++March 06 ++Birthdays Ahoy- thread the third++

[UniSarah]

Ok, I think I have spelled everything in teh title correctly. shout at me if i havn't.

Happy St davids day March 06 mums and tots.

Oooh LL, cousin getting c-sect on 24th of Oct they're keeping a close eye on her.

Friz, I can't believe that your cousin is nearly due already - I am so pleased for her and hope all goes well.

DTM - it all sounds very crazy at the moment so hope things settle down soon...keep us posted.

Free bar was at the Hilton. We had a executive room so free drinks in the lounge each evening! Recommended although I had put on a pound and a half when I weighed in last night .

u recon I should be nice? tbh I want nothing to do with any of them - they can take me to court cos beleive you a me, the inlaws will never get to ahve my son for any stays unles my XH is there - and even then that's under question as tbh (call me a pfb mum) but they sit in the pub - literlaly over the road form tehm 24/7 well when it's open. H will go and would also take DS in there - he will be sen as something to show off and the dummy will be shoved in to keep him quiet . v angy today the only people I can rely on and now trust is my family. sad but true.

Oh DTM, it's such a mess isn't it? I don't really know what to say. I don't think you should focus on anyone trying to take DS away - you would win any court case but I doubt it will even come to that. As you say you have the support of your family which is the most important thing.

Can you arrange for the in-laws to meet you in a park or indoor play maybe?

they live the other end of the country so if they want to see him either DS goes up for a week or so they come down for that long. I don't wan tDS to go up there, was differnt when we were married as H actually agreed with me.

Gosh yes, that is a problem. I didn't realise they were not local. You're right then, XH will have to take DS over for a weekend.

quite right LL, that's what will have to happen, they'll only be able to see him, when he's in dh's custody. However don't go burning your bridges with them unnecessarily, its not their fault that all this has happened, and they are still ds's GP's when all said and done, even if you don't agree with their lifestyle choices. Try and keep it amicable for ds's sake, I know that you didn't want this to happen and dh is a s* for this, and you'll hate him forever(my dh still hates his exwife, but they're nice for the sake of their son, hell I get on with her better than him!) but reality is, your both still his parents and you need to remain focused on what's best for your ds, regardless of your feelings for each other (which is the toughie) Remember the nicer you are to each other, the more stable ds will be as he grows up and believe me they do know the difference between who does what for them and who doesn't, kids remember!

Ok sorry for the preaching there, got carried away.....

Right, so that's what I need to do for a free bar

Off camping this weekend, think I need a lot of extra fleeces and might need to find the hats

dd2 whalloped her head on our wall this morning, recess corner edge huge cut and an egg seems ok now though.....mind you has gone to bed early 5.30 as she's shattered, been running her round Markeaton park since lunch, then to friends for a cuppa before home!

Have great weekends all

Friz- do any of your LARp events involve tournament competitions? I'm trying to work out how best to structure a hockey tournament that has 2 pitches and 6 hours to give 8 teams as manay games each as poss AND come up with a ful1-8 ranking. currently thinking of a balanced triple elimination with dribble penatlys in case of ties. Your thoughts if you have any to spare.
Thanks for twinkle,he really does like it, just drives dh and I up the wall when it goes ballistic at 10pm .
sorry about teh Pompy / S'ton thing, yeah I Know its a goof but they are pretty close by each other so I wasn;t toooo far of course.

it's ok friz - H thinks you throw money at things and it fixes it - I beleive love and nurture, I guess I'm worried that H will be able to buy/give DS more materialistic things that I won't and DS will prefer to be with him, esp as he won't see him v much. inlaws also soil DS as well - have no probs with as it's a grandparents right iycwim, but tehn I also think but it's me to deal witht eh fall out - it's me who won't be able to get him all the things he wants (lack of funds) when he's older I mean, and he'll prefer to be wiht his dad than me even thou i'll ahve been the one up all night with him, dealing wiht his nightmares etc etc.

trying to remain civial with H he's telling me currently about all his comings and goings/ out and about etc and I'm like seriosuly I don't care see DS, pay your money and I don't want to know i'm not intrested in you and what you're doing anymore.

re inlaws - i'll be civil, they can visit - hell i'll even let them stay at my hosue (and hopefully once I ahve a place here) they can stay there for a few days with DS - would prefer they spend their time (and what little spare cash they have) doing things wiht DS than B&B's. BUT as I say I am really not happy about DS going up there. woulnd't be half so bad had MIL not shown this last few weeks how 2 faced she can really be.

I'm so sorry to hear how crap your XH is being DTM - hang in there, sounds like you are being a great Mummy to your DS, which is just what he needs (((hugs to you)))

Hello to everyone else - Friz I can't blieve you are camping...we did a week in Wales late August and have now retired out tent for the season...take lots of hot chocolate, water bottles, brandy etc!

Oh DTM, your DS might have times when he is older when he 'prefers' his Dad, but he will always know who was there for him and who was not. He wont forget everything you will do for him, - when he's bigger he will remember.

hey friz, did you survive the camping?.
we booked in to a budget hotel after our hockey tournament. Our team came 6th of 8. and I have 2 teams already signed up and paid for teh Jan tourny that we host! didn't see any more of S'ton than a sports centre but we did stop off at Lyme regis on the way home and boy throughly enjoyed an ice cream. Boy was a star at teh tourny, watched all our games from a corner area and kept trying to climb over teh barrier and join in.

Just popping by....hello to one and all.

Kiah had croup last night and ended up in A and E! She is much better today but likely to be wheezy again in the night .DP took her but we are all knackered so washing up then bath and bed.

I'm running a gathering for city farms and community gardens in Manchester tomorrow and meant to be doing a workshop in funding. Am hoping that no-one signs up though so I can join in my friend's arty one and make plant pot snakes.

at you LL, I hope people do turn up for you sure it'll do your business much better
for Kiah with croup, hope she's better soon.

DTM agree with Astro, kids know, they do! ds will remember that you were there for him, regardless of money, money is great for fad things, but it can't buy time or happiness. He will remember everything you do for him and he will know you do it for love.

Uni, sorry I wasn't back in time, doubt I'd have been much use though!

Astro! yep we camped, it wasn't too bad actually, rained both nights, so kept the temperature up! hurrah!! dd2 teething the back ones though majorly gripey.
also peed off today as someone has taken her coat home from nursery, if it doesn't come back, they'll be getting a bill from me 1st day in toddlers and this happens.......(loads of dd1's stuff went 'missing' in toddlers and I'm not standing for it twice)

no worries friz ( like teh halloween name) we have decided on a round robin format as that max games for all, but limiting entry to 8 teams. Our comp isn;t till Jan, we were playing at Southamptons comp on saturday. CAme 6th.

I like autum, boy likes apples and blackberries so hes getting lots of fresh free fruit at teh mo.

Mmmm especially in crumble
Off to watch 28 weeks later now (apt for the new name eh!) catch ya soon, not much going on here, bar lots of work and possibly a few more teeth at the back, poor wee mite.

mmmmm crumble.....

Just snuck on the pooter whilst waiting for curry, beer and Heroes. No wonder I've only lost half a pound this week!!!

Hope everyone is well....pop by and tell me some gossip!

no gossip here...hows Kiah?

DS is coming on so well with his potty 'training' (although its all a bit of a fluke really!). He only had one wee on floor accident, although I did put a nappy on when we did the nursery run, and it was wet. I haven't washed a pooey nappy for more than a week! Hurrah! Just bought a lovely new soft Swaddlebees, which can pul up and down like pants (for when we are out) - it is sooo lovely and soft and I am enjoying the excuse to buy new naps!

We had Aussie friends staying last week, and another bunch are coming up in a few weeks, this lot have two babies, so a full house.

I am also enjoying the autumn weather (although it was very damp today), but not enjoying the fact that its so much harder to get excersize and just generally be active in this weather. I forget every year how quickly the cold comes and how long it stays!

It has gone a bit chilly eh Astro?

Kiah is on the mend but is still full of a cold. Hasn't been in nursery this week but has gone up to my mum's today so I can get some work done - oops am on MN!!

We had a potty breakthrough yesterday as had given up since hols and then took off her nappy and she asked to do 3 wees on the potty!! I bought some brightbots pants off Flame's website so she is in them today and very proud of her 'knickers'! We'll see how she goes but am inspired to really give it a try again. Sounds like DS is doing well too.

Just off to post about my poorly bitten nipple....need advice and sympathy.

Hi LL, astro, Friz et al. all this potty talk is scary. Boy is moderatly reliable at doing a wee or pooh staright after breakfast but thats as far as we have gone so far. hedoesn;t seem to care if its on teh potty or on teh floor.

I went shopping today and bought a frock for friends wedding celebration at w/end. I hate clothes shoppoing even more with a tot in tow. not fun. however chelidh on sunday should be good. I'm off to pack now, as big road trip for us starts tomorrow. Its only teh other end of teh country we are going to. ho hum.

sorry girls not ben back in esp after the support you've given me.

all's quite on the western front busy bee thou lookin/feelin fab! lol.

potty training erm no still not trying it! lol.

We have some of those pants from flame too LL! So cute! DS was wearing bright purple ones today, with his new bright orange and aqua striped baby legs - what a stud! I took lots of piccies to send home. My ultra conservative friend came 'round and looked scandalised that I would dress a boy like that, but I say poo, why shoud girls have all the fun clothes?

Don't worry Uni and DTM, I didn't start with DD until she was 2, it just sort of happened with ds - I wouldn't bother if he wasn't interested. Actually LL, it was metting you and your DD1, and her being out of nappies so early that has inspired me to keep the potty about and encourage DS to use it...and its worked! (Thank you!!! ). I'm not sure when I'll be brave enough to go out without him in a nappy though - he still wees a lot when I put one on him for the car, but maybe its only because he knows he can? Thoughts?

Poor bitten nip! What is your little girl doing biting the boob that feeds her! Rascal!

We are down to 2 feeds a day now - thinking we may aim to finish by Christmas...but I say that now...!

off to bed - have a good tri uni

ya know I wrote a post for here earlier, got distracted and then went out for a girls nite in was good, Meridian's chocolate cheesecake is fabby, for those of you who have been by the MN WI threads!

LL OUCH

Glad everyone else good, Astro, photos of the boys attire please

I second Friz there Astro - photos please of the poor boy!!

Glad I inspired you to potty train early Astro but have to admit that Kiah is crap! She's a lazy little sod IMO. If your DS is doing well I'd say to try without the nappies when you are out and about....take a potty under the buggy and put a couple of cloth nappies under the car seat or like a cushion. I went cold turkey with Tilly very early on and never used trainer pants at all. Am trying a different approach this time but not working as well - maybe because it's inconsistent and random. We'll get there in the end.

Kiah seems to have rethought the biting and my poorly nipple is much better, thank goodness.

We went to Yorkshire Sculpture Park with some friends today - the Andy Goldsworthy stuff is great and even managed a (last of the year?)picnic!

Uni, want to hear all about the ceilidh as soon as you get back - how far have you driven??

Anyone else reeeeaaalllllyyyyyyy broody??????

photos as requested on my profile page