March 2016: the one where Indomitable gives birth...

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I hope I haven't duplicated a new March thread in my sleep deprived state.. Went to reply and found thread was full!..

All is forgiven for my DH. DS woke again at 6.15am and DH took him and sent me to the spare room where I slept until 9! Bliss. He does do his bit most of the time. It's just hard to remember all the things he does do when it's 3am and you're tired and cross!

Slightly nervous about today - we are going to a wedding. We've taken DS out for quite long stretches before which has always been fine but this will be his longest day out and of course I don't want him to ruin anything with crying! Luckily he's not much of a crier and DH or I can just take him out if he does. I'm packing twice as many nappies and outfit changes as I normally do!

Brownie points for my dh too, had both kids this morning and even used his initiative and gave C formula when she was grumpy had a very uncomfortable left boob when I woke up at 9 but that's hardly his fault! . Now got a big bottle of ebm in the fridge so can take that to the pub when we go out for lunch with friends later and he can be in charge again .

Good luck at the wedding me, I would be taking double of everything as well!

Good luck Me. We are off to a wedding next week so interested to hear how you get on and any tips.

Dh is at work, I'm feeding dex and ds1 is decorating the table with yoghurt!! I'm trying to think of something to do with a 2.5 yr old and a 4 wk old by myself but coming up with nothing!

We had a bad night last night too! What was with the babies?!

Nancy normally just feeds and goes back to sleep in the night, and I'm barely awake for her feeds, hence why I never post on here in the early hours! But at 6am ish she kept crying while feeding wouldn't feed properly so I had to pick her up and she was sick and soaked through in wee, I think?!

The older three have been in this morning and held her for ages so that helped!

Feel bad saying we had a fairly good night.
C has defiantly been feeding more this week. Before she was doing the odd 4 hour stretch at night. Now she is up every 2.5/3 hours.
Last night was at 12,3 and 6. She was easy to settle after 12 and 3 but a bit of a nightmare after six. She went down at seven but was waking up loads and grunting etc until 8 when she fed again. Then has been fussy until 1:00pm when she fell asleep and is still asleep now.
Doctors where ok yesterday. She listened to her chest and checked her temp and all fine. She was eating I front of the doctor who laughed because she's such a guzzler and wants her milk as quick as possible lol.
Gave me nasal drops tbh not sure their doing a lot as she's still struggling to feed poor little mite but has a huge appetite. Taking 4oz bottles sometimes now.
She was sick all in her hair this morning and then pooed and weed changing her bum so she had a bath. She loves her baths, looks so content in them but screams the second you lift her out of their.

I'm feeling like such a crap mum atm. Dex has been a Velcro baby all day. Dh was at work all day. Poor ds1 wanted some attention so he played up all day. I felt like I was yelling at him constantly. Dh finally got home for a break at 3 and took ds1 out to entertain him/ give me a break. He went back to work at 6. So I fed ds1 and took him upstairs to bath him, I left dex in his bouncy chair hoping he would settle for 5 mins but he screamed the entire time. He ended up screaming himself to sleep. He sleptf or 20 mins and now he's feeding again. I feel like I've failed them both today.

Wooden popping on to send you virtual It sounds like a really tough day and you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. I can't remember the exact age of your ds1 but I think he is young? It's hard enough trying to parent E and my ds who is 7 and he is of an age where I can ask him to wait and he is able to do so.

Oh wooden its tough isn't it, I sat in ds's play room with him for half an hour earlier and I realised I've only done that a couple of times since C has been born. I keep reminding myself that whoever I'm not with might be a bit grumpy for a while but as long as they are safe they will soon forget what upset them. Bath time is what I struggle with most ds likes a long bath and is not at an age where I could leave him if C was really screaming, luckily he only likes the bath when he is in it and is happy to not have one if I can't work out the logistics! You haven't failed, teaching patience and independence are both essential life skills!

Thank you. I'm feeling a little bit better now. I just hope Dex goes to sleep soon he's hardly slept all day. Ds1 is 2 1/2 so he doesn't really understand.

Sorry you're finding it so hard wooden, it's impossible to deal with the biggie when the baby is having a screamy day. Hopefully those will be few and far between.

MrsE, my boy loves a long bath too, I've been taking the bouncy chair into the bathroom while he's in there, and have sat on the toilet feeding too. Luckily ds is pretty good at entertaining himself in the bath so I can be quite hands off.

2.5 is a tough age anyway Wooden without a new born as well. I've been snappy with my ds this week which isn't fair but it's just hard sometimes. I feel guilty too because he has been on hols from school and normally we would be off doing days out together but we haven't. Being at my mums was great as he was spoilt by Nanny and Grandad but he didn't get much of my time. I hope you are in for a mammoth sleep tonight- fingers crossed!

Placeholding to come back and read when I can.

The last week has been a nightmare, I was discharged from hospital (again) yesterday after being in 5 days with Sepsis/Tonsillitis/a breast abscess the size of a kiwi fruit in my left boob. It was awful, I felt like I was going to die.

DD's tongue tie got sorted yesterday but I feel like a wreck and unfortunately breastfeeding has had to do one due to the fact the abscess is lovely and painful, plus my milk can't get passed the blockage (tried everything in hospital and they've already tried to drain it once - looks like I'll need to go under and have it cut away to get rid...) I tried to express as much as I could from old faithful right boob, but sadly it seems to have given up the ghost.

Good news is DD has been discharged from midwives and is above her birth weight. She's beautiful and healthy and I'm so in love. She and my wonderful DH are keeping me strong through the tears.

Another one with a ds who loves a bath here. For his 7th birthday we got him a bath pillow which he loves

Nixxy there isn't really an emoticon to give for that! How awful for you! Wishing you well very quickly and I'm glad that dh and dd are keeping you smiling.

Thanks purple I'm glad it's not just me!

Dh is off tomorrow and we are going to my parents so ds1 will get lots of attention!

Sorry to hear you're having such a tough time nixxy

Wooden

Rhu we are back from the wedding and DS behaved beautifully. We made sure we left plenty of time to get there and we arrived almost an hour before the ceremony started and DS was fast asleep but we knew he'd wake wanting a feed right in the middle of it ... So we strategically woke him and fed him before it started! Similarly we then fed him before we sat down for the meal and before we left to drive home so if all worked out really well. I think we had it easier than the parents who were there of toddlers!

As we had packed tons of outfit changes we didn't need any of them the only thing we did find was that there were no baby changing facilities anywhere and I didn't want to change him on the floor of the loos but we just found a couple of quiet corridors away from everyone that had sofas or benches etc and changed him on there. Luckily he only did wet ones, nothing messy!

Glad it went well me! Definitely agree that a toddler at a wedding is more stressful than a small baby, it's still hard work though and takes planning.

nixxxy you poor thing, it sounds like you've had a horrible time. Are you feeling better? Do you have someone around to look after you?

Hello, my DC is 18 days old today and is clearly to young for a routine yet but had made one for himself- feeding very frequently during the day and sleeping for a 4 hour then 3 hour block over night. But his overnight sleep seems to be getting worse with him wanting lots of milk in his feed (He drinks both boobs overnight and he's currently back in the first boob again so third fill) and then is hard to settle in his sleepyhead due to wind. He does pass the wind but a lot of it and it causes him Obvious discomfort. It will end up with me picking him up and then him wanting a feed again. I'm cautious about feeding so soon again as I can't imagine hunger really is the issue as he's just fed and imagine I'm probably making things worse by adding more food and wind to his tummy.
Anyone else experience this?
Perhaps I need to give him a bottle of formula? If this continues I'm going to be exhausted :-(

Hi new and welcome to the thread! How long has his poor sleep at night been going on? It could be a growth spurt as there is one around the three week mark, give or take a few days. If you can stick it out I would guess it will pass but depends on if you can bear it.

Its been pretty quiet on here last few nights, hope that means people are getting sleep! We are still in growth spurt here, El was on boob all day yesterday and had an extra feed overnight again. But since its been going on for four days now I'm wondering if she's feeding more to fight the boil infection. Giving her antibs is a bit of a nightmare as she spits half of it out and that's with me and DP doing it together, god knows how I'm going to get it in her when I'm home alone this week!

Morning!

DH did the 3.00 am shift because I was pissed as a fart to let me get some sleep.

My Martha Moo is such a noisy sleeper, when she goes into her own room we won't need a monitor! She snores, squeaks, pants and makes a million other noises, it does make me laugh.

Question....I am still managing to express a little bit () but I had a few glasses of wine yesterday. I've read that the alcohol will have worked out of my milk by now, and so I'll express this morning. Would you pump and dump or be happy to give it to your LO?

Morning all,

Paper, with DS1 I was cautious and would pump and dump (only the rare occasions where I'd get properly pissed). With Zach I've read more and yes, after not very long it's no longer in your milk so I've fed him a few hours after drinking heavily partly as I'm so over expressing so it's easier!

Nix, so sorry to hear what you've been going through, it sounds horrific, really pleased to hear you're on the mend. No wonder your other boob has given up, please don't feel bad about it. The main thing is you recover and both you and your baby are ok. ((Hugs)

Wooden, I feel your pain with the split parenting of baby and toddler. It's really hard sometimes isn't it? My DS1 will be 3 in July, generally he is fab but it's hard to remember they are still little themselves and adjusting to massive change isn't it. I had a day the other day where Zach cried all morning,DH was at work and

Whoops,

As I was saying, DS1 was playing up as it was taking so long to do anything with Zach crying, I desperately wanted to take him outside but at one point it ended up with all three of us crying...both me and DS1 due to frustration...horrible. It will get better i'm sure and can't wait for Zach to start smiling so DS1 gets something more back...although he seems to love him so much despite this which is so gorgeous to watch. I need to think of toes moments when it gets challenging!

DS had me up every 3 hours last night - annoying as he's been going 4 or even 5 hours sometimes! He is getting very good at going back down after his night feeds though which makes it a bit easier at least.

To the second time mums, at what point should we be trying to get the babies into more of a routine? DS has fallen into a 3-4 hour feeding pattern himself but there's no pattern whatsoever to his sleeping. Some days he sleeps all day, other days he's wide awake and gets overtired. He seems so young still (5 weeks) so I'm assuming there's no point attempting to enforce nap times yet but when did you all start doing that with your first babies?

Mine was up every hour and a half last night!

We didn't really have a routine with ds for several months, but he was an epic feeder and it was impossible - our day just started whenever he had his first feed. It got a lot more routine once we were weaning and mealtimes pushed f I think five weeks is still too tiny, you can have a routine in the things you do (like groups and classes, we'll have the school run at the same times every day etc) but their own feeding and waking times might still be really changeable. I might just be rubbish at it though!!!