November 2014 - The one where they outrun us!

[MrsAukerman]

New thread ladies.

Feeling better, thanks. Both DS and I had a good morning on Wednesday selling books at our local toddler group, then came home and...both started vomiting everywhere! So we've both been sleeping a lot today and luckily DH was back from his work trip to take DS out so I could sleep for a bit. Not being sick any more but my bones just ACHE unless I keep up a rigorous regime with paracetamol. I think I was feeling bad because I was coming down with something, rather than the reality of the situation.
Since we've put ds in his floor bed he LOVES bedtime. Cries through his bath because he's so desperate to get into bed. After bath, he toddles straight to his bed climbs in, and rolls around grinning and snuggling while we tuck him up. He's even refused stories the past couple of nights because he's so tired. Must make up for that with more books in the daytime.
Happy, sorry about the impetigo. I remember having it while on holiday when I was at junior school. Cream sorted it out really, really quickly, so hope it clears up soon.
On holiday next week, shame weather doesn't look like it'll last!

Hello all!

Anna congratulations on finding out you're having a girl!

We have had a fun few weeks, all been going swimmingly untill bank holiday weekend when dd stopped eating anything at all, Monday night she had a temp of 39.9 but got it under control with calpol, anyway long story short it turns out she had pityriarisis rosea which won't clear up for possibly 10 weeks! Non contagious and non treatable so just a case of wait it out. Eating is slowly coming back which is a relief!

Dp have been doing some big thinking and decided we're going to try for number two at the end of the year. I am 50% terrified and 50% insanely excited.

As far as having time for yourself goes we have worked out a pretty good system where dp takes dd on Sunday mornings, sometimes just for a couple of hours so I can laze in bed and watch catch up stuff and sometimes till lunchtime so I can go to the yard/ out for breakfast with my dad and have a mooch round shops. However a number of things have meant that it hasn't happened for a few weeks, I was climbing the walls last week so there was a last min ' im going out here's the baby before I explode' and just went and sat in the field with my pony for an hour in the sun.

Oh more poorly babies and mamas. You poor things :( Hope everyone is on the mend soon.

I'm getting so jealous of those thinking of another one soon, I am SO broody, totally ready, but my brain (and my DP) know that next year makes more sense. But it seems so far away. I hope you'll all let me live through your experiences to keep me going until then??

Ark a 40 weeks pregnancy is going to seem SO long for you!!!

ladydolly I don't want to try till January so we can suffer together lol

Well I am still shitting it, lol. DS is just getting to a fairly easy stage - he has spent the entire afternoon out in the garden amusing himself with a basin of water, splashing about on his own so happily. The thoughts of going back to slings and constant nappies and breastfeeding! Ugh!

But Anna newborn snuggles and watching your first baby meet your second baby and the newborn smell and first smiles and GOOD GOD IM SO BROODY.

I cannot wait to breastfeed again! I loved it so much. I'll probably go for years with the next one. And I loved the sling too!! It's the pregnancy I'm dreading, that does make waiting easier. I should focus on the memory of crying to DP about how haaaaaard being pregnant was when I was about 8 weeks in. If you'd told me then that I'd feel sick right up until the moment she was out of my body I think I don't think I'd ever stop crying!

Im looking forward to attempting breastfeeding again. Im so much more knowledgeable on stuff now. I should never have let that midwife tell me to put dd on formula. And I'll be slim enough to comfortably wear a sling.

Ds2 is poorly picked up early last 2 days from nursery took to gp yesterday has an ear infection so on antibiotics sent to nursery today and collected early he was fine til 3 when they had to give calpol for high temp.

Oh, so exciting to hear about people's plans for more little ones! At the moment dh and I are pretty sure we're going to stick with 1. I don't feel broody at all around little babies, and I'm not keen on being outnumbered 2:1 as a sahm! Might change when ds goes off to school, but I also think as he gets older and more independent we'll have more time for our own hobbies again. Not too worried about ds not having a playmate as siblings don't always get along (dh and his sis!).
Delayed holiday for a day so we can all have a rest. Ds has been so clingy and crotchety, off his food and napping for ages that he's either still got this bug or is going through a leap (terrible twos???), not sure where my happy little chap has gone. :(

Well this morning I'm definitely having a wobble about coping with two!

DH is away for the weekend and wouldn't you know it, this morning has been a disaster. First DS toppled a spare shelf down on himself missing his head by an inch (it was standing up hidden behind a door ready to be put up) and I got the fright of my life. Then he was poking in a wardrobe and pulling shoe boxes out so I said no and stood at it with my back pressing it shut. He screamed in what I thought was protest but then I realised his finger was caught in between the two doors! I almost started crying myself! The guilt! (He got over it far quicker than I)

Then someone came to the door and we had meltdown No 3 as he wasn't allowed run out onto the road.

Then I put him out in the back garden (cos the house was clearly not working!) but next doors older kids are having a play date and poor DS got all distressed pressing his face to the fence! So that was a fail!

It's never this much of a catastrophe normally!

I am being very very liberal with the rice cakes to make up for all the tears.......

Bit worried about what to do with him this afternoon now as I've realised all the playgrounds will be heaving as it's a boiling hot Saturday and I don't fancy waddling through that scrum at all. Hmmmm.......

Ark I think all midwives give that advice, when people tell me that's what they're doing early on it makes my stomach tighten. So many women look back and think that was what made establishing milk so hard. But I'd never try and advise, it's too personal.

Anna Those types of mornings make you question everything! I think self medicating with biscuits and tea is the only way through it :)

Had a terrible sleeping weekend. Up at 5.30 on Saturday morning, I got up with dd and let DP lay in and then went back to bed for a nap later. On Sunday morning she was up at 4.20am. 4.20!!! she chatted to herself (loudly) until 5 when I tried to get her back to sleep and she literally laughed in my face so we were downstairs before cbeebies even started.... that's when you know it's early. She had a big poo so I think that had woken her. We had friends over for brunch so no going back to bed for me but dd had a nap at 8.30. Then last night she just kept waking up screaming. I don't know what was going on but she wouldn't even come to me from the other side of the cot at first. She was so upset and really squirmy. Took ages to get her back down. She did this 4 or 5 times in a row. She had a lot of fruit yesterday so I think she might have had a tummy ache and she's definitely teething. I'm a zombie today!

ladydolly similar night here, lots of wriggling and crying and then settling then wriggling and crying again, then up at 4:50, did manage to persuade her that she needed more sleep at 5:30 till 7:45 so not quite as bad!

DH has reached his limit on doing all the nights and DS still wakes most nights. If he does sleep through the day starts at 0530. He did an unheard of 2.5hr nap at the CM's so God knows how bedtime is going or what time DH will finally get him to sleep. My first night in ages tonight but I'm under strict instructions not to co-sleep and call for backup if he won't settle in the cot.

Big hugs to all the sleep deprived parents

DD has discovered standing up on chairs and rocking them by their back. Horrifying spectacle. Telling her to get down only means she looks in your eyes with challenging stare and does it with more force. So we decided to say nothing just to be very close and be ready to catch her...

Last weekend we visited DH's family and DD's numerous cousins. She was very animated with all the kids around, but also saw a dark side of her. I never thought of DD as a possible bully, but ... hey ho... We visited friends who have 1 year old twins, being twins they are still pretty babyish and fragile, definitely not ready to stand up for themselves, and our bruiser was taking toys off them in their house. Telling her off didn't help much either, had to distract her with other toys. Oh shame... I had never seen her like that, been told that she doesn't let other kids to take toys off her in nursery, but never that she might be the nasty one. She never displayed any of this with the cousins. Maybe because they are older and she doesn't dare or they simply have different interests so their ways never crossed?

So ds2 had eye clinic review yesterday and no improvement in squint so we have to patch him, so yesterday afternoon pop patch on much screaming ensues no amount of distraction stops him clawing at it and after 3mins he gets it off and has nasty red urticaria that took 2hrs to go down - must have hurt. So waiting on call back about super sensitive ones.

Spent yesterday afternoon/eve making a sock Cheshire cat from Alice in wonderland for his homework doesn't look much like it but will be fine should just stuck with him drawing a picture

strawberry don't worry. I'm pretty sure all babies behave like that at this age. They have no concept of sharing and not taking things that other children are playing with. I think they only have the concept of "that looks interesting. I want it. Now!" and, as you have discovered with rocking on chairs etc, they are so resistant to being told not to do something. My whole life is much like your visit to your friends, because everything DD1 is playing with is something DD2 wants to play with immediately. If DD1 is building something with Duplo, DD2 wants to do it too, which usually involves taking bits off or adding on to DD1's creation and that is not appreciated.

eastmids hope you have better luck with the patches. I also sometimes fall into crazily over-ambitious homework with DD1, and then wonder why we didn't just stick to drawing a picture or something easy.

strawberry I had the same worries, DD had actually been hitting at the CM's to get the toys she wanted but this weekend we had some friends over with their little boy who although only 5 months older is a big lad and he just bulldozed DD for toys or just being in his way and she just let him. I think it's swings and roundabouts for who's biggest/oldest/most stubborn that day.

Not a peep last night between 6.45pm and 5.45am. Thank god. I went to bed at 8.30 last night so feeling human again now.

I actually have no idea where DD2 lands on the hitting others spectrum. I do know that she has a very LOUD CRY when stuff is taken off her so maybe that's her weapon of choice. She gets on v well with her sister but they have constant scraps over one thing - seats! We have a little stool and a little chair and the territorial tussles get very wearing to listen to. I usually just squawk at the older one to sort it out between themselves and try and hide somewhere so they'll give up seeking my involvement. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn't. But other than that they play exactly as happy's dc, with dd2 always wanting to play with stuff that's too 'old' for her.

DD2 had a temp yesterday so was bracing myself for a bad night but she woke up an hour after going to bed crying and I gave her calpol then, seems to have done the trick as I had to wake her at 8.

lady that's great she slept last night.
east that sounds like a nightmare for poor ds2! the poor thing.
strawberry dd2 does the defiant rocking on chairs thing too. The other thing she does, because she knows how much it winds us up, is put stones in her mouth when playing outside and then shoves her gob at us smirking all the while. DH is like 'yeah yeah whatever I'm distinctly unimpressed' but I can't help freaking out about it.

Got information pack from DD1's school where she'll be starting in September, there's a big long form for her preschool to fill out about her level of readiness in all different areas. Christ. No pressure!

Meant to ask mrsA how have the last few nights been?
There's no way he'd go back to sleep if you got to him fast with a few ounces of warm milk in a bottle? I know that goes against everything you're supposed to do but if he's not sleeping anyway worth a try for a couple of nights? If he's waking at 5.30 am on the nights he sleeps through would he be a bit hungry still?

Last 3 nights he's slept through but with early starts. Not a chance in hell I'd ever give milk in the night now, he's not had any since 10m old. He's not even starving until around 7 or 7.30 so it's habit the early wakings not hunger. We've started with a GroClock but he's technically too young for it but DH thinks he's starting to understand it. Fingers crossed!

Well when DS first started sleeping through it was early waking for a while. It lengthened naturally so hopefully that's where it's headed!

In fact DS slept in till 8.45 this morning and it would have been later had we not woken him. He seems to be a bit under the weather. A couple of nasty nappies and much quieter than usual. Possibly his molars as they are definately coming through this week.

But he still seems happy - just not as hyper. Is it awful to say it's giving me a bit of a break? He just wants to cuddle in all day and that means I can sit down a lot!

I'be gone to bed at 7.30 twice this week already. And I'm only 22 weeks so long way to go!

We don't need the groclock at the moment but for future reference how bright is it at night? DS sleeps in total darkness so am reluctant to change that until he is old enough to request a light on as it does seem to help him switch off.

DD also wakes at 5.30 every morning. I thought it was the heating but now it's not on she's still waking. So I have to go to bed at 9.30 to keep up with it. (and that's without pregnancy tiredness)

Glo clock is great. Not too bright I don't think. Dd1 has had one since she was just over 2.

Anyone got holidays planned? We're pretty broke atm so not going anywhere besides grandparents'.

Halfstar we have a week off in July and a week in Aug will do local stuff for week in July and may visit family imn Sussex in Aug but we have booked to go to Crete in oct .