Just Mumming Viroids 6 - some of us have time for JSing, some don't, but we're all grad grads!

[JuniDD]

Just shagging grad grads thread! Roll call below please...

Dulcet

Congrats on your little baby! well done!

just read back a bit but already forgot who mentioned the names Noah & Isaac - we have one each! (DS4 & DS5)

Which programme Juni?
The women I know with babies have all been lovely and never mention how amazing their child is at sleeping, eating, shitting, breathing etc. in fact usually we all get together and whinge about how demanding our kids are!
Still think DD is ADHD. She's 15 months and loves to scream and shout all the time. People just stare at us constantly. She's also having full on temper tantrums already- stamping feet, throwing stuff everywhere and throwing herself around if she doesn't get her own way. I'm sick of saying "no" already

Also think DS has colic- DD had it but when I went to the doctors they pretty much told me to get on with it. I've changed his milk to a soya one to see whether it was the milk proteins that were causing it but it's still there and now he has constipation too. May have to book him in at the docs tomorrow and demand some other milk. He had this really angry red rash with spots and since I've changed his milk they've gone so there's definitely an intolerance there in my opinion. Just have to see what they say tomorrow.
I'm so tired but DS is wide awake and I have no idea as to when he'll go back to sleep

I thought we'd just come through the other side of two hour at a time feeds, but no! He's been alternating boobs since 1am, every time he drops off I go to arrange him on my chest for snoozing (he still won't be put in a cot, or even on the bed) he starts making the deranged penguin rooting moves. And it's not like he's just hanging out latched for comfort, I can hear him gulping it down. I'm going to have tits like dried apricots by the morning aren't I?

Yay for being home dulcet - good work on escaping the ward, I wasn't a fan of postnatal either. meltdown is quite normal, I had mine in the car on the way back from hospital because the world and its mother wanted to come over and see us and I felt like I'd been squashed by a tank foof-first. Then I cried every day at 5pm for a week. Weird....

Glad you're home dulcet!

Oooooh famous juni

I know what you mean wil and juni about other people making you worry, I'm fairly lucky with my little group, we tend to reassure each other more with the "omg they've all stopped bloody sleeping!" But it's so easy to stress when one baby starts doing stuff that H has no interest in doing...ever rolling from her back, she couldn't care less

Snort at deranged penguin rooting tee H took weeks until she would sleep anywhere but on me or MrZ, don't worry it's normal!

I may have chatted it up a bit...

they're filming a breastfeeding "advert" and asked for people to take part so I signed up. filming in October. We'll see how it all goes but I'll keep you posted of course! (and find out more about this advert)

She's just pulled herself to kneeling on the side of the cot.

Oh how exciting juni - famous boobies!

The positive with a hospital stay is you can have visitors at fixed times at least tee. We got the grandparents over the next day in 2hr visiting time block, everyone else can wait! Weird your tears were so time based - you feel better now, right?!

Sleeping is still being established wil but I think he's been pretty good. Sorry you are made to work for it! Guess I'll know for sure in a few weeks!

I don't really have much of a baby group at the moment - I am the second of the NCT group to have their baby so not much baby chat there get but can see how it could be quite negative rather than helpful if you feel you're progressing at a different rate. I should stop giggling, it's basically the same thing!!

Today we start trying out names in practice!

dulcet never count on the sleepong! I had a few months from hell, then a few amazing months and now she seems to be having a good night then an awful night in turn, dunno if she's started teething or if it's a spurt or both! Good luck with the names :)

Ooh exciting juni! (For famousness and babyj kneeling)

Hope you got some sleep last night tee. Sounds like he's maybe having a growth spurt?

Glad you're home dulcet - those postnatal wards are a special type of hell. I confess to a very similar breakdown. I had emcs too so can really relate to the "broken woman" feeling. It is really hard at first, but it does get better. Have they given you painkillers? Making a nest is exactly the thing to do. I stayed in mine for days, just being handed baby to feed. The fastest way to heal is to rest as much as you possibly can. Very frustrating when all you want to do is look after your baby though. Hugs for you

pixie have you tried Dr Brown's bottles? Dd has colic and I found those bottles really helped her (along with gripe water and Aptamil Comfort milk).

Ah Tee ... clusterfeeding sympathies! It does end eventually....

Glad you're home Dulcet I had the meltdown too! And bawled my eyes out for about 4 weeks solid. Dem hormones!! I prescribe staying in bed, lots of skin to skin with mini and MrD waiting on you hand and foot Just go with the flow feeding and sleeping wise. It's a massive culture shock but it's not forever xx

Ooh Juni! I think I signed up for that but I never got back to the women when she emailed me for more info because of one thing and another. How exciting! Famous bosoms

Ooh

No idea where that errant ooh came from...

You're just thinking about Juni's bosoms Popz.

I am going to attempt to leave the baby for three hours. A little worried as to how this will go...

Wohoo for famous boobies & well done S on the kneeling!

Hope your enjoying your own bed dulcet, I had a meltdown after arriving home & Mr Furry had a few too.

Enjoy your 3 hours of freedom wil

I totally get how nice it feels to have a break from other mums who make you worry about what your doing. My NCT group are very judgy, I've not seen them for 5 weeks & haven't missed them. Ive met a couple of local mums & spent last Thursday in the local beer garden talking crap with them, all our babies are at different stages but will start playschool & proper school together.

Quite glad I didn't do NCT now! Most of the mum's I knock about with are all from hypnobirthing and sling groups so they're all lentil weavers like me

How'd it go Wil? Minipopz is pretty good at forgetting to be hungry whenever I've left him for a bit. He has a sudden realisation as soon as I get home and does angry pacman at my boobs.

Apparently this afternoon he will only sleep ON me.... I'm sweating my non famous bosoms off!

Snap popz. My chest is covered in sweat, drool and residual breastmilk. Lol @ angry pacman. Similar to my deranged penguin I imagine.

I am a delight today.

Frigging estate agent hasn't called or replied to my messages or emails. I'm assuming it's game over. Kicking myself for not just writing a cheque and leaving it with them on Saturday, I wonder if they'd have been more forthcoming had I shown them the money.

Back to booking house viewings. Ugh.

Celebrity norks juni! We are not worthy! :D

According to my wonder weeks app mini he's under a little thundercloud, so I'm taking that as all bets are off and any semblance of behavioral pattern we had last week is out of the window. The girl I used to work with who had her little boy 10 hours before me has just posted a picture of him smiling on FB. I may have spent a lot of TT's non screaming time this afternoon pulling silly faces to try and make him also smile. Poor kid probably thinks I'm a lunatic. This is why I'm loathe to go to baby groups, I'll get competitive, and then anxious.

Lol at popz's ooh and wil's comment

wil enjoy your 3 hours!

My NCT group are pretty good in the main, 2 or 3 of them I get along with very well and one of them I have a good bitch with so this could turn out to be a proper friendship. One of them is in some extreme routine with her baby, super super strict which makes me rise my eyebrows a bit, but only because she always talks as if that's the ONLY way to do things.

You've got to love it, H is on her play mat ignoring the toys and playing with the curtain. When we go out she'd rather play with a napkin that a toy! Just remind me of this if I'm ever out with any of you and I start looking at buying her more toys!

Haha, glad you lot are ready for the juni-bazongas!

Just visited a woman I ow through work, her baby is two months old. Of course we started talking about birth...think I was a bit of a Debbie downer...will have to apologise! Glad others had a bit than a quick weep on day 3 then back to full strength. God, it was hard.

She has already progressed to pulling herself to standing. Wtf?! Walking tomorrow...?!?! She's not in her cot all day btw!

Ah unfortunately my three hours were spent with the toddler on a bouncy castle - obviously I wasn't bouncing or I would have pissed my knickers all over the small children. But micro survived with only one minor meltdown.

My friends aren't competitive at all but I find I still stress out at things because I notice a lot about their kids. People at babygroups can be annoying with their baby chat but I'm pretty good at being antisocial .

wil your pissed knickers comment has me tensing what's left of my pelvic floor so I don't piss on the sofa. Proper belly laugh

MW came today, talking about pelvic floor muscles - the thought of tensing anything down there makes me sick!

Sounds like you have a clever one going there juni. You'll wake up with her next to you by next week!

popz and tee, not much to add other than YES I confirm babies are hot sweaty things! Hope the estate agents get back to you tee, so annoying as they are dead quick to chase you up I am sure!

I am being well looked after by MrD but it's still hard at times. Just stupid things set me off, more about the pain than the baby though. Hate needing so much support even though he's more than willing to give it.

It gets better Dulcet. All of it. Honestly!! Wouldn't worry about pelvic floor exercises until you can actually feel it again either

I remember that from the first time Dulcet, it's really hard when you're in pain. It'll get much easier when you feel better.

dulcet ^^ YY to what popz said. I had the frigging MW and Physio on about pelvic floors immediately and it actually made me cry because the whole area was partially numb and massive like a baboon's arse. Well it felt that way. It will get better, I actually posted on grad grads fred because I felt the world had fallen out of my foof and I would never heal, and it would never ever stop hurting, but all the wise viroids said it'd get better. And it really really does. Make the most of being waited on, I didn't like 'letting go' too much either, but just remember it helps you heal by not doing much.

Estate agent emailed to say that the LL is speaking to his wife tonight and we should hear back tomorrow. I'm a bit about the whole thing now, aside from the fact I'm only asking to move my cat(s) in, not a pack of alsations, if this kind of thing is a problem, am I going to need to get written permission every time I want to put a bloody picture up on the wall or put curtains up? I understand completely that they don't want us to trash the place, but you can't expect someone to sign up to live in a house for 12 months and just have bare walls. With so many people renting you'd think landlords would be more flexible. This is why leaving the house we're in now is such a shitter, we refurbished and improved it and our current LL loves it. And now we have to leave all that behind. bitter about spending a fortune on chrome socket and light covers and a fancy toilet seat

I've booked another four house viewings. Their loss if they don't want us.

popz is right dulcet, it does get better. I had major weepies starting at day 3, my Mil was bedside herself with worry about me.
Tbh I still ball like a baby when I think about how small she was.
Like today I was rooting out the suitcase to pack for holiday and came across the mat clothes I wore lay summer.. Cue fat tears!

In the most non pervy way possible, can't wait to hear all about the famous norks juni!
And pulling herself up already! Wowzers!

Well R surprised me today. Had an unsettled night last night so we thought, at 5 am, she was cold. Popped a cardi on, and didn't hear from her till 7:45! Unheard of.
Then this afternoon I was prepared for her usual 45 min nap so I got some shut eye, she went on for 2 hrs!
Do you think it's cause I gave her bottle before her nap and not on waking?
I know you're not really supposed to do it, but hell, if it helps her nap...

What does everyone else do?

I refuse to give sleep advice as my child doesn't sleep but it seems quite logical to me to give a bottle before a nap. I don't really think I would know how to put a baby down for a sleep without feeding them first. But then again, it clearly doesn't work for me.

Tee can't you take the toilet seat with you? (Depending on just how fancy it is). I agree that you don't want precious landlords. Sounds like they're stalling for time in the hope they get another offer in the meantime. They'll probably end up with catless feckwits who trash their house.