August 2015. It's all about food consumption and late nights at Bar Mugabe Nights

[Dozygirl]

New thread for us fast talkers

Hi everyone. Still at hosp in the HDU bed. But DS doing much better. He has moved from high flow to low flow air. Hopefully after review tomorrow that can be removed. Then hooefully feeding tube can come out. Stats all good even with help given being reduced, so all positive signs.

Hope Mugabe nights isn't too full!

Oh my god, fatty. That is absolutely unthinkable. Utterly horrific. I can't believe something so terrible would happen to someone so vulnerable. Does she know yet if the baby is ok?

Checking in to the bar I've been lurking in a corner since 2.10!!! I'll have a hot toddy extra everything in it!

Fatty that's awful so glad he's now her ex and hopefully he will stay that way. Can't believe they've took so long to see her she must be so worried.

Rra that's really god news he is heading in the right direction I hope he gets stronger and stronger.

Dummies wise DS is pretty unfussy he's not a huge fan and pick and choose when he wants them although will thankfully take them as a sleep cue consistently! He has TT ones and avent ones but a friend also swears by MAM.

Mzzf not a bad mum for not changing wee- I pretty much so that every night if he's happy and falling asleep and he's never had nappy rash etc as a result.

Paris is horrific it literally makes me feel sick. The Charlie hebdo attacks happened when we were skiing in France and didn't have English TV in our room and I was trying to translate the French from my rusty high school French and it was terrifying. We eventually went to the bar which had he English and I couldn't believe my eyes at what had happened. My cousin lives in Paris so I will be phoning my aunty first thing to check she's heard from him, it was a bit late last night to ring when I heard about it.

Right going to try to sneak out the bar- I have DS a big cuddle and he seemed to settle/ drop off (after initially feeling like I was holding a grunting gro bag of wriggly eels!) I've closed the trickle vents in our window and gave him an extra blanket plus been sat on the floor with my arm over the Moses basket and hand on his chest whilst typing this and he hasn't stirred so fingers crossed he's asleep! How bad do I feel he was cold!!! Off to a nearly new baby sale this morning- thicker tog gro bags will be on my list!

Of course now he's asleep my body has decided I need a poo FFS!! Keep my bar stool warm I may be back sooner rather than later!

Good morning.
Ds has broken his run of good sleep. Balls.
We had several wake ups overnight. I've had a taste of 8 hour stretches and I was really hoping to keep them! I really struggled to get back to sleep as my mind was in Paris. I can't help but worry about what kind of a world our child will grow up in .

So pleased things are improving for the little dude rrra. Hoping you get to go home asap.

That is the cutest superhero I have ever seen tindel.

How were the photos lily? I'm impressed that you didn't just dive in before dh.
I find that the 'contractions' caused by bf'ing make me need to poo at the most inconvenient times! Poor Ds is often letting in his crib, looking bewildered and wandering where I ran off to mid feed!

grok, Ds isn't keen on dummies, but will take these.
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He spits out every other type I've tried.
We also have a Kari me. Ds loved it, but I do find lately that he only likes it if he's ready to sleep. He just wants to look around now when he's awake.

We don't change nappies overnight either mzzf. I don't even check them now. I don't see the point unless he's unhappy.
Enjoy the wedding today!

I really hope your friend is ok fatty, that's terrible.

Have a good Saturday everyone. Ds has been invited to one of our friends babies' first birthday today. She's so big and grown up, I can barely believe they will be in the same school year!

Morning all,

The Paris murderous attacks are really distressing, I have a lot of anger towards the numbskull jihadis.

slow I ordered the medium sized star, it was dispatched yesterday so hopefully I'll be able to use it, dd is almost 4 months but I've also got a winter suit for her that she'll grow out of in a few weeks so not a problem if I have to wait. I chose cyclamen colour

fatty that's terrible your poor friend! Has she informed the police? He should be charged, he needs to be stopped from being violent again towards her or another woman.

Fanby love the photos, your holiday looks great!

I had a bad night, baby giraffe has a cold/blocked nose so needed to be held most of the night as when laid flat she was coughing and crying. Hopefully she'll get less colds when older if she's building her immunity now! I did make dh have her at 530 am though so I could have an hours sleep, which was disrupted several times by dd1 wanting to come and jump on the bed...

In general my dh does very little looking after baby, he changes a nappy very occasionally. But he does hold her while I have a bath (she's asleep though). He does more with older dd and he does quite a bit of housework at the weekend, I like looking after baby so seems to work for us.

Are you all sleeping in a bedroom with dh or baby? I'm still in a room with baby so dh gets a full nights sleep for work and I get to share a kingsize bed with baby giraffe which I love as I like to co sleep.

Happy weekend all xx

mzzf I am super jealous of you not needing to change nappies overnight, it was bloody freezing last night, but DS still HATES being at all wet.

rra glad to hear there's been some improvement!

fatty seconding Giraffes, I hope your friend can tell the police.

Giraffes we're all in one bedroom with a cosleeper cot, and both cats. It's VERY snuggly. I can't manage properly co sleeping with DS anymore (I did for the first month or so) because he's so sicky - I'd need to change all the bedding every night. This way I can usually just change the cot bedding at least!

So awful what has happened in Paris :( thoughts and prayers to everyone there.

Rrra sounds like ds is on the mend thank goodness. He was in the best possible place for him. Must have been so horrible to watch him go through that. Hope he has a speedy recovery.

Fatty. Can't believe that someone would tell u it's wrong to buy grufallo and who gives them the right to say anyway?! Hope your friend is alright. What a horrible thing to happen. Has he been violent before?

Kbro hope sleep has been better for u. I had one bad night this week but back to her usual stretch again. This morning I woke before she did because my boobs were leaking everywhere which never happens. She's not going down in her crib quite as easily though. Have to sit with her a bit to soothe her while she drifts off. Dd loves her dummy, the tommee tippee ones. I only give it her if she's bothered by something though but I'm very grateful she'll take one otherwise she'd cry a lot.

Mzzf how are u doing? Hope you've enjoyed some sleep too.

My fave colour is green too hehe. Tindel super j loomed fantastic. Fanby your holiday pics are lovely. So glad u had a good time. Molly is just gorgeous. Did u dunk her under water? I need to take piper swimming this weekend coz we've not had chance for a couple of weeks. Bought a splash about snug thing because she was getting cold in our local pool so hoping she'll enjoy it better. Got a bargain off eBay. It's like brand new.

Slings: dd hates being put into the sling but if I bounce about with her and hold her bum then she'll soon settle. Tried out my new connecta sling yesterday and she slept for ages which was good because I was watching my friends little boy and he wanted to me to read him a million stories which I was able to do with dd asleep in slin . I've not quite figured out the positioning yet as she's a bit small for it so will have another try today but it's much comfier than the caboo because it's sit properly on my back. And fairly easy to put on with the buckles. It's well loved so I think I overpaid on the price but never mind. That's the gamble you taken with ebay. It's still in great condition but u can tell it's been used if u know what I mean.

My friend persuaded me to go to clubbercise with her last night. I am so unfit but it was good. My 2 community midwives were there too haha. So embarrassing. Hated having all my wobbly buts out and I defo need a new sports bra because I don't fit in my really supportive ones anymore but it felt good to do a work out.

Dd isnt a heavy wetter so I don't change her nappies that often either. She's never had nappy rash so it must be ok to leave them. The ones in the morning as so so heavy with wee haha. They do smell after a while though haha.

Happy Saturdays mugabeans

Morning all!

tindelloving your wee superhero!

fanby fantastic holiday pics - you are a beautiful little family

kbro I sometimes buy Pots of Joy for the DCs - the dark chocolate Rolo one is delish

despite trying grok none of my 6 gave liked slings/carriers/wraps - all preferred me just holding them!

rrra wishing you all well and hope you get home this weekend X

Felt really old and frumpy last night watching DD1 and her friends get ready to go out. The party didn't finish until 10pm - I usually go to bed between 8.30-9pm - but couldn't relax until she got dropped off home then she snuggled in beside me and baby for a while to tell me all about it (she talks non-stop and had to tell me what everyone was wearing etc!). Then DH comes to tell me about atrocities in Paris - beyond awful - eventually got to sleep after midnight, feeling grateful for being safe and not quite so cross when DD then woke for a feed every hour.

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giraffe my DH sounds like yours - he isn't involved with baby at all - thou happily holds her when she is sleeping but he is good at entertaining the other DCs. He does nothing around the house at all but does work a lot and I am SAHM although just sometimes it would be nice to get a little break!

I sleep in super king bed with baby and sometimes toddler - DH is in spare room as up early for work - he sometimes joins me at weekends

Can't believe what happened in Paris, so shocking.

grok the class is called Hartbeeps. It's very silly, but J really got it yesterday. He gets overstimulated, but I think he is getting better. He made such a fuss last time, one of the other mums recognised me at another class!

J is in a Moses basket in our room - we don't have a working spare room, so it's down on the sofa. J wouldn't settle this morning, so DH has been down so I could sleep. Missed meeting my friend this morning as a result

Can I ask about taking your babies to GP / health visitor? We seem to be the only people not to take J to see anyone outside of our scheduled appointments? We're now not due to see our health visitor until J is 9 months and I'm slightly confused about what kind of things I might need to contact her for. Am feeling slightly negligent and wondered what other people have done

I only see the hv outside of scheduled appointments when I go to clinic to get DS weighed.
Not heard off my friend yet. Am going to contact her in a bit. She won't phone the police, but he was kicking off at her grandma's house last night and she phoned them. Hospital have contacted hv and ss.

Tindel we went to the HV drop in when I was worried about DSs hip appointment not happening. I had an additional visit to help with breastfeeding at the very start, too. I think I'd go back if there was something else that I was a bit concerned about, but that wasn't straightforward illness - help with weaning, or teething maybe.

Morning all,

Hope everyone got a bit of sleep and some extra cuddles last night.

Celeste slept pretty well last night for a baby going through a sleep regression! Up at 3.45 and 6.30 then up at 8. She was all smiles when I was changing her this morning. I love those smiles, they absolutely melt my heart and make me so thankful for my little family. FWIW, I don't change her in the night either bc it wakes her up and takes too long to settle her again. But she has been BFing a lot more recently bc of sleep probs which means full nappy around midnight that requires changing!

Thanks for dummy and sling advice. Will try a few other kinds over the weekend and report back. Am also meaning to get to the baby wearing library and try a new sling!

I love all your pics of your little ones. Here's mine this morning

Also thought you all might enjoy this to help bring smiles to everyone's faces today!

Hi everyone,

grok I've only ever used a carrier for actual transportation. Neither of mine would tolerate being in one indoors. Like loves brood mine prefer to be held by me if they need rocking, which I don't mind so it's all good.

giraffe DH and I sleep in our bed with grumpy 2 in her cot at the end of the bed. We'll probably move her into her own room around 4 months (or whenever she drops the final night feed) and then we'll take it in turns to crash there with her until she is 6 months. That's what we did with grumpy 1 and it worked well.

frolic don't panic! We had a couple of horrible nights last week but normal service resumed quite quickly. Last night she was down at 8:30pm and slept through to 5:30am. If you'd asked me on Wednesday I'd have thought we were never going to have a decent nights sleep again .

I too worry about the world we have brought our daughters in to but then I make myself think about what my parents generation went through (Cuban missile crisis, IRA bombings) and my grandparents (WWII) and it makes me less panicky. It's a f**king scary world out there, but it always has been. All we can do is make sure there is more love in it than there are haters. Was very glad to hear from Parisian friends this morning though...

lily lol at your poo story! Been there, poo'd that Yesterdays word of the day in the urban dictionary was "poogle" "the act of surfing the Internet whilst having a poo" one to try maybe??

Good news about baby rrra

Oops gotta go, in slow moving traffic so the dwarfs have woken and are grumbling

Oh, tindel I never take mine anywhere unless they are ill and need the GP or it's a routine appointment. With grumpy 2 I've not even made it to the weighing clinic yet

Hi, I ve been following but not been able to post for a while as the Internet kept going down here.

Rrra hope you and Ds are ok and are home soon if not already.

Fatty your poor friend. I hope she is ok. I do some work around domestic abuse and sadly these incidents are rarely a one off. I would encourage your friend to contact the police. There will probably be women's aid nearby that could support her with that. It will add to the info they have from him kicking off at her grans and might just help to save some poor woman in the future. What a good friend you have been.

I haven't seen the health visitor since about 4 weeks. If I have concerns there is a weekly drop in but haven't used it yet. Next scheduled visit is in January.

Those star snugs look lovely. I might have to get one for Ds because despite having 5 0-3 snow suits we now don't have any.

I took ds1 to the cinema this morning and ds2 was fine for 3 hours with dh. I expressed some milk yesterday and he took it from a bottle today without complaint. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and might even be able to go to my works Xmas party now!

The events in Paris are just so upsetting. I can't get my head around how anyone can want to hurt innocent people. Since having the boys I am definitely more concerned about the future and the world they will grow up in. When I had ds1 I was prepared for the love I would feel because everyone talks about it but I wasn't prepared for the fear. Now whenever something horrible happens I can't help but imagine that happening to us. It's terrifying.

Having a sleeping cuddle with ds2 now while I listen to dh and ds1 play dinosaurs. This is the good stuff and I am going to cherish it.

Grrr. Been sat in the van outside the DW stadium for an hour and a half now without moving. Want.to.be.at.home....

The events in Paris are so horrendous, snuggle your babies tight and hold your loved ones close ladies. Thank god the people I know there are safe but like some of you have said I really do worry about the world that Alex will grow up in. Everything is so much more scary now he is here.

Thinking of you Rra, hope things are continuing to improve and you get to go home soon.

Fatty your poor friend. What a disgusting man, am so pleased she's rid of him. You sound like a lovely friend as well. Hope the baby is ok.

Hope you get moving soon Slow. Also, love the term poogling- I do it all the time

How lovely to get all the gossip from your DD's party Love, sounds like you have a lovely relationship. I hope A chats to me like that when he's older.

At my weigh in clinic you have to see a HV after you've done the weighing (they hold your red book ransome!), but unless I had a specific question/issue they just ask a few general q's and let you go. Only been to the GP when A's tummy button went manky. They seem quite good at letting you have on the day apps for babies though.

The cotbed takes up almost all of our spare room (we live in a tiny flat, the perils of having a zone 3 property) so at the moment we're all in our room - A in his Moses basket. We're planning to buy him a travel cot this weekend though as he's outgrowing the Moses and he sleeps on his front so I don't want to move him out early but the cotbed won't fit in our room.

Loving the pics as always - Fanby your holiday looked ace, Tindel your superhero is gorgeous and Grok Celeste (lovely name) is such a cutie.

Big news here: yesterday at 14 weeks exactly A started rolling! He went from front to back at baby massage class. Tried to get him to do it again later so I could video for his Dad but he just looked at me like 'I'm not a performing monkey'. Felt totally excited till I realised I'll have to keep the living room floor a lot tidier now

Evening all!!

Absolutely tragic events in Paris, unbelievably sad. Kept me awake most the night :(

Celeste, what a beautiful name for a beautiful baby. She's absolutely gorgeous, what wonderful head control

Oh god ww3 with bedtime write more later x

Sorry about that. We've moved her cot into our bedroom and she clearly doesn't like it and much prefers being squidged into her bassinet. Literally don't know what to do? I reckon I'll be getting plastered in Mugabe nights tonight, who's going to offer to hold my hair back??!

Fatty-your poor, poor friend, is she ok? Well clearly not ok, but you know what I mean..

Rra - how you holding up lovely?? Is he doing any better??

Clstow - excellent news on the rolling!!!! I think we're still a long way off that!! Got lots of work to do on head control first lol

Peachy - hope you enjoyed the cinema!!!

Slowwife - that is so true about the older generations and wars etc. Haven't thought about it from that perspective xx

Loveandsmiles - so lovely to hear that your Dd came in to tell you all about her night, hope molls does that with me

Dozy - got DH to dunk her lol, I did not have the balls!! She didn't cry though!! We think we've finally found a space for weekend swimming lessons in January, hurrah!
Excellent news on the clubercise!! Sounds like such a fun class, fun not being the right word to use but you know what I mean lol. Well done you for going!!

Grok celeste is a stunner :)

Poogling haha I love that. I always try to go for a poo when piper is asleep but she ends up waking up and i have to try to rush because she sounds so upset when I'm not there. Not always easy to be quick when you're mid poop though is it!

Slow hope u made it home in the end.

Bad mother confession. Today my mum too piper go a couple of hours so I could do some housework. I did manage to do housework but then sat down to express as my boobs were leaking. Anyway, I felt awful because I was so enjoying the peace and quiet that I didn't want to rush and collect her so my mum had her most of the day. I did miss her a lot but it was nice to not have to be holding a baby for a change. Is that bad? Dp out this evening though so we've had a girlie evening together watching x factor with lots of cuddles to make up for me not wanting her today.

Still waiting for hv to ring me back after I forgot our appointment with her. She's obviously not the bothered about it. I'm not really bothered either.

Anyone else's short term memory terrible since having children? I keep losing anything and everything. And forgetting everything. It's really bad. I'm sure I didn't used to be this bad. I'm wondering if I'll ever be the same again. I must ask dp about 10 times a day where I've put certain things because I can't remember.

Dozy - so not a bad mother!!! I wish mine would do that for me! Glad you had some you time. You'll enjoy the time with pipes so much more when you've had a break.

(D)H is really pissing me off. Molly just isn't sleeping. We've gone from having all the sleep to what feels like none. She's hard to settle and then has been up at 12;30 and 2 so far. I told him at 2 it was his turn yet here I am fucking feeding again?! There is EBM in the fridge too. He makes so much bloody noise. He bought her back into me holding her in a position she HATES so of course she's going to cry. Honestly I'm livid and at the end of my tether. Still don't know if it's the cot she hates or she is just having a bad night again. Urgh, going to sit at the bar and have a little cry x

Mugabe Mugabe ladies!!

Well I'm writing this from a dark and damp Cumbrian hotel room. I'm glad I got my arse in gear for the wedding for my friend but still a little at paying £150 for a room that is smaller than our spare room at home - we've had to squash the bed up against the wall to fit her travel cot in, it's that small! Yikes!

Fanby - tonight feels worse becauE sleeps been taken away from you. She's not being a total arse, maybe the cot is still a bit strange for her. Mini mzzzf sleeps on a lamb skin so that transferred to the cot with her - is there something familiar for molls too?

Oh and your DH deserves a little pointy fingered shout of "stop being a dick" a la The Last Leg Why don't their brains click on?! It's ridiculous!!!! But it's feels doubly worse on lack of sleep. Trust me I know!!! You're rocking this out though and tomorrow is a new day/night.

Nice to get some alone time isn't it dozy. When my mum was up, she took dd for 3hrs so I could do a quick house clean and then have an uber long shower followed by actual moisturiser application!! I loved it! And yes my memory is pants and it bloody irritates me no end!

Poogling - ah yes I do it a lot! Facebook and mumsnet are my favourite poo websites. I cannot guarantee that all my posts are toilet-free! Hahaha!

Mini mzzzf was a bit overwhelmed with the wedding. And with all the old ladies trying to grab at her whilst she was clearly upset/sleeping, I was quite agog at their 'baby-groping' attempts!!! But she coped marvellously really however, it was definitely time to call it a night when we did. Which was lucky as she did the mother of all vomits approx 15mins after we got to our room Since we had to call it a night early on, DH and I are going to SMASH the hotel breakfast!!! I want to exhaust a waitress

I also appear to have brought the wild Scottish weather with me to the Lake District - oops!

Glad you went to the wedding, Mzzf. It's good to do stuff like that. Old ladies and babies! Like catnip or heroin for them. Does them good to get a fix.

I don't think that sounds like a bad mum at all, Dozy. It sounds like a sensible mum taking a bit of time.

Hope you got home, Slow. That sounds very tedious.

I never see a hv unless absolutely necessary. I asked them not to bother coming in the beginning unless they really needed to. They came three times just. They've far better things to do than see me. There are folk with problems and issues who need help. I don't need their usually shite advice. I never bother with weighing either. Baby is fine and feeding. If there was something minor needing medicine I'd see a pharmacist and if it was serious I'd see a doctor. For everything else there's Google!

We have a king size bed and a co sleeper cot. Dh, me, dd2 and dog. It's a bit toasty in this room!

Feeling a bit jaded at the moment. I'm fat and frumpy with crap hair. Life is a bit relentless. We're away off to the Borders on Friday (6 hr car journey) and I've a million things to do to make that happen. Need to get my game face on. It'll be great when I get there. I hope I can find some half way decent togs to wear. Bah. Sort it out woman!