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Mugabe Nights: sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your (sleep deprived) pain!

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mzzzf · 09/01/2016 21:56

New thread ladies!
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FattyNinjaOwl · 25/02/2016 23:19

random Flowers I had a cancer scare when DD was a few weeks old. It's hard not to think the worst, but it will just upset you, possibly for. I will keep my fingers and toes very tightly crossed for you all.

I think I'm going to be up for a while. Nathan is hyper.

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randomsabreuse · 26/02/2016 04:41

Thanks all.

Sorry for dominating the thread - need a safe vent as we've told very few people in real life - just those who need to know due to cancelling plans!

Currently feeding and have alarm set for 6. Didn't get her down until 11 and woke at midnight. Usual baby timing when you need it most!

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randomsabreuse · 26/02/2016 05:22

I've bought vitamins as I've misplaced the free ones. Not given them yet though. Have also added a calcium/ vit D vitamin to my multi vitamin having looked at the rda list on my lactation/pregnancy multivitamin. At least F and I are sufficiently fair that we should make vit D pretty easily!

Dog's looking a little fatter than we like. DH (who should know better) has been giving slightly more food out of guilt about the rubbish walks dog's been getting. His ribs aren't quite as palpable as we'd like but he at least still has a waist. Have agreed to cut down - he's getting F's rejected food where it's not bad for him anyway. I'd better find time for 2 walks per day going forward - and probably drive to a better hill rather than same old walk twice a day which I hate. Dog is being great - he's used to spending the day in DH's car with at least 2 walks and is now down to one walk and spending the day with me and F with lots of stuff he can't have. Will have to make it up to him and make sure he doesn't get too unfit as he needs the muscle to hold his knees together!

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loveandsmiles · 26/02/2016 06:32

Yeah Friday at last!

random sorry you're not feeling good - sending lots of love, smiles and positive thoughts💐. The musical steps class sounds like good fun!

joskar your DD2 sounds similar to babyloves. We cosleep and she helps herself to boob whenever she feels like it - I am obviously aware of her but not wide awake. Last night she lay by my side, instead of on top of me, and actually slept for 4 hours - that's the biggest sleep for a long while ever She usually has a sleep of 2 hours in the day - I pop her in her Moses basket and she just drifts off - and there are usually another couple of hour sleeps too - unfortunately no rest for me as like you there is a toddler to entertain!!

lily ooohhhh love a buffet breakfast. Your DS sounds like he has this food thing totally mastered😄

ruby we made it to the bank in great style - toddler fell just outside and put her teeth through her lip - cue massive drama - once again, so many lovely people in the world - lady in bank ushered us in and got cold pack and tissues then once she had calmed down a packet of Haribos😀. However, toddler totally damaged one of her front teeth - emergency trip to dentist - she has killed the nerve, the tooth is knocked back and will eventually turn black with the possibility her adult tooth won't grow in properly - off course all of this is entirely DHs fault for asking us to go to the bank in the first place!!

effin my DS got his first tooth at 10 months and bit me whilst feeding - it was agony - never fed him again!! Enjoy your 🍷Chocolate and sending lots of buns to all😋

DD1 has a shoulder injury from swimming so she has a doctors appt this morning - coach said she needs physio but don't know how readily or quickly the NHS will send someone for this? Then we are off to Costco to pick up birthday cake for DD2s pool party tomorrow and lots of party food for hungry 8 year olds. When we get home there are lots of balloons to blow up🎈🎈🎈

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Tindel · 26/02/2016 08:43

Morning all! Not found time to post for a bit, but have been reading.

effin and loves ouch on the teeth! Am dreading J getting teeth, DH claims he felt a bump in his gum, but I am in denial. Hope toddlerloves is feeling better this morning

random sending you appropriate Chocolate - that's the great thing about here - you can vent as much as you like. Sorry MIL is being such a nightmare, am thinking of you all.

lily my vague memory about vitamins was that at 6 months, their reserves start to run down. The nursery nurse at the weaning workshop I went to said just get a cheap baby multivitamin. I have some free vitamin D drops, but not sure I can work out how to get them into J - Calpol is still a real struggle.

Almost the weekend ladies, hang in there!

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randomsabreuse · 26/02/2016 11:14

Tindel - my packet says put on nipple or dummy and allow child to suck. That could go wrong if she hates the taste. I also have a calpol refuser - practice started with the infacol which mostly went down me and I was very glad when we hit 6 months so I had more of a calpol dose to play with!

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EffinIneffable · 26/02/2016 11:59

Thinking of you today random. The what ifs at this stage are so difficult to deal with. Sorry your mil is being so unhelpful.

Suddenly realised that weaning + teeth probably means we should be doing tooth brushing. Not really looking forward to this! Anyone have any tips. I also need to start with the vits. It's heard bf babies' iron reserves run out about now, but the infant multi vit doesn't have any. I'll ask the hv next week.

Ds still mardy this morning. I can only think it might be constipation, but finding it really hard to get water into him. Tried two cups and a syringe with little effect except a soaked babygro.

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kbro79 · 26/02/2016 13:41

effin have your tried warm water? My little prince will drink it warm but not cold. Guess boob and formula are always warm for him.

Think the vitamins are only for Breasty babies as formula has all needed vitamins added. I forgot but bought some to start giving this week. Oops.

random thinking of you so much lovely.

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CraftyPenguin · 26/02/2016 16:44

Hi everyone :) Hope you're all well. I've had a terrible morning here. Really suffering with period pain. I was trapped on the bed for 45 minutes today as I just couldn't move :( Thankfully it did ease though and I managed to go food shopping and finish the dress I was making for DD :)

Random How are you feeling now? Still fluy or any better? Don't be silly, you're not dominating the thread. We're all here for you. How did today go? Thinking of you and your dh 💐

Tindel Hope your blood tests went well!

Re naps I just let DD do what she wants. She's always asleep on one of us, she'll never go down. I've tried to have some structure to times etc but it just doesn't happen and stresses me out more so I just follow her lead now.

Effin sorry you had a tough day yesterday 💐 I think we all have days where it just all gets a bit much. Is today any better?

Macgra I think it's this age they learn separation anxiety so that may well be the problem. It's hard isn't it! DD has started being a bit like it, then she laughs as soon as she can see me…

Loves you certainly had an eventful day yesterday! How is your toddler today?

Re vitamins I didn't know babies needed them 😶 I'll have to buy some! I had also forgotten I need to brush DDs 2 teeth 😶

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MaGratgarlik1983 · 26/02/2016 20:10

Yep been playing A Lot of peekaboo!! Still hating baths and being changed in baby change tables. Was in Nero today and I have never heard him shriek and cry so hard he used to love the changing room. So odd!!

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randomsabreuse · 26/02/2016 21:14

Biopsy ok. DH pretty sore but taken the view that as he's going to struggle to sleep anyway he's having F tonight with formula. Total star as I'm shattered. Inlaws going tomorrow. Am in bed and going to sleep. Earliest night in what feels like for ever

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Equimum · 27/02/2016 08:50

Random, so sorry you are going through this at the monent, but glad the biopsy went well. I hope you were able to make the most of your early night.

Crafty, sorry you've been suffering. I hope you're over the worst if it today.

I hope your daughter's party goes well Loves

I'd forgotten all about baby vitamins. Will add those to the shopping list. Mind you, I was terrible at remembering to actually give them to DS1. Think I'll set a reminder on my phone.

we're supposed to going to another town to buy DS1 some new shoes today, but DS2 has developed another horrible cough. I'm hoping he'll be okay if we really wrap him up and sling him. DH could take DS1 by himself, but he's not overly keen on having his feet measured, so it's easier if I do go. Small problems.

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Coconut0il · 27/02/2016 09:51

Morning all Smile

DP off today so have just tried to do a weeks worth of cleaning in an hour. DS2 much more cheerful first thing so was able to get a few jobs done. DS1 was up and out at 8, gone paintballing for a birthday party. Hope he's ok, keep thinking of Byker Grove Shock

Good news about the biopsy random.

How old is your DS1 equimum? Mine is 12 and is still a nightmare at shoe shops! Good luck!

Hopefully it's just a phase MaGrat. Remember DS1 getting upset when I used to leave the room, can't remember when he grew out of it. DS2 just doesn't like to be put down ever so no chance of separation anxiety kicking in yet!

I never gave vitamins to DS1 crafty. My HV hasn't mentioned them, only really thought about them because of the free ones in the bounty pack!

Have a good weekend everyone Smile

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kbro79 · 27/02/2016 14:37

Coconut your byker grove reference made me laugh. Although am sure ds1 will be fine. DH loves paint balling but I've never done it.

We were all ready to go swimming when we got a call it was cancelled. Quite nice just to chill out for a bit. Feels ok to laze around as was supposed to be out anyway. DS is napping but we need nappies so will walk him to the shops once he's awake. We are rattling through the disposals at a rate of knots now food is on the go. Must get more commited with cloth nappies.

Sleep last night was as always crap but he did sleep for 3 hours in the evening meaning DH and I got to watch spectre. Felt bit like date night. Pizza, glass of wine, ice cream Daniel Craig

Hope everyone is having a lovely Saturday!!

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FattyNinjaOwl · 27/02/2016 16:19

I'm having a lot of trouble getting on MN the last couple of days.
random glad biopsy went ok. How are you feeling now?

my mind just went blank...

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Equimum · 27/02/2016 17:54

I hope you have a better night Kbro.

'McGrat* we're also in the midst of the first wave of separation anxiety. In a way it's nice to know they love you and need you so much, but it is very draining. DH is also struggling as he feels a bit unwanted.

Coconut, DS1 is 3. I was hoping he might soon outgrow the 'difficult in show shops' stage, but you've taken all hope lol!

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EffinIneffable · 27/02/2016 19:57

random glad your DH made it through the biopsy ok and hope that mil stopped being annoying and started being some help.

Today was much better, thanks. Ended up giving ds water in a bottle which he took more of, though I want to carry on encouraging him with a cup too.

We went to a child first aid course today. It was a bit scary going through all the things that could possibly go wrong, but great to have some idea of what to do. Especially with choking as we're now into the weaning. Speaking of which, we pureed our homemade curry from yesterday and DS seemed to like it. Not sure he could be ours if he didn't like curry, and I ate enough of it when pregnant!

We also moved ds into his big cot today - still next to our bed though as there's no way I'm traipsing around for 4+ feeds every night. He did his first on-purpose roll (front to back) today too. It's all go here!! Though I realise lots of babies have been doing this for months!! Grin.

He has also just worked out how to play peekaboo. I only realised when he was cracking up with laughter at DH hanging out the washing and so was disappearing and reappearing. So cute! Think this is part of the developmental stage where they get separation anxiety too, as they realise you still exist even when they can't see you.

kbro hope you enjoyed your chilling. My favourite days are when the three of us just potter aboot together.

Well done on the cleaning coconut. I tend to do a week's worth of cleaning over about a month Confused

Period pains and dress making crafty? High five to you!

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kbro79 · 28/02/2016 15:03

Effin DS has just mastered the roll this week too. Sadly it was not the developmental leap we'd been hoping would end his sleeplessness. Clearly his still mastering Japanese or whatever skill it is that warrants 100 night wakings.

Agree pottering round as a little family of 3 is nice. What weekends are for.

DH just made frittata for lunch. First time we've all eaten the same thing. Was really nice us all having together. And I think DS liked. Had asparagus in. Wonder if he's wee will smell funny can't smell worse

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FattyNinjaOwl · 28/02/2016 15:17

I'm sleepy. We went on a dragon hunt today. We didn't find any dragons, but Nathan loved the dogs that came past. And he enjoyed looking at the trees.

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Tindel · 28/02/2016 18:48

We've all been dozing on the sofa. Ate far too much at lunch, slow walk to get J to nap in the sling as he wouldn't sleep last night. Have sent DH up to do bathtime and hoping J will settle for the night after that.

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FattyNinjaOwl · 28/02/2016 20:47

I am awesome! All 3 kids have been asleep in their own beds for over an hour now! I'm downstairs, playing Minecraft and I've even managed to have a brew in peace!
hope I've not just jinxed myself

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Coconut0il · 28/02/2016 21:06

Grin That is awesome fatty! Enjoy the Brew and Minecraft. I'm in bed before DS1, as usual. I get so tired at this time. What a rock and roll life!

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Tindel · 28/02/2016 21:18

I am in shock - J has been asleep without needing to be settled since 7:30! DH and I are slightly in shock at having our evening free ... Hope this means he will be ok when we go to bed

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Lilydreams · 28/02/2016 21:42

Well my last day of mat leave hasn't really gone according to plan!! Gave Ds mashed boiled egg with butter and cheese for lunch as not much food in house as dh was at lidl shopping. About 20 minutes later dh was back and Ds in jumperoo laughing his head off- dh asks what the white mark on his head is with red round it. I thought he must have scratches himself but for him out to look then he started getting white blisters and going all red everywhere then literally before my eyes the blisters were bursting and weeping and more coming. We got in the car and went to the walk in centre then in the car his eyes and ears and mouth all swelled up and when I got to the desk in reception I hadn't even finished saying 'I think he's had an allergic reaction...' And they literally screamed for staff and rushed us into a room, stripped him and started attaching stuff to him and rang an ambulance. He looked like the elephant man it was awful! Adrenaline, piriton, hydrocortisone and a blue light later and he looks much better but keeping in for obs and probably being issued an epi pen!

I'm knackered! I hate hospitals so am anxious anyway and there's 2 teenage boys in the bay who keep turning the TV louder and talking about their sexual escapades!! You would have thought babied would be separate despite children's wards going up to age 16! Really want to scream at them to shut up but don't want to wake Ds! Should think themselves lucky! Can't see me sleeping I feel like I want to watch him breathe all night like when he was newborn! Work are going to think I'm making it up being off on my first day back after 7 months off!!

Sorry for the me post will reply when my heDs not so mashed!

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kbro79 · 28/02/2016 21:58

Oh lily you poor thing - how bloody stressful. And poor baby lily. Pleased he seems a bit better. And talk about the worst timing but your work will hopefully understand. Am sure they will. Take care xx

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