November 2014 - The one where they outrun us!

[MrsAukerman]

New thread ladies.

Haven't I usually say very firmly no not nice

Re the hitting, hair pulling, biting, snatching DD1's toys: I say no loudly and firmly, which she either starts crying like it's the end of the world or ignores me and carries on doing it. After telling her a couple of times I move her away from her sister or put her down if it is me she is hurting and try to distract. It is all not very effective though. They probably do it for the reaction, so 'experts' would probably say to ignore and not react. I can do that sometimes, but not so much when it is sudden and really hurts, and DD1 can never do that as she is a 5yr old drama llama! A couple of weeks ago both DDs were sitting on DH's lap when DD2 pushed DD1 off on to the laminate floor causing huge amounts of crying from both of them. Well, that was DD1's side of the story anyway, but DD2 isn't really strong enough to push a large 5yr old onto the floor

Are your little ones picking their nose constantly? I understand DD is in age where she doesn't have concept of bad manners, but when I see her pulling out big green thing, put it in mouth and chew with gusto... Argh... We keep saying her not to do it, even pull her finger out of nose, but she seems to think it's some game, laughs and finger goes straight back.

I think we need a title for a new thread soon!

No biting or aggressiveness here but now I'm worried it's going to start! He does stick his finger in his nose a lot but thank god he hasn't yet realised he can pull anything out!

I don't give him a plate at dinner until I can get around to buying a suction plate. I just leave little bits on the highchair table which has a handy dip for a cup where you can put food! Like a wee bowl!

He does fling things on the floor on occasion but mainly of the potato variety so not at every meal. He seems to find mash disgusting which is so bizarre! That goes straight overboard.

Today we are going to try avacado. Hilariously it's DH competitive parenting rearing up since his best friend mentioned at the weekend that their toddler just ADORES avacado! DH went straight out and bought one, not to be outdone!

Seriously though, will I just mash it up and give it as is? Or what? I can see it going on the floor immediately tbh.

I give DD avocado in slices if I have one around but it's not really a handy snack, I mean they're a bloody faff to prepare, they go black once they're cut open and I find they're only perfectly ripe for about 45 minutes other wise they're rock hard or brown slush.

I have quite a (unreasonable) strong love/hate thing with avocados ...

My DP is a competitive parent, mostly with food, despite all of my research and explanation etc he wanted to wean her before 6 months and specifically on swede (!!), I was confused until he told me his bessie mate had told him to do that (best mate has a ds 5 months older than dd).

Oh, apart from picking her nose DD has started to name colours. We now hear a lot of ellou, ink etc

So when I went into work today and did the "what's happened to my DD?" bit, I just got laughed at and told "that's nothing; it only gets worse!" ....

ladydolly, yep I also get the scratching and pinching and the pulling down of my top to shove toys down my front - DH doesn't get this....

strawberry because she's got a(nother) cold she had this really hard, crusty bit of snot all around one nostril, until it all went quiet and she came wondering into the kitchen with a perfectly clean nose, but quite evidently chewing on something....when I asked her it she'd picked her nose (pointing to her nose), she just grinned at me and opened her mouth wide! - I took that for a "yes"!

We're getting some tantrums over the most minor of disappointments but he's learnt that flinging himself on the floor hurts his head so he lowers himself gently onto the floor veeeerrrry slowly. It's absolutely hilarious to watch so the laughter normally diffuses the tantrum thank God.
Off to Sligo again Sat-Mon leaving DS with PILs. Going for a christening so as long as we can sort a taxi between hotel and christening venue should be a drunken fun weekend. Also my birthday while we're away but tbh that's got overridden by christening and travel arrangements.

Well Tue had call from nursery head to toe spots think chicken oox def not pox took to nurse practitioner and pharmacy not pox could be reaction or viral - they only agreed with my suggestions saying ii was better qualified with children than them so got piriton and spots come and go but is fine in himself.

Ds1 had sports day yesterday was soooo cold and damp.

Come on summer where are you

I took DD to the health visitor today about her not walking. 3 weeks ago she took a couple of steps on her own on the Saturday, did it again on the Sunday and has never bothered since. So, she can walk, but why won't she? Maybe she is just very lazy or maybe there is a reason. I spoke to DH and my mum about this and they both say she is fine and no reason to worry, but I worried anyway now she is 19 months old (I was quite happy with not walking until 18 months). The health visitor did a referral to physiotherapy. I won't tell DH until the appointment comes through, because it is highly likely that she will start walking properly before that and I won't ever have to have the discussion with him about not believing him when he said she is fine and not to bother with the health visitors.

eastmids I have also had a similar 'you know more than we do about what might be wrong' response when taking DC to the GP. I discovered there is a note on DDs' GP records that I am a paediatric nurse, presumably so they know not to bullshit me when they don't know what is wrong with them! Glad your DS is better now. How is he getting on with eye patching?

Life support is being withdrawn today on one of my relatives. She is only in her 40s and has a teenage daughter who has already lost her father :(
I have to tell my 5yr old about this later. Life seems cruel and unfair today.

Thanks happy yeah he is tolerating the eye patch have left it to nursery really.

I hate going to doctors as sometimes think well she knows what it is why is she asking us bit like when I told nurse practitioner ii needed antihistamines prescribed for an under 2 and also I need a label on bottle for nursery our pharmacist is actually great as we have had silent reflux and milk intolerance we were in frequently.

Reminder today of how nasty meningitis can be and children are still dying really reconsidering paying for men b vaccine its bloody expensive even more now in short supply and only one place iin county that does it privately. I feel v strongly when it was developed and put into baby program a mop up should have been done of all under 5 but understand from public health talk I attended why it wasn't but still makes me angry.

I know what you mean happy about being OK with things up to 18 months but not beyond! I am a bit like that with DSs speech. Thank god he just said his first word this week - "Teddy!" We weren't sure whether it was a random sound or not but after a few nights of him actually saying it to various Teddys I think we're confident to officially declare it.

It's a huge load of my mind which is so stupid as he can point to things in books and I logically know he's perfectly normal. But it's that milestone of 2 yrs approaching....nobody wants to have the kid who has no words (or no walk) at 2!

I think this summer is going to be a bit stressful that way for those of us with babies that are slightly lazy slower about some things as we'll be watching them like hawks.

Now he has one word I desperately want him to have more of course to prove it's not a fluke! Even yes or no or Mummy or Daddy would be nice! But I'm trying to give myself a kick up the arse about it cos it's so bloody irrational.

Ds2 has started to walk a lot more rather than just from sofa to table although not keen on walking outside and def not on grass!! He is a week over 18mths. Speech he has clear words and other words we know what they are and he mimics a lot of noises.

18mths tomorrow and only "words" we're getting are "mama mama" and "dada dada".....no sign of anything else, BUT she understands loads of things and is perfectly able to get her needs and wants across...perhaps she's decided there's no need to speak....
She's great at walking / running and tripping up over her own feet

18 months today, and we have a new word 'bye bye'. He seems to have really changed these past couple of weeks. Much more cheeky, but gets over tantrums pretty quickly. He had a tizz this evening because we took away his milk when he dropped his supper time flapjack into it. Bless.

Oddly, he seems to have started wanting to potty train for wee (already done for poo). I take him to the loo, he sits on it and goes, uses loo roll and says bye bye to his wee when we flush. Had dry nappies all day. Not sure if I should take it further and pop him into pants, or just keep going as we are. Also, what do I do when we're out and about?.. Didn't think I'd have to be dealing with this for at least another few months....

DH is around now for the summer (teacher) which is a fantastic help BUT....DS has started showing a bit of a preference for him.

I am honestly glad they have such a sweet relationship - DH was always a lovely guy and has turned into a really good humoured and snuggly Daddy. He's always done every bit of parenting I have too so DS thinks we're kinda interchangeable.

Now though occasionally he will literally slip from my arms and go off to find Daddy for a cuddle. I'm like, my cuddling isn't good enough??

DH keeps reminding me it's just a phase and he loves me just as much but I'm a bit hormonal and sensitive at the moment!

(Oh and exhausted - we may be hitting the dreaded sleep regression. Awake from 12-3 last night and not for the first time this week, ugh)

My friend just had her little baby boy.

I am so broody I might cry.

Then dd shoves a cheerio up my nose and I get over it.

Posmorck that's really amazing in a little one so young! No idea but maybe try a few more days of that and then into pull ups if he's not in them already? We found with dd1 it took her a while to use the loo out and about, she got too anxious and would rather hold on til she got back home.

Anyone else with a shoe-obsessed toddler...putting them on, taking them off. Putting on her sister's shoes, attempting to walk in them and falling and bashing her head
Speaking of shoes what are all the babies wearing in nice weather? Dd2 really needs sandals or crocs for the garden. Am so tempted to get her saltwaters because they're so cute (and I like mine) but the price of them

Yes to the shoe obsession! I have lots of sparkly shiny sandals and he's constantly at them.

We have crocs for the summer. Well the cheap rip offs from Dunnes which are fine. Though you can get the real thing in TKMaxx quite often. They're a revelation for slipping off and on. So easy! I said to DH last night that we're going to buy them till he's 15!

I've got a couple of pairs of Clarks sandals for the summer. I love saltwaters too, but, erm... Price...
Had more dry nappies today too, and wees only on the loo (even though we left it for a couple of hours accidentally!) might try a little pair of pants tomorrow as we're in cloth nappies at the mo...
Had a bit of a disappointment though. Arranged a party to sell some of my books today, and everyone cancelled at the last minute, and the one I had planned for next week got cancelled too. Feel very blue, as even though it's meant to be a hobby, I was hoping to make a bit of pocket money. Not so sure it's for me :(

We wear crocs in garden but nothing out has shoo shoes for nursery outside, he has some smartrite pre walkers just screws toes up in them. Once walking better will get some clarks doodles was 4.5f last time measured.

I'm so impressed by the potty training!! I was happy that DD can now tell me 'no poo poo' if I ask her is she's got a dirty nappy :)

For shoes I got a saltwater similar pair from JL www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-children's-noah-leather-fisherman-sandals-navy/p2597302 I worry about her little toes so wanted sandals that cover them. Also got some lexie and luca barefoot sandals (in the sale for £17 rather than £44 otherwise no way!!)

We've been away for the weekend at a wedding, we took DD and honestly, if it wasn't her grandpa I wouldn't have taken her and was proved right. She can't stay still (and I don't expect her to at 18 months) so she made it through half the ceremony and as far as the starters for the meal. The ipad did keep her entertained for about 20 minutes later on. We kept taking her out for walks int he buggy to try and get her to sleep but no joy. This child gets major FOMO, she knows there's a party and she wants a part of it. She was then up running around until 11.30, me and her dad was wiped out but I think she could have kept going. She was kind of grumpy the next day of course but it was sunny and we played in the park all day.

Still sleeping fine (still surprised I even get to say that). She's switched her preferences to me from DP, there are tears when I leave the house or even pop to the loo when we're out. The biggest challenge at the moment is food. She's eating very little. Even her favourites. She wouldn't touch her dinner tonight, not even the peas which she loves, but still ate some strawberries. I'm ok with it for now, kids go through these phases. DP worries a lot, he doesn't want to her become a fussy child and he get so angry when she throws her food on the floor. I have to remind him not to react. So it can be quite tense.

New thread time.

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