July 2016

[primarynoodle]

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It's been a godsend!

Bold fail!

Sock I got a mamas and papas one off gumtree which is pretty basic but has a vibrating feature which settles dd quite well for a few mins when crying (long enough to brush teeth or get dressed etc) was a bargain as well

How many of you are going to baby groups yet? I'm starting toddlers today but it's more for me than Adam! I need to get out and meet some mummies!

Thanks speak will get some today

Think it's also time for gripe water.

I wish I bought that chair sock, I bought a mothercare one as it was cheaper, and he can't sit in it - it says from newborn but he's too upright and has no head support (comes with one but I find it worse with it!) thom the chairs are a godsend though.

dolly ha to the extra chin! Go you

primary it's all baby led at this point I believe? Shattering though. Sometimes we go 2 hrs sometimes 5 if we are out and about

sock the toddler group we sometimes go to isnt on in school holidays :( was debating the BF group on Weds but will also have a 6/7 year old and 3 year old?! I don't know what the rule is on this?!

So the unsettled baby continues into today. I wish someone would make him stop crying :( to make matters worse he really won't feed out of one boob.. It's always been less preferred (since the mastitis I think) but now he's literally refusing that boob. I've found myself giving up as it just results in screaming and frustration, and giving him the good one. I've pumped out the other but I can't keep doing it long term

Thanks guys. Just got back from hospital. C section cancelled due to staff sickness and too many women in labour. Small chance it may happen this afternoon so I've got to stay faster till 12. If not I'm literally going to staff my face!!! X

Oh anna that's so frustrating!!! Fingers crossed they make space for you xxx

First day home alone without DH - agree with all that those chairs are a godsend, only way I've managed a wee so far is putting him in chair on bathroom!

indians so good to know there's an end to the boob pain - it's pretty bad at mo and worse at night, like everything.

cookies unsettled baby here last night too. Probs picking up on that DH back to work today so fed every hour from 4.30 to 1am - v sore boobs today!

Dear god what a morning so far! No poo since Saturday evening so he's struggling and very grizzly!

All he wants to do is eat. To the point he had 300mls between 6 and 10, still screamed for more but eventually fell asleep for long enough to let me sterilise his bottles. Maybe I was optimistic trying to cook sausages but he was having none of it. Had screaming so bad he was making himself cough. Had to make him another bottle but had to put him down to do it which made things worse.

Actually at wits end.

Unsettled babies all round it seems.
I think my ds is down to tiredness/ wind but who knows.

Hello,

Just catching up, we spent the last 3 days of DH paternity leave away in our camper.. Raff did really well but did have one unsettled night which I was super paranoid would have us kicked off the site however the van nearest us were surprised we had a baby so maybe he wasn't as loud as I feared! Was lovely though and a good treat for DD as we would normally have been at camp Bestival but we weren't brave enough.

We are at 15 days here and in cluster feed/ growth spurt mode for sure he fed every hour last night so today hasn't been very productive so far! We need to go shopping but it's not happening yet. Raff is very clingy it's also DH first day back at work today so we are free styling and taking it easy!

Anna- hope they get you in today or you are currently eating lots of yummy food!

We inherited a swinging graco chair it's fab but big so hard to move around - we could do with an upstairs cheap one as it doesn't go up and down easily and as its borrowed I don't want to break it!

Also desperate for exercise have been missing the gym but going to wait for at least four weeks aside from walking as ligaments are still stretchy and I am hypermobile so can't be doing with injuring myself and brung frustrated for the sake of a few weeks...

I had the mirena coil before primary and loved it, I am getting another one put in at my 6 week check.

Beautiful pictures of the babies, hallies hair is truly amazing Indians.
Becks we have that bath although Ben looks far more chilled than Raff does in it gorgeous boy!

Hope everyone's day goes well and those that need a nap get one! My aim to do shopping 2 loads of washing and drag DD out for a walk in the rain.. On that note I must go and get clean before this boy wakes up.

Rolly you're very brave to take Rafferty camping!

I'm so pissed off with DH this morning. He's gone from helping me during the night, offering to fetch drinks of water etc to just leaving me to it. I'm having to go to bed between 9 and 10 to ensure that I get some sleep between nursing Rose. He's coming between 12 and 1 these last few days. He's offering no help with settling Rose after night feeds.
Now he's asleep on the sofa. I'm tidying the house

What fucks me off even more is that he's mirroring my housework levels. Obviously I spend at least 10 hours, often more in a 24 hr period nursing/burping Rose. I might get around to a couple of chores each day. So he'll do a couple too, so from his perspective it all seems very 'fair' and 'equal'. He's doing the bare minimum he can get away with (he's a teacher on summer hols btw so no work to go to)

He doesn't seem to see that his day consists of 7 ish hours of lovely unbroken sleep, followed by leisurely breakfast, hours of iPad gaming interspersed with maybe 2 household chores, some napping, TV time in the evening and then bed when he feels like it. A bit different to mine, where every waking moment I'm doing something useful/necessary and all on maybe 4-6 hours of very broken sleep.

I don't want to confront him as it'll make the atmosphere awful and I can't handle that right now. It'll up skittle our eldest as well.

Time to do some PA hoovering and wake him up. KNOBBER!

Sorry for the rant
Knew you lot would understand though

Flossie he sounds like he's being a right bellend! How would handing him baby to wind/settle directly and turning over to sleep go down?

Anna how annoying!!

flossy that is so annoying!!!! I'd stay up with him and crying baby so that he can't play his computer games!!

Such an unsettled baby here too. Constatntly feeding and or screaming or poo explosions! Flipping heck. First day of DH bank at work too. My God momma is here helping tiday and has taken DS for a walk to calm him down but now I just feel guilty. He's been on the breast for hours with no break!

flossie I'm learning that men are pretty much useless - however good their intentions. Although, it seems that you don't even have his good intentions on your side!

indians great that you've managed to establish a wee routine! I think we've nearly cracked it overnight but day times are still a bit sporadic. He'll have a nap at 9 and give me just enough time to do his bottles and formula pots and one other job. Only one. I tried two today and he was having none of it! He'll also have a super snooze lasting anywhere between 2.5-4.5 hours but that could be any time during the day. He's had 3 hours today but mum has taken him a walk to let me have a shower and wash the puke out my hair!

He's up to 9lb7oz! Not an official weight but I went on the scales then went on again with him! He was 6lb3oz when he was born 5weeks 3 days ago!

Cheery I keep thinking of ways to open his eyes to the reality of having a new baby, but all of them would mean unnecessary distress for Rose

He's just getting all cute sleepy baby cuddles and none of the harder stuff.

To add insult to injury, he just said he was going to mow the lawns. I looked at him like
He said my dad has sent him a text advising that now would be a good time before the rains come later in the week. I'm feeling the rage I DONT GIVE A TOSS ABOUT THE LAWNS WHEN WE'RE LIVING IN A PIGSTY!
He's so desperate to win the approval of my dad that he's run off to do them rather than giving a shit about his own wife. RAGE!

He's now huffing in the kitchen doing huge woe is me sighs as I said we'd got more important things to think about. When he said " like what?" I reeled off a list as long as my arm. It's like having a mid-thirties child as well as the other two.

Wahh my post got lost before I sent it

flossie you poor thing. I send and sympathy. My DH has been shit too. We need an all female tribe to look after one another. I really hope he improves soon for you.

anna I hope they've managed to fit you in. Horrid to be kept waiting. You'll be holding your baby soon :)

Bought another bouncy chair today and DH told me it was a waste of money ( I even returned the crappy one, demanding it wasn't fit for purpose) despite not having been able to put baby G down all day (with two squabbling DDs as well)! I would have spent £450 for 5 minutes peace!!!

cheery don't feel guilty for accepting five minutes peace!! You would be silly not to take her up on the offer. Fairy god mother !!

Flossie I could write your posts! I have decided I'm going to do as primary suggested and just pass baby over to him to burp/settle in the night. It means short term distress maybe for baby but if I don't do it how will he ever learn? He will only try winding her for a couple of minutes before putting her down, then once he's in a deep sleep she will start bicycling or crying and he won't hear her! So over to mommy!

All that said we had some sort of miraculous 8 hour sleep last night! 1030 til 7ish when I got scared n woke her for a feed. She slept in a poddle pod downstairs all that time. I went to bed for the first three hours then hubby came to get me to switch. Wondering how we can possibly make it happen again!

With the long sleep we didn't give the formula feed we were planning to so still just on boob. Have a doctor's appointment in the morning to talk about my anxiety and then midwife after so going to talk to them about a formula feed. Dh thinks we should go all formula feed asap but I struggle to see that he will actually do the feeds/winds and then settle back after.bloody husbands!!

sophie if you're going to go onto just formula feeds, I'd suggest you do it gradually, 1 formula bottle a day then adjust the balance. We were down to 1 bottle of expressed breast milk a day then just stopped. He's had awful trouble with his bowels since. Really needed to do 3/4 bm with 1/4 formula and do it gradually.

First poo today in 2 days though! That's my idea of a good day. Although have just committed the cardinal sin and woken a sleeping baby for a bath and a bottle before bed! I really want to get some sleep tonight and if he was to stay asleep, then he'd think from 10pm onwards was party time! Paying the price for it now. He's in a sleepy lull at the moment but he'll wake soon all guns blazing...

Sock- yes I wasn't going to do it cold turkey as I'm sure it'd have awful effects on us both! From what I've read 6 weeks to gradually change over is recommended. Going to discuss tomorrow and hope that I might feel capable of making a bloody decision! Am normally such a decisive determined person that this anxious feeling is flooring me. Totally incapable of deciding anything. Really hope I snap out of it soon as I'm annoying myself with it!

Indians if baby is happy, doesn't seem uncomfortable, then you're probably OK. My first never needed burping and this one does. She'll throw her head around until the burp comes up. It's good to try and burp them, but if there's nothing forthcoming don't worry.

Cookies 1 can you change position? I can put feed cross cradle on right and rugby on left. dd fusses without those positions!

Socks is it a growth spurt? 4 hour breast feed last night made me at wits end too. Have no idea what the hell it was all about!!

Flossies sorry about your DH :( so hard and they don't get it do they!

Finally seeing someone tomorrow about DDs latch! 6 weeks in...no wonder people give up BF!

Wishing you all lots of sleep I'll probably see you here in about 3 hours during the night feed!

Augh, I just got Ruben off to sleep and in the Moses basket, then made the mistake of putting the blanket on him which always wakes him up. He's not crying though so I have opted to just sit next to the basket and keep an eye on how things develop... Likelihood of him dropping back off to sleep? Winged pigs come to mind, but I feel it's worth a go...

Sorry for those whose DHs are not being cool. I woke mine up at 1am and informed him I'd been up for two hours and he was going to have to take over baby duty before I lost my marbles from lack of sleep. He did a fab job - I didn't even notice him come back in and put the now sleeping baby down beside me!

Had some bloody gloriously stinky creamy Stilton and a mould ripened goat cheese today. Is there anything you need to avoid eating while breastfeeding? Apart from alcohol, of course.

Ruben's umbilical cord finally fell off at 21 days, just shy of the midwife's all-time record of 22. Elliz, is Claudia's still on? (Can't remember on my sleep deprived state whether I've already said that I LOVE the blind, by the way.)

Worked out how to use the sling today and went for a 'walk' into the centre of our village to peruse a second hand dress shop which recently appeared there. It was closed. But I gave myself points for trying.

The pain of breastfeeding seems to be easing off a bit, except when Ruben gets a crap latch - he did just now, and although I relate he's him three times over the course of the feed he still kept slipping and now that boob feels thoroughly bruised.

Anna, hoping the no news from you means that they fitted you in! Thinking of you.

Cookies, I have lost so many long posts on mumsnet that I would have given up long ago were you all not so fabulous! It's effing frustrating.