March 2016: the one where Indomitable gives birth...

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I hope I haven't duplicated a new March thread in my sleep deprived state.. Went to reply and found thread was full!..

I hope everyone is ok.

Indom fingers crossed you get a good rest tonight.

All is going well over here. I've managed to sort a pretty good routine during the week, which has led to Ted being pretty settled most of the time.

It goes to pieces when DH is off at the weekend, though. I don't know how the house can be clean and tidy and I can get tea ready when it's me and the 3 DC, but it's chaos when DH is here and there's an extra pair of hands

For goodness sake
Baby screaming uncontrollablely for an hour now. Been fed changed burped have been holding her just won't be quiet . Oh has had to take her because I can't handle it. She is like this all day every day unless I take her out
I've had enough. Nothing I do works. She spends 99 per cent of her awake time like this.
I just want to hide away in a dark room and cry.
In dom - you have my sympathy. Calais has been like this since her due date now and I'm slowly loosing the plot tbh

indom and time snap with screamy baby. In fact I could've written your post indom - I've decided I just make screamy babies. Last night the baby screamed for several hours, flailing the whole time. He also won't use boob to settle as the let down makes him upset when he's not hungry. We have to walk him round on our shoulder for ages to get him back to sleep! Tbf I think wind is causing him issues, prob cos of my strong let down. I love him to pieces but he is bloody hard work and I have no idea how I'm going to to manage him and a toddler now DH is going back to work!

Fingers crossed it works for you indom funnily enough we have had a horrid day today too, dp has been off work with bust ligaments in his foot so can't really help muxh as he can hardly walk, ds has screamed all day long when he's been awake - we have had white noise apps on constantly just to force him to sleep. He has been pumping all day long and has done 6 poos, just wish I could calm him.
Had a bath with him just now and he was smiling and happy in it, but as soon as we got out the screams started again. Gaviscon fed and mil brought us round some gripe water saying she swore by it years ago so going to try that next (it smells horrid though) looks like a few of us in for fun nights tonight all round!

Ah, sympathies Time. It's just awful, isn't it.

Crispy - we have the same baby. I thought it was just me. Good luck with both of them. At least mine's at school.

Ah, Q. Maybe it's the weather, or the air pressure or something.

DS2 had an enormous poo earlier, I'm hoping that will have sorted something. I've discovered putting him in the ring-sling is quick and effective and at least means I can eat/make a cup of tea so I don't feel quite so trapped, and he eventually calms down. So he's wrapped up on me now. (We're a bit warm, actually, but I daren't put him down)

Replace the text in that pic with something more appropriate, but I thought the sentiment was apt.

And she's asleep!
Please stay asleep long enough for me to eat my dinner and possibly have a cuppa tea and watch one born.
Of out all day tomorrow so she should sleep all day long.

Let's hope these babies re pay with us a good night.
Oh has offered to do the 12/1am feed so hopefully I should get to sleep till 4/5am.

Sympathies to all. E has whined and screamed loads and finally did a poo and calmed down. She is now asleep on me and I really don't want her to be because I want to have two arms and drink my tea and not ache all over. I love her but not the evenings.

Indom I liked the pic!

I had a really long post typed out since two this afternoon and my phone went flat before I could post. Grr arrg.

The gist and the nub was:

indom 💙☕️ Thankfully my dude seems to only have the screaming paddys every five feeds or so, you have my mega sympathies. I don't think I have any advice that hasn't already been said.

DP has been sleeping in the spare room (important stuff at work going on so he really needs some decent sleep) but has been taking the parent bit to the baby monitor in with him. Awfully, he can he me getting really snappy with G when he's kicking off 😢 (He quickly comes in to take over winding and give me nice reassurances.) G does this thing where he will bite onto my nip and pull his head back whilst pushing against my boob with his claws digging in, then when he finally pulls off the nip shield milk soaks us both. Really fucking frustrating repeated solidly for an hour at stupid o'clock. He finally took a dummy today for ten mins, in the trolley going round tesco. It was a tommee tippee one we got with the steriliser. It was beautiful.

Finally had Gs hearing test today (4 week old!) passed absolutely fine, I turned up ten mins late looking like a drowned rat after getting caught in the sleet, snow and hail. Nice.

Boob group tomorrow, we are working to try and ditch the shields but I swear my flat nips are getting worse.😕

I think it's g&ts, wine and pale ale all round this eve. I'll catch you at the 1am feed.

time the photo of Calais looks lovely, you could of said she had been sleeping for hours and I'd have believed you!

Sympathies to those with screamy babies. Time I hope you get some good sleep.

DS slept all afternoon today, from about 2 until I woke him up at 6.15. We did baby massage this morning so I wonder if it's just that he was so relaxed?! I would never normally wake him but it was such a long sleep and I didn't want him to be awake all night if I had let him sleep any longer. After a bottle, bath, bit of a scream and another half a bottle, he settled down again at about 8.45 so not too bad at all. Hoping for a good night!

MrsBen I know what you mean about it almost being harder at the weekends when dh is around! It's nice when he does some of the feeds and nappy changes etc but I often feel slightly more stressed somehow just having to deal with another person and do things that he wants to do as well. I'm almost a bit relieved when it's the weekdays again and DS and I can get on with our routine (as much as DS has one) the way I like!

I say finally a lot in that post and it makes me sound really impatient hah!

M has been awful today. Awful. Screaming, scratching, headbutting, spitting her gripe water out, just absolutely fucking horrendous.

I went to Zumba and for an hour I forgot I was Martha's Mum and was just Rachael again. I'm gathering my strength to do battle tonight....

See you at 3.00 am with wine, fags and chocolate. Am only half joking about the wine and fags

Xxx

They've all turned into monsters! all round although he's just booked to sleep on me and his little sleeping face is incredibly cute

*boobed not booked

Sympathies OhWool. DS (so far) only gets to the grunty stage overnight and is happy to feed and go back to sleep (if not burp). Tonight could be the night he goes for it though...

DH just gave DS2 a bottle of expressed milk. I'm disappointed with how easily and greedily he guzzled it. I sat on the other sofa and pumped. I started to panic that maybe I wasn't producing enough milk (crackers - he's been fine about feeding!) so was relieved when I managed to pump more than he drank (he had the produce of two early pumping sessions). Only did this because he's going to have to take a bottle when I go back to work and DS1 refused. Plan is to try to do one bottle per day from now on. I'm going to have to up my game, pumping wise.

Hope he's not to offended by the boobs later though. Although interestingly he gulped and clicked when he was sucking from the bottle too. (We used the Breastflow bottles so could be relevant)

I think you're onto something with the weather being the cause going by everyone else's comments tonight indom
Ds has been asleep for an hour now but I just can't settle, am on the nursing chair in the spare room as this is where he fell asleep on me and everytime I try to stand up he flinches and pulls an 'I'm going into meltdown' face.
Getting him weighed tomorrow, he's 5 and a half weeks, hasn't been weighed since he was 2 weeks old so am really intrigued. He's exclusively breast fed but he had a bottle of expressed yesterday and today and takes just under 5oz, is that normal or too much? Dp and I are going to a party locally ok saturday for a couple of hours so want ds to take a bottle so mil can feed him if needs be when she's here watching him.

He really is bloody adorable though - fell asleep on me in the bath the other night, it's lucky he's cute haha!

Hey everyone. Sorry to hijack as I know I haven't been on here for a few days but I'm in bits.

"D"H walked out on me tonight. I didn't see it coming at all. I'm normally fast asleep by 9ish but I can't sleep, I feel sick and my head is going to explode. What an absolute bastard.

Q based on my limited knowledge, 5oz seems about right.. R is having expressed milk for all bar one feed and has between 3 - 5oz depending on time of day or if she's just been eating everything I've pumped in a continuous fashion all evening and all the feeds roll in to one you could say about 12oz..

ohwool your not alone R new skill is the bite nipple and claw me until shield falls off too, that was a new move on her part contributing to us mostly using expressed bottles and the screaming although she did settle out of a screaming session last night on the boob so she'll do it if she wants to...

See you in three hours!

Cross posted beaut sorry that is unbelievably shit.

beaut oh my good God, what the actual fuck!? Massive love and hugs from us all. What on earth caused him to flip? Xxxxx

vroc gah, they can be really vicious when they set their squidgy little minds to it. I always assume it's because he needs a good burp,
Either way, it gives me another minute to regain feeling in the boobage area.
I loved pumping and feeding, mostly because DP could feed G, but I could foresee myself spending absolutely hours of my day pumping to stay ahead and G seemed to change his eating patterns from 4/5ox every four hours to 2.5/3 every 2 meaning milk was getting chucked all the time.
I will say I was secretly pretty chuffed he could remember to boob feed since we stopped on day three and started again two weeks later.

Q cuuuuute picture. id say 5oz is a good feed amount. I'd always think (when I pumped exclusively) that a smidge left in the bottle was good as it meant he had eaten is full during the feed, so if you reckon 5oz, stick 5.5 in. (That's just me though.)

beaut sending you hugs and hoping you managed to get some sleep, I think I would be too angry to sleep though . Any chance he might come to his senses and you might be able to forgive him or is it beyond that?

I just wrote a really long post and it didn't post! Annoying. The short version:

Beaut terrible news, sending you hugs and

Q DS (ff) usually has 5oz bottles so that sounds spot on. I've just started offering him 6oz as he was beginning to drain the 5oz ones more often than not.

I think I've got thrush, gross.

I know you're not supposed to make eye contact in the night when doing feeds but DS just gave me the most adorable smile when I was winding him, I couldn't not return it!

beaut what the hell? He is leaving you with 4 kids including a newborn??? Is he definitely going for good? I hope you have a good support structure. For what it's worth I think you're an amazing mum and seem to cope so well with the kids alone since he's away so much anyway, but just hope you've got emotional support too. Sending massive hugs

Wow 5oz? Now I'm worried I've been under feeding her as I never give more than 2.5-3oz per feeding, and she sicks up most of that, based on guidance the hospital gave me. I guess it's based on baby's weight and how many feedings per day they have, and I've also heard it's impossible to over feed on breastmilk

So jealous of you peeps with an abundance of milk

beaut what the hell? He is leaving you with 4 kids including a newborn??? Is he definitely going for good? I hope you have a good support structure. For what it's worth I think you're an amazing mum and seem to cope so well with the kids alone since he's away so much anyway, but just hope you've got emotional support too. Sending massive hugs

Wow 5oz? Now I'm worried I've been under feeding her as I never give more than 2.5-3oz per feeding, and she sicks up most of that, based on guidance the hospital gave me. I guess it's based on baby's weight and how many feedings per day they have, and I've also heard it's impossible to over feed on breastmilk

So jealous of you peeps with an abundance of milk

Beaut Oh honey sending you a massive hug. Vent on here. We've all got big shoulders. I know I don't know you in RL but having spent the best part of a year chatting away to you I feel like you're a friend IYSWIM (goes for all of you actually xxx)

Q M takes about 5 oz if she's starving, the rest of the time she's anywhere between 2 - 5oz. Thankfully she only tends to waste formula feeds but then I do BF her first during the day as she has formula during the night.

Me Ugh Thrush! Canesten for you my love...in fact get thee to a 24 hr Tesco!!

M has transformed into a peaceful snoozing baby. She's such a Jekyll and Hyde baby I don't know if I'm coming or going with her some days.

Right! Feed done, see you in a couple of hours