March 2016 Babies Thread #11 - We've got smiley babies, screaming babies and farty babies!

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This time last year....my nephew was days away from being born, I was planning a wedding and looking forward to that holiday.....little did I know that I would fly home with a little souvenir

Time I'm glad that the sling does work! I had to read the instructions on my sling for ages because I was convinced I would miss out an important step. I do the same as Dom with the swaying, I wish it did my core muscles!
A week off together with your DP will be great for you both! Make sure you get in plenty of duvet days and walks together - what ever you need to be relaxed and happy family.

I had a naff morning, I went to go get G weighed but had never been to the health centre (I'm rural so it's miles and miles between everything!) I got lost, my phone went flat, George was hungry crying - a great triple whammy- so I end up at the centre sobbing snotty tears. So bloody embarrassing. The lady was lovely when I got there and we got G fed, weighed and settled. I'm back home now to resume sofa time. Phew.

Doc hope the docs appt went well! I remember having to go to work when I got my coil fitted years ago, it was naff! Get home and put your feet up 🙂

Swear grand news about the casts!

I think my advice to everyone today is to stay at home 😳 I don't mean to turn everyone into recluse like me!

time perfectly normal to need a bit of help to get baby into the sling. Dh had to help me for the first few days with eddy despite dd having used ut solidly for six months. Baby has to learn to be helpful too! Although you couldn't be hands free I found wearing slings more losely than you should and then supporting baby a little made it easier to do my self. Can you try a couple of kit days after oh's holiday to see how you feel rather than just going back?

Eddy has decided he needs full on entertaining while his awake at the moment. I thing dd's full on attention has given his high expectations!

Right tesco here I come.

Both myself and C have colds, and he's supposed to have his 8 week jabs tomorrow. Grr.

He had the cluster-feed from hell yesterday, never went more than 20 ish minutes off the boob from 4pm until 10:30pm, and for the last 90 minutes was literally just alternating sides to stop him from screaming. Really hoped that would have improved by now...

I've got a horrible cold too trijo, so has ds, thankfully the baby doesn't have it yet. We've got jabs tomorrow too

Thirding the advice to watch you tube videos for the sling time. And this might sound like a silly question, but are you doing it in front of a mirror? I can't do mine blind but in front of a mirror it's a breeze! As the others said it's just practice, maybe the first few times you could wrap it while she's calm, while she's asleep or when dp is feeding her? If you're not stressed and hurrying because she's crying you might be able to get your head around it a bit better.

tri swear Jabs for us tomorrow too. Do we give a dose of Calpol before the jabs?
My mum is meeting us there because I think I'll be a bit tizzy about it. She used to be a HV assistant and spent her days weighing babies (sounds quite nice!) She always used to be asked to hold the babes while getting jabs because their mums got more upset than the baby did.

Just had a suprise visit from my grandma and it made my day seeing how much her getting out and getting to cuddle her great grandson made her day IYSWIM.

Just went downstairs after bath to find baby, DH and 2 dogs all asleep. Think they are trying to tell me something. E had her 6-8 week HV check today. All well though as usual when she needs weighed she was fast asleep and not at all happy about being stripped off. 11lb11 at 9 weeks, so on her centile which is good to know.

time hope you and OH have a good week off together and catch up on much needed sleep - and that the weather holds for some walks in the sling. When E wont settle I'm grateful to get out for fresh air and exercise with the sling or stroller. I feel bad for those at this stage in february, much less appealing.

Damn, this cold is really

.... highlighting how much I need to work on my pelvic floor! (Stupid phone)

Ohwool I gave a dose just before (in Dr's waiting room) as didn't fancy wrestling a screaming baby to get it in him after. Good luck to all having jabs tomorrow. It's not always bad, Ollie was fine with his, he hardly cried and apart from being a bit sleepy which was bliss didn't have any after effects.

Oh, and the GP couldn't get my coil in so I've been referred to the hospital to have it done (same as last time, stupid scarred cervix) but the attempt wasn't painful so hopefully it'll all go ok.

Were up for jabs tmrw too, and ohwool two of my Nct group got told off for calpol-img before as it will mask a temperature they check before they do the jabs.. That said I'm not sure it'll actually be working in the few minutes before so maybe just don't tell them that's what you've done if you do it.

time hope you have a good week with OH off and catch up on some much needed sleep!

swear Good news about the casts hope everyone is happy with them next week!

DD2 also had barely any effects from the jabs - just a bit sleepy the next day but no fever or fussiness! We haven't even had bad nappies which I was expecting with the rota virus one!

Sorry to hear about your coil issues doc. Fx the hospital visit goes ok.

Thanks for All the sling advice,
I'm hiding in the bedroom now. Just had a hysterical crying fit as oh has come home and settled her in five minutes when I've been trying all day with the sling, pram, swing chair, holding her.
She's been so over tired every day this week because I can't make her sleep and he comes home and bam she's asleep.
He didn't mean this in a nasty way but he mentioned that she's never this over tired when we are together and something's going wrong but it's nothing I'm doing. His right :(. Gosh I feel so useless.
I phoned my boss today to. I return eight weeks on Monday. I have to send a letter into confirm I definitely want to return.
I'm not cut out to be a full time mum.
Good luck to all the jabs tomorrow. Dd has been no different other than off milk and very tired after the eight weeks one.

Oh Time you poor thing. They always do that don't they! You spend all day trying to settle and bam, as soon as someone different takes them they are a different baby and zonk out. I think they pick up on the tension and it's then a viscous circle. Your OH doesn't have special powers though. He's just a new face that's probably a bit less frazzled than you.

If you would be happier going back to work, then do that. It's nobodies choice but yours. Could you maybe do just a few days a week though so that you have a balance between getting a break and still spending time with C? Or could your OH take up shared mat leave? Why don't you see how next week goes with the two of you together and then make a plan from there.

One thing is for sure is that you are not useless. Your baby is struggling to settle and that would make any mum fraught.

Time I agree with Rhu it is just a change of face for Calais and also your oh is coming to her fresh and breezy and not having the exhaustion of spending the whole day trying to settle her. Big hugs to you.

Vroc I was just thinking what a feed idea calpol before is. I agree there is no way it can work that quick and also E didn't even have her temp taken before the jabs so that doesn't seem to be standard procedure. Good luck!

Hi all, forgive me I've been absent for a while and now coming on for a very self indulgent whinge! MIL is here, staying with us for a month and I'm finding It tough! She loves DD to bits and I know means well, but AIBU to be upset by the following:

Within an hour of arrival she was complaining about immigrants ruining her hometown, saying that the only place you hear English spoken 'without an accent' is in M&S. Completely ignoring the fact that she is not actually British herself and has a distinct accent but it doesn't count because she is white Not to mention the fact that DH and I are currently immigrants here!!

The first time I bf DD, baby was getting frustrated (as I have a low supply - I give her what I can then she gets mainly formula) MIL came and sat next to me and told me I was holding her wrong, I was in the wrong chair, my nipples are too big for her mouth, I need to pump more, etc. I ended up in tears and now take baby to my bedroom to feed, but she hasn't stopped going on about me having to drink bloody Guinness. DH told her that I have tried everything possible including pumping after every feed and Brewers yeast etc, and I had just about come to terms with it but now she's bringing back all the guilt and upset

She's constantly telling me baby is cold and covering her with more blankets, even though DD is a v hot baby and it's been 30 degrees. She said DD had goosebumps but I don't think babies even get them yet?? I've never seen them anyway

Every time DD cries MIL tells me it's for x reason even though I know it's not, eg tells me she's hungry when i know she's tired, and then tuts when I try and put her down for a nap

She keeps pulling baby's legs and arms straight, 'for exercise'

She seems to think nappies should only be changed if baby has pooed, and says 'oh poor baby' if I pick her up off her playmat to change her

She tells me many stories of how much harder she had it, and how lucky I am that DH does the cooking as she had to do everything around the house (prefaced with 'I don't mean this to be derogatory towards you')

Apparently DD is uncomfortable in her car seat and her 4 kids all managed without being strapped in

Before coming over she asked DH if I was still a size 10, as she wanted to buy me a summer breastfeeding top. DH told her under my instruction 'no, Ffaux has just had a baby and doesn't expect to be back to her size for a while'. So MIL brought a top, size 10, and said 'I got a stretchy one so it will fit you'. I had to try it on for her and of course it didn't fit and I felt all crappy. Okay maybe IABU as buying a gift is a nice thing to do, but it all feels a bit passive aggressive to me.

Argh sorry for the long whinge!! Any tips on how to handle her without upset? DH is sympathetic but just doesn't get that it's just me and her all day and it's too intense! I feel bad moaning as she's 77 and I know essentially just wants to bond with her GD, but argh 3 more weeks of this!

ffaux YANBU!!!! Gosh, all your examples are out of line. 3 more weeks...now, you seem very nice so I'm not going to suggest you do anything to cause trouble because I sense that's not your nature. However...can you keep up with plans to go out and see friends etc without her "oh, we're just popping out to wherever, see you in 2 hours" or whatever? Can DH take her out on some trips with DD? That way she gets to see baby but not wind you up. Can DH take any extra leave given its turned out to be perhaps more of a nightmare than expected? He could at least speak to her and say "please respect our decisions about DD when it comes to blankets, feeding, changing. We value your help and will gladly ask your advice when we need it" or words to that effect? Sympathies. My MIL is a pain and asks most days 'is he in a routine yet?' but at least I don't have to have her living with me for 4 weeks.

Blimey, ffaux YAdefinitelyNBU! What a cow. What an absolute horror. And a month of that shite? You deserve a holiday after all that.

Who mentioned the Paddington 'hard stare' before (I know I nicked it from someone when I used it on the maxillofacial surgeon-child)? I think you should practice the pause and hard state on her. Each time she comes out with something, or does something, pause and stare. Let what nonsense she's just come out with sink in a minute.

And as magpie says, escape!

We are up for the first feed after finally getting to sleep about 11.30. We've had two nappy changes and a whole outfit change (back into the stinky woombie - better than a damp, puked on woombie!) and hopefully back to sleep for another 6 minutes or whatever.

He better be sumo weight tomorrow after all this feeding.

Right, I'll be back by 3am I expect!

Hi dom! 3rd night feed underway here after 11pm bedtime. Matchsticks at the ready for eyelid propping purposes.
I know it won't last forever but it feels miserable right now.

Christ ffaux that sounds awful!

Just finished second night feed and really ought to get off MN and get to sleep which isn't too bad; I had a super early night (half 9) after my crap night last night. DD2 just wouldn't settle last night, it took an hour and a half to get her to sleep even though she was clearly knackered and in the end DH had to rock her to sleep and got her to sleep in 5 minutes! (time I feel your pain at the frustration of DHs waltzing in and settling baby straight away!). Hoping it was just that DD2 was feeling ill and was overtired and that it won't be a regular occurrence.

There's only been two hours between this feed and last so as much as I want her to make it past 6am I doubt it will happen...

As expected, am up for the third night feed already.. blargh 😴😴😴

ffaux your MIL sounds like an utter nightmare! It must be dreadful having to bite your tongue the whole time, can you get DH to have a word with her?

I've been up most of the night with DS the poor little man has a cold, so he was coughing away and struggling to breathe a lot of the night. I think I've had about 3 hours sleep, in no more than 45 minute chunks - killer. At least it explains why DS has been so cranky the last few days, he's obviously been trying to fight it off.

Ffaux that sounds so frustrating and a whole month! I think some stiff gins when MIL is in bed is in order!

J did some odd screaming yesterday evening. Odd because he was still asleep but the screaming was intense. It must be too early for nightmares/night terrors right? Had to hold him super tight to get him to calm down and held him in bed until 10pm ish. He then slept fine until 4:50am for his bottle.

I still woke at 3am panicking about DS1's birthday party on Sunday. We are having a bouncy castle in the garden and I'm praying it won't rain. I just can't fit 15 kids and their parents into my house .

ffaux mils are a tricky breed, when I find anyone sticking their nose in I try to file it away in my brain somewhere and see it as them teaching me what not to do when the dc's have grown up and have their own dc's not for at least 25 yrs please.

My connecta arrived yesterday, put C in it but she was grumpy and cried, was as easy to put on as I'd remembered though so that's good. Going to road test it properly today then got our 12 week jabs later

I escaped the 3am feed but had it at 5am instead. Probably better.

Can I ask about food?
Last night DH made a batch of shepherds pies to freeze in various portion sizes. They were still warm when I went to bed. DH voluntarily stayed up past 1am but also didn't put them in the fridge/freezer. He reckons they'll be fine to eat. I think there's no way DS or I am eating lamb mince that's been out all night.

What do you think? Death pie or fine?