November 2014 - The one where they outrun us!

[MrsAukerman]

New thread ladies.

Another hand-refuser here. Honestly if it weren't for the leash we put on him, he'd have bolted across the local junction before we even realised. And he's FAST! Far too fast for big fat waddly me. Happy better start looking at leads!

Re packing. I seem to have gotten DH to do all DSs packing. It came about cos DH brings sweet eff all when we go away for the weekend. So he only takes up half a bag. Whereas I take up a full bag cos I have to have options, lol. So it's logical for him to just throw all of DSs stuff into his bag. But it was pretty accidental! And mindful of fairness, I do remind myself to help. Often he's finished them both before I've even gathered my toiletries though....

DH is one of those blazingly efficient types though who always wants to be on the road at the crack of dawn. So he's like a whirlwind gathering DSs stuff.

On a completely unrelated note, is anyone getting any kisses yet? We kiss DS constantly but he hasn't twigged that he can do it back! I'm dying for a big sloppy kiss!

anna I get kisses, they are always finished off with bite in the cheek though.

Yes to kisses! DP pretty much begged for them from birth and she start planting open mouth ones about 3 months ago and the last few weeks has progressed to this weird sucking in of the bottom lip and pursing of the top one style, she does this coupled with an 'mmmm' sound when she wants a kiss (which is only first thing in the morning and when she goes to bed) and she has only ever given them to me, DP and my friends little boy who is very affectionate jealous

Luckily she doesn't run fast but she does bolt when getting in/out of the car which is terrifying.

Yes kisses for a long time here and the refusal of them with a big fat "no"

Next door are having their garden proper landscaped so last Tue arrive home skip outside our house OK but please have told/asked us just squeeze my car behind so dh can still get on drive, today I go out to dfo school run as they turn up they sit waiting for me to go so I got our n said are you waiting for me to leave so he said yes please and I said I will be back in half hr n want to park here as baby will be asleep n I leave him in car (windows open) - you are already taking up half the street with skip n building stuff go n ask the person you are working for to move his car then park outside their front!!

No sitting in my garden today noisy buggers not sure how long it takes my dad and dh did pur hugggeee patio in a day OK dh dug it out over a week an hr each eve then him n dad did a 10hr day getting it done but these guys look set to be here a good few weeks not one slab laid yet took a week to dig out (4/5 them)

Oh they popped an envelope through last Tue with token sorry if we disturb you blurb and one their brochures cynical me thinks are you really sorry or just advertising!!

lady that day at the beach sounds lovely. We used to live right by the beach which was wonderful in summer - we're a bit further away now since we bought our own place and what with all the DIY stuff needing to be done, haven't made it there yet this year. But we have a proper garden now! We went up to the playground yesterday afternoon and had icecream - lovely warm evening here though not half as hot as some of you are having. And it looks like it's not going to be sticking around for too long here - cooler weather expected soon enough :(

Last night was another ridiculous up-for-3-hours one.

Well eastmids we are actually undergoing renovations here today and it's "Kanga hammer day". They're taking out a window. The noise is going through my brain!

They started at 8am so I really hope they finish the noisy part by noon so we can get DS down for a nap. We've already been to the playground and the supermarket but have come back to such noise we've had to retreat upstairs so now DS is busily destroying all my lovely lotions and potions whilst the house rattles with the bloody hammer.

AND they've shut off the water!

Apart from open mouth kisses and bites DD also has a habit to stroke our arms/ legs if we sit together. She would be completely engrossed with book or iPad and give us strokeing. Specially for DH, she sometimes pulls up his top and pats him on his hairy belly.

We have lovely kisses here too and the best thing is that theses days they are not 90% saliva any more. She leans up towards you when she wants one, saying "mmmmwa!", it's so cute. When we are out, she'll try and kiss strangers sometimes too if I'm talking to them (shop assistants, etc) when she likes the look of them - especially older ladies, and little girls - she LOVES little girls especially if they have long hair!!
The other day DH and I were standing at the end of the garden, watching her playing on the patio, and we were saying to each other "isn't she cute, aren't we clever look what we made!" type guff, so I put my arm round DH and we had a cuddle and then DD looks up and sees us and comes running up the garden, arms outstretched going "mwah! mwah!" to kiss us. I very nearly started crying!

She's being a general pain though, apart from that. So grumpy a lot of the time :-( I just want my happy baby back, I don't know what the issue is. And she STILL doesn't want to walk outside for more than about 30 seconds before she sits down and cries. I'm desperate for her to do it a bit more. Of course the only times she does want to do it we're by a busy road and like others have said she will NOT have her hand or arm held. We're off on holiday in two weeks and I am just hoping that we won't be just pushing the bloody pushchair around the whole time.

Waaah, he's the only one not kissing!

I know I just have to stay patient though as he's slow off the mark with these nonphysical things. He's waving and pointing a lot now, months after all of you but it's a big deal in this house! And he's going around saying "Oh woooowww. ." a lot, and I know it doesn't mean anything word-wise but I do recall someone here had a DD that was saying that a lot several months ago!

Have my 20 week scan today - am going to find out the gender if we can. Beside myself with nerves!

Oh good luck Anna, that's a nervewracking one alright. Will be thinking of you. Are you going to bring DS or will somebody else mind him? This morning DD1 got upset about something and had a bit of a tantrum. DD2 stood watching her silently for a while looking sad, then carefully gave her some tissue to wipe her eyes. Nearly died of the cuteness. They are so lovely together and such good pals. That's what this sibling thing is all about!

Anna that's so exciting! Half that's adorable. I can't wait for DD to have a little brother or sister. We're going for a frozen embryo cycle in June/July so fingers crossed it won't be too long away.

Good luck Anna! How exciting and nerve-wracking!

Kisses: Ds proffers his cheek if I ask for a kiss, but he doesn't try to kiss us. He does give hugs if asked.

Thanks for all your advice at the weekend guys. Was a bit pissed off as DH decided not to take ds out for the afternoon, but hung around at home instead. I took myself off for a couple of hours to have a break. I also felt a bit annoyed with him when he asked if he could take an evening off for himself when we are on holiday with my mum & dad next week to go watch some football. He'd casually mentioned us going to a restaurant for a night out, then brought this up. I grit my teeth because the only concrete plans he makes are around going to see football, or going out with friends. He hasn't thought about what he might like to do as a family while we are away, or looked up anywhere he might like to go on a date. I'm ranting, and I know I'm being a bit irrational, especially as he's having a hellish time travelling for work this week and is getting really tired. Anna, the thing you mentioned about counselling, where you said you had nowhere to go really struck a chord. I don't have hobbies that take me outside of the house (except a yoga class which has been cancelled recently), so I find it harder to plan.

Sorry, guys, feeling a bit low today. Ds was up a lot last night, and I had a bit of an unsuccessful play date yesterday where other mum's little boy kept pushing and pinching ds. Ds is so small compared to other boys his age, and a bit of a dreamer, so I'm worried he's going to get picked on a lot! A sob in the shower helped this morning, and I think we'll have to take a walk in the rain to get some fresh air and perspective.

Hugs to you posmork

And moggle how exciting! Keep us updated!

So.......

It's a girl!

I thought I didn't mind but subconsciously I must have wanted a little girl as I'm walking on air! I had such a lovely relationship with my own mother that I guess I want to replicate it. And at my age this is our last. Anyway, we're so EXCITED! (DH not-so-secretly wanted a girl too and is texting everybody! )

Yayyy! Wonderful news :-D I think they call it a gentleman's family, a boy and a girl! Now you can get thinking of names... I saw a thread from you on the names board, did you have one for a girl?

Not really! Time to get our thinking caps on! I suspect we'll go hippyish/nature themed as Irish girls names are......not great, lol.

We already got a text back from someone saying "Oh well done, a gentleman's family". WTF? Never heard that one before! Like, as opposed to what??

I think it's from the olden days... if you were poor then you needed a couple of boys to go out and work but if you were posh then a boy to be an heir and a girl to marry off :-D
My SIL is Irish and her grandpa was a real nationalist from what I've heard said about him, only allowed Irish to be spoken at home and would only speak Irish himself (so she could barely converse with him), her mom and sisters have some of the more, er, interesting Irish female names... Gobnait?! I was quite relieved that one didn't make a reappearance when my niece was born!

anna congratulations! Thats so exciting!

Really exciting news Anna - congratulations. DH and I feeling pretty ropey at the mo - flu-like symptoms - which is making it really hard to remain cool and calm when DD has a paddy.... We're getting kisses here, but only when we ask for them - nothing is volunteered!

How exciting Anna.

Nursery rang yesterday to say ds2 had conjunctivitis he did have v sticky eye cleaned in warm water then breast milk dropped into each eye before bed n all clear this morning

I also have some kind of lurgy. I am sat here freezing with my fluffy dressing gown on and I have the worst sore throat ever. I visibly flinch each time I swallow because it hurts so much:(
DD has got impetigo. DH rang me at work this morning (never a good sign when your colleague passes you the phone with the words 'it's your husband!') to ask if I thought she had chicken pox (somehow he expected me to tell over the phone). He sent a photo and my colleagues said not chicken pox so DH took her to the doctors for some antibiotics.
This week she has taken 2hrs to go to sleep and/ or woken up for a couple of hours in the night. She won't be put back in the cot and won't go to sleep in our bed anymore either. I am exhausted as well as ill.
Congratulations anna and good luck with your plans moggle

DH and his gentle sleep training rule! I left him awake last night and he fell asleep and we didn't hear from him til 0620!
I have a day off work today while DS is at CM's and DH is working. Skive time central!

That sounds very promising!

We took his GroBag off the last two nights cos it's warm, so just sleep suit & duvet.

disaster! He's so giddy now it takes him an hour to calm down in his cot, sticking legs through bars and laughing his head off etc. Very trying. I wouldn't mind if he then stayed asleep but we've had several wake ups during the night too.

So we're putting him back in it again tonight! Fingers crossed he settles again.

Congrats anna!!! DD has an Irish girls name and we already have another one picked out should we have another girl...

Oh happy hope it passes soon and you can get some rest?

Posmork how are you feeling now? I think at this age they're very physical so being smaller or more timid is noticable but when they're a bit older they'll find their own way, they won't spend time with bigger more pushy kids. My nephew has always been as you described DS and still is away with the fairies but he's happy and popular. (I used to have the same worries for him that you have now)

DD has started to get mummy clingy this last week or so, she cries when DP takes her to CM, clings to my legs when I cook dinner. I don't really know where it's come from, she's never been very clingy and if she is she's more into DP. Sleep continues to go well, it still feels like a miracle to be honest. I wake up surprised every morning. I still doing sleep well though, I think I'm used to waking up for her now. I do love the morning when I listen to her early morning chatter. It's normally based on whatever nursery rhyme she's into at the moment so this morning she was singing parts of twinkle twinkle little star and caught 'how I wo-blah blah blah, up a-blah blah blah' but I was pretty impressed with her catching those couple of words and filling the rest in with nonsense :)

Less impressive is the constant whine of 'no meeeeeee' to absolutely anything she wants, my watch, my dinner, my make up, the ipad, DP's shoes'.

Anna massive congrats! So exciting! Nice to have that big scan milestone over and done with now.

DD2 up again last night for ages. zzz. She came into our bed because I had a sore throat and just couldn't be arsed arsing around in her room for ages trying to get her back to sleep. Basically just climbed all over our heads for over an hour and then finally conked. At 5am I put her back into her cot, and she totally woke up again! Couldnt' believe it, usually I find they are so exhausted by the time they finally settle they go into quite a deep sleep. She did go back off again after a few minutes but I felt like a right numpty standing there ssshing her at 5am after all the previous messing.

DD2 is not half as fluent as babydolly sounds but she has managed to start communicating with us very effectively. I was down sorting clothes in the kids' rooms yesterday evening and DD2 came down to tell me 'Dadda...Sssshhh' which is what she says for 'asleep'. I was like 'no Dad's not asleep he's just up in the sitting room' but she kept telling me very insistently. Of course he was asleep on the couch and was that she had managed to tattle on him at the age of 18 months.

happy sorry to hear about the impetigo. Does it look awful? I have to say I am not looking forward to when that one does the rounds here. Really hope you're feeling better too, I honestly don't know how you survive those long shifts for you