April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

[PenguinPoser]

New thread for those of us left here

Arghhhh she's waking up earlier every night! Where's my sleeping 9/6 baby? Was awake at 2.20! Knackered. Almost feel like she's a newborn again!

Oh no PenguinPoser! Hope you got some more sleep. I was up in the night but with ds2

Hope your dh starts listening to your needs babiecakes11!

I had a very emotional day yesterday! Sam had his rebooked jabs and I got him weighed which I was worried about despite my advice to everyone else. He's gained another 8oz over two weeks so following the line. My minded little boy who's a year in 2 weeks was kissing Sam yesterday which was sooooo cute. Found out which class ds2 is in and I'm so disappointed for many reasons. I nearly cried in his class so couldn't talk to anyone, but I hope to today just to clarify a few things. Been for a run this morning and I feel better for it despite nothing actually changing.

cinnamon sounds like you had a really rough day. I saw your FB post yesterday but don't think I had time to reply. Pleased you're going to speak to the school about your concerns. I hope they can reassure you. It's going to be really emotional anyway with him starting school without other issues too.
Good news about ds3 weight though - don't doubt yourself!

I did get a bit more sleep. She was up again at 6.15 so I fed her then I got up at 7.20 and she slept until 10! I should learn to stay in bed when I don't have anywhere to be. Tired today. I've sorted through her clothes this morning though which is useful and have a slight excess of sleep suits so going to see if I can exchange some.

It doesn't matter what happens we worry don't we? Today Sam slept 9pm-8 fed both sides and was awake until 9, feed at 10 and back to sleep until 1.45 fed both sides again awake until 3 then slept until 7.30, fed awake until 9, another feed and back to bed! That's only a total of 3hrs awake in 24hrs and 5 feeds although 2 were from both sides. I'm worrying that he's slept too much and not fed enough, I was concerned when he started sucking his thumb that he was doing that instead of asking for a feed but as he'd gained weight well Thursday so I shouldn't worry really. When he's awake he's gurgling, chatting looking around and his arms and legs go like mad so again I should worry but I am! He does cry when he's hungry and his thumb doesn't settle him at that point, tell me I'm being daft please!?!?!?

You're being daft!
Well you're not actually but it sounds like you don't need to worry. He will be taking what he needs. Babies don't settle and sleep if they're starving! I've noticed dd is going longer between feeds now too - not that she's sleeping much like but she resists napping and gets so tired. Poor babies can't win we worry about them whatever they do!

And having had to wake him at 8 yesterday to feed him before school run he's awake at 6 for a feed so guess he will wake when hungry

I wouldn't worry cinnamon (I know, almost impossible not to), he's probably just having a growth spurt or had lots to process after your time at DS2s school.
My DS had a really sleepy day after baby cinema but he learnt a lot of new things so I didn't worry. He's 3 months today so hopefully we can have a nice family day.
I hope you had a chance to chat about your worries with the school.

Happy 3 month anniversary to baby firaffe My dd is 3 months old today as well. Where has the time gone!

It was DD's 1st night in her sleepyhead she woke once for a feed at 3.45am but went down at 7 and woke at 8.30 so quite successful.

Yay for the sleepyhead wineandchoccy! Ds3 was 3 months yesterday

I go to parlrun every Saturday, usually feed ds3 just before and then go this morning he got up early and went back to sleep by 8. I told dh to call me if he couldn't settle him. Got home 10.30 to find a very grumpy dh who said he'd been crying for 35 mins and was annoyed at me for being out too long. Which bit of ring me doesn't he understand I love my Saturday mornings with my running friends but I'm mum first and will always come home, I'm only 5 away

Happy 3 months babies!!!

Sorry he didn't call cinnamon. I hope he didn't want to disturb you, but then no idea why he was cross at you!

Tried bed time at 8 last night. It was an epic fail! He went down about 9, and slept until 4.50 ish but we'd usually get 9.30 - 6.... I miss it! Going back to a later bed time for now.
Any idea when they should be going to bed 7ish?

No idea FiRaffe. DD napped 6-9pm last night then didn't want to go to bed! She did manage 11:30-5:45 though which is a personal best! We're now side carring so have taken her cotbed into our room and taken the side off to try and get her to sleep alone. We've managed 2 nights of her in her own bed now so very happy! Not that I mind Co sleeping but I'm back to work in 8 weeks and can't see it working then! (Technically I start back a week on Monday, which is the first day of the summer hols so have them off!)
Sorry your DH got annoyed cinnamon. Sometimes I don't understand my DH either!

A successful 2nd night in the sleepyhead, dd went from 8am woke for a quick feed at 4am went back down at 4.30 until 8.30. I'm not sure when they go to sleep earlier firaffe

We are going to a local village family fun day today but it has just started raining which is rubbish let's hope the sun breaks through soon.

We went to Mothercare sale yesterday and I bought dd some lovely clothes in the next size up and also got some dangly toys to hang in her pram then she is not staring at the hood when she is awake.

Sorry your DH didn't call you cinnamon when you told him to.

Yes he was trying to let me have some time to myself but it's not enjoyable when you come back to a grumpy husband and crying baby! He hasn't been happy all weekend, dh that is! He's been biting my head off over nothing and generally being grumpy. He apologised this afternoon but would be nice to understand why!

Yes to all the bedtime chat! We have settled into going to sleep for night around 9, which is later than I'd like. I take him up with his brothers at 8 now but often he doesn't settle and needs another feed before he'll settle at 9. It doesn't seem to matter what he's done before, the other night he fell asleep at 7 for 45mins and was still ready for sleep at 9. Other days he's awake from 4,30 and goes to sleep at 9. Seems to be his natural time for now but my other two had a proper bedtime routine by 16 weeks so we'll see how things change.

Took the boys to see the minions today, was a nice film but didn't make me laugh like the despicable me's did. Ds3 was transfixed at points, slept a bit a had a feed so a successful trip. He's only had very short naps today so hope he'll still have a settled night.

We start dds bedtime routine at 8ish, but kinda guided by her as well so if she is showing signs of being tired earlier she can go down earlier. Last 3 nights have been better after the wakings last few weeks - let's see if it lasts. Ultimately I want to get her down earlier as she normally ends up not actually down for the night until after 9.

Babiecakes I can understand why you're nervous - but maybe the bf group might be able to help you with position as well for another way to feed. All the women there will have had their own feeding issues and generally at that sort of group no one is remotely judgemental.

Well I had a mostly lovely day yesterday. I had a spa day for a close friends hen do. Was nice to see everyone and feel like the 'old' me a bit again. Had a back massage and a facial which was bliss. DD was absolutely fine with DH and her ebm. As soon as I got home she fed straight away and went down for the night and has only woken half an hour ago. I've been up hand expressing twice as my right boob was so engorged. She's just fed so feels much better now.
Although it was a lovely day I missed her so much. I felt guilty as I didn't want to leave her and knew many people wouldn't have. But on the other hand DH loved having her. He took her to his mums which was nice for her - and says that he has a new found respect for what I do with her everyday when he is at work.
I definitely won't be rushing to leave her again but it's nice to know that if I need or want to I can do other things and she will be ok.

Not sure what my plans are for today. Lots of cuddles with dd hopefully. And water babies this afternoon which is the last class of the term. I also need to go to the post office to send a parcel and get some stamps to sort sending the christening invites. Day has just filled up!

Glad you had a nice spa day Penguin. Sounds lovely and great your DH understands what you do!

It's my last pnd class today.... I know i'm in a better place than I was when I started but I don't know how much is down to the course!!!!

babiecakes the bf group should be helpful in giving you advice but do you use cushions? If I am on the sofa I put a cushion on my lap so it raises dd up and when I am in bed I put a V pillow behind me and lie dd on a pillow.

Your spa day sounds lovely penguin and nice that DH understands your day with dd.

I'm glad you are feeling better firaffe

It's the baby group this afternoon but I can't remember what we are doing or should I say what I am doing because usually dd falls asleep when we get there. I usually end up helping a lady with her twins whilst Eleanor has a nap

I bought a cd yesterday from the works it's 2 CDs of classical music 1 is called baby brain play and the other is baby brain sleep. I have the play one on now and dd is on her play gym kicking her legs and arms like mad I hope the sleep version is as successful.

So glad you had a good time PenguinPoser and that dd was happy with dh, at least you know you can do it again even if you don't feel you want to right now.

Excellent that you're feeling better FiRaffe, I'm sure you can mention that in any feedback!

Sounds like you're settling into a routine wineandchoccy as well as Eleanor . Good luck with your cd!

Hope it goes well Babiecakes11!

I got myself all upset this morning but I called dh and feel better now. He says he's just realised he wasn't feeling well at the weekend, which is what he said two weekends ago and he will make more of an effort. I feel like Sam isn't that tough a baby to make things seem to hard for him. He is getting less of my time I suppose but other than that life isn't really more stressful for him. I'm knackered with him and my mindees as well as all the things going on over the next couple of weeks with ds1&2 for school.

Hope you're feeling better cinnamon.

Hope baby group was fun too Wine. Do you do lots of different activities there?

I need to find some more groups but I guess that'll be in September

Hope your ok cinnamon and DH can help you out a bit more.

firaffe the baby group I go to is for under ones at the local children's centre. Today there was a ball pool and musical instruments other weeks we have done hand + footprints, made rattles, messy play and been in the sensory room. There is a breastfeeding support lady who attends if anybody needs any help. I also go on a pram walk, snuggle and sing which is an hour of singing and musical instruments, NCT bumps and babies, baby + toddler group run by the church then Friday I have a rest

He can't really help, it's daytime I struggle while he's at work. It's hard work with an 11 month old and ds3 with school runs and other under 5s. Stressing about ds2's move up day so first full day at school and sedation clinic on Thursday which doesn't help. I still don't bite dhs head off all the time!

Glad they helped Babiecakes11, makes sense considering your super pumping skills!

Cinnamon I can see how that's all super stressful. Unfortunately don't have any helpful advice but feel free to vent anytime and

Babiecakes hope your headache is better. Makes sense about your flow given that you've been expressing so much. Your body will adjust with time especially if you reduce or stop expressing.

Wow wineandchoccy your baby groups sound fab! I need some more now water babies is finished for summer and baby massage finishes this week too. Might look into baby sensory or something like that. I didn't enjoy the baby social group I went to - found the other women a bit stand off ish!