April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

[PenguinPoser]

New thread for those of us left here

Sorry you're feeling like this babiecakes11. Really hope you get the sleep you need and glad you have some strategies in place. Take care of yourself

I'm sorry you are feeling like that Babiecakes11 it's good that you went straight to the GPs this morning. I hope you can get some sleep

I can't go to bed as I'm sat waiting for the washing machine to finish I decided to wash some curtains and I want to hang them up to dry. I think my nesting urge has come 3 months to late!

Sorry to hear that babiecakes. I've been there in the past and it's such a difficult place to get out of.
You are amazing and dealing with so much, so well. Please take any help offered and I hope you're feeling better about things.

DS slept 9.30 - 7.30 which was lovely, but he still is refusing his evening bottle. We've got to get him bottle feeding by September as we're going to the rugby world cup... well I was supposed to be. I'm so mad they won't let you take babies without a ticket!

Don't feel silly babiecakes. It's great that you can recognise when you need to get help. Sleep deprivation is awful and always makes things worse. Don't be afraid to get back to the GP or call the crisis team if you need to.

So pleased it's the weekend and dh is off - well he will be from 12 when he finishes work!

If are you sure? I took dd1 to the Olympics without a ticket

That's ridiculous needing a ticket for a baby!

Babiecakes please don't worry about what the crisis team will say - they are there to help you through this difficult time. It's natural to have negative thoughts when you're feeling like this but it will pass. You are doing a great job with your kids and they will have such lovely lives because they have your love which is all they need. As you say you know you can get to a better place as you have done before. These things normally don't happen overnight unfortunately but it will happen. Take all the support you are offered. I hope your DP realises how you are feeling and takes some of the pressure off you.

Trying to get grumpy baby to bed... Then we can have pizza!

Hope she's in bed Penguin.

Babiecakes - never worry about venting here, it's important to have an outlet. I hope you're feeling okay!

Definitely sure about the rugby.... It keeps saying on the tickets. I feel it's so stupid and I really want to complain but not really good at it!

It is really stupid FiRaffe!!! Friends of mine also took their baby to the Olympics.

Please don't worry about them coming round babiecakes11, that's what they're there for and hopefully seeing you in person you'll be able to explain better how you're feeling.

Today has started well! Not a raised voice so will keep positive and hope it stays that way. Put Sam in a 3-6 month sleepsuit last night as I really can't put him in 0-3 they are so tiny but he looks ridiculous, good job it's only for bed!

Glad to hear things are okay today so far cinnamon.
We have just sorted DS's wardrobe and boxed clothes. We've put the sheet on his cot bed too so I can put him in there and put clothes away etc

Feeling sad, been to my mums for dss's birthday celebrations. Long story short my dad doesn't like my brothers gf and has told him. She wasn't supposed to be coming but did so dad disappointed and he then told me dad that the holiday he's booked for them both (paid for by my dad) he's only going to go tues-sat so he can spend the bh weekend with his gf so it was a really awkward atmosphere. Sam woke up when we got there, moved him from house to car ok but another move was too much so he was whingier than normal which didn't help and then I overheard my stepdad moaning at my mum that I feed him every two minutes. I fed him 3 times and we were there 1ish-7 so not loads. I have just face timed her with him chatting as I feel I need to prove he's a happy chatty baby but not really sure why I feel the need to do that!!!! It was nice in parts and dh and I haven't even had a slight disagreement which is great. Just feeding Sam now and he's drifting off then need to get the big two in bed and then probably fall asleep myself!

Hope you've all had a lovely Sunday, weather has been great here if a little windy.

Pleased things were ok with DH today cinnamon but not so good about the rest of the family. It's horrible when there is an atmosphere. And 3 feeds in that timeframe sounds very reasonable to me! Some people just don't understand.

Babiecakes pleased you got out oh that walk and it made you laugh sounds like just what you needed.

DD has been rather grumpy today mainly because she was tired and we did lots of moving around in and out of car etc which wakes her up. So she didn't get a decent nap when I could tell she wanted one. She fell straight to sleep in the car on the way home so we drove a very long way round to give her a decent chunk of sleep. Just trying to get her down to bed now. Fingers crossed!

Ha ha penguin we drove the long way home today as well because dd had been fighting sleep all afternoon then dropped off when we were nearly home so we did several laps around the one way system and along the dual carriage way so that she got some much needed sleep.

cinnamon I'm glad things were ok with your DH today but sorry the rest of your family made you feel sad.

Babiecakes I'm glad you had a lovely walk and had a laugh even though you got lost. Sorry your Nana isn't in good health but if she can manage to hold dd then take her up on the offer even if it's just to sit down and have a hot cup of tea and switch off for 10 minutes.

firaffe sorting DD's clothes is one of my jobs for this week as she is in a mixture of 0-3 and 3-6 months.

We are going on a trip tomorrow with the baby group to a sensory place I hope dd can stay awake as I think she will like the different lights and sounds.

i hope everyone has a good night and babies all sleep well.

I just don't know if dd will ever sleep through again!!!!!! Feels very woeful at this time of the morning. I don't know how to get her to sleep apart from boobing. Keep thinking she's hungry but for the small amount she's just fed I suspect it's more comfort. Really need to work on her daytime naps this week.
I feel fed up cos I'm so tired again. And my back shoulders neck and head are constantly aching from holding her and feeding despite all the cushions. If I cosleep my back ends up twisted at a funny angle and yes I can doze but not sleep comfortably and I can't turn over cos I don't want my back to her. So I end up really uncomfortable and exacerbate back and neck pain leading to more headaches.
Sorry for rant. Things will be better in the morning I hope. Need to try and get her back in the crib.

Oh Penguin, i'm sorry you're getting so little sleep. Is she tanking up before she goes down? Could it be light distracting her or something?
We're not there yet but had a couple of bad nights since I removed the blanket prop from under his mattress. He has taken to sleeping at a weird diagonal across his moses basket and being really noisy (asleep). He woke me at 5.30 so I got up to express thinking he'd wake soon but he's still asleep so i'm sitting here failing at countdown and catching up.

Lovely that your nana offered babiecakes. Even if it's just once every couple of weeks I'm sure it would be as lovely for her to see you as it would be for you to have the much needed rest! Well done on the al fresco feeding!

Cinnamon sorry to hear the rest of your family are being difficult! Does your step dad have any kids? The feeding is one reason we haven't seen fil since the day DS was born.... He wouldn't understand and would make me feel really uncomfortable.

Wine I hope baby sensory is good. Everything is stopping here for the summer so will look for September. I did buy myself some swimwear in mothercare the other day to be brave enough to take DS to the local pool. Am a bit scared though!

No FiRaffe, only us and we were 5&7 when my mum and him got together but he's been around for my other two. He also constantly calls him grumpy, in a jokey way but I feel I NEED to prove how lovely he is, daft I know!

So sorry PenguinPoser! It could well be she's not hungry, ds2 was up 3-4 times a night as a baby and usually only one of those was about milk. He wouldn't just feed and go to sleep he wanted to be held. Dh wouldn't have him in bed so I didn't have the option of co-sleeping, and even though it's easier when you're tired I didn't want that long term either. If I couldn't get him to go down I used recline my nursing chair with the foot stool out and just sleep with him on my chest until he was asleep really well then put him back. I tried shushing him in his cot which never worked but he always went back and eventually he did sleep better. It was so tough, it was dark and cold and I knew I had to work the next day and was knackered before I even started so I totally understand where you're coming from. I feel consistency got us there eventually but perhaps he would have done it anyway. He loved his muslin once we realised having something in his face helped settle him and I do think good daytime sleep helps with settling at night. Pretty sure our babies should be having at least 14hrs sleep at the moment. Hope you got a bit more sleep past 2am