March 2016: the one where Indomitable gives birth...

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I hope I haven't duplicated a new March thread in my sleep deprived state.. Went to reply and found thread was full!..

I'm glad to hear that Q
MrsB you might actually be a superhero. Ds1 starts play group on Wed I have no idea how I'm going to get a 2.6 yr old and a 4wk old out of the house for 8.30 as dh is working at 7!

Sorry to hear people are having problems with grumpy babies, I remember someone telling me when I had ds that 'sometimes babies just cry', strangely knowing it was out of my control made me feel better, as long as you know they are clean, fed and warm you have done your job knowing that obviously doesn't help with the sleep deprivation though . I hope everyone gets some respite soon.

I seem to have the opposite, Cassidy will happily sleep all day, I can't remember ds still being so sleepy at 6 weeks. She will wake for a feed every 4 hrs in the day and every 3 hrs over night but she is only ever awake for about 30 mins in between and often not even that. I know I should probably make the most of it but surely she should be waking more now?

Purple that's something my parents have said too.

I've also said unrepeatable things to DS2 when he's faffing around at night.

Well done MrsB! Impressively superheroic!

Fortunately for me it looks like DH is going to be home just in time for DS1s swimming lesson. Otherwise I'm not sure how I'd manage the two of them. I've then got 2 more weeks before I'm on school run duty. (I'll be pinching all your tips!)

MrsElls, I've been thinking the same about Zach. He does have some days where he's awake more but today he's basically woken at 7.40, fed for ages, been awake for 30 mins ish, slept until 12ish when I woke him to feed, asleep again til just now when again I've woken him to feed.

Just been for his hip check (standard protocol as he was born breech) and he didn't even wake up when half undressed and laid on his side with jell put on his hips and ultrasound scanned! Everything looks fine thankfully.

Time, hope you got something to help Calais' cold and she's feeling better. Zach has had his first three lots of jabs now...is it 8, 12 and 16 weeks, or something like that? The nurse at our GPs who did his 12 week ones was a bit worried about injecting one so small-he was under 4lb then, slightly different from your average 12 weeker!

MrsBen, you are epic!

Dobby, love Eddy's hair.

Q, hope things have been better today xx

Hi time I hope the doctor wad helpful today and you've had some reassurance about Calais' cold. After a grumpy morning we got out for a bit. Poor Eddy was so frustrated with his cough interrupting his feeds we justed needed a break! Bumped into his church 'grandmother' who saw how miserable he was and told me to put vixs on between my breasts morning and evening to help him feed and behind my ears so it helps to clear his airways when I wind him. Has worked a treat so far this afternoon. Just want to put it where they won't touch.

Well done mrsben.

MrsElls Ted is 5 weeks and still sleeping lots, particularly if we are out and about. He certainly sleeps much more than the other two did, so I'm making the most of it!!

MrsE another big day time sleeper here. Today she slept on me for about two hours so I slept too. My mum took ds out to the park which was lovely of her.

Glad there are some other big sleepers out there, looks like I should just make the most of it whilst it lasts!

Gosh I so wish I had a big sleeper..... Albert is certainly making his presence felt here. Had a crappy few nights with him, sleeps well during the day but as soon as he wakes in the night he really struggles to settle in his Moses basket again...much preferring to sleep on me hence me being shattered and cranky!! He does have a cold so I'll give him a bit of extra snuggle time as he gets so congested...but once passed I really need to work on this. 5 weeks old today so feel he should be a bit better by now?!

I can't remember who I need to thank but whoever put the tip on re the 'arm dropping' technique before putting DS down to sleep as during the day this is working wonderfully!!

DS has also for the last 3 night totally refused a ebm bottle which I'm finding a huge strain right now. I am lucky breastfeeding us going well physically but I'm finding it quite exhausting emotionally. I feel tied to DS, and awful saying this, but the bottle meant I could read and do bedtime with Dd, could get a bath, I'd also been planning on getting back into running etc, just having some me (alone) time, now I feel quite suffocated again?! DP is out tonight, completely don't mind this (as I get to kick him and his snoring onto the sofa!!) but also quite sad as I don't know when I can get out again without any kids in tow?!

(Sorry if appears I've just come on and offloaded all my unnecessary selfish crappyness!!)

Time I do hope the Drs were helpful, I've tried the saline drops with DS but if they gave you any secret magical tips please share?! Hehe

Mrsben I'm still in awe you're able to function with 3 children let alone actually get out in public and do appointments etc!! (Applauds!!)

Q I do hope your Dd is ok today

Sorry to hear of all the terrible sleep going on. We swing between evening cluster feeds and a decent stretch, and a reasonable evening with a bad night. Both fairly exhausting.

Does anyone have any tips for getting a baby to poo? I think the antibiotics I'm on have messed with S's guts, she's been more sicky than usual, very windy and hasn't pooed for two days. Keeps going red and grunting, which is kind of funny but also not. Hoping it resolves itself once the antibiotics are done but I feel so bad for the poor sausage, she's so uncomfortable.

Having a terrible night here - think we are still in growth spurt as E on the boob all day yesterday, and so far has wanted feeding at 11, 1, and 2.30. Blargh 😴😴😴

suz you could try massage? El is not a regular pooer so i had a google - there are plenty of YouTube vids out there. Another tip I read which sounds gross but actually worked for us when El didn't poo for 5 days was to wipe her bum with cotton balls dipped in water. Basically massaging the bottom muscles to stimulate the reflex to empty bowels. It was a bit weird but I did that for a little while and then E finally went.

Hello to all night feeders (sings night feeders, night feeeeders a la Bee Gees)

Am thinking of killing DH... he is a lazy bastard who wants a frickin "good boy" sticker whenever he does a job FOR ME

We're going out this afternoon and he's invited our friends (10 people) back to ours for a takeaway tonight. I've cleaned, rearranged the kitchen so we can all fit in and generally sorted out the house --AND IT WAS

Bugger.... posted mid rant!!

It was his bloody idea!! He's done bog all. Oh...wait...he held Martha

We are going to have to have a "discussion"

Rant over - As you were ladies ///

DS is like a little alarm clock these last few nights - 3.30am on the dot.

I'm another a little frustrated with my DH Paper. We both went to bed at 10 knowing DS would want a bottle about 11/11.30 or thereabouts. DH said he'd do it so i could sleep. But he then slept through DS waking up so I got up and made the bottle. He then woke up just as I was starting to feed DS, I said "So are you doing this feed then?" And he rolled over and went back to sleep! I already do all the night feeds during the week as he has to be up early for work ... Most nights I make dinner in the evening as well and have the house looking reasonably tidy ... a little bit of help at the weekend wouldn't go amiss.

Oh Paper that's not fair at all, hope your takeaway was nice so at least you get something good out of it. I'd go on strike tomorrow!

Cross post with me. I have to say my dh is generally fab but he can also sleep through feeds. I'm bf so he can't do much but always says he will do nappy changes, when I'm awake anyway I feel bad waking him up so sometimes I just do it myself but I then get annoyed when he complains he's tired the next day after being awake for precisely 3 mins overnight vs my 3 hrs. He does always get up with ds though so I can sleep in until whenever Cassidy wakes up.

Hello night feeders!

I know re DHs... After an hour of trying to get a v grumpy DS back to sleep and failing, I woke him up to help and he was in a right mood. FFS. paper you hit the nail on the head when you say they see it as doing us a favour, rather than looking after their own kids!

Just waiting for DS to be fast enough asleep to go back in the cot now... Would LOVE a cup of tea. Do they still make tea maids?!

We've been discharged from the midwives, yay! Our chunky monkey has put on a pound in a week and so is about a pound over his birth weight at 11 days :) I'm really pleased as we had various issues with DD putting on weight.

Congrats on weight gain crispy

Sorry to those of you with DH woes. Im actually quite lucky as DP does pull his weight and do his fair share as much as possible. Since I'm bf obvs he can't do feeds but he does nappy changes (and mrse I have to say I have no qualms about waking him!) And gets up with DD in the morning and let's me lie in. If E won't settle and wants to be held he also is happy to hold her if I wake him up and let me go to sleep. With DD1 when she was night weaned she still continued waking in the night and me and DP woukd take it in turns getting up with her. But I really hate it when I tell people IRL about it and they say its nice that he 'helps' (or something similar) I'm like err no he doesn't help, he does his share of parenting!

Up for fourth feed of the night zzzzzz

We're having a bad night too - feeding from 9 til 2.30 without a break, now awake again at 5.30. I might die. Dh is getting kicked out as soon as that boy gets up so I can stay in bed! We have visitors later too so I need to clean up - another one who ends up doing it. Urgh.

Sorry to those of you with night owl babies. Dd was a bit of a nightmare with night time sleep but to start with would sleep in the day. But when she finished with the sleepy newborn phase sleep was the enemy. At almost 3.5 she still doesn't actually sleep through the night, but usually only disturbs us for a few minutes when she gets into her second bed. Eddy on the other hand bar one good strech of sleep in the day just has short naps and tends to sleep very solidly at night for his age. He attempted a feed eariler but it was too much effort, so just put him back down after his first propper feed since we came up to bed at 10.

Sorry to hear the DH issues and nighttime struggles. My DP is fantastic with sharing baby duties, but I do worry about DS1. He has been playing up a bit recently and DP will snap at him when I think he really just needs more of our attention.

Suz can you give water to ease the constipation? I know you can for ff babies, not sure for BF.

Crispy a teas maid is a fab idea. Our kettle takes a frickin age to boil. [checking Amazon now]

Crispy here you go my lovey

www.currys.co.uk/gbuk/household-appliances/small-kitchen-appliances/kettles/swan-stm201n-vintage-teasmade-white-10139667-pdt.html

Martha has turned into little Miss Predictable - 3 ounces every 3 hours.

DH is making me a cuppa and I am properly laying on the guilt trip. Ha ha! That'll learn ya, ya big fecker!

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My dh arrived last night at my parents so he can drive us home today (we only needed to do a one way train journey thankfully) so did the 3amfeed which felt like heaven. I know though come Monday when he is at work it will be all down to me and I'll be wanting to kick his sleeping body snoring next to me.

That's amazeballs! Hot tea in the night, mmmmm.

paper I'll be doing the guilt trip too. DH is normally pretty good at having both kids whilst I have a nap, but marmite sounds like she has a truly fair division of labour. I think they forget that the feeding is a job too.

dobby you're confirming my suspicions that DS is sleeping too much in the day and so not enough at night... Hopefully things will right themselves soon...