy too. She's in the door bouncer a whole lot less than ds was. She likes his brick trolley too...and his wee cars and trains and duplo bricks! Best of all loves other wee ones, especially her big brother which is lovely.

Mabel - as far as the wedding goes I'd want my LOs to be with me for the meal and for as much of the reception as they're happy for but I love the idea of an optional creche type place where we could either take them to play or leave them if they (and we!) were happy. We have dh's mates wedding a week on Saturday...5 hour drive, overnight in travel lodge and straight home after so all a bit mad. We'll see how the LOs last! It's be convenient if Lucy wasnt' crawling by then, but she's looking like it won't be long!

Just popped in to tell you that Elizabeth crawledish today, she was on her elbows instead of her hands

Mandaz, it's good to hear from you and nice to know you are getting on well.

Over to the yahoo group now to update my photos....

Still confused!
I have the opportunity to get some studio space with another artist, so that I can start making my ceramic pieces. My mum would be completely behind me and would look after DD whilst I make pots. She would rather do that than if I were to do any other job.
But a position has become available in our Real Nappy project that I think I could do and would really enjoy. only 14hrs a week but involves travelling. Would that mean that it realistically would be more than 14hrs away from DD?
I have asked for further info to be sent to me, so I may be able to answer that question soon.

But I feel, and so does my dad (I think), that either would pull me away from DD and I am not sure that I want to do that. I should just be happy to be a SAHM and not try to do too much until she is older. Also I would be trying for no2 in Sept. And, as the Real Nappy job starts then, and I was mega ill with morning sickness last time, I am not sure I could even do the job. But then again, maybe I won't be ill this time and it is such a good opportunity?????

Sorry, Cori. Maybe I am not the one to ask!
What am I doing now? My plans?
To freak out! Obviously!
Didn't think I would but here I am!

I think it is just cos both things have come up at once and my head was a mess anyway.

Heh, on not getting a decent goodbye from your work, cori, my work hasn't even acknowledge my resignation yet never mind a goodbye party!
Yeah, ok, I only put it in on Thursday perhaps I should give them a chance?

Mabel, I think I would want to have DD with me if I felt she was able for it but hate it when people plan things out for me without asking for my input first. I would be cross about it too. But then I may calm down later and think, oh it might be a handy thing to have.

My SIL booked a room, when we were having a big family lunch. I initially thought, god why? Does she want rid of her child!?
Even when I got there I was still thinking how ridiculous! But when I arrived DD was sleeping , and I thought, och I will just take her into the dining room, she will be fine.
It wasn't until the very last second that I suddenly saw the sense in it. If I put DD into that room, she can finish her snooze and she will be on much better form for meeting everyone afterwards. I felt like I had to eat a huge dollop of humble pie, when I asked for the key, even though she never knew I had thought it to be a silly idea.

Was that one of my rambles? Did it help at all?

In the end DD slept for about 5 mins and then I had to go get her. But I guess the idea was a essentially a good one.
Her DD slept for a good hour in the room during lunch.
Not helped by my leaving DD's changing bag in the room and then asking for it before their baby woke.
Did I get frosty looks!!

Fairy i agree with you that i think having things planned for my children has not gone down well, i don't think it is a case of the facility being there to use if we need to, more a acase of, once DS1 has done his duty as page boy, basically he has to make himself scarce with a complete stranger.
..he's 2.5 yo FFS! As for Ds2, as i said he's not on the invite, but as i'm still feeding it's not an option to not take him unless i don't go. i thoroughly understand some people don't want kids at their wedding, but you can't ask them to be page boys / girls and then expect them to 'disappear'!!!
Also what a choice you have to make!! I have to say as job opportunities go, those aren't bad ones to have to decide between, i wish i could help, but ultimately it's your decisioln, I guess with the ceramics thing, you would be more able to pick and choose whn you work which would be useful.

Hi to Mandaz - great to hear from you, sounds like you and your DD are doing really well!

Good luck with the haircut tommorow cori - you will have to let us know what it looks like...are you having a 'pob' ?

Well i have managed to get both DS's down for a nap at the same time this afternoon, bliss...so am just peacefully tucking in to my smoked salmon salad before i get my cleaning head on!

DS2 has just learnt to wave...it is the cutest thing ever!!! I could never get DS1 to do it (he was perfectly capable, but like everything else he chose to do it, when HE decided!!)

I just bought that Janey Lee Grace book ' imperfectly natural baby and toddler' has anyone else read it? I just started flicking through it last night, looks quite interesting, but i am sure it'll tell me nothing that i can't find on here!

oh and on the toys thing, we have a toy tractor with trailer from john lewis that DS1 had for his 1st birthday, it is quite chunky and has animals that fit in the trailer and make the appropriate noises if you press them down and it ilso sings 'old macdonald'. Ds2 makes a bee line for that he loves it!

Also he is watching DS1 playing all the time, he watched him with his work bench and grabbed the hammer, crawled up to it and started banging it...i was quite impressed!

With my SIL, if she had done this, she would have been thinking that she was doing the right thing and that I would appreciate it.
It only makes me more angry though. Maybe you should have asked me first if I thought it was a good idea before going ahead and booking it then telling me afterwards and expecting me to be grateful.
How can you then tell them that you are thoroughly ungrateful for their thought and that it was an incredibly silly thought!!

She has done another one of these recently actually, which is maybe why I can understand where you are coming from Mabel. She booked holidays for DD's birthday and then informed me that she would be coming up to our neck of the woods just in time.
Thus putting me under pressure to organise something because she is coming up for it and aren't I lucky that she was so thoughful?
No, to be thoughtful would be to ask if I was doing something and when so that she could arrange around it.
As it stands, she is coming up for the week (mon-fri) DDs b'day is the Wed, but I would probably have arranged something (if anything) for the weekend.
Now DH will have to take time off if I am to arrange anything to fit in with their (well timed) visit. As will anyone else, come to think on it.
But how do you tell her that without sounding ungrateful for her kind thought and wishes to be with her niece on her first birthday???
Actually, I think I did try to suggest it but it was either ignored or brushed under the carpet.
I distinctly remember suggesting it as, that way, her DH would have to take less time off work.
And I think I was informed that it was too late, she had booked it now.

These thoughtful people and so thoughtless!!

Your guys do sound way out of order to want your LO around to look pretty in the pictures and then to be shoo'ed away for the meal.
And how can you say anything because you are to be grateful that they have chosen your LO to be a part of their wedding (up to a point).
uuooh
Catch 22!!

Oh, dear! that was a bit of a rant!!
Not even sure where it came from! I thought I had reconciled myself to SILs visit

As I said Mabel...do they want children at the wedding or not? You simply cannot have it both ways..........

Had MRI today..bloody noisy & very claustrophobic...