Morning all,
Well, last night I finally snapped, dh and mil have been doing my head in with their fussing, and talking about getting into some sort of routine etc.
Okay the routine they're suggesting isn't very strict (put him to bed around eight thirty, if he cries after that go up to comfort him rather than bring him down) but as it's me who is feeding him it is me who spends most of the evening upstairs.
I know they mean well, but it does make me get a little paranoid; makes me feel a bit "ganged up on", iyswim. The mw coming yesterday solved a bit of it by saying that what I was doing was right, but dh now says he feels left out. So I snapped and shouted at him while he was on the phone to sil at about half seven, and at the top of my voice pointed out that if he wanted Bertie in bed for eight thirty he'd better get off the phone and make the tea like he promised.
Now sil is peed off with me, as she is paranoid that I don't like her, and dh is paranoid that she thinks badly of him... all this paranoia!
See the thing is, normally I am very pragmatic and take things as they come, but having hormones flying around isn't the best recipe for that!
However, last night we did scrap the bedtime routine thing and Bertie slept like a dream. I just think that a week and a half old is too early for a routine, especially while I'm demand feeding. But I say this to dh and he gets a sulk on about me making all the decisions... it's hard, you know?
Anyway enough of my ramblings.
Chocpenny lol at you eating your ds1's choccie bar. What kind of an example is that?
Sazzy what are your neighbours like? If they're the understanding type I'm sure they'll realise that you are adjusting to life with a newborn, and keep the noise down for a while.
Callie I bet your dp's Dad was made up to pay for your pram, he probably loves to be able to make some sort of contribution. Like Diva I'd never heard of a Bugaboo before I came on MN, where do you live? I think they're more of a Southern phenomenon perhaps? Up here the posh ones are Silver Cross.
Rosy / Foxy hands off my coat! Sil bought it me for either my 27th or 28th, can't remember. Haven't worn another coat since, I'll be gutted when it falls apart finally!!
Kitty yes it is a steep learning curve, especailly for dh - sounds silly, but I can come on here and get advice from you lot that have been there before, he doesn't have that, the only person he speaks to with experience of babies is his Mum, who does have a lot of great experience but everyone does things differently and I feel I would like chance to find my own way, iyswim.
Jay I'm sorry to hear you're having such a rough time of it all. I hope things get better for you soon, you sound like you're coping as well as you possibly can. {{{hugs}}}
Piffle I'll watch out for that growth spurt. Actually the mw weighed him yesterday, he has gone from 7 pounds 13 to eight pounds. That's good apparently as some babies lose weight. Still wish she'd do it in Kilos though, I can't get my head round "old money"!
I have a glass of wine every night now, it's great not feeling guilty. Diva I do wonder what it is the equivalent of, how much alcohol gets into the milk, it probably is the equivalent of putting a few drops into the formula, lol!
Dolly sorry things are getting on top of you a bit, they're bound to with two so young I suppose! {{{hugs}}} Nice to hear from you though.
Sorry for the long post ladies, just had to get stuff off my chest!